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Let’s talk self-care and mental health. Kristen Howerton, writer and psychotherapist, is joined by her longtime pal Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, side-eye aficionado, and dog dad, as they tackle the tricky and often elusive aspects of caring for ourselves. Their weekly conversations explore questions like: Can self-care be for everyone? How do I get enough sleep? What aspects of my personality make self-care tricky? And what’s in this face mask? From the silly to the serious, Kristen and Matthias are taking a vulnerable and often humorous look at body, mind and spirit . . . all while looking at the distractions and defenses that keep us from caring for ourselves like we should. Like that 6pm deadline butting up against 6:30pm soccer practice.

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    • 4.4 • 327 Ratings

Let’s talk self-care and mental health. Kristen Howerton, writer and psychotherapist, is joined by her longtime pal Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, side-eye aficionado, and dog dad, as they tackle the tricky and often elusive aspects of caring for ourselves. Their weekly conversations explore questions like: Can self-care be for everyone? How do I get enough sleep? What aspects of my personality make self-care tricky? And what’s in this face mask? From the silly to the serious, Kristen and Matthias are taking a vulnerable and often humorous look at body, mind and spirit . . . all while looking at the distractions and defenses that keep us from caring for ourselves like we should. Like that 6pm deadline butting up against 6:30pm soccer practice.

    The Loyal Skeptic: Talking Enneagram Type 6 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Carlee Lane

    The Loyal Skeptic: Talking Enneagram Type 6 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Carlee Lane

    This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 6, and we revisit a conversation with Carlee Lane about being an enneagram type 6.
    More enneagram resources:

    To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)

    The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson

    The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut

    Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.


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    EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids learning to cook and great for parents who are stressed between work and school supervision. EveryPlate does the meal planning, shopping, and prepping for you, taking the time-consuming guesswork out of cooking. Try EveryPlate for just $1.49 by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie149.
    Why deal with razor burn and wasteful disposable razors when you could be getting the best shave of your life with the Athena Club Razor Kit? Athena Club razor blades are surrounded by a water-activated serum with shea butter and hyaluronic acid, so you get a silky smooth shave that actually leaves skin soft and hydrated, not stripped dry. The Razor Kit is only $9 (with free shipping!) and comes with two blade cartridges, a magnetic hook for shower storage, and your choice of handle color. Get 20% off your first order at AthenaClub.com with promo code selfie.
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    • 32 min
    The Individualists: Talking Enneagram Type 5 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Kelley Nikondeha

    The Individualists: Talking Enneagram Type 5 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Kelley Nikondeha

    This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 5, and we revisit a conversation with Kelley Nikondeha , author of Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World, about some of the unique strengths and challenges of being an enneagram 5.
    More enneagram resources:

    To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)

    The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson

    The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut

    Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.


    Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.

    • 1 hr 11 min
    The Individualists: Talking Enneagram Type 4 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Holly Rankin Zaher

    The Individualists: Talking Enneagram Type 4 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Holly Rankin Zaher

    This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 4, and we revisit a conversation with Holly Rankin Zaher about being an Enneagram Type 4.
    More enneagram resources:

    To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)

    The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson

    The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut

    Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.


    Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.

    • 38 min
    The Achievers: Talking Enneagram Type 3 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Sarah James

    The Achievers: Talking Enneagram Type 3 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Sarah James

    This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 3, and we revisit a conversation between Kristen and Sarah James about the experience of being type 3’s.
    More enneagram resources:

    To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)

    The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson

    The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut

    Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.


    Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.

    • 40 min
    The Caretakers: Talking Enneagram 2 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Meagan Francis

    The Caretakers: Talking Enneagram 2 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Meagan Francis

    This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 2, and we revisit a conversation with Meagen Francis of The Mom Hour who shares her personal experience as a type 2.  
    More enneagram resources:

    To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)

    The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson

    The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut

    Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching. More about Micky: Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.

    • 32 min
    Talking Enneagram 1's with Micky ScottBey Jones and Kendra Adachi

    Talking Enneagram 1's with Micky ScottBey Jones and Kendra Adachi

    This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of the Enneagram and how it can help us in our relationships and in our work. In this episode we are talking about enneagram type 1, followed by a previously recorded interview with Kendra Adachi of The Lazy Genius about her experience as a type 1.

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    Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: @electric_lady_msj.
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    It’s a new year, and many of us are looking for ways to have better eating habits. Enter Factor. Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh—never frozen—prepared meals that are so delicious, you wouldn’t believe they’re actually good for you. Factor saves time by delivering chef-crafted meals to your doorstep, eliminating the hassle of grocery shopping and meal prep.. Head to GO.FACTOR 75.com/PLANS and use code selfie120 to get $120 off over your first 5 weeks of meals.
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Customer Reviews

4.4 out of 5
327 Ratings

327 Ratings

Mickles350 ,

Changes are meh

Does anyone else feel like Mathias is saying nothing? I’m sure it’s default as a therapist but I feel like he never answers a question (hmm, yeah, I don’t know…) I feel like he just echoes Kristen (uh huh, yeah, right). Big contrast to Sarah and Roo who definitely had ideas and things to say.

Bailey Bullock ,

Too many ads!

I couldn’t even make it through one episode without getting irritated by all of the ads. I have read Kristen for years and years and years, and came over here after searching up some random episodes of her guest appearances on other podcasts. I adore her personality and I love listening to her perspective, having found her insight reliable over and over throughout the years. I just can’t with the ad spots. I understand you have to make money but for the love of god just roll some iHeart radio style 2 minute ad sequence. For example, i find the ad cycle on Like A Virgin much more bearable. I personally prefer a lot fewer ad reads from my podcast hosts. I understand that it is supposed to make the ads seem more like honest recommendations from you, but the cognitive dissonance is annoying. An ad is an ad and I prefer ad reads and sponsorships to be more minimal in terms of your participation. Would be more open to listening with a different ad format.

a good girlll ,

Thx for the reminder to vote!

Irrelevant sjw ramblings — ugh. Enough with such low vibration output — we deserve better.

I am so fortunate to be a Conservative. Liberals are so off balance!

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