The Grace Filled Leader | Work Life Balance, Time Management, Productivity, Emotional Intelligence, People Pleasing, Anxiety Tanya Engesether | Time Management Coach, Healthcare Leadership Mentor, Mindset Coach, Christian Life Coach, Speaker

Today I am speaking to my dear Sister Friends who have or do struggle with people-pleasing. You may not even know that you are a people-pleaser.
 
Tell me if this sounds familiar:  You are one of those really nice people who is seen as so helpful and kind.   It makes you feel good to make someone else happy, to brighten their day.   You try to seek and preserve harmony in your relationships, and you often put others before yourself.   People probably refer to you as someone who is reliable, someone they can count on…you are a “real team player”.   If someone needs something, you are there to lend a hand, almost always saying “yes” in response to a request or perceived need.   So far…this sounds pretty good… it probably works out pretty well for you and you are seen as a “nice” person, right?  People tend to like you…win, win!
 
Well….  Hold up.   It doesn’t stop there.  Is this life really all sunshine and roses, rainbows and unicorns?   Probably not.   Not only do you try to please people or gain their approval, but you feel anxious and guilty when you can’t.  You perseverate when you perceive that someone might be upset with you, and you fear the disapproval of others.  You absolutely hate conflict and do everything you can to avoid causing trouble.  To think that someone might be angry at you is downright disastrous…enough to make you want to throw up.  
 
Today we are talking about some of the benefits you probably experience, at least in the short term, and more importantly, the long-term cost of being a people-pleaser. 
 
Key Highlights:
Signs and symptoms of people-pleasing
Causes of people-pleasing
Long-term cost of people-pleasing
Implications on leadership
How to stop people-pleasing
 
I hope this episode blesses you!
Xoxo,
Tanya
 
Episode Resources:
 
Episode #131: Two Proven and Powerful Tools to Decide What No Longer Belongs on Your “Should Do” List.
Episode #112: Setting Boundaries and Saying "No" as a Busy Professional Woman.
 
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1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE 30-Minute Coaching Call now! Get personalized and practical strategies for work-life balance. Start your grace-filled life and leadership journey ➡︎https://gracefilledleader.com/workwithme
 
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3️⃣ TIME MANAGEMENT: Grab my FREE Time Audit Templates! It's your key to organizing and optimizing your time ➡︎ https://time-audit-tool-sign-up-94896.grwebsite.com/
 
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Today, we're diving deep into time management, specifically focusing on how to streamline your "Maybe No" list that we developed in episode #129. I'm going to guide you through a process that integrates your core values and the principles of Eisenhower's Matrix to help you make intentional decisions about your time.  If you haven’t heard of Eisenhower’s matrix, we actually talked about Steven Covey’s time matrix in episode #17, which is very similar. 
 
If you have not yet listened to episodes 125, 126, 129, I highly encourage you to go back and listen.  And before you do that, you should download my free time audit tools.  The tactical work I have you doing in these episodes is done easiest and is explained using those tools as a reference. 
 
Does it give you heartburn to think about cutting some activities or commitments from your list, or maybe drastically reducing them?  If so, why is that… is it about comfort, is it fear of disappointing someone, is it fear of what others might think?  Look at them and ask yourself, “if I could take that many hours out of my week, what would that leave time for that is important to me?   Would it allow me some breathing room, some white space in my schedule?”
 
Key Highlight:
 
If everything is getting a “yes”, nothing can get your BEST “yes”.
 
I hope this episode blesses you!
Xoxo,
Tanya

Episode Resources:
 
Episode #17:  Time Management:  Learn How To Prioritize Your Time as a Busy Professional Woman
Episode #112: Setting Boundaries and Saying "No" as a Busy Professional Woman.
Episode #125: Master Time Management: Applying Money Management Principles to Your Daily Schedule📅
Episode #126: 5 Steps to Simplify Your Time Audit and Take Action To Better Manage the Time.⏱️
Episode #129: Unlocking Time Freedom: Creating Your 'Definitely Yes' and 'Maybe No' Lists
Episode #130: Values That Guide: 🧭How to Navigate Life's Choices with Clarity and Confidence 
 
