The Fight Less Club

Evelyn Marley
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The Fight Less Club is where conflict stops being the enemy and starts becoming the teacher. Hosted by Evelyn Marley, conflict coach and communication coach, this podcast dives into the messy, real-life moments of relationships. Each episode blends practical tools with fresh perspectives, helping you navigate disagreements with more clarity, compassion, and connection. Whether you’re in a marriage, a friendship, or a family dynamic, The Fight Less Club shows you how to break cycles of resentment, repair faster, and actually grow closer through conflict.

  1. MAY 15

    Episode 33: Harnessing Mob Mentality for Good, The Kindness Mob Story

    In this inspiring interview, Tyler Brickley, founder of the Kindness Mob, shares with us his initiative to harness the mob mentality for good by promoting kindness online. Discover the origins, impact, and future plans of this powerful movement that aims to transform negativity into positivity and create ripple effects of kindness across social media. The idea is "Kindness for everyone always" and we all could give and receive a little more kindness these days.  Follow The kindness mob on TikTok and leave anonymous kind comments The Kindness Mob Official Website - https://thekindnessmob.org TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekindnessmob Chapters 00:00 The Birth of the Kindness Mob 02:26 The Ripple Effect of Kindness 06:00 Challenging Personal Kindness 10:18 Understanding Mob Mentality 11:50 The Power of Positive Comments 16:54 The Impact of Cyberbullying 17:51 Encouraging Kindness Initiatives 19:09 Navigating Ego and Burnout 25:08 The Role of Teamwork in Kindness 28:11 Personal Growth Through Kindness 30:02 Reframing Conflict and Communication 35:50 Metrics of Success in Kindness 39:59 Future Aspirations for Kindness Mob 44:31 How to Join the Kindness Movement 49:59 Connecting with the Kindness Mob Questions, Comments or Concerns:  Evelyn Marley: Instagram: ⁠@evelynmarley⁠ Website: ⁠www.evelynmarleycoaching.com⁠ If you enjoyed this episode, leave a quick ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ rating or review—it really helps others find the show. And if someone you know is navigating difficult conversations please send it their way. Resources: Gottman's Relationship Blog - https://gottman.com Energy Bus Book by Jon Gordon - https://www.amazon.com/Energy-Bus-Guide-Positive-Change/dp/0470133604 Kindness Mob, positivity, social media, mob mentality, online kindness, ripple effect, mental health, cyberbullying, community impact, social change, Tyler Brickley

    58 min

  2. MAR 19

    Episode 32: Codependency in Relationships: Signs, Causes, and How to Break the Cycle with Therapist Jodi White

    In this episode, Evelyn Marley and Jody White delve into the complexities of love addiction and codependency, exploring the definitions, symptoms, and the impact they have on relationships. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, boundaries, and the role of cultural influences in shaping our understanding of love and relationships. The conversation also touches on the challenges of modern technology, particularly AI, and its potential effects on human connection. Jody shares insights on how to navigate relationships, the significance of sharing one's reality, and offers advice for young adults entering the dating scene. About Jody White Jody White is a licensed therapist, podcaster, and an expert in love addiction. With years of experience helping individuals navigate their emotional landscapes, she brings a wealth of knowledge and personal insight to the topic of codependency and love addiction. Her podcast, "The Journals of a Love Addict," delves into the complex nature of love addiction and relationships, making her a credible voice in this conversation. Find Jodi White: https://www.jodiwhiteonline.com/  Jodi White on Instagram @jodiwhite_ In this episode we cover: Jodi White’s personal journey with love addiction The signs and symptoms of love addiction What codependency looks like beyond the label Why awareness matters, even if labels feel limiting Avoidance patterns and how they affect relationships Boundaries, discernment, and emotional responsibility The role of self-care in breaking unhealthy patterns Why community and connection support change How AI is starting to influence relationships How to communicate your needs clearly Advice for building healthier relationships from the start Connect with Evelyn Marley: Instagram: ⁠@evelynmarley⁠ Website:https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/ If you enjoyed this episode, leave a quick ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ rating or review, it really helps others find the show. And if someone you know is navigating difficult conversations please send this episode their way. If you’re a brand that supports healthy relationships, communication, or personal growth, I’d love to partner with you.Email thefightlessclub@gmail.com to reach an audience focused on relationships, conflict, and real change.

    54 min

  3. 04/23/2025

    Episode 31: Navigating High Conflict People with Bill Eddy

    In this episode, I’m joined by Bill Eddy—founder of the High Conflict Institute and a leader in the fields of mediation and conflict resolution. We talk about the complexities of high conflict personalities and the emotional dynamics that make certain discussions difficult to manage. Drawing from his background as both a therapist and a lawyer, Bill shares practical strategies for mediators, therapists, and anyone navigating emotionally charged conversations. We talk about the EAR method (Empathy, Attention, Respect), the BIFF approach (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm), and how social media fuels conflict dynamics. Whether you’re dealing with legal disputes, family disagreements, or tough workplace conversations, this episode is packed with insights on how to manage conflict more effectively—without losing your cool. 00:00 – Introduction to High Conflict Dynamics 02:59 – Bill's Journey from Therapy to Law 05:53 – What Defines a High Conflict Personality 09:13 – Mediation Techniques & Emotional Insight 11:08 – The Role of Emotion in Conflict 15:34 – The EAR Method: Empathy, Attention, Respect 22:52 – BIFF Responses: Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm 33:07 – How Social Media Escalates Conflict 44:12 – Practical Tips for Handling High Conflict Situations Find Bill Eddy: High Conflict Institute Connect with Evelyn Marley: Instagram: @evelynmarley Website: www.evelynmarleycoaching.com Download the Free Guide: 10 Ways to Say What You Mean (Without Starting a Fight) If you enjoyed this episode, leave a quick ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ rating or review—it really helps others find the show. And if someone you now is navigating difficult conversations please send it their way. high conflict, mediation, personality disorders, emotional management, conflict resolution, communication strategies, empathy, emotional intelligence, legal disputes, therapy, interpersonal relationships, social media, conflict management

    1h 1m

  4. 04/16/2025

    Fight(Less) Fix 8:Why You’re Not Actually Mad About the Lost Socks

    In this solo episode, Evelyn Marley explores the concept of conflict in relationships through the metaphor of an overstuffed emotional cabinet. Just like a cluttered closet, our unresolved emotions—left unaddressed—can pile up until they explode. Evelyn shares how emotional regulation, boundary-setting, and intentional communication can help you clear the emotional clutter and create deeper connection. Free Guide "10 Ways to Say What You Mean(without starting a fight) Connect with Evelyn Marley Instagram: ⁠@evelynmarley⁠ Website: ⁠www.evelynmarleycoaching.com⁠ Rate & Review the Show If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps others find the show and spreads the message of emotional clarity and connection. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Learn More about the Window of Tolerance: Dr. Dan Siegel – https://www.drdansiegel.com NICABM’s Breakdown of the Window of Tolerance – nicabm.com/window-of-tolerance conflict resolution, emotional health, communication, relationships, self-awareness, boundaries, emotional regulation, personal growth, mental health, coping strategies

