A parenting expert and a Ninja Turtle walk into a bar...
A lively presentation of insights, tips and techniques for parents of children ages 12 months through 25 years.
Hosted by best selling author and parenting expert Julie Ross M.A. (www.ParentingHorizons.com) and actor/writer/father (and actual Mutant Ninja Turtle) Gregory Abbey.
The Sleep Deprived Teen
“Without enough sleep, we all become tall two-year-olds.”
Sleep isn’t a luxury, and this is especially true among our tweens and teens. 77% of teens nationwide do not get the minimum number of hours of sleep they need each night (8 hours is the minimum.) And it’s no surprise that sleep deprivation leads to short-temperedness, risky behaviors; poor learning; inability to absorb, retain and retrieve new information; drowsy driving and poor mental health.
In this episode we interview Lisa L. Lewis, author of “The Sleep Deprived Teen” who helps us come up with a strategy for helping our kids get they sleep they desperately need.
We’ll uncover the truth about how a teen’s sleep patterns differ from the years prior to and after adolescence and how this Circadian rhythm shift affects them.
Finally, we’ll give parents tips for how to help your child self-regulate, make sleep a family priority and help overworked and over-scheduled teenagers achieve a balance in their sleep, social life, school work and extracurricular activities
It’s Okay To Not Be Okay
It’s okay to not be okay: Self-care vs. that never ending, ever expanding TO DO list
Being a parent is A LOT of work and often very stressful. But there’s stress and then there’s STRESS, and a parent’s relationship to that stress can occasionally dip into unhealthy territory. But if that happens, there are ways to get back into balance and find a healthy way to cope.
In today’s episode we talk with Meredith Ethington, author of “The Motherload: Surviving the daily grind without losing your ever-loving mind.”
We start by debunking the idea that men and women are “wired” differently, and focus instead on how the pressure to conform to societal norms about men and women contribute to the fact that mothers typically bear the majority of the mental, physical and emotional load in families. We offer suggestions as to how mothers can learn to share that load so they don't feel so overwhelmed all of the time.
Finally, we talk about how it’s okay to not be okay. The mental load placed on mothers can sometimes lead to mental health issues and it’s important to talk about this. Destigmatizing mental health issues is critical and parents of all genders (partnered or not) do not need to feel shame about needing help. (And don't necessarily have to spend money to get that help.)
The “School Of Hard Knocks”: Fostering Resilience In Your Kids
It’s a fact of life; at some point in their life, your kid is going to get knocked down by circumstances out of their control. But as uncomfortable as that truth may be, there are concrete steps you can take as a parent to foster resilience in your kid, the kind of grit that allows them to get up, dust off and get back on the horse.
In this episode we interview Kate Lund, the author of “Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive In School, Sports and Life”
We’ll identify the pillars of resilience and ways to help your kid identify and build upon the tools to reduce stress and increase confidence, even in the face of setbacks and disappointment.
Finally, we’ll talk about ways you can model resilience for your kid and how both your child (and you!) can learn to tolerate discomfort.
Liar Liar Pants On Fire: Why Do Kids Lie?
It’s going to happen sooner or later; you catch your kid in a lie. But what do you do? Is it a teachable moment or a warning sign? In this episode we talk with Colleen Doyle Bryant (https://colleendoylebryant.com), the author the book “Rooted in Decency: Finding Inner Peace In A World Gone Sideways.”
We’ll tackle the big questions: Why do kids lie? What are the 4 myths that parents buy into that cause kids to lie MORE? What’s the difference between calling kids out on a lie vs. punishing them for a lie? And what’s the difference between punishment and consequence?
Finally, we’ll unpack why shame never works and we’ll reveal the single most effective phrase to help your child become a good person.
Is TikTok Eating My Child's Brain?
Technology is not a “one size fits all” proposition. Children’s developing brains process digital media differently at different stages. The challenge for parents is how to embrace their role as “gate keeper” for younger children and then how to navigate into the role of “support system” as they get older.
In today’s episode we talk with Dr. Katie Davis, (https://katiedavisresearch.com) psychologist and author of “Technology’s Child: Digital Media's Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up”
We’ll discuss an effective two-step decision tool that will help you provide support across the full arc of your child’s development, from toddlers to young adults.
We’ll also talk about some of the fears that parents have today that technology can interfere with and disrupt an otherwise healthy attachment between parent and child and how to keep the lines of communication open to find out what your child is experiencing online (hint: no interrogation!)
The Squeamish Parent Part 2: Talking to Your Kids About Pornography
In even the most sex positive families, talking particularly about pornography can be tricky at best. In this episode we continue our conversation with Amy Lang (BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com), about how to talk to your children about this complicated subject.
It’s important for parents to acknowledge that in today’s culture, it is unrealistic to assume your children will never see pornography. The average age at which most children are exposed to porn is 9 years. In fact even 7-8 year olds have also probably seen it, but just aren’t talking about it.
As uncomfortable as these statistics may be, it does no good to stick your head in the sand. The only way to deal with it is to develop a relationship based on honest communication. If you haven't already, you need to start talking to them about sex and sexuality so that they will talk to you about it.
We’ll discuss ways to talk to little kids about it, as well as tweens and teens. We’ll also provide other resources including book recommendations, what to do if you discover your child is watching porn and how to monitor and filter for porn on your child’s devices.
Wise and Practical
If you are a parent, you need to listen to this podcast with parenting expert Julie Ross and cohost Gregory Abbey. Together they shared clear, honest advice about raising kids in changing times. They also talk to guest experts who bring insight about tough subjects such as dealing with divorce when your child comes out.
Wow wow wow.
Insightful, honest, and real. Good for those who parent and those who have been parented (aka everyone!).
I needed these podcasts!
These are so timely…during a time of intense family togetherness. It’s provided roadmaps for how to gracefully interact with tweens and teens. I continue to replay episodes and have also shared them widely. So grateful!