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As a leader who deeply cares about your contribution and impact on the world, what if you were told that achieving the next level of success with your team, business and family won't be found through signing up for yet another training, expensive mastermind, or who's-who networking event. What if the key to your potential sits across from you at your breakfast table every morning?

Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer are husband and wife, business partners, and hosts of The Art of We, a podcast that explores how committed partnerships can be potent vehicles for fully delivering our gifts to the world.

As seasoned leaders, educators, and entrepreneurs, they know that the key to their greatest success out in the world lies inside the health, security, and depth of their relationship. The more skilled and secure their partnership, the greater capacity each has to step into their fullest authenticity and potential.

On this show, they will share lessons from their marriage and professional careers that help them thrive. They’ll share where they get stuck, how they overcome challenges, and they’ll dialogue with thought leaders to broaden the conversation. You’ll leave each episode with practices, tools, inspiration, and conversation topics for the dinner table or your team’s next offsite.

If you’re a leader, founder, or overachiever, and you want to better understand how to leverage your relationships for personal and collective growth, then we invite you to subscribe to The Art of We.

The Art of We Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 23 Ratings

As a leader who deeply cares about your contribution and impact on the world, what if you were told that achieving the next level of success with your team, business and family won't be found through signing up for yet another training, expensive mastermind, or who's-who networking event. What if the key to your potential sits across from you at your breakfast table every morning?

Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer are husband and wife, business partners, and hosts of The Art of We, a podcast that explores how committed partnerships can be potent vehicles for fully delivering our gifts to the world.

As seasoned leaders, educators, and entrepreneurs, they know that the key to their greatest success out in the world lies inside the health, security, and depth of their relationship. The more skilled and secure their partnership, the greater capacity each has to step into their fullest authenticity and potential.

On this show, they will share lessons from their marriage and professional careers that help them thrive. They’ll share where they get stuck, how they overcome challenges, and they’ll dialogue with thought leaders to broaden the conversation. You’ll leave each episode with practices, tools, inspiration, and conversation topics for the dinner table or your team’s next offsite.

If you’re a leader, founder, or overachiever, and you want to better understand how to leverage your relationships for personal and collective growth, then we invite you to subscribe to The Art of We.

    78. Duplicitous Lives? Our Take on “Dr. Death” & Andrew Huberman - Pt 1

    78. Duplicitous Lives? Our Take on “Dr. Death” & Andrew Huberman - Pt 1

    Inspired by people publicly accused of living duplicitous lives, such as "Dr. Death" Paulo Macchiarini, podcaster Andrew Huberman, & Bill Clinton, we dive into the complex dynamics of individuals who excel in their public personas but struggle with personal integrity in their private lives, specifically in intimate partnership. We share our personal thoughts & discuss the psychological aspects & real-life relational consequences of such disparities.
    [0:00] Duplicitous personalities of public figures
    [2:28] Social & relational implications
    [5:54] Complexities of deceitful relationships
    [7:10]  Psychological impacts & public perceptions
    [9:11] Our personal reflections & experiences
    [10:47] Narcissism, sociopathy & lack of empathy 
    [13:19] Individuals & victims involved in deceitful narratives
    [15:00] Moral implications & motivations behind duplicitous lifestyles
    [19:30] Societal fascination & considerations of involving oneself in public figures' private lives

    Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

    Resources Mentioned: 
    Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements “Dr. Death” Series on PeacockNY Mag article “Andrew Huberman’s Mechanisms of Control”“The Clinton Affair” Documentary 

    Get in Touch: 
    The Art Of We Website3 Game Changing Conversations Every Couple Must HaveThe Art of We Instagram Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

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    • 24 min
    77. Sleep In Separate Bedrooms?