    8 min

  5. 04/09/2025

    Episode 30: Attunement with Dr. Angelica Shiels

    In this engaging conversation, Dr. Angelica Shiels discusses her journey as a psychologist sharing powerful insights on relationships, attachment theory, and the importance of emotional attunement. Drawing from her unique background—including time spent working in maximum security prisons—Dr. Shiels explores how trauma, parenting, and personality styles shape the way we connect with others. Dr. Shiels offers practical wisdom for parents, educators, and partners navigating emotional regulation, self-awareness, and connection. Top Takeaways: Why attachment theory is crucial for understanding emotions. How trauma and personality styles impact connection. Emotional attunement as a parenting and partnership superpower. The surprising lessons Dr. Shiels learned in maximum-security prisons. Systems-level solutions to school violence and generational trauma. Chapters: 00:00 – Meet Dr. Shiels 05:50 – Attachment Theory Basics 09:13 – Why Attunement Matters 14:57 – Sensitive vs. Rigid Personalities 21:05 – Lessons from Prison Psychology 37:58 – Mentorship & Prevention 52:42 – Emotional Self-Awareness Connect with Dr. Angelica Shiels: Instagram  Tiktok Website:https://marylandfamilypsychology.com/ Let’s Connect: If something in this episode resonated with you or you have questions about coaching, I’d love to connect. Instagram:@evelynmarley Email: twistedplotpod@gmail.com Website: www.evelynmarleycoaching.com Books by Dr. Angelica Shields: Patterns of Love – A deep dive into attachment styles, stress responses, and parenting strategies. Available on Amazon Safety Then Connection – A practical workbook with exercises to help understand core beliefs and build emotional safety in relationships. Key Theories & Frameworks: Attachment Theory – Includes avoidant, anxious, and disorganized (aka fearful-avoidant) styles. The Attunement Method – Dr. Shields’ signature approach for healing relationships by first creating nervous system safety. “Hide it” vs. “Expose it” Stress Responses – Her original framework explaining how people react to emotional distress. Core Beliefs & Externalizing Beliefs – A tool to track your internal thought patterns in relationships (found in her workbook). Safety Orientation – Are you safety-driven by your internal instincts or external guidance? Nature vs. Nurture Theory – How inherent sensitivity or rigidity shapes attachment styles. Referenced Therapy Models: Gottman Method – Known for concepts like stonewalling and emotional bids. Imago Relationship Therapy – A couples therapy model focused on dialogue and childhood wounds. Research Highlight: The Violence Project – A study-based initiative researching school violence and generational trauma. More info at theviolenceproject.org Support & Prevention Programs: Big Brothers Big Sisters – Mentorship program proven to positively shift at-risk youth trajectories. Learn more Trauma-Informed School Coaching (idea discussed) – A proposed model to support kids in school through trained mentors/coaches. Support the Show: If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review the podcast! It helps more people find the show and allows me to continue bringing amazing guests your way. Keywords: relationships, attunement, attachment theory, parenting, psychology, social media, emotional intelligence, personal development, mental health, couples therapy, trauma, crime, mentorship, emotional attunement, prevention, mental health, generational trauma #attachmenttheory #emotionalattunement #relationships #mentalhealth #parenting #couplestherapy #psychology #emotionalintelligence #generationalhealing #personaldevelopment #podcastepisode #communicationtools #traumainformedcare #innerwork #growthmindset

    58 min

  6. 04/04/2025

    Fight(Less) Fix 7: Plot Twisting Life Updates

    After a little break from the podcasting, I’m back—and in this episode, I’m catching you up on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes. I share my personal journey into divorce coaching, how mediation training has shifted my perspective, and why conflict resolution and emotional intelligence are now at the heart of the work I do. This episode is all about clarity—what divorce coaching really is (and isn’t), why creating space for self-awareness matters, and how supporting someone through uncertainty is very different from giving advice or therapy. Whether you’re navigating your own relationship shifts or just curious about how to communicate more effectively, this episode offers insights and support to help you move forward with confidence. If something in this episode resonated with you or you have questions about coaching, I’d love to connect. Instagram: @evelynmarley Email: twistedplotpod@gmail.com Website: https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/ If you are looking to find ways to support the podcast, I would appreciate if you could rate and review so the podcast could reach more people and I can continue to bring more amazing guests. Keywords: divorce coaching, conflict resolution, personal growth, mediation, emotional intelligence, relationship support, self-awareness, communication skills, coaching certification

