The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as Christian thought leaders Dan Allender and John Eldredge, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.
No Cure For Being Human with Kate Bowler
I am joined today by author Kate Bowler to talk about her recently released book No Cure For Being Human. Topics covered: the very human desire to have a blueprint or formula for how to live life (and why this doesn’t work), coming undone by tragedy (such as a Stage IV cancer diagnosis at age 35), and the (false) promise of American individualism which says that we can conquer not only the external world, but our own inner world.
Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling (Bonus Episode)
Cathy Loerzel and Dan Allender join me today to talk about their newly published book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling. Cathy and Dan reflect on what redemption actually means in the context of our stories, why they believe redemption is possible, and how our experiences of being an orphan, a stranger, and a widow can shape our sense of personal calling.
Engaging With Someone Who Has Harmed You Part 5
This is the final episode in the series on interacting with someone who has harmed you. Today we look at what it means to establish clear boundaries and put relational consequences in place when necessary. I also talk about what is involved in forgiveness and reconciliation.
The Story Your Body Is Telling (Bonus Episode)
Your body tells a story. The sensations in your body reveal something about what you have experienced, what you hold, and what you carry. Most of us are either unaware of the sensations in our bodies, or we ignore them, or we war against them. An alternative is to pay attention to your body and to become curious about what your body may be telling you. Jenny McGrath joins me today to talk about her Embodied Story digital course.
Engaging With Someone Who Has Harmed You Part 4
Today’s focus is how to engage with, love, and honor a wicked person. Direct confrontation is not going to work. You need to be cunning, shrewd, and strategically disruptive. Think “surprise attacks of disruptive kindness” rather than direct confrontation. Dan Allender and Tremper Longman point out that the key to loving a wicked person is “insightful preparation, clear boundaries, and courageous consequences.” Today we focus on insightful preparation.
Engaging With Someone Who Has Harmed You Part 3
What does it mean to honor your father/mother when they have harmed you? Love always disrupts the status quo. In other words, when you engage with someone in a loving way, your relationship with them will change. They will either harden or soften toward you—but the current state of the relationship will be no more. This is the beginning of what the Bible calls reconciliation. Loving and honoring a person who has harmed you creates the possibility for reconciliation to occur.
A valuable resource in trauma therapy
This podcast is fantastic. Adam is generous with his deep expertise and resources. My introduction to therapy and trauma came through our adopted child, and through parenting her pain, I realized I had my own. This podcast has complemented my individual counseling. Adam brilliantly connects the latest in neuroscience with Biblical truths, so that Christian listeners will find that our therapeutic journey walks hand in hand with our faith, not separated from it. He takes into consideration the whole person, the whole story, in the context of God’s story for our lives.
The gentle knowledge we all need
Adam offers a wealth of insight into how our past stories affect our present being. Every episode is chock full of wisdom that helps me deconstruct my own story and process my current thoughts and emotions. Thank you Adam for this fantastic show.
the idea of paying people back for your sins against them is ridiculous !
thank God Jesus payed it all .
once you have turned from your sin and asked for forgiveness its done!
no amount of paying someone back is going to change it .
old testament theology isn't going to change it ,unless your going to start
sacrificing animals .
Father God forgives us through his Son Jesus and we should forgive each other as well .
otherwise we would all have our therapy
be being payed for 🤨