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1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE 30-Minute Coaching Call now! Get personalized and practical strategies for work-life balance. Start your grace-filled life and leadership journey ➡︎https://gracefilledleader.com/workwithme
 
2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/community
 
3️⃣ TIME MANAGEMENT: Grab my FREE Time Audit Templates! It's your key to organizing and optimizing your time ➡︎ https://time-audit-tool-sign-up-94896.grwebsite.com/
 
4️⃣ COACHING: Are you READY to have better Work-Life BALANCE? Are you ready to up-level your leadership? Sign up for 1-on-1 Christian Life Coaching. It’s the accountability and guidance you need to make real progress ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/coaching 
 
5️⃣CONTACT: Ask me a question or leave a comment about the show ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/contact
 
 
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Today, we're diving deep into a topic that forms the foundation of how we navigate our lives: identifying our core values. I'm Tanya, and I'm so excited to explore how understanding our core values can serve as our true north, guiding us through life's choices, including how we manage our time.
 
So, what exactly are core values? Well, think of them as the guiding principles that shape who you are and what matters most to you.  They are what guide our lives.  They're like the compass that keeps you heading in the right direction, even when life gets chaotic.  They are what guide our decisions, actions and what we see as our life purpose.  
 
If we are not in alignment with our core values in our decisions or actions, we will ultimately feel unfulfilled.  We will feel like something is missing or that we are out of balance.
Key Highlights:
Understanding Core Values
Examples of Core Values
Identifying Your Core Values
Using Core Values in Decision-Making
Navigating Conflicting Core Values
 
I hope this episode blesses you!
Xoxo,
Tanya
5 Ways To Connect With Me:
1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE 30-Minute Coaching Call now! Get personalized and practical strategies for work-life balance. Start your grace-filled life and leadership journey ➡︎https://gracefilledleader.com/workwithme
 
2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/community
 
3️⃣ TIME MANAGEMENT: Grab my FREE Time Audit Templates! It's your key to organizing and optimizing your time ➡︎ https://time-audit-tool-sign-up-94896.grwebsite.com/
 
4️⃣ COACHING: Are you READY to have better Work-Life BALANCE? Are you ready to up-level your leadership? Sign up for 1-on-1 Christian Life Coaching. It’s the accountability and guidance you need to make real progress ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/coaching 
 
5️⃣CONTACT: Ask me a question or leave a comment about the show ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/contact
 
 
"Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they’re meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!" 
If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don’t forget to follow the show so you don’t miss any episodes! And, if you’re feeling really generous, I’d be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.
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In our previous episode, we continued our work with time audits so that we could begin to build awareness and take action toward better time management. We discussed the importance of categorizing activities based on their importance, urgency, energy level, alignment with priorities, and necessity.
Today we are going to take that work and take it a step further… we will begin Creating Your "Definitely Yes" and "Maybe No" Lists when it comes to time commitments we need to keep and those we may need to change or get rid of.
 
Key Highlights:
 
We talk about what goes on our “definitely yes!” list, our “yes” list, and our “maybe no, not so much, not me, or not right now” list.   This 3rd list is the zone of opportunity when it comes to creating more time in your schedule for the things you want to be doing.  We have to “balance our budget” of time, and start getting to work on that “savings” bucket…the things that are important but have completely or nearly completely fallen off our list of commitments.
 
I hope this episode blesses you!
Xoxo,
Tanya

Episode Resources:
Episode 125:  Master Time Management: Applying Money Management Principles to Your Daily Schedule📅
Episode 126: 5 Steps to Simplify Your Time Audit and Take Action To Better Manage the Time.⏱️
Episode 128: Time Mastery: Prioritize Like a Pro with My Time Audit Tools
 
5 Ways To Connect With Me:
1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE 30-Minute Coaching Call now! Get personalized and practical strategies for work-life balance. Start your grace-filled life and leadership journey ➡︎https://gracefilledleader.com/workwithme
 
2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/community
 
3️⃣ TIME MANAGEMENT: Grab my FREE Time Audit Templates! It's your key to organizing and optimizing your time ➡︎ https://time-audit-tool-sign-up-94896.grwebsite.com/
 
4️⃣ COACHING: Are you READY to have better Work-Life BALANCE? Are you ready to up-level your leadership? Sign up for 1-on-1 Christian Life Coaching. It’s the accountability and guidance you need to make real progress ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/coaching 
 
5️⃣CONTACT: Ask me a question or leave a comment about the show ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/contact
 
 
"Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they’re meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!" 
If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don’t forget to follow the show so you don’t miss any episodes! And, if you’re feeling really generous, I’d be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.
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Time Management Makeover Workshop waitlist: 
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Snag my free Time Audit Templates!
 
