7 episodes

Feeling lost at the crossroads of love and doubt? Subscribe now! This podcast is your roadmap. Join me, your host Whitney Sloan, as we jump into the messy, real, and often hilarious world of relationships in your 30s and 40s.
Whether you're:
- Questioning if your marriage is a "happily ever after" or a "happily ever maybe"
- Wondering if divorce is the answer, but terrified of starting over
- Picking up the pieces after a breakup and rebuilding your confidence
- Craving a life that feels passionate, fulfilling, and authentically YOU
This is your space.
We'll untangle the emotional knots of:
- Am I unhappy or just used to it? Figuring out if your relationship needs a spark or a goodbye
- Asking yourself, ‘Is this it?’, ‘Is this enough?’, and ‘How do you know…?’
- Shame. Why we feel it in this process, what we can do to lessen it, and defining what success really is in a long term relationship (outside of cultural norms)
- Divorce without losing your mind: Practical tips, legal know-how, and emotional support for navigating the split
- Dating in your 30s/40s: From awkward first encounters to queen energy confidence, we'll embrace the joys and challenges
- Co-parenting like a boss: Strategies for raising amazing kids across two households
- Finding your purpose after divorce: Reclaiming your independence, rediscovering your passions, and building a life you love
This isn't just about divorce. It's about self-discovery, sisterhood, and claiming your power.
We'll also explore:
- Mom guilt? We've all got it. Juggling motherhood, careers, and relationships without losing yourself
- Financial independence for women: Building wealth and security in your own name
- Stress management for busy women: Because let's face it, life is a rollercoaster
With expert guests, relatable stories, and a healthy dose of humor, we'll guide you through the in-between, one step at a time.
Subscribe now and let's rewrite the rules together.

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Should I Stay or Should I Go‪?‬ Whitney Sloan

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 3 Ratings

Feeling lost at the crossroads of love and doubt? Subscribe now! This podcast is your roadmap. Join me, your host Whitney Sloan, as we jump into the messy, real, and often hilarious world of relationships in your 30s and 40s.
Whether you're:
- Questioning if your marriage is a "happily ever after" or a "happily ever maybe"
- Wondering if divorce is the answer, but terrified of starting over
- Picking up the pieces after a breakup and rebuilding your confidence
- Craving a life that feels passionate, fulfilling, and authentically YOU
This is your space.
We'll untangle the emotional knots of:
- Am I unhappy or just used to it? Figuring out if your relationship needs a spark or a goodbye
- Asking yourself, ‘Is this it?’, ‘Is this enough?’, and ‘How do you know…?’
- Shame. Why we feel it in this process, what we can do to lessen it, and defining what success really is in a long term relationship (outside of cultural norms)
- Divorce without losing your mind: Practical tips, legal know-how, and emotional support for navigating the split
- Dating in your 30s/40s: From awkward first encounters to queen energy confidence, we'll embrace the joys and challenges
- Co-parenting like a boss: Strategies for raising amazing kids across two households
- Finding your purpose after divorce: Reclaiming your independence, rediscovering your passions, and building a life you love
This isn't just about divorce. It's about self-discovery, sisterhood, and claiming your power.
We'll also explore:
- Mom guilt? We've all got it. Juggling motherhood, careers, and relationships without losing yourself
- Financial independence for women: Building wealth and security in your own name
- Stress management for busy women: Because let's face it, life is a rollercoaster
With expert guests, relatable stories, and a healthy dose of humor, we'll guide you through the in-between, one step at a time.
Subscribe now and let's rewrite the rules together.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Anxiety Management and Self-Compassion in Divorce (with Dr Jodi Richardson)

    Anxiety Management and Self-Compassion in Divorce (with Dr Jodi Richardson)

    Did you know that over 70% of adults experience daily stress and anxiety? Adding a divorce or separation to the life equation can only increase that immensely. Understanding and managing these feelings can transform your life and bring about anxiety and stress relief. Join us as we learn important strategies and mental health tips with Dr Jodi Richardson, an anxiety and wellbeing speaker, bestselling author, and educator. You’ll hear about Whitney’s personal experience with anxiety during her divorce, plus Dr Richardson shares her expert insights to help you not only cope but also thrive in the face of anxiety.
    Let's explore:
    - Three-step self-compassion practice
    - Daily habits to reduce stress effectively
    - Breathing techniques to calm your mind
    If you're contemplating, “Should I stay or should I go?", this episode is a must-listen. Let's rewrite the script on love, life, and finding yourself. Because life’s too short for, “I don’t know.”
    Our favourite quotable moments:
    "When we have compassion for ourselves, we feel better and then we function better." - Dr Jodi Richardson
    “Be kind to [yourself] and cut [yourself] a break. Of course, you feel the way you do." - Dr Jodi Richardson
    “You can make change, but you don't have to chuck everything away to try new things on.” - Dr Jodi Richardson
    “When we can acknowledge that, ‘I am suffering at this moment’, this is step one.” - Dr Jodi Richardson’’
    "When we can recognise what we're feeling. Label it." - Dr Jodi Richardson’
    If you’re loving the podcast, please leave a review!
    Resources:
    Instagram - Dr Jodi Richardson
    Website - Dr Jodi Richardson
    Well, Hello Anxiety - Podcast
    Because life’s too short for ‘I don’t know’ - join the supportive community now.
    Stay longer - visit the Should I Stay website.
    About Guest:
    Dr. Jodi Richardson is one of Australia's thought leaders in managing anxiety and amplifying well-being. Jodi is an international speaker, best-selling author of "Anxious Kids" and "Anxious Mums", a well-being science consultant, creator and host of the award-winning podcast "Well, Hello Anxiety", and a respected media commentator.
    About Your Host:
    Don't let her American accent fool you; Whitney Sloan has called Melbourne, Australia home for over 20 years. Mom of 3, with a rambunctious pup named Tux, Whitney finds peace in the ocean – swimming, connecting, and becoming the best version of herself. Deep conversations and genuine connections fuel her. Join Whitney's supportive community for women at life's crossroads, where open communication paves the way to rewrite your story.
    This podcast is produced by Brave Moon Podcasts.

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    • 39 min
    The Ups and Downs of Building a Co-Parenting Relationship

    The Ups and Downs of Building a Co-Parenting Relationship

    Are you struggling with navigating single- and co-parenting after your divorce? Or are curious how single parents navigate the complexities of raising children post-divorce? In this episode, host Whitney Sloan shares her personal journey of co-parenting. She discusses the challenges, the triumphs, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with this new phase of life.
    Let's explore:
    - The art of co-parenting and “doing it right”
    - How to tell your kids about the separation and divorce
    - Overcoming guilt (so much mom guilt!) in divorce and single parenting
    - Maintaining family unity post-divorce
    - What still breaks Whitney’s heart about the divorce
    If you're contemplating, “Should I stay or should I go?", this episode is a must-listen. Let's rewrite the script on love, life, and finding yourself. Because life’s too short for, “I don’t know.”
    Our favourite quotable moments:
    “We don’t know how this story is going to end. So all we can really do is do what feels most true and authentic to ourselves right now.” - Whitney Sloan
    “Just because our love has changed… doesn’t mean that we have to hate each other.” - Whitney Sloan
    “We are still one family. But for us, now, the best thing for our family is to live in two homes.” - Whitney Sloan
    If you’re loving the podcast, please leave a review!
    Resources:
    Because life’s too short for ‘I don’t know’ - join the supportive community now.
    Stay longer - visit the Should I Stay website.
    About Your Host:
    Don't let her American accent fool you; Whitney Sloan has called Melbourne, Australia home for over 20 years. Mom of 3, with a rambunctious pup named Tux, Whitney finds peace in the ocean – swimming, connecting, and becoming the best version of herself. Deep conversations and genuine connections fuel her. Join Whitney's supportive community for women at life's crossroads, where open communication paves the way to rewrite your story.
    This podcast is produced by Brave Moon Podcasts.


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    • 29 min
    Navigating Personal Growth After Separation (with Joshua Bourke)

    Navigating Personal Growth After Separation (with Joshua Bourke)

    Have you ever wondered how personal growth can be influenced by major life changes such as separation? In this episode, Joshua Bourke, a dedicated teacher, an inspiring educator, and a passionate coach, shares his journey. He provides a candid look into an individual’s journey of self-discovery, personal growth, and the challenges of co-parenting following a separation.
    Let's explore:
    - The challenges and rewards of co-parenting
    - The impact of separation on personal growth
    - The power of self-reflection in personal development
    If you're contemplating, “Should I stay or should I go?", this episode is a must-listen. Let's rewrite the script on love, life, and finding yourself. Because life’s too short for, “I don’t know.”
    Our favourite quotable moments:
    “Look at yourself first. If you make that decision, there is such positivity that comes from that.” - Josh
    “I still deal with a lot of guilt and shame and tough moments and, and I think it's important to normalise that side of it, too.” - Whitney
    “I’m always their dad, whether they’re with me or with [my ex], I’m always their dad.” - Josh 
    “Any kind of resentment in parenting just lifted as soon as I was separated. “ - Whitney
    Resources:
    Kintsugi by Tomas Navarro
    The Way of The Superior Man by David Deida
    The 5am Club by Robin Sharma
    Instagram - @bourkey85
    LinkedIn - Joshua Bourke
    Because life’s too short for ‘I don’t know’ - join the supportive community now.
    Stay longer - visit the Should I Stay website.
    About Guest:
    Joshua Bourke, a dedicated 38-year-old father of three, wears many hats in his dynamic life. As the assistant principal at Southmoor Primary School, he's deeply committed to shaping young minds. Yet, his influence extends beyond academics, as the head coach at Beaumaris Football Club, where he instils values of teamwork and resilience. Joshua is also the co-owner of BD Sports, channelling his passion for sports into community initiatives. Despite his busy schedule, he prioritises family, nurturing his daughter and his energetic twins. Joshua epitomises dedication, leadership, and family values.
    About Your Host:
    Don't let her American accent fool you; Whitney Sloan has called Melbourne, Australia home for over 20 years. Mom of 3, with a rambunctious pup named Tux, Whitney finds peace in the ocean – swimming, connecting, and becoming the best version of herself. Deep conversations and genuine connections fuel her. Join Whitney's supportive community for women at life's crossroads, where open communication paves the way to rewrite your story.
    This podcast is produced by Brave Moon Podcasts.

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    • 36 min
    Navigating Relationship Crossroads through Counselling (with Susan Lackner)

    Navigating Relationship Crossroads through Counselling (with Susan Lackner)

    Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads in your relationship, unsure of which path to take? In the intricate maze of modern relationships, marriage and relationship counselling can become a beacon of hope. It has helped guide many individuals and couples through the complexities of learning if separation and divorce are the right move. And if so, can help individuals and couples rethink societal expectations and personal desires, shedding light on the evolving dynamics of monogamy and the journey from marriage to separation.
    Let's explore:
    - The journey from marriage to separation through counselling
    - The role of relationship counselling in modern relationships
    - The societal pressures and personal desires in monogamy and open relationships
    If you're contemplating, “Should I stay or should I go?", this episode is a must-listen. Let's rewrite the script on love, life, and finding yourself. Because life’s too short for, “I don’t know.”
    Our favourite quotable moments:
    “The shame needs to stop, because there are so many people that stay in relationships that are really toxic.” - Susan Lackner 
    “I think it’s so important that people have their freedom to do what they want and to be what they want.” - Susan Lackner 
    “We’re biologically designed to attach to other humans. So we will always want to have relationships.” - Susan Lackner 
    If you’re loving the podcast, please leave a review!
    Resources:
    MSRCC Website
    Email Susan: admin@msrcc.com.au
    MSRCC LinkedIn
    Susan Lackner LinkedIn
    Because life’s too short for ‘I don’t know’ - join the supportive community now.
    Stay longer - visit the Should I Stay website.
    About Guest:
    Susan is the founder of Melbourne Specialist Relationship Counselling Clinic (MSRCC). She has a degree in Psychology and has completed two Masters Degrees in Social Science and Couple Counselling. She is a Specialist Couple and Relationship Therapist and Therapist Supervisor. She is also a member of the Society of Australian Sexologists, and guest lectures at Swinburne University for Masters of Couple Counselling students. Susan created MSRCC after Susan encountered many distressed couples seeking her services, reporting they were having difficulty finding a therapist who specialised in relationship issues and could remain impartial, balanced and assist them to overcome their relationship distress, irrespective of the outcome. 
    About Your Host:
    Don't let her American accent fool you; Whitney Sloan has called Melbourne, Australia home for over 20 years. Mom of 3, with a rambunctious pup named Tux, Whitney finds peace in the ocean – swimming, connecting, and becoming the best version of herself. Deep conversations and genuine connections fuel her. Join Whitney's supportive community for women at life's crossroads, where open communication paves the way to rewrite your story.

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    • 41 min
    Embracing Self-Discovery and Learning to Choose Yourself (with Skye Jefferys)

    Embracing Self-Discovery and Learning to Choose Yourself (with Skye Jefferys)

    Do you feel stuck in a relationship, questioning if it's what you truly want? This episode explores exactly that. Join host Whitney Sloan and guest Skye Jefferys in this episode as we journey through Skye’s transformative experiences. We explore her navigation through life’s crossroads, her embrace of self-discovery, and her pursuit of personal growth. We hear Skye's story of realising her marriage wasn't fulfilling and the difficult journey of leaving it behind. Skye opens up about the isolation she faced living abroad, the emotional toll it took, and the turning point that led to her decision. Buckle up for an honest and relatable conversation about finding the courage to follow your truth, even when it's scary.
    Let's explore:

    The Power of Self-DiscoveryThe Impact of Personal GrowthNavigating Life TransitionsHow to learn to chose yourself
    If you're contemplating, “Should I stay or should I go?", this episode is a must-listen. Let's rewrite the script on love, life, and finding yourself. Because life’s too short for, “I don’t know.”
    Our favourite quotable moments:
    “Trust your gut. It was a small voice because I was used to being shut down.” - Skye
    “And it's confusing as a mom to be like, wait, but it should be all about the kids. But it can never be about the kids if I don't look after myself.” - Whitney
    “I just found it so hard to do what was right for me and not for what was right for everyone else.” - Skye
    “I just want women out there to listen to themselves and know that we can go in different directions and that there's lots of ways to live life” - Whitney
    “The more you choose yourself, the easier it gets.” - Skye
    If you’re loving the podcast, please leave a review!
    Resources:
    Because life’s too short for ‘I don’t know’ - join the supportive community now.
    Stay longer - visit the Should I Stay website.
    About Guest:
    Skye is a remarkable individual who has navigated through the complexities of life with resilience and determination. After enduring a challenging marriage, she emerged with a renewed sense of self and purpose. She has since established an art gallery and custom framing business. Skye has also fostered strong community connections, enriching her life and those around her. Her journey serves as an inspiration, reminding us of the power of self-love, authenticity, and the courage to choose oneself. Skye’s story is a testament to the transformative power of living one’s truth.
    About Your Host:
    Don't let her American accent fool you; Whitney Sloan has called Melbourne, Australia home for over 20 years. Mom of 3, with a rambunctious pup named Tux, Whitney finds peace in the ocean – swimming, connecting, and becoming the best version of herself. Deep conversations and genuine connections fuel her. Join Whitney's supportive community for women at life's crossroads, where open communication paves the way to rewrite your story.

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    • 32 min
    Journey to Should I Stay or Should I Go: Episode 1

    Journey to Should I Stay or Should I Go: Episode 1

    Unfulfilled in your marriage but terrified of divorce? You're not alone. In this deeply personal 1st episode of Should I Stay or Should Go, host Whitney Sloan explores her journey from marriage and raising children, through the challenges of divorce, to ultimately helping others navigate similar paths through the making of this podcast. This episode explores the messiness of feeling lost and the possibility that divorce can be a positive step towards happiness and self-discovery. Whitney helps you untangle the confusion of societal pressures and makes space to see new possibilities.
    Let's explore:
    - Breaking free from the "shoulds" of marriage
    - Redefining success in relationships
    - Finding your voice and purpose after separation
    - Building a support system and embracing the journey
    If you're contemplating, “Should I stay or should I go?", this episode is a must-listen. Let's rewrite the script on love, life, and finding yourself. Because life’s too short for, “I don’t know.”
    Our favourite quotable moments:
    “It wasn't black and white for me. I had loved my husband and our relationship. I thought I was one of the lucky ones." 
    "The question was not whether my life was good enough or whether he was good enough. It's whether it was enough for me.”
    "Why do people always say, ‘Oh my God, I'm so sorry,’ when they hear you're divorced? This could be the absolute best thing that has ever happened to someone."
    If you’re loving the podcast, please leave a review!
    Resources:
    Because life’s too short for ‘I don’t know’ - join the supportive community now.
    Stay longer - visit the Should I Stay website.
    About Your Host:
    Don't let her American accent fool you; Whitney Sloan has called Melbourne, Australia home for over 20 years. Mom of 3, with a rambunctious pup named Tux, Whitney finds peace in the ocean – swimming, connecting, and becoming the best version of herself. Deep conversations and genuine connections fuel her. Join Whitney's supportive community for women at life's crossroads, where open communication paves the way to rewrite your story.

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    • 11 min

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