128 episodes

The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as psychologist Dan Allender, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.

The Place We Find Ourselves Adam Young | LCSW, MDiv

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.8 • 2K Ratings

The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as psychologist Dan Allender, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.

    Engaging Your Family of Origin Story with Dan Allender

    Engaging Your Family of Origin Story with Dan Allender

    This episode is a joint release of The Allender Center podcast and The Place We Find Ourselves.
    We have all experienced hurt, abandonment, or disappointment at the hands of our parents or caretakers, whether it was intentional or not. So much of our beauty and brokenness — so much of what makes us human — is tied to our family of origin. In today’s episode, Dan Allender and I discuss what it means to begin engaging the harm that we endured during our growing up years. Are we dishonoring our father and mother if we name the hurt we experienced growing up? Should we just “let it go?” If you want to learn more about how to engage your story in your family of origin, please join Dan and I for a 2 hour webinar on February 23, 2023. You can register here.

    • 46 min
    When Bible Verses Are Used Against You (or, Is Your Heart Really Trustworthy?)

    When Bible Verses Are Used Against You (or, Is Your Heart Really Trustworthy?)

    Last year I saw an Instagram post asking people to share stories of Bible verses that had been used against them. The comments section was devastating. I read story after story of how the Bible had been used to do immense harm. The verse that was most frequently mentioned? Jeremiah 17:9, which says, “the heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure.” In today’s episode I take a close look at what Jeremiah 17:9 is really saying. I also make some comments about what the Bible teaches concerning whether or not your heart can be trusted. 

    • 26 min
    Trauma, Fragmentation, and the Soothing Certainty of Dogmatism

    Trauma, Fragmentation, and the Soothing Certainty of Dogmatism

    Connections between brain regions lead to a healthy and stable brain (and a healthy and stable life). Trauma prevents these brain connections. This is known as fragmentation. In today’s episode, I explain how trauma leads to fragmentation in the brain and why fragmentation makes you feel unstable in your day to day life. I then suggest that when we feel unstable, we are drawn toward theologies and worldviews that offer certainty. The fragmentation in your brain resulting from trauma can make you a very dogmatic person. Why? Because, as Dan Allender says, “The more certain you become, the less fragmented you feel.”

    • 41 min
    126 When Neglect Is Not Really Neglect

    126 When Neglect Is Not Really Neglect

    Pascale Wright joins me today to share a very vulnerable story from her childhood. The temptation is to view her story as one of neglect… but it’s not. We cover a lot of ground today, including: Pascale’s ambivalence about longing for care from her therapist and being afraid of his care at the same time, how our family of origin story plays out in the client-therapist relationship, how our family of origin story affects our relationship with God, and the mysteriousness of self-harm.

    • 45 min
    Spiritual Wounding: What It Is and How To Heal Part 2

    Spiritual Wounding: What It Is and How To Heal Part 2

    Today’s episode looks more deeply at the spiritual abuse KJ Ramsey suffered at the hands of Christian leaders. We begin by talking about the relationship that many Christians have with their emotions. Drawing from her story of spiritual abuse, KJ talks about the pull to silence parts of ourselves in the name of belonging. We each have a deep desire to belong… and the fear of exclusion sometimes keeps us bound to abusive people and harmful churches. KJ explains that when we are wounded by spiritual leaders, we often lose our ability to trust ourselves. If you want to hear more of KJ's story, check out her recently published book titled The Lord Is My Courage. 

    • 26 min
    Spiritual Wounding: What It Is and How to Heal Part 1

    Spiritual Wounding: What It Is and How to Heal Part 1

    I am joined by KJ Ramsey to talk through her new book, “The Lord Is My Courage.” KJ explains why it’s so important to be honest and clear about the ways we have been harmed, and how our bodies often reveal truths about our trauma that our minds are afraid to speak out loud. Gabor Mate says that “Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.” KJ and I both love that sentence and share our thoughts about it. 

    • 35 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
2K Ratings

2K Ratings

VJT227 ,

Better than my masters class

Adam brings some incredible truths to light both through his own studies, and through the stories of others.
I am just finishing up an MS in mental health counseling and I truly believe I learn more about my profession here than I have in all those expensive and often verbose textbooks I read.
I send out links to my school cohorts all the time.
Thank you my friend, for this awesome, insightful, and highly educational podcast.

BeeHis ,

Good on some things

Good on some topics, but definitely need discernment when listening on others.

104902 ,

A gift from God

Genuinely speechless. This podcast truly is a gift from God — I can’t find people who talk about these topics and unravel trauma from a biblical view anywhere. This podcast has been so healing, redemptive, and restorative in more ways than I could ever express. It’s definitely going to challenge you and confront the deep places, but in a tactful way that ushers in freedom that only the Father can bring.

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