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This week I will be talking about the earthquakes that occurred in Turkey and Syria about two weeks ago. This is very personal to me so I took the time to dive into the topic and the reasons why so many citizens are so infuriated now with the governmental response to the disaster.

If you have been feeling lost on the happenings so far, this episode is a good place to start. If you have been processing and following the news closely like me, please let me know if I have forgotten to mention anything.

You can always reach me via email at tan.and.tanner1@gmail.com

Consider donating to the following organisations:


AKUT - a voluntary, non-governmental search, assist, and rescue organisation
AHBAP - local NGO network, helping survivors with relief efforts (such as food, accommodation etc)
Union of Medical Care and Relief Organisations (UOSSM) - provides independent and impartial relief and medical care in Syria
White Helmets - a voluntary rescue organisation
Kurdish Red Moon - a voluntary organisation, aiming to bring aid assistance at an international capacity to alleviate suffering in Kurdistan
Jeyetna - an organisation fighting period poverty in Lebanon, which has been collection donations and materials for people affected in the earthquake zones
Here you can find a wide range of helping organisation which is being updated regularly. Like I mentioned in the episode, keep in mind that if you can contribute to local organisation rather than international ones, it's always more effective in reaching the people who actually need it.

Long time, no episode!

As the new year has greeted us, I wanted to get back to nourishing this podcast - and what better way to start than making a nerdy bookworm episode. If you have read any of these already, please let me know what your thoughts were! And if you have any books to recommend, please drop your recs as well :)

The books I talk about in this episode:


How to Mend: Motherhood and Its Ghosts - Iman Mersal
The Master's Tools Will Never Dismantle The Master's House - Audre Lorde
Khartoum At Night: Fashion and Body Politics in Imperial Sudan - Marie Grace Brown
Pachinko - Min Jin Lee
A Little Life - Hanya Yanagihara
Human Acts - Han Kang

If you would like to know more about the Gwangju Uprising, I recommend listening to the four part episode by Working Class History

Shoutout to @alexoftheroof for creating this new intro

In this week's episode I dive into female exclusivitiy and how I apply it in my own life. Roughly two years ago I decided to become a female exclusive bisexual meaning I decided to only start dating women and not pursue my attractions to men. From that moment onward, this concept quickly expanded into other parts of my life, influencing the way I deal with my platonic relationships and even the way I interact within capitalism. And honestly? I have never felt happier in my life.

But what are your thoughts on female exclusivitiy?

*Notes: Some things I forgot to mention while I was talking
1) I have a personal grievances with bisexual women who call themselves lesbians because a) you are taking up space that is not meant for you by using a label that is not yours to use and b) you are simultaneously enforcing bi erasure and biphobia.

2) By no means do I believe or expect everyone to follow the same philosophy I currently apply to my life nor do I believe my way is better than others. The episode was solely to suggest and introduce an alternative to the mainstream way of navigating through the patricharchy and heteronormativity.

You requested, so I shall deliver! Here are five of my favourite books I read in 2020:


God Dies By The Nile - Nawal El Saadawi
Women, Islam, and Cinema - Gönül Dönmez-Colin
My Cat Yugoslavia - Pajtim Statovci
Khartoum At Nigth: Fashion and Body Politics in Imperial Sudan - Marie Grace Brown
Orlando - Virgina Woolf

Have you read any of these books? If yes, let me know what you think of them! New book recommendations are always welcome 💖

We are back after a long and not anticipated break!

Mentioning somebody's weight in casual conversation has been so normalised that many people feel comfortable talking about it - but many others do not feel comfortable hearing it, and rightly so. In a society where our worth is directly linked to our weight and certain body images are pushed onto us from a young age, something meant as a "compliment" or a "concern" can have devasting emotional and mental effects on the person who has to hear it. It is counterproductive and perpetuates patricharichal establishments. 

It is already hard enough to appreciate, accept, and love yourself as is without having to hear other people's unsolicited opinions - so how can we de-normalise casual commentary on body and weights today?

Three soju bottles in on a Saturday night, we could not resist talking about our good ol' memories around K-Pop - how it carried us through our teenage years, helped us build connections and friendships, and how, not only those memories, but also our love for it has stayed with us until now. Does K-Pop mean anything to you? If yes, share it with us! If not, go listen to SEVENTEEN's discography right now.