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The Love Lab with Lisa Bilyeu Women of Impact
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Embark on a heartfelt exploration with "The Love Lab," a specially curated playlist from the "Women of Impact" podcast, all about the art of love. Each episode in this series is an insightful journey into the realms of finding love, setting healthy boundaries, nurturing relationships, and growing love. Host Lisa Bilyeu expertly guides this exploration, engaging with relationship experts, psychologists, and seasoned couples to uncover the secrets of a lasting connection. This playlist isn't just about romance; it's a toolkit for building stronger, more meaningful relationships. Tune in every week to discover new perspectives on love, learn practical strategies for healthy relationships, and find inspiration to keep love thriving in your life. Whether you're searching for love, looking to deepen an existing bond, or seeking wisdom on relationship dynamics, "The Love Lab Chronicles" is your guide to the complexities and joys of love.
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How to Keep a Relationship Going After the Honeymoon Phase is Over
When you first started dating, all you could think about was seeing him or her and being together. Whenever their name was mentioned you smiled. Maybe you rearranged everything and everyone on your schedule to make sure nothing stood in the way of the joy you felt. How long does that phase of new love last though? Time goes on and the relationship evolves, or maybe dissolves for some? Have you been left feeling like the spark you once had is gone, or not as strong as it once was? Possibly, it’s your partner telling you the spark is gone and you're left trying to figure out how to keep that spark going. In this episode, Tom and Lisa unpack the importance of communicating. It’s not enough to assume how your partner defines “spark” and in order for your relationship to survive, you're going to have to talk about it, listen, and get each other’s perspectives to move forward to the next level. Making an effort is just part of the process of having a fulfilling relationship. [Original air date: 4-2-21].
SHOW NOTES:
Defining terms to one another and communicating to understand [1:17]
Approach your relationship as novice regardless of how many relationships you’ve had [3:00]
Tom breaks down the effect new love has in relationships and the intoxicating benefit [3:37]
Taking the relationship beyond the intoxicating phase to the level of building together [4:34]
Fulfillment versus happiness in relationships like deep contentment and satisfaction [6:00]
Communicating and being open to each other’s perspective is the way forward [7:05]
Transitioning into a long term relationship and still working on yourself [8:10]
Lisa explains why still making an effort is important although the motivation has changed [9:15]
Comfy together and transparent conversation about looking “good” for each other [9:48]
QUOTES:
When you’re orbiting stars around a shared center of gravity it doesn’t become that sort of weird destructive thing [...] it’s like two people that revolve around the relationship” Tom Bilyeu [4:48]
Listen to each, define terms, and then we can figure out how to march forward together.” [7:18]
“Even if you’re not trying to capture the exact spark that you had I think it is important to still make sure that you are making the effort for each other as well.” Lisa Bilyeu [9:21]
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If You're Feeling Neglected Because Your Partner is Busy, Listen to This!
How do you support a highly ambitious partner with a hyper-focus on goals and success? It’s so easy to fall into a selfish pattern of thinking. What about time for me? When do we get to focus on each other? Being with someone that is highly driven is not an easy role to sign up for. Tom and Lisa happen to both be highly ambitious and focused individuals. Lisa has played her part as a supportive wife and a successful business partner. In this episode, Tom and Lisa break down the hard truth about what it takes to sign up for that lifestyle and also what it takes to prioritize each other as number one. [Original air date: 6-13-2021.]
SHOW NOTES:
Family Goal |Lisa on why they decided on a family goal and individual goals [0:54]
Focus | Get what you focus on, so see how you are a team supporting each other [4:12]
Ambition | Why you have to know what comes along with it when its the life you chose [5:21]
Mismatched | Collectively deciding the life you both want, is it aligned or mismatched [7:33]
QUOTES:
“And I know deep down that I'm not number two, I'm your number one.” Lisa Bilyeu [2:19]
“If you're focusing on the fact that you feel neglected, and you're put second all the time, you're going to start to feel like that.” Lisa Bilyeu [4:21]
“you're so good about not being abusive, that when you speak up, like whatever it is like I have that switch that goes, ‘nothing else matters.’” [6:54]
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This is What Happens When You Don't Share Much in Common with Your Partner
Working hard on your goals and creating the life you and your partner dream about is part of the day to day grind, and that is fine. Working so many hours that you leave your partner feeling neglected, ignored and seeking attention, is not okay. It is so important that you prioritize the health of your relationship over anything if it is important to you. It takes a lot of work on both ends of the relationship to make progress by creating time and opportunity for each other. The beauty about relationships is having someone love you so much they are willing to try things they aren’t excited about because they are more excited about you. These tips will help you think of new ways to see where you and your partner’s interests overlap so you can find time to do things together that bring you deeper connection and joy. [Original air date: 6-27-21].
