The Place We Find Ourselves
The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as psychologist Dan Allender, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.
Hosts & Guests
Truth that heals
Sep 15
Incredible healing, truth spoken here
A Gold Mine for New Therapists
Aug 27
I’m a new therapist, practicing as an Associate Clinical Social Worker for just over a year now. After graduating, I felt like I was a walking textbook showing up to every session. I knew I was sharing a lot of information and not making good connections. This perspective of engaging stories, and the tools on how to do that, has rocked my therapy room so to speak. I finally feel like a regulated embodied soul showing up to facilitate the reconnection of other bodies and souls. This method of engaging stories really works. I have been blown away and humbled by the revelations and healing I’ve witnessed. Adam is a phenomenal instructor/guide, and I thank God for leading me to his podcast.
Paints with a broad brush. No grace. No discretion.
Sep 11
I’ve listened to dozens of episodes now after being encouraged to do so by my young adult child who has recently adopted a very angry and accusational attitude toward me and my spouse. No wonder. Mr. Young treats all “hurts” as serious wrongs. I’ve been stunned by how tiny my child’s complaints have been. They are so minute and petty, especially in light of the goodness we showered on him. These things that we did were at most disappointing and parental discretion situations where they just did not get their way, not harming or hurtful. Wasn’t allowed to watch R-rated movies as a 12 year old? Apparently that’s trauma! Occasionally not allowed to go out late with friends when you are in the midst of school and sports and applying for college? Abuse! Mr. Young treats all complaints and complainers as valid. They simply are not all valid, defined as having a sound basis in fact and reason. That’s not to say that the feelings aren’t real - just that they aren’t reasonable, and should be adjusted in light of the facts and reason. To say all feelings and complaints are valid is simply nonsense, yet his stance encourages and celebrates this. The parent who objects or defends themselves is a “narcissist” or a “wicked person”. You’ll hear him say that not all hurts are intentional, and that most parents are so-called ordinary garden variety sinners, but he has never once in an episode I’ve heard had any example of this or expanded on the topic. Then many (though not all) of the examples he gives of hurtfulness and trauma and wicked behavior by parents is absurd. His overall message and teaching 100% has led my child astray, turned them against us, and deceived them. There is no question real hurt and trauma is caused by some parents, and there are certainly wicked parents. Healing and therapy are needed in those cases. But to listen to this podcast, you come away having been told that essentially all parents are wicked people, and all complaining children should be believed and their complaints never questioned. Oh, and don’t ever question whether your parents hurt you on purpose, or whether your story is really that bad. He assures you that your parents did mean to hurt you, and your story is terrible, whether you think so or not. How ridiculous.
An Important Piece of the Puzzle
Jul 29
I’m thankful to have this podcast as I go deeper in my healing journey. The episodes about minimizing trauma or dismissing our experiences was eye opening for me. Something happened to me when I was a toddler that left me physically scarred but without conscious memory. For 40 years I have believed that since I don’t remember it, it wasn’t trauma. Yet, I have recognized many of my own traits, behaviors and inner experiences in descriptions of trauma that I’ve heard recently. Revisiting that event of my story, with a relative, knowing what I have now learned, has allowed me to finally grieve and feel empathy for the baby girl inside. She isn’t just some imaginary girl— she is me. I’m amazed that it never occurred to me to do this before; I never thought I needed it. My pattern of checking out and being avoidant are much less mysterious to me now. I have prayed to be the mom my kids need, and I believe this is part of the answer to that prayer. Thank you, Adam, for your clear teaching and encouragement to each of us to engage our story.
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- CreatorAdam Young | LCSW, MDiv
- Years Active2018 - 2024
- Episodes157
- RatingExplicit
- Copyright© Adam Young 2023
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