    12 min

  7. 06/04/2024

    Fight(Less) Fix 6: Thought Terminating Cliches

    Join host Evelyn Marley on this third eye-opening episode of the Twisted Plot Podcast as she uncovers the hidden impact of thought-terminating clichés like "It is what it is," "Everything happens for a reason." These phrases often shut down meaningful conversation and critical thinking. Learn to recognize and counteract these verbal barriers to foster open dialogue and enhance your communication skills. Like what you heard?? Leave a review and share with a friend. Join our weekly newsletter The Mindful 3 for quick tips and insights on all things growth mindset. https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/newsletter Find Evelyn on instagram @evelynmarley

    7 min

  8. 04/30/2024

    Episode 29(part 2): Is This A Cult? with Anne L Peterson

    Welcome back to the Twists Plot Podcast with Evelyn Marley. In this episode, Evelyn continues her insightful conversation with Anne Peterson, delving deeper into the complexities of personal development and the journey of self-discovery. Episode Highlights: Anne reflects on the importance of fostering diverse perspectives within personal development communities, drawing parallels to her observations of leadership dynamics in various settings. The discussion navigates the nuances of control and influence within charismatic leadership structures, shedding light on the intricate relationships between leaders and their followers. Evelyn and Anne explore the concept of grace in self-forgiveness, acknowledging the challenges of recognizing and rectifying past complicity in harmful situations. Anne shares her journey of awakening to the realities of abuse and exploitation within personal development spaces, emphasizing the necessity of taking time and approaching self-discovery with patience and self-compassion. The conversation touches on the significance of critical thinking, ethical practice, and responsible engagement in personal growth endeavors, emphasizing the importance of aligning with values and seeking authentic, evidence-based resources. Anne offers insights into her ongoing initiatives, including Illuminate Life and collaborations with Seek Safely, aimed at promoting safe, ethical practices in personal development and providing resources for practitioners and consumers alike. Join us as we unravel the complexities of personal development and navigate the path toward authentic growth and self-discovery. Remember, the journey may be challenging, but with patience, self-compassion, and a commitment to ethical practice, we can illuminate the path forward. Connect with Anne Peterson: Website: iLumn8.Life ⁠https://ilumn8.life/⁠ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/annelpeterson/ "Is This a Cult?" Book Resources to find help and  if you have more questions: • Seek Safely: SeekSafely.org • https://janjalalich.com/help/ • https://alittlebitculty.com/resources Join the Mindful Journeys Group coaching program here:  https://journey-with-mindfulness.mn.co/share/MnHiLr0sGzSj8U7u For anyone this message resonates with, please feel free to share it. If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, you can reach out to Evelyn through the following channels: •Instagram: @evelynmarley •Email: twistedplotpod@gmail.com •Website: evelynmarleycoaching.com A Note to Our Incredible Listeners: Your support for the "Twisted Plot Podcast" has been overwhelming, and if you're enjoying the ride, here's how you can help us grow: •Rate and Subscribe: Help others find us by rating and subscribing on Spotify, Apple, or your preferred podcast platform. •Leave a Review: Your feedback is crucial. Let us know what you love and what you're curious about. •Spread the Word: Sharing is caring! Share your favorite episodes to help us reach more listeners. •Stay Tuned: The best is yet to come, with more gripping stories and insightful interviews. Thank You for being an integral part of our story. Remember, take what resonates with you and leave something for others. Stay twisted!

    45 min
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The Fight Less Club is where conflict stops being the enemy and starts becoming the teacher. Hosted by Evelyn Marley, conflict coach and communication coach, this podcast dives into the messy, real-life moments of relationships. Each episode blends practical tools with fresh perspectives, helping you navigate disagreements with more clarity, compassion, and connection. Whether you’re in a marriage, a friendship, or a family dynamic, The Fight Less Club shows you how to break cycles of resentment, repair faster, and actually grow closer through conflict.

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  • Creator
    Evelyn Marley
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Evelyn Marley
  • Show Website
    The Fight Less Club