Today we are going to take the work you did in Episode 125 and 126 with your time audits, and start the process of sorting and prioritizing your time.   This is really tactical, so you may want to listen through once, and then sit down with your time audit tools a second time to do the action items.
Key Highlights:
In regard to all of the time commitments you identified, we will be taking them through a series of questions to begin to sift out the things that need to stay, and the things that may need to change in order to create more time for what matters most to you.  We ask:
 
Importance of the activity:  High or Low
Urgency of the activity:  High or Low
Impact on your energy level:  Giving or Depleting
The “why” of the activity:   Passion or Obligation
Alignment with your priorities and core values:  yes or no
Necessary:  yes or no
 
These important questions will help you gain awareness about what you are saying “yes” to currently, and what might be the biggest areas of opportunities when it comes to creating more time and space in your schedule.

I hope this episode blesses you!
Xoxo,
Tanya

Episode Resources:
 
Episode 125:  Master Time Management: Applying Money Management Principles to Your Daily Schedule📅
Episode 126: 5 Steps to Simplify Your Time Audit and Take Action To Better Manage the Time.⏱️
Get all my free resources in one place: Click Here
 
5 Ways To Connect With Me:
1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE 30-Minute Coaching Call now! Get personalized and practical strategies for work-life balance. Start your grace-filled life and leadership journey ➡︎https://gracefilledleader.com/workwithme
 
2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/community
 
3️⃣ TIME MANAGEMENT: Grab my FREE Time Audit Templates! It's your key to organizing and optimizing your time ➡︎ https://time-audit-tool-sign-up-94896.grwebsite.com/
 
4️⃣ COACHING: Are you READY to have better Work-Life BALANCE? Are you ready to up-level your leadership? Sign up for 1-on-1 Christian Life Coaching. It’s the accountability and guidance you need to make real progress ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/coaching 
 
5️⃣CONTACT: Ask me a question or leave a comment about the show ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/contact
 
 
"Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they’re meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!" 
If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don’t forget to follow the show so you don’t miss any episodes! And, if you’re feeling really generous, I’d be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.
RESOURCES:
Manage your email inbox with this step-by-step tutorial:  GFL Email Inbox Management Mini-Course
Time Management Makeover Workshop waitlist: 
https://gracefilledleader.com/workshop
 
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Do you want to use the exact project management system I use to manage my time?
Meistertask is the BEST system I have found to manage EVERYTHING
 
Do you love a beautiful paper planner, simple bible study, or journal?  
Check out Horacio Printing (use coupon code GRACE15 at checkout to save 15%)
 
Do You want to get clear on what God is calling you to do?  
Clarify Your Calling with Stef Gass
 
Do You want to start your own podcast?  
Podcast Pro University
 
Do you want to take your podcast to the

Have you ever found yourself bending over backward to meet someone else's expectations, sacrificing your own well-being in the process? Maybe you've felt the pressure to constantly seek approval, whether it's from friends, family, or colleagues. These tendencies can leave us feeling exhausted, empty, and trapped in a cycle of seeking validation that never truly satisfies.
 
Today’s episode highlights the brokenness we sometimes see or experience in our lives, and the ultimate solution we have available to us as believers.  It goes to the heart of where our people-pleasing and approval-seeking tendencies come from and how they can keep us stuck in patterns that are not helping us to live the abundant lives God intends for us.   
 
More importantly, today’s episode covers 5 Truths that are aimed to give you hope and help you to be a light for others.
 
If you have ever felt unworthy or insignificant, you need to hear this.
 
I hope this episode blesses you!
Xoxo,
Tanya 
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