Sara Dean launched the Shameless Mom Academy to help moms lead more positive, powerful and purposeful lives #everydamnday. Sara is an award winning fitness professional, author, speaker, and transformation coach who spent the last 16+ years serving moms in the fields of psychology, sociology, health & wellness. But, it took becoming a mom herself in 2012 to learn that - holy cow - this is hard work, and if you’re not paying attention you can completely lose your own sense of identity while raising babies. Join Sara every Monday and Wednesday as she and her notable guests (such as Gretchen Rubin, Carrie Wilkerson, JJ Virgin, Susan Hyatt, Cathy Heller, Nichole Nordeman, Melanie Shankle, and Jadah Sellner) dig deep into topics like creating the confidence you crave; turn your struggles into strengths, building better boundaries, and tuning into tiny habits that can change your life. Discover how why thousands of moms all over the world are turning to The Shameless Mom Academy to live bigger, bolder, braver lives #everydamnday.
Stop Faking Fine
Let’s just stop.
Stop faking fine.
When you’re hurting, let it be known.
When you’re tired, let it be known.
When you’re depleted, let it be known.
When you’re worried, let it be known.
When you’re lonely, let it be known.
When you’re uncertain, let it be known.
When you’re DONE, let it be known.
Stop faking fine.
Everytime you fake being fine, you perpetuate this ideal that women should button up and stuff it down and dishonor themselves by disowning their pain.
This is not only detrimental, it’s downright dangerous.
Model being less-than-fine to others.
You go first.
Let them know:
I need help.
It is in owning and honoring where you’re really at that you will find the soft places and most sacred spaces to land - where others will be waiting to hold you, arms open wide.
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Julie Neale and Caren Lettiere: Sisters Making Magic in E.P.I.C. Ways
Today we have an extra special episode with two guests, who are not only powerhouse Shameless Moms and entrepreneurs making deep impact in the world, but also sisters.
Caren Lettiere is the Founder and President of Democracy Clothing, the casual lifestyle brand designed for the modern, multitasking woman who grew up with fashion, then got busy with life.
Best known for its “Ab”solution jeans with fit technology, Democracy Clothing embraces women of all shapes and sizes, providing them with confidence-building clothing that helps them look good and feel good, while doing good.
Alongside Democracy, Caren’s proudest accomplishment is the fulfilling family life she’s built with her husband of 29 years, David, and their amazing kids Nicole and Josh.
Julie Neale is a life and leadership coach, community builder, writer, and mom to two high energy boys who challenge her to grow into her best self. Alongside a 20 year career in youth development, it was Motherhood that transformed her and set her on a course to live a truly E.P.I.C. life.
Now, as the founder of Mother’s Quest and the Mother's Quest Podcast, Julie provides inspiration, coaching, and community-building so that mothers, and those who care for young people, can connect to support and resources, fulfill their unique purpose, and live their E.P.I.C. lives.
I’ve been so excited for this conversation for months now and I just know you’re going to love so much about it.
Listen in to hear Julie and Caren share:
How you can have the audacity to forge your own path without having to prequalify yourself The birth of Mother’s Quest podcast and Democracy Jeans How their separate businesses and goals converged into a collaborative working relationship How Julie and Caren were able to participate at Sybrina Fulton’s (Trayvon Martin’s mom) Circle of Mothers event to bring joy to mothers who lost children and family members to gun violence Shawna Free Jeans Freakout article https://shawnamorrow.com/free-jeans-freakout/ Caren’s philosophy around “My body is the carriage I arrive in” Julie’s philosophy of leading and living an E.P.I.C. life The power of opening the door for yourself instead of waiting for someone else to open the door for you How ignorance can actually help you be a problem solver Links mentioned:
Make sure to sign up for my Momentum Mamas announcement Mother’s Quest Podcast: Mother's Quest Julie on IG: Mother's Quest Julie on FB: Mother's Quest Julie and Caren’s interview on Mother’s Quest Podcast: Save 20% off your order of Democracy Jeans (my FAVE jeans): (1 use per customer for total purchase, ends 02/28/21) Julie’s article on committing to anti racism
10 Ways to Honor MLK Day With Your Family
As we continue to see white supremacy reign here in the US, it’s critically important to pause and reflect on where we have come from, how we can do better, and how we can talk to our kids about it all.
I am not a race educator, but I will point you to some excellent people and resources in this episode from whom you can learn on an ongoing basis.
I am showing up for this conversation because, while I want you to be learning about race from people other than middle class white ladies (me!), I want to share some things that we have been doing in our family to educate our 8-year-old while also taking big responsibility for our commitment to our own anti racism journeys.
My intentions in this episode are 3 pronged:
To share resources To invite you into longer term commitments in your anti racism journey To push pause to reflect on the importance of carrying out Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s legacy Please note all the resources below as you continue to listen and learn and take action.
Get my email announcement about Momentum Mamas enrollment Podcast: First Name Basis: The Untold Story of Martin Luther King Jr. Video: I Have A Dream speech with subtitles Article: 19 of the Most Influential Civil Rights Leaders of the 21st Century Stacey Abram’s Documentary: All In: The Fight For Democracy Book: Becoming Ms. Burton Book: Dear Martin Book: Something Happened In Our Town Thank you to our sponsor:
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Mirna Valerio: The Many Identities of the Legendary Mirnavator
Mirna Valerio is a native of Brooklyn, NY, a former educator, cross-country coach, ultramarathoner, and author of the bestselling memoir, A Beautiful Work in Progress. Although she began running in high school, she recommitted to the sport after a health scare in 2008 and started her blog Fatgirlrunning—about her experiences as a larger woman in a world of thinner endurance athletes— while training for her first marathon. Mirna's athletic story has been featured in the WSJ, Runner’s World, on NBC Nightly News, CNN, and in the viral REI-produced documentary short, The Mirnavator. Her writing has been featured in Women’s Running Magazine, Self Magazine Online, Outside Online, and Runner's World Magazine. In 2018 she was chosen as one of the National Geographic Adventurers of the Year, and most recently appeared on the Kelly Clarkson Show, Access Hollywood, and the short Running Through Barriers, produced by LLBean.
Listen in to hear Mirna share:
How she is discerning about who gets her time and energy Why she is participating in NANOWRIMO and how it’s been transformational to her What your identity truly is and how it dictates how you interact with the world How she’s leaning into different parts of her identity and learning new things in this year How she manages haters How she steps into fear as she steps into new partnerships, especially her new position with Lululemon How anxiety shows up for her and how she has learned to manage it How she helped Will Smith train for a half marathon The best lesson she learned from Will Smith Links Mentioned:
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4 Simple Ways To Build Momentum In 2021
As you are thinking about what you want out of 2021, I'm inviting you to keep things super simple. We tend to make things too hard and way overcomplicated as we enter a new year. I think this is only because we want to make things super FAB, but still - no need to make things tricky, as this minimizes your chances of actually building any momentum and getting things done.
So, how can you build momentum in order to have a few quick wins and feel like you are off to the races in 2021? Here are 4 tips:
Know Your No’s Know What Works Make It Up As You Go Stay Connected In today’s episode, I’m going to help you dig into each one of these tips so you can feel lighter and more inspired to GET STARTED in a year that has already proven to be cumbersome and tumultuous in so many ways.
You absolutely have what it takes to make great things happen in 2021. Let’s get to work.
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Jennifer Litner: Building Ease Talking About The Bird And The Bees
Jennifer Litner has over a decade of experience working, studying and teaching in the field of sexual health, with a specialization in sex therapy, sexuality education, and helping people thrive in their intimate relationships.
Ms. Litner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and sexuality educator whose passion is helping couples, individuals and families navigate sexual concerns. Ms. Litner is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), a Certified Member of the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), and a member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR).
In addition to her clinical practice, Ms. Litner earned a Master’s of education and is currently pursuing a doctorate degree in human sexuality studies at Widener University with emphasis in human sexuality education. Ms. Litner is also an adjunct professor at Adler University in the Departments of Counseling and Couple and Family Therapy where she teaches masters and doctoral students. Ms. Litner empowers individuals to make healthy choices about sexuality by providing them with accurate sexual health information.
Listen in to hear Jennifer share:
Where caregivers can begin when they want to talk to their children about sexuality How to talk to your kids about touch and hugs at an early age Research based myths and truths about having “the talk” with your kids How to talk to your kids about sex in a developmentally appropriate way (in grades 1-3 vs grades 3-5) What it means to be sex positive and how you can be a sex positive caregiver How to talk to your kids about gender identity and gender expression Examples of shaming, sex negative messaging and the harm perpetuated in shameful messaging The intersection of conversations around pleasure and privacy How to be warm and neutral in conversations around sexuality with your kids How to create a sex positive home for your kids - even if you had a sex negative upbringing Links mentioned:
Join my 2021 Plan & Prep Pajama Party Connect with Jennifer Get Jennifer’s course and use promo code SHAMELESSMOM to save 20% - GOOD THRU 1/31 Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram: @embracesexualwellness Jennifer on Twitter: @ESW_LLC
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A Must Listen for all Mama’s!!
Sara is beyond relatable & so refreshing to listen too! I have this podcast on a constant reel anytime I get the chance. The episodes are diverse & have fantastic descriptions below if you feel the need to pick & choose. But I promise all episodes are great!
Fantastic Perspective on Momming
I absolutely love this podcast… As a parent coach myself I get so much value out of Sara‘s words of wisdom each week. In the midst of Covid I don’t have the opportunity to listen as much as I want or used to but I still love to turn it on for a little inspiration. Her self-care episode from 2019 is one that I relisten to regularly. Smart, sensible information for moms. Highly recommend!
Inspiration Abounds in the SMA
I’ve listened to SMA for nearly 3 years now without missing an episode and I’m here to tell you: this podcast will change you.
Sara has helped me find my voice, find my fire and open my mind to the possibilities that exist for every one of us. She has taught me that if all I do is show up, I’ve done enough. That my failures are some of my biggest assets and that my voice matters.
Since I began listening to this podcast and putting the things I’ve learned into practice I have given up things and relationships that no longer served me, quit jobs that didn’t respect me, changed careers, LITERALLY doubled my income, and learned to shine when I normally would shrink.
The Shameless Mom Academy is for anyone who is ready to step up and take their life to the next level!
Thank you for everything, Sara!