The Parenting Mentor Sue Groner

Jen B is a mother to a 16 year old high-performing perfectionist daughter who is completing her junior year of high school. Jen is a self described micromanager who worries that her daughter doesn't have the coping mechanisms and resilience she’s going to need for college. Jen knows she needs to back off and trust her daughter but she’s finding it so hard to do. When her daughter comes to her for answers or frequently texts her, Jen struggles to set the boundaries that will help her daughter become more self-reliant. 
On today’s episode we talk about how to start to let go of control as a parent and create more trust between you and your teen. We talk about how to practice validation, honest conversations and how to show up with love and support without controlling the situation. We talk about setting boundaries and allowing your teen to learn their lessons alone without constant protection. We talk about how to utilize code words so you can keep each other accountable. 

This week on The Parenting Mentor:
Tips for validating communication around your teen’s stresses and why this creates empathy and understanding.
Specific tools for creating boundaries and room for your teen to grow without your constant protection and rules. 
Communication tips around handling the next steps in your relationship with your teen when you’re working on letting go of control. 
Specific tools to encourage your teen to start solving problems and learning lessons on their own. 
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If you want to reduce the everyday stress and anxiety that inevitably come with parenting and learn to be a happier and more relaxed parent, then this is the place for you.
Here, you can listen in on real sessions with parents who open up about the specific challenges they face with children from 2 to 22. Listen along and gain perspectives and strategies to help you parent with sanity and joy.
Visit theparentingmentor.com for notes on this show, more episodes, and all the ways to subscribe, and don’t forget to pick up my book, Parenting with Sanity and Joy: 101 Simple Strategies, which includes my Nine Golden Rules of Parenting.
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Ruthie’s 4 year old son is fiercely competitive. He wants to be first at everything. He races his mom and even if he loses he insists that he is the winner. She is not a fan of the “no, you’re not” “yes, I am” battle. While Ruthie wants to embrace her son’s competitive nature, acknowledging that it will serve him well, she needs some help  handling his need to always win. 
If you’re struggling with a child who can’t deal with losing at anything, listen along for strategies and perspective to help your child feel better about not always being the winner. 
This week on The Parenting Mentor:
Tangible tips and games to teach your child about the concept of  winning and losing.  
Alter the “winning” goal by adjusting racing against others to racing against yourself.
Changing your perspective and giving your child  something fair to win at while  utilizing empowering language. 
Helping your child  understand and develop empathy for those that don’t win. 
“It may not be that he necessarily needs to race and beat you. It may be just this act of seeing how fast he can run. And you can do it outside. You can set up a starting or finish and let him do these dashes. Time him, how long is it going to take him to run around the house. How many times can he do it, how fast can he do it today and in a week if he keeps practicing. Throwing in that concept how the practice is going to make him better and faster.” - Sue Groner
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If you want to reduce the everyday stress and anxiety that inevitably come with parenting and learn to be a happier and more relaxed parent, then this is the place for you.
Here, you can listen in on real sessions with parents who open up about the specific challenges they face with children from 2 to 22. Listen along and gain perspectives and strategies to help you parent with sanity and joy.
Visit theparentingmentor.com for notes on this show, more episodes, and all the ways to subscribe, and don’t forget to pick up my book, Parenting with Sanity and Joy: 101 Simple Strategies, which includes my Nine Golden Rules of Parenting.
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Nicole’s 5 year old is heading to kindergarten this fall. She’s concerned about her son making this transition from the super nurturing preschool he has been at since he was 1.5 years old. If your child is going to be heading to a new camp this summer or new school in the fall, listen along for some strategies to help your child work through those jitters and to help you be ok with your child’s discomfort. 
 “It's so important for us to allow our kids to be uncomfortable because that is very normal. They’re going to feel it whether we want them to or not. And the more opportunities they have to learn how to get through those feelings, the better."
This week on The Parenting Mentor:
Tangible tips for familiarizing your child with their new environment and classmates in advance.
Accepting and getting comfortable with your child’s inevitable discomfort in life. 
Letting go of a perfectionist mindset and giving your child permission to feel their feelings. 
Looking back with your child and celebrating them as they move through this new chapter. 
Empowering language and exercises for handling new social situations. 
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If you want to reduce the everyday stress and anxiety that inevitably come with parenting and learn to be a happier and more relaxed parent, then this is the place for you.
Here, you can listen in on real sessions with parents who open up about the specific challenges they face with children from 2 to 22. Listen along and gain perspectives and strategies to help you parent with sanity and joy.
Visit theparentingmentor.com for notes on this show, more episodes, and all the ways to subscribe, and don’t forget to pick up my book, Parenting with Sanity and Joy: 101 Simple Strategies, which includes my Nine Golden Rules of Parenting.
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Tahra’s 10 year old daughter has what her mom likes to call “selective blindness”. She can never seem to find the things her mom asks her for. Tahra finds this so frustrating and is hoping for some guidance on the best way to handle this. We talk about how this is part of the bigger issue of helping out as part of the family unit. If you are struggling to get your children to be more active helpers at home, listen along for some strategies to empower and activate your kids. 
This week on The Parenting Mentor:
Tools and games to motivate your children to help out at home.
Empowering conversations to activate your child’s sense of responsibility.
Creating opportunities for your child to earn more freedom and independence while developing life skills. 
Practicing supportive communication versus blaming to create a sense of teamwork and empathy between you and your child. 
 
