Unmasking the Abuser - The Podcast

I received such revelation and depth of insight from listening to Dr. McMillan’s podcast. She is not only a professional and expert in the field, but also a master communicator. Thank you for all you share and do to help victims overcome and get free!

This podcast is extremely helpful and enlightening. Anyone who is in or has left a confusing and toxic relationship should listen to this. I especially love how she gives journaling exercises to reinforce what I am learning on paper, and also guide me into further self discovery. I have been in emotionally abusive relationships off and on throughout my life and I have been woken up to what has been going on for so long. Also she guides me in discovering MY weak spots and what I have been doing to keep me trapped. This podcast and the book “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft have changed my life for the better.

For years I have been searching for a clear explanation of the abuser-victim dynamic and how “not” to be a victim. Dr. McMillan’s advice is “it” and more. I am sharing this information with other women. If we haven’t personally experienced domestic abuse, most of us know someone who has.

Heard this recommended by a YouTuber I follow. While I think Dina McMillan’s observations describe clinically diagnosable narcissists and psychopaths, I don’t think all abusers fall under those categories. The tactics and manipulative strategies she describes are abusive, but there are absolutely abusers who aren’t so Machiavellian and strategic about their tactics. I don’t think she captures the nuance or reality of these situations, and it is to the disservice of women who want to avoid abusive relationships. “Good” people can be abusive, too. By painting abusers as all-or-nothing monsters, she fails to help women identify when they are being abused and should leave a relationship, even if it’s with an otherwise “good” person. —signed, a domestic abuse survivor