The Boundaries.me Podcast

Dr. Henry Cloud
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The Boundaries.me Podcast

Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me podcast features inspiring stories about the benefits to your relationships, mental health, productivity and wellbeing that come when you implement healthy boundaries.

  1. The Dr. Cloud Show - Silencing Your Inner Critic

    3D AGO

    The Dr. Cloud Show - Silencing Your Inner Critic

    In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Henry Cloud explores the powerful impact of negative thought patterns and how they affect our mental health. Drawing from clinical experience, he addresses how automatic negative thoughts can function like "someone walking behind you banging you on the head with a stick" - a metaphor that captures how self-criticism operates in our minds. This episode features practical techniques for identifying and redirecting these thought patterns, from tracking negative thoughts to understanding their origins in past relationships and unresolved trauma.   The call-in segment showcases individuals navigating challenging life situations - from chronic illness and family relocation conflicts to narcissistic relationship patterns and relationship recovery after infidelity. Throughout these conversations, Dr. Cloud provides actionable insights on setting boundaries, seeking appropriate therapeutic support, and celebrating relationship victories even after significant struggles. His approach emphasizes both personal accountability and the healing power of healthy connections.   Relationships shouldn't leave you feeling anxious or exhausted. If you've struggled to deal with someone else’s toxic behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you find clarity and healing. Dr. Cloud’s free resource, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," offers practical, compassionate guidance on recognizing unsafe people, handling manipulative behaviors, and setting firm, loving boundaries. You deserve kindness and respect. Take the first step toward healthier relationships today at www.boundaries.me/free

    44 min
  2. Episode 419 - The Dr. Cloud Show - The Dopamine War: How Social Media Platforms Target Your Brain

    MAR 18

    Episode 419 - The Dr. Cloud Show - The Dopamine War: How Social Media Platforms Target Your Brain

    Dr. Henry Cloud examines how social media platforms and advertisers deliberately target the brain's reward system. The episode explores how these entities track preferences and serve content designed to trigger dopamine releases, potentially narrowing users' experiences and creating unhealthy patterns. The discussion covers the neurochemistry of pleasure, explaining how the same brain mechanisms activated by problematic behaviors also respond to positive activities like social connection and completing small tasks. Dr. Cloud presents practical strategies for regaining control through intentional activities rather than passive consumption. The episode includes call-in segments where Dr. Cloud addresses relationship trust issues, catastrophic thinking patterns, and navigating complex family dynamics.   You deserve relationships that lift you up, not wear you down. If you're feeling exhausted by toxic people or unsure how to handle difficult behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud is here to help. His free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," will show you how to recognize harmful behaviors like gaslighting and narcissism, how to confidently set boundaries, and how to finally take back your peace. You're not alone—and things can get better. Download your free copy now at www.boundaries.me/free

    37 min
  3. Episode 418 - The Dr. Cloud Show - Compassionate Candor: Speaking Truth Without Hurting Relationships

    MAR 11

    Episode 418 - The Dr. Cloud Show - Compassionate Candor: Speaking Truth Without Hurting Relationships

    In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show, psychologist Henry Cloud explores the delicate balance of addressing relationship problems while preserving emotional connection. He examines how to separate behaviors from personal worth, and ways to provide feedback without damaging self-esteem or injecting contempt into important relationships. Dr. Cloud walks through practical applications with callers facing common challenges: a wife seeking family stability while her husband changes jobs frequently, an individual rebuilding career direction after marital separation, and adult children concerned about a parent's pattern of physical altercations. Each situation illustrates effective boundary-setting, conflict resolution, and communication techniques that maintain respect while confronting difficult truths. Dr. Cloud emphasizes that healthy relationships require both honesty and compassion—showing how marriage counseling, family therapy principles, and workplace communication strategies all benefit from addressing problems through a lens of acceptance rather than rejection. His approach offers practical tools for parents, couples, and professionals to evaluate behaviors constructively while affirming the inherent value of the people involved.