SHOW NOTES:
A.D.D. | Why having ADD is not an excuse, you still have obligation to improve [0:31]
Shared Interests | Importance of finding common interests and joy together [1:42]
Be Open | Give things your partner likes a try for the sake of your partner [3:30]
Attention | When your partner is distracted and your feeling ignored [4:30]
QUOTES:
“If you don't share anything in common breakup” Tom Bilyeu [2:20]
“There's nothing worse when you're at dinner or something, and you're trying to have a romantic moment or something and the other person picks up their phone.” Lisa Bilyeu [5:38]
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How to Overcome Arguments with these Simple Tips
When someone points out your flaws and tries to put the blame on you for this or that, it’s so easy to feel triggered. When it’s your spouse, your partner, or someone you love that’s doing it, it’s even easier to get defensive and feel hurt. But what if your partner is also doing it in a way that makes them feel great and more amazing in comparison? Tom and Lisa walk through both sides of this scenario for how to cope with being criticized and blamed when you’re being attacked and also feeling attacked. Over and over we come back to communication really being key to a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationship. Today is no exception, let’s talk about being defensive and the best way to think about it. [Original air date: 5-28-21].
SHOW NOTES:
Feeling Attacked | Explore why you’re feeling attacked and how to interpret the situation [0:40]
Being Attacked | Tom explains his response if he were being attacked [3:13]
Defensive | Lisa’s advice for not feeling defensive when your intentions fail [5:11]
QUOTES:
“I never lead with this person is attacking me, I always lead with why am I feeling attacked?” Tom Bilyeu [2:25]
“If you get what you intended, you have done the right thing. If you do not get what you intended, [...] you have, by definition, used the wrong strategy.” Tom Bilyeu [4:10]
“for whatever reason, using that word with me does rattle me, so use this word instead, so I can hear what you're saying.” [6:35]
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How to Put Yourself First Set Boundaries and Value Yourself
Being married and having children demands a certain amount of time, energy and effort thanks to spoken and unspoken expectations. Your time, however, must also be reserved for prioritizing your own needs and not just everyone else’s. Tom and Lisa are discussing how to stand up to your overly demanding family and prioritize your own selfish needs. It’s a process and if you’ve been putting everyone else first for the last several years, this will take a great amount of effort, but it will be worth it. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. [Original air date: 10-22-21].
SHOW NOTES:
Demonstrate | How to make your family feel important and why you need selfish time [0:44]
Selfish Pivot | The best way to rebuild your identity after years of putting you to the side [4:39]
Carving Space | Actual tips for carving space and creating boundaries with your family [6:46]
Small Things | Understand and define what’s really meaningful for your family and spouse [7:52]
Boundaries | Be clear with your family about expectations and enforce your boundaries [9:14]
Guilty Transition | Value of being consistent and dealing with the guilt of being selfish [11:18]
QUOTES: “I'm going to do what the f**k I want to do, I'm going to build the life I want to build that is that that's a non negotiable.” Tom Bilyeu [1:22]
“You have to make those people feel that they are your number one, but that does not mean that they get the majority of your time” Tom Bilyeu [4:25]
“I'm the type of person that realizes you will be fucking consumed by other people if you let it. And while it's amazing for them, it is ultimately corrosive for you.” Tom Bilyeu [5:35] “
Being a good mother you should be happy within yourself, with being a great wife, you need to be content with yourself, and so if you're not working on that, then you can't deliver.” Lisa Bilyeu [12:31]
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How to Heal Your Partner's Emotional Wounds and Grow Closer
Are not sure how to influence your partner and present ideas that are mutually beneficial? It could be that you are not speaking each other’s language. Tom and Lisa dive straight into why language matters, the words you use with your partner matters, and how you choose to use your partner’s words against them also matters. Time and time again, Tom and Lisa express the importance of communication and why it has been the cornerstone of their relationship for 20 years. This episode explores some ideas about how you can start communicating better in your relationships and also find out the difference between manipulating your partner versus influencing your partner. [Original air date: 05-30-2021.]
SHOW NOTES:
Value of Words | Tom shares why words, trust, and communication are so critical [0:43]
Verbal Manipulation | Difference between manipulation, influence, and mutual advantage [3:03]
Important | Lisa’s tip for defining a special word and not abusing it in the relationship [3:48]
QUOTES: “I'm not interested in shutting people down, I'm not even interested in trying to prove something to them, I want to understand their position and see if there's something usable in that for me so that I can put it into my own worldview.” Tom Bilyeu [1:12]
“it's so important to treat people kindly, and to make them feel better about themselves when they're around you.” Tom Bilyeu [2:56]
“no one ever wants to feel like they're being secretly manipulated to the other person's advantage” Lisa Bilyeu [3:22]
“manipulation is moving somebody to your advantage and influence is moving them to their advantage [...] I would say that we always moved each other to mutual advantage.” Tom Bilyeu [3:35]
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