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The Place We Find Ourselves Adam Young | LCSW, MDiv
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- Religion & Spirituality
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4.8 • 2.4K Ratings
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The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as psychologist Dan Allender, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.
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157 What If My Story Isn’t That Bad? Why We All Tend to Minimize Our Wounds
This episode is for people who experience emotional pain but feel like “nothing that bad happened to me growing up. I had a pretty good childhood.” As it says in Jeremiah 6, it is very common to dress our wounds as though they are not serious. One way we tend to minimize our wounds is by comparing our story to someone else who “had it worse.” Another way we minimize our wounds is by spiritualizing away the harmful experiences we endured with sentences like, “God used that terrible experience to shape my character.” What is keeping you from having compassion for the harm you experienced as a boy or a girl? If the podcast has been helpful to you, please consider supporting it financially here.
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156 Five Objections to Engaging Your Story: A Response
When I began exploring my story, five objections kept coming up for me. These objections kept me stuck. In today’s episode, I respond to each of the five objections. Objection 1: I should focus on the present and the future, not "dwell on the past.” Objection 2: Looking at my story is self-indulgent, introspective navel gazing; I should be focused on God and others rather than focused on myself. Objection 3: Who am I to judge my parents? Jesus says "do not judge.” Besides, I don't want to blame my parents. Objection 4: There's no point in looking at how my parents hurt me because they did the best they could. Objection 5: I can't change what's already happened, so what's the point of looking at the past?
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155 Why Engaging Your Story Heals Your Brain
My invitation to you today is simple: to take your story seriously. Engaging your story is the single most important thing you can do to experience healing. When I say "your story," I'm talking more about the individual scenes than the overarching narrative of your life. Your stories—particularly your stories of heartache or harm—have shaped your brain more than anything else. Which means that your past stories are shaping your present life more than you may realize. To support the podcast financially, click here.
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154 What Grief Is, How It Heals, and the Pain of Loneliness with J.S. Park
In “As Long As You Need,” author J.S. Park writes that “Grief is not about letting go, but about letting in.” Letting in sorrow, letting in anger, and especially letting in other people who can be WITH us in our pain. This episode is about all kinds of grief—not merely the grief of losing a loved one. One of Joon Park’s main points is that we often experience loneliness in the midst of our sorrow and pain. He says, “It is possible to be in a room full of people, but feel more lonely than if the room had been empty. It is to be unseen. Unseen by those close to you is in some ways worse than having no one see you.”
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153 How Your Past Story Affects Your Present Sexuality with Jay Stringer
I am joined today by author Jay Stringer to talk about sexual stuckness/difficulties/pain. Healthy sexuality is deeply tied to the degree to which we have made sense of our story in our family of origin. Sadly, so few of us have ever been asked to connect the dots between our past life story and the sexual difficulties we face in the present. Today, Jay and I try to connect some of those dots. If you want to understand your sexual story in more depth, please sign up for The Sexual Attachment Conference on May 4th. We want to help you understand and transform some of the unique sexual difficulties you may be experiencing either individually or as a couple.
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152 Learning To Live Inside Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride
I am joined today by Dr. Hillary McBride to discuss excerpts from her new book titled, “Practices for Embodied Living.” Topics covered include: how to feel your feelings, being alive in your body (eroticism), and the story of your relationship to your sensuality and sexuality. Finally, I ask Hillary about her beautiful claim that we often find the Holy precisely in the places we were told not to look (including in our bodies).
Customer Reviews
Yes and Amen
An episode that every single person needs to hear! As a mind/body practitioner that enters into engaging story work with clients, I am so thankful for this episode!! I will be directing my clients to this often! It blessed me greatly in my own personal story and affirmed so much of how my own healing has occurred!!
Amazing Resource
A friend of mine shared this podcast with me and I am SO grateful she did! Adam shares so much wisdom and so many of the episodes have prompted me to dig more deeply into my own story and examine how it has affected me. This has been especially profound as I reflect on my own parenting and the roots of some of my own struggles in my role as a mom. I appreciate his Biblical perspective and the fascinating connections he draws between our family of origin, our relationships with others and our relationship with God. This podcast is truly a gem and I cannot recommend it highly enough. Thanks for all that you’re putting out into the world, Adam! So thought provoking, and SO helpful.
I’ve learned so much!
I love this podcast! It has given my such a deeper understanding of myself and others and a growing ability to extend grace to all of us. Thank you, Adam!