    32 min
  4. The Dr. Cloud Show - When Progress Isn't Visible - The Truth About Lasting Change

    MAR 4

    The Dr. Cloud Show - When Progress Isn't Visible - The Truth About Lasting Change

    In this episode, Dr. Cloud examines the concept of incremental progress—explaining why personal growth happens little by little rather than all at once. The discussion covers how consistent small steps contribute to progress when dealing with depression, anxiety, relationship challenges, and health concerns. Dr. Cloud speaks with callers about establishing family boundaries after trauma, addressing chronic headaches in teenagers, and navigating the emotional aspects of infertility. Throughout these conversations, he outlines a framework for measuring progress, maintaining motivation, and finding peace when life takes unexpected turns. You deserve relationships that lift you up, not wear you down. If you're feeling exhausted by toxic people or unsure how to handle difficult behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud is here to help. His free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," will show you how to recognize harmful behaviors like gaslighting and narcissism, how to confidently set boundaries, and how to finally take back your peace. You're not alone—and things can get better. Download your free copy now at www.boundaries.me/free

    42 min
  5. The Dr. Cloud Show - The Architecture of Resilience

    FEB 28

    The Dr. Cloud Show - The Architecture of Resilience

    In this first episode of the new year, Dr. Cloud explores the architecture of personal resilience, using the metaphor of building a house to explain how people can strengthen their ability to cope with life's challenges. The episode opens with a thoughtful discussion about the devastating fires in Los Angeles, transitioning into an exploration of how people can build emotional resilience. Dr. Cloud addresses boundaries in toxic relationships, rebuilding trust after abuse, navigating a difficult breakup, and dealing with an unresponsive spouse. Each call demonstrates practical applications of emotional health principles while offering compassionate guidance for complex personal situations.   Feeling stuck in toxic relationships? Get immediate clarity and actionable advice with Dr. Henry Cloud's free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People." Learn how to recognize gaslighting, handle narcissists, confidently say "no," and much more. Download your copy now at www.boundaries.me/free and take back control of your relationships.

    57 min
  6. The Dr. Cloud Show - Change Your Unhealthy Thinking Patterns

    07/01/2024

    The Dr. Cloud Show - Change Your Unhealthy Thinking Patterns

    Much of your thinking is automatic, and that can be a great thing. No one needs to analyze every stroke of the toothbrush, so to speak. The problem, Dr. Henry Cloud contends, is when we default to thinking patterns that don’t work for situations that require us to be more considered and deliberate with our minds. One of the issues is that automatic thinking can lead to deeply ingrained patterns of behavior that self-reinforce. You have to ask yourself some questions about these automatic thoughts. Here’s a big one: are these even thoughts? Maybe this won’t surprise you, but no, classically speaking many of these automatic thoughts don’t meet the criteria of thoughts. These ideas, constructs, or concepts might pop into your head, but they aren’t considered, they aren’t critiqued. They are thoughts, but they require no thinking. Dr. Cloud shares ways to start actively thinking again so that you can take control of your life in areas you’re overlooking.    Written Question:  Dr. Cloud addresses a question about dealing with a spouse diagnosed with narcissism who frequently turns conversations into arguments. He discusses the complexity of narcissistic personality disorder, emphasizing that not all cases are alike. Dr. Cloud suggests considering whether the narcissism is rooted in strength or weakness, as this affects the approach to dealing with it. The main advice Dr. Cloud offers is to stop engaging in these fights. He uses the analogy of a boxing match, explaining that it takes two people to argue. He recommends setting boundaries by refusing to continue unproductive conversations, suggesting phrases like "I don't think this is helping" or "I'm not comfortable talking about this right now." Dr. Cloud emphasizes the importance of removing oneself from the situation and proposing alternative ways to address issues, such as discussing them in a counseling session.   Carol needs help moving forward with her life after ending her relationship with her parents. She ruminates and finds herself playing back everything that has happened over the years. What can she do truly move on?   Written Question: What kind of advice do you have for young leaders as they take on more responsibility?   Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Time is a Finite Resource is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!   If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice. https://youtube.com/drhenrycloud

    53 min
  7. The Dr. Cloud Show - Reimagining Time Management

    06/21/2024

    The Dr. Cloud Show - Reimagining Time Management

    Dr. Cloud discusses the concept of time management from a different perspective. He argues that rather than managing time itself, which is finite and unchangeable, the focus should be on how we manage ourselves within that time. Dr. Cloud identifies common reasons people may not use their time effectively, such as feeling emotionally isolated, having poor boundaries in saying no to requests, and excessive perfectionism. He gives the example of his father's philosophy of doing things "good enough for who it's for" to avoid wasting time on unnecessary perfectionism. Dr. Cloud suggests evaluating if an activity truly aligns with one's values and priorities before investing more time in it. The core idea is being intentional about how you "invest" yourself and your energy within the limited time available. Rather than time management tactics, this talk examines mindsets and motivations that can lead to poor time utilization.   Answering a viewer’s written question, Dr. Cloud addresses a common dilemma: how to manage time effectively in a busy life. Rather than encouraging viewers to do more, he suggests focusing on achieving greater effects with the time available. Using relatable analogies like mowing grass with scissors versus a lawnmower, he demonstrates how changing work methods can enhance productivity. Dr. Cloud also discusses outsourcing tasks and prioritizing what truly matters. He acknowledges that as one grows personally and professionally, demands increase, making strategic time management crucial. The key, he argues, is not to do more, but to identify and focus on high-priority tasks that align with one's goals and values.   Sandy has a 35 year old son who has overcome opioid addiction and is in a much better place. She’s noticed that he’s drinking far too much and seems like a functioning alcoholic. How can she have a conversation with him without bringing up the trauma of the past intervention they had over opioids?   Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!   If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice. https://youtube.com/drhenrycloud

    37 min
  8. The Dr. Cloud Show - The Art of Constructive Criticism

    06/13/2024

    The Dr. Cloud Show - The Art of Constructive Criticism

    On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:   Dr. Cloud explores criticism and its role in personal growth and relationships. He argues that when done with the right approach, criticism can be an act of love that facilitates positive change. Dr. Cloud provides tips on giving and receiving criticism effectively. He emphasizes specificity over global statements, using "I" statements, setting a positive tone, making it a conversation, and offering actionable feedback. He also examines motivations behind unhelpful criticism like envy, anger, or control. The talk covers watching tone, making criticism timely and relevant, and distinguishing criticism aimed at helping versus hurting. Overall, Dr. Cloud offers insights into navigating constructive criticism, open communication, and fostering personal and interpersonal growth through this approach.   Dr. Cloud tackles a viewer's question about coping with a partner whose language inadvertently echoes her emotionally abusive father's. He discusses the term "emotional abuse," arguing that its overuse can diminish its impact when accurately applied. Dr. Cloud advises approaching the partner constructively, focusing on how they can communicate in ways that foster connection and avoid triggering past traumas. He suggests discussing specific language that helps or hurts, enabling better understanding of each other's sensitivities. Additionally, he recommends taking timeouts when triggered to prevent confusing past and present experiences. This video offers strategies for those whose current relationships are affected by childhood trauma.   Christie is having trouble receiving love. She has a transactional mentality about it where she feels she needs to be worthy of it.    Stacy is helping recovering addicts. Many of them have a victim mindset and cross her boundaries. How can she enforce her boundaries without exacerbating their victim mentality?   Tiffany has a difficult relationship with her father. He is addicted to TV and is constantly talking about conspiracy theories.    Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!   If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice. https://youtube.com/drhenrycloud

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    Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me podcast features inspiring stories about the benefits to your relationships, mental health, productivity and wellbeing that come when you implement healthy boundaries.

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    • Creator
      Dr. Henry Cloud
    • Years Active
      2019 - 2025
    • Episodes
      106
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      © 2020
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