“You could say I get that AND there are certain things that I don't want to try that hard at either because I don’t really care AND I need to anyways. And you need to anyway. Cause you’re part of this family and I can't do it all myself. And I need you. I need you to help. I need you to step up and I know you're really capable of it.” - Sue Groner
 
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If you want to reduce the everyday stress and anxiety that inevitably come with parenting and learn to be a happier and more relaxed parent, then this is the place for you.
Here, you can listen in on real sessions with parents who open up about the specific challenges they face with children from 2 to 22. Listen along and gain perspectives and strategies to help you parent with sanity and joy.
Visit theparentingmentor.com for notes on this show, more episodes, and all the ways to subscribe, and don’t forget to pick up my book, Parenting with Sanity and Joy: 101 Simple Strategies, which includes my Nine Golden Rules of Parenting.
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Sarah’s 2 and a half year old daughter won’t stop throwing food at meal time. Sarah is finding that she is escalating the situation because she ends up yelling and then dealing with a crying toddler. If you’re struggling with a defiant toddler and you're constantly cleaning up food from the floor, listen in for some strategies to set boundaries while allowing your child some control. 
 
This week on The Parenting Mentor:
 
General statements and empowering language that will define boundaries and reinforce rules around meal time. 
Focusing on your one goal with your child and being okay with letting go of perfection. 
Empowering language that reminds your child that you are on their team and it’s not a fight. 
Tangible strategies to teach your kids about concepts like hunger and incorporating games for them to express themselves without making a mess of the food. 
 
“She knows if I choose not to eat I may be uncomfortable. If I choose to throw food I’m not going to eat. So giving her the power. And you’re not angry, you’re not yelling. When she throws the food, you’re like oh I can see you don’t want to eat now, honey. It’s not like “OK I'M TAKING THE FOOD AWAY” There’s nothing punitive. It’s just the way it is.” - Sue Groner
 
Meet the Parenting Mentor
If you want to reduce the everyday stress and anxiety that inevitably come with parenting and learn to be a happier and more relaxed parent, then this is the place for you.
Here, you can listen in on real sessions with parents who open up about the specific challenges they face with children from 2 to 22. Listen along and gain perspectives and strategies to help you parent with sanity and joy.
Visit theparentingmentor.com for notes on this show, more episodes, and all the ways to subscribe, and don’t forget to pick up my book, Parenting with Sanity and Joy: 101 Simple Strategies, which includes my Nine Golden Rules of Parenting.
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Nicole’s 3 year old son has become so defiant since the birth of his baby brother who is now 10 months old. He says no to almost everything: putting on shoes, taking a bath, eating meals, brushing teeth, the list goes on. If you have a child like this and are tired of the escalations and all the conflict, listen along for some strategies to make this part of parenting so much easier. 
This week on The Parenting Mentor:
Empowering language that reminds your child that you too want their company and that you value your quality time together. 
Powerful tools that approach the power dynamic struggles in a way that not only teaches your child but reduces stress for you.
Tangible strategies and games that foster new skills such as time management in your child.
 “We know they want our time and attention ‘mommy, mommy, mommy’ And you're like i know you want to spend time with me. I know, I know, I know. We need to shift a little bit to ‘I really need alone time with you. I miss that. I miss that when we got to do these things together. Let;s work on that. Mommy is going to work on that.’”
Meet the Parenting Mentor
If you want to reduce the everyday stress and anxiety that inevitably come with parenting and learn to be a happier and more relaxed parent, then this is the place for you.
Here, you can listen in on real sessions with parents who open up about the specific challenges they face with children from 2 to 22. Listen along and gain perspectives and strategies to help you parent with sanity and joy.
Visit theparentingmentor.com for notes on this show, more episodes, and all the ways to subscribe, and don’t forget to pick up my book, Parenting with Sanity and Joy: 101 Simple Strategies, which includes my Nine Golden Rules of Parenting.
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