13 min

Secrets: The Price Of Keeping Quiet We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling

    • Mental Health

I keep secrets for a living. That’s more or less what a therapist does. 
But in my personal life, I don’t want anything to do with them. 
I don’t find delight in them whatsoever. 
To me, they’re an imposition. 
Humans are hardwired to feel valued when someone confides in us. 
It scratches an evolutionary itch that can leave us feeling bonded to the person who shared the secret. 
But that’s only the case when the secret doesn’t directly impact you. 
There’s an old expression: “You’re only as sick as your secrets.”
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The difference between being “private” and keeping a secret.The types of secrets that are most damaging to your mental health. The surprising amount of secrets the average person keeps.
AND… I share the reason why I refuse to be on the receiving end of secrets in my personal life.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES
Categories of secrets
The Bright Side of Secrecy: The Energizing Effect of Positive Secrets 
It takes two (or more): The social nature of secrets
What you don't know might hurt me: Keeping secrets in interpersonal relationshipshttps://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/09/hidden-world-secrets
https://www.columbia.edu/~ms4992/secrets/keepingsecrets.html
CREDITS
This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. 
 
DISCLAIMER
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#RelationshipExperts #RealTalkRelationships #Secrets #Secret #FamilySecret #FamilySecrets #PodcastLove #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy
#Therapy #CouplesCounseling #CouplesTherapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling #DrDarcy
Instagram:@drdarcysterling 
Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling
Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  
Twitter:@DrDarcySterling   
YouTube:@DarcySterling   
Threads:@drdarcysterling
Watch this episode here on YouTube. 

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I keep secrets for a living. That’s more or less what a therapist does. 
But in my personal life, I don’t want anything to do with them. 
I don’t find delight in them whatsoever. 
To me, they’re an imposition. 
Humans are hardwired to feel valued when someone confides in us. 
It scratches an evolutionary itch that can leave us feeling bonded to the person who shared the secret. 
But that’s only the case when the secret doesn’t directly impact you. 
There’s an old expression: “You’re only as sick as your secrets.”
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The difference between being “private” and keeping a secret.The types of secrets that are most damaging to your mental health. The surprising amount of secrets the average person keeps.
AND… I share the reason why I refuse to be on the receiving end of secrets in my personal life.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES
Categories of secrets
The Bright Side of Secrecy: The Energizing Effect of Positive Secrets 
It takes two (or more): The social nature of secrets
What you don't know might hurt me: Keeping secrets in interpersonal relationshipshttps://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/09/hidden-world-secrets
https://www.columbia.edu/~ms4992/secrets/keepingsecrets.html
CREDITS
This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. 
 
DISCLAIMER
#Dating #DatingTips #RelationshipGoals #DatingAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipPodcast #RelationshipPodcasts #RelationshipAdvice
#RelationshipExperts #RealTalkRelationships #Secrets #Secret #FamilySecret #FamilySecrets #PodcastLove #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy
#Therapy #CouplesCounseling #CouplesTherapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling #DrDarcy
Instagram:@drdarcysterling 
Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling
Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  
Twitter:@DrDarcySterling   
YouTube:@DarcySterling   
Threads:@drdarcysterling
Watch this episode here on YouTube. 

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

13 min