    77. Sleep In Separate Bedrooms?

    To sleep or not to sleep together? Celebrity couples like Cameron Diaz, and supposedly the Beckhams, are coming out about sleeping in separate bedrooms. On this episode of “The Art of We” we share our take on the benefits and drawbacks of both scenarios, and address the narrative that there’s something wrong in the relationship if couples are sleeping separately.
    Given the importance of sleep for our health, wellbeing, and capacity to connect with others, we take sleep very seriously over here in the Van Derveer household. You’ll hear how we’ve navigated our sleeping arrangements in unique ways that have mostly kept us in the same room, but with a few brilliant twists to ensure the best sleep possible. 
    We explore different impacts from sleeping together and separately, from energetic, biological, scientific and personal preference angles. We also share our sleeping tricks for when we travel together to ensure the best sleep, and how different seasons of our lives have required different sleeping arrangements. Lastly, we encourage a real attempt at understanding our partner’s challenges when they are not sleeping well, versus simply assuming that something isn’t right in the partnership. 
    A must listen for:
    Contemplating the right sleeping set up for you and your partnerA deeper investigation the the impacts of sleeping choicesLearning unique tips and tricks to ensure better sleep for both partnersUnderstanding how our nervous systems can impact each other’s sleep
    Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 
    Resources Mentioned: 
    Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements Heartmath 
    Get in Touch: 
    The Art Of We Website3 Game Changing Conversations Every Couple Must HaveThe Art of We Instagram Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

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    If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

    • 25 min
    76. A "We" Definition That's A Relationship Game Changer

    76. A "We" Definition That's A Relationship Game Changer

    This definition of the “We” elevates partnership beyond the conventional. Listen in to hear a conversation between us, Krista and Dr. Will, that frames how we view our relationship such that we more quickly can make decisions, work as a team, and operate at higher levels of functioning. 
    In episode 76 we revisit a fundamental concept of “The Art Of We.” You’ll hear personal anecdotes and professional insights to illustrate the power of embracing the 'We' in relationships. We dive into the creation of a third entity (the “We”) that emerges from the union of two individuals, a concept that transcends yet includes both partners. 

    This episode is an invitation to listeners to consider their partnerships as a potent vehicle for growth and impact, making it an enlightening listen for couples, business partners and collaborators alike. We share simple yet impactful questions and tools to create a roadmap for couples looking to elevate their connection, explore the depths of their partnership, and make a significant impact together. 

    Whether you're in a relationship seeking depth or an individual curious about the dynamics of successful partnerships, this episode offers invaluable wisdom and inspiration.

    A must listen for:
    Learning how partnership is not only about two individuals, but something much greaterPractical application for deepening connections.The balance between individuality and unity: navigating the tension between maintaining autonomy while also embracing the collective identity of the partnershipStrategies for growth and overcoming challenges

    Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

    Resources Mentioned: 
    Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements 3 Game Changing Conversations Every Couple Must Have

    Get in Touch: 
    The Art Of We WebsiteThe Art of We Instagram Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

    Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: 
    If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

    • 26 min
    75. Example Of Us Working Through Conflict (In Real Time)

    75. Example Of Us Working Through Conflict (In Real Time)

    In this episode, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer work through a challenge in real-time, sharing a raw and unscripted exploration of navigating work-from-home challenges. Without the safety net of rehearsals or preparations, listeners are granted an intimate glimpse into the dynamics of how they work through conflict while standing for both individual needs and collective harmony.
    Faced with the adjustments of working from home more frequently due to their business partner’s paternity leave, Will and Krista confront the complexities of sharing their suddenly all-too-close quarters. Their candid discussion revolves around an innovative agreement aimed at granting each other solo days at home but quickly evolves into a deeper examination of personal needs, boundaries, and the intricate dance of living and working together in a shared space.

    The conversation navigates through moments of tension, insight, and vulnerability, offering listeners a rare look at the process of real-time problem-solving within a relationship. Join Dr. Will and Krista as they demonstrate the art of working through challenges together, in real-time, with openness and love.

    A must listen for:
    Learning to create shared reality as a basis to work through conflictLearning to stand for one’s own preferences while being willing to see new areas of growthLearning to get everyone’s needs met, rather than compromiseUnderstanding the power of agreement-based relationships

    Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

    Resources Mentioned: 
    Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements 

    Get in Touch: 
    The Art Of We WebsiteThe Art of We Instagram Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

    Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: 
    If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

    • 27 min
    74. Addressing Passive-Aggressive Comments

    74. Addressing Passive-Aggressive Comments

    Addressing passive-aggressive comments like a ninja is highly satisfying. It can stop the aggressor in their shoes and wake them up to the impact they’re having. Most passive aggressive comments are simply unskilled communications of negative feelings. By directly and neutrally addressing passive aggressiveness, we can support each other to grow as human beings. 
    In episode 74 of the Art of We podcast, we get into the nuanced terrain of passive aggressiveness, in both personal and professional relationships. Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer discuss its subtle nature and how it can operate under a veneer of politeness, making it challenging to detect and address. They dive into the psychological underpinnings of why individuals resort to such behavior, highlighting the cultural lack of effective tools for expressing negative feelings directly.
    The hosts share practical strategies, share personal anecdotes and role-play scenarios to illustrate how to respond to passive aggression in a way that fosters understanding and growth, rather than perpetuating a cycle of negativity. They advocate for an approach that involves acknowledging the impact of such comments, expressing one's feelings without aggression, and seeking to understand the underlying needs of the other person.
    A must listen for:
    Individuals in leadership positions who deal with other humans :)Partners who have a hard time communicating their needs and wants skillfully People who have family or community that have a habit of passive aggressive behaviorAnyone who loves to grow!
    Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 
    Resources Mentioned: 
    Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements Psychology Today

    Get in Touch: 
    The Art Of We WebsiteThe Art of We Instagram Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training
    Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: 
    If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

    • 27 min
    73. The Crucial Role of Your Relationship in Achieving Personal Success

    73. The Crucial Role of Your Relationship in Achieving Personal Success

    In episode 73 of "The Art of We" podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer explore the concept that when individuals are genuinely supported within their partnerships, they unlock a unique level of potential that can be a pivotal foundation for personal growth and achieving one's greatest successes, and that transcends an individual’s mere high-functioning ability. 
    They illuminate how the patterns and beliefs instilled in us from childhood carry over into our adult lives, influencing our intimate relationships. By challenging and supporting each other to confront and heal from past relational injuries, partners can achieve a level of fulfillment and expression that was previously unattainable, highlighting the interconnectedness of personal development and relational dynamics.

    The episode culminates in a powerful message about the potential for partnerships to serve as a catalyst for not just personal transformation but also for contributing positively to the world,  pushing the boundaries of what is possible both personally and collectively.

    You’ll also hear:
    The need for support and security within primary partnerships to unlock higher levels of potentialGrowth and healing within intimate relationships as a foundation for overcoming the limitations imposed by past traumas and childhood imprintsThe transformative potential of partnerships in contributing positively to the wider worldA call to action for listeners to reevaluate the depth and purpose of their relationships

    Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

    Resources Mentioned: 
    Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements Episode 72: “Conscious Relationship Endings”

    Get in Touch: 

    The Art Of We WebsiteThe Art of We Instagram Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training
    Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: 
    If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

    • 25 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
23 Ratings

23 Ratings

I Am Chamuel ,

A Treasure

I learned about your podcast because of your YWCA sponsorship. What y’all are doing is something that my wife and I had thought about doing based on our individual spiritual commitments. Our theory is that we’ve made it this long (18 years) because, even when we get triggered and go away from each other, our spiritual work basically commands us to return to one another. Our hope has been to translate that for other folks. But, when I learned about your podcast, I kind of thought, “Well who needs us when these folks are out there?” 😉 But, I hadn’t listened yet. Now, after I listened, I still think that. 😅. That’s my first compliment. But, in addition, I want to say that I really appreciate your honesty. I’m about 7 episodes in. And so far, I relate so much to what you all share. Even though, I come from a very different background in almost every way than you two, I appreciate some of the universal themes. I agree that these kinds of relationships have the potential to offer ourselves and the world tremendous gifts. So, I’m glad you’re out there doing your thing. I wish you all continued success.

DevelopingManCO ,

Fantastic relationship goals

What a great show by a great couple. It’s fantastic to hear two actual grown ups talk about relationships from a first person perspective. Can’t recommend highly enough.

Gretchen Kuhsel ,

Refreshing Perspective on Relationships and Personal Growth

Krista and Dr. Will challenge conventional notions of success and personal development by highlighting the transformative power of strong partnerships. They have a genuine and relatable approach to not only discussing their own journey, but also the research supporting the concepts and strategies they discuss. If you’re looking for fresh insights and practical guidance on how to unlock your potential through partnership, The Art of We is the show for you!

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