09/25/2024
23 MIN

Watching P*rn is Worse than Cheating (in these 2 ways)

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Could it be that using pornography while in a relationship is actually WORSE than cheating? That sounds like a crazy claim, but there are at least 2 ways in which it is indeed worse.

We live in a world where it is normalized to watch porn. Even in a relationship, