A common response to a woman coming forward about sexual assault is no response at all. Beyond the failings of law enforcement and the court system to provide justice, it is, perhaps most painfully, family and friends that let victims down. “This Happened” is one woman’s exploration of this phenomenon. To find out why her friends and family dismissed the news that she had been sexually assaulted by someone they knew, she asks them, and records what they have to say.
In this limited five part series, you’ll hear those conversations. You’ll learn why her friends did what they did. Their answers are personal and painful, but they paint a broader picture of how rape culture works, how pervasive it is, and the damage it can do.
Episode 5: Into the Light
After talking it out for hours, Nichole and Anthony come to terms with the assault for the first time. Accountability becomes the question that everyone must wrestle with: Was there any in this case? Should there be? If so, what should it look like? What is its importance? And Janey explores the bigger picture – why all this matters.
Episode 4: Pity for the Perpetrator
Once the news of the assault is made public, Janey’s friends and family describe feeling a surge of pity for Mathew, the perpetrator, and an instinct to protect him. Janey’s mother argues that it is the woman’s responsibility to avoid rape. And we learn that victim blaming doesn’t always sound the way we expect it to.
Episode 3: Silence
Janey’s friends describe the things that made a friendship with Mathew special, offering another explanation for why they maintained relationships with him. But we discover that there was also an overwhelming sense that the correct thing to do, was just not to talk about it. And we see the way this avoidance of awkwardness and drama worked to cover up the assault.
Episode 2: "Misunderstanding"
Janey’s friends have a difficult time acknowledging that the assault happened. And they reveal the many coping mechanisms that allow them to distance themselves from it. Janey’s friend, Nichole, has an epiphany.
Episode 1: This Happened
Janey takes us through the story of a beautiful friendship that took an unhealthy turn, and ended in tragedy. In this episode, we learn exactly what happened the night of the assault, and we come to understand that it was the aftermath of the assault that would take the biggest toll.
Listen to trailer for "This Happened".
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Grateful I got to listen
I’m grateful for the questions that got asked and answered. I think you did an amazing job helping us understand what rape culture looks and feels like. I’m so sorry for what happened to you and I believe you and I’m grateful for you sharing what kinds of decisions we can make to better support those this happens to.
Authentic, vulnerable and courageous
Everyone needs to listen to this podcast. Janey does an amazing job expressing her experiences and emotions while staying so compassionate for everyone that was aware of the sexual abuse she had experienced. This helped me so much with my own experiences by hearing all sides of her story. Thank you Janey for speaking your voice and sharing so deeply.
Brave, challenging, insightful, and thoughtful.
This podcast is amazing in its simplicity. And in the courage of Janey, who is asking the questions. A must-listen.