156 episodes

Be a fly on the wall of unfiltered 1 on 1 counseling sessions as Bonnie Harris, 30 yr. veteran of Connective Parenting, author and counselor helps parents navigate their daily challenges and weaves her compassion and empathy for parents as she builds their capability to turn their frustrations into opportunities to connect with their children.

Tell Me About Your Kids Bonnie Harris

    • Kids & Family
    • 5.0 • 73 Ratings

Be a fly on the wall of unfiltered 1 on 1 counseling sessions as Bonnie Harris, 30 yr. veteran of Connective Parenting, author and counselor helps parents navigate their daily challenges and weaves her compassion and empathy for parents as she builds their capability to turn their frustrations into opportunities to connect with their children.

    Puzzle Pieces # 17 - Thank You for Telling Us About Your Kids

    Puzzle Pieces # 17 - Thank You for Telling Us About Your Kids

    Can you believe that Bonnie and Adam have created 150 episodes of “Tell Me About Your Kids” over the last 3 years?! In this episode, they reflect on the experience, as well as what they’ve both come to understand about Connective Parenting and the universal struggles of parenthood. 

    From punishment to being friends with your kids, to loving but sometimes not liking them, to wondering how life would be if we’d never had them, to the effects of generational trauma, Bonnie and Adam touch on many of life’s quandaries. And of course, the conversation wouldn’t be complete without a BIG thank you to the MANY generous parents who have been guests on the show. 
     An Important Note: This summer, Bonnie and Adam are taking a well-deserved hiatus. But don’t worry, you can catch up on popular episodes, ones you missed, or any you feel like it’s time to revisit. Stay tuned for details about the next chapter of Tell Me About Your Kids coming later this year! 




    Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 
    https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting
    Website: bonnieharris.com 
    Email: bh@bonnieharris.com
    Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
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    Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible
    When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It


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    • 38 min
    How to Hold Your Children Accountable - Without Blame

    How to Hold Your Children Accountable - Without Blame

    When little kids fight and hurt each other, it’s all a parent can do not to grab, yell, blame and ultimately shame the hitter. Lee and Andre are learning how to hold their 3-year-old hitter accountable without all that. Instead, Celine learns the natural consequences of her behavior (a lost opportunity with blame) and how to develop her brain to think ahead—as long as Lee and Andre can alter their mindset and therefore their automatic reactions. The key to raising responsible, respectful people is modeling that ourselves. Lee and Andre need to reprogram old tapes that quickly assume malice and tell them yelling at Celine is the way to teach her not to do it again. Tune in to learn the No-Blame Solution to sibling fights—no matter what age your kids.


    Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 
    https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting
    Website: bonnieharris.com 
    Email: bh@bonnieharris.com
    Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
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    • 50 min
    Community Pieces # 9 - Growing Up Online: How to Make It Safe for Our Kids

    Community Pieces # 9 - Growing Up Online: How to Make It Safe for Our Kids

    There is nothing more urgent for parents today than what their children are or will be doing on social media. Fears run rampant and get in the way of effective communication with children. Devorah Heitner, Ph.D. author of the best seller “Screenwise”, talks with me about our children’s public lives online that she explores extensively in her upcoming book, “Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World”. We cover everything from “sharenting” to sexting to surveillance apps at home and at school. Listen in to get Devorah’s strategies for developing your kids’ online character, teaching consent and safety as opposed to policing and forbidding.
    Listen to Chapter 1 of Growing Up in Public on her website Devorahheitner.com
    Preorder Growing Up in Public now wherever you get books for September release
    Follow her on Instagram @devorahheitnerphd

    Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 
    https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting
    Website: bonnieharris.com 
    Email: bh@bonnieharris.com
    Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
     www.echofinch.com


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    When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It


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    • 40 min
    Respecting Your Teen's Sexual Boundaries

    Respecting Your Teen's Sexual Boundaries

    Hannah grew as a person and a parent when she learned the hard way to pay
    attention to her daughter’s experience and not compare it to her own. What 13 year
    old Josie has learned to be comfortable with is all new territory for Hannah. In her
    eager attempt to prove her support for her daughter, she was actually taking care of
    herself instead. Listen in for first-hand evidence of the power of mutual respect and
    strong boundaries from the early years on so that the inevitable hard stuff is not so
    hard to get through and learn from.

    Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 
    https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting
    Website: bonnieharris.com 
    Email: bh@bonnieharris.com
    Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
     www.echofinch.com


    Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible
    When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It


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    • 33 min
    How Can I Trust When Agreements Are Broken?

    How Can I Trust When Agreements Are Broken?

    Even when connection is strong with her two boys, 14 and 6, screens pose problems for Anne. Her intentions are on track to support the boys’ self-regulation skills but when agreements are broken and sleep is lost, worries take over and tempers rise. Two entirely different temperaments require different expectations. The expectations for her Harmony Child can easily rise and create more pressure than Anne realizes. Choices and boundaries—understanding whose problem is whose—will help the self-regulation Anne hopes for and ensure that her harmony son never silences his voice.

    Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 
    https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting
    Website: bonnieharris.com 
    Email: bh@bonnieharris.com
    Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
     www.echofinch.com


    Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible
    When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It


    🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 


    Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount 
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    • 44 min
    “Nobody ever listens to me!”

    “Nobody ever listens to me!”

    When past learned behaviors pop up and derail connection with her two children, Ellie’s default is to blame herself. She feels so discouraged when they won’t do as she asks. Why can’t I get this right is what echoes in her head until she starts stressing and yelling to get them to do it right. Just by understanding where her thinking comes from is the beginning of de-fusing that button that gets pushed so she can have the connection she wants. She is so close.
     Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 
    https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting
    Website: bonnieharris.com 
    Email: bh@bonnieharris.com
    Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
     www.echofinch.com


    Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on Audible
    When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It


    🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 




    Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount 
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    • 49 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
73 Ratings

73 Ratings

Jamila Ann ,

Experienced and compassionate

Bonnie gets it from both sides. She gets the parents, and she understands the kids. I feel seen and understood and more empowered to be the parent I want to be, while letting my kids be themselves.

Jessie1383 ,

So intuitive!

I have been so moved listening to Bonnie and her guests, the way Bonnie can break down a situation and get right to the heart of things is amazing! Her empathy and compassion, and her ability to help parents see things on their child’s level is so important for anyone struggling (or not even!) in the parenting world! I can’t recommend this podcast more!

AWORose ,

Best Parenting Podcast

Bonnie is incredibly insightful and really understands childrens behavior and emotions. I've listened to a lot of parenting podcasts and this one is by far the most helpful and practical. Thank you so much!

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