TABOO TUESDAY: Self-Pleasure with Sexual Wealth Activist, Jo Portia Mayari

Growing up in a Catholic and Filipino family, Jo Portia Mayari didn’t talk about sex. Today Jo joins Dr. Emily in this Taboo Tuesday discussion to share how she went from feeling clueless and closeted to being named one of Arianna Huffington's top 20 health and wellness role models on a mission to help women build their sexual wealth. From struggling with her own sexual trauma at a young age to wanting to be a more body-positive role model for her kids, Jo doesn’t hold back in this episode. Tune in now to hear this deep dive into sexuality, self-pleasure, and how to talk about sex with your kids.

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JUMP STRAIGHT INTO:

(01:22) - The path that led Jo to seeking radical self-acceptance - “My oldest daughter and I were in her room getting ready, and she said, ‘Oh my god, Mom, you are so beautiful.’ And I said, ‘No, I'm not. I'm ugly and fat.’ And that look on her face was one I'll never forget, because it was the moment where I knew, as a woman, I could not ask my daughters to be the strong women that I wanted them to become if I wasn't one myself.” 

(8:46) - Becoming more comfortable with self-pleasure - “The only sex education I got from my parents was, ‘Don't get pregnant,’ and I'm like, ‘Okay, great. How do I get pregnant in the first place? Like, what is that act supposed to look like?’”

(14:57) - Permission to embrace our sexuality - “The way I'm having that conversation right now around self-pleasure is inviting moms and women to really understand, ‘You have the ability to step into your role as a sexual creature. And that was not something that needed to be taken away the moment that you became a mom.”

(22:07) - Where to start on the self-pleasure journey - “Touch is just so therapeutic and can be so soothing and so healing for people. And so oftentimes I say, ‘Just start from the neck down. It doesn't even need to mean anything. Just see what feels good, and that's it. And then if you're ready to explore lower, then get there. But no pressure.”

(25:14) - Talking to your kids about sex - “I think the most important part is just to leave the door open and have it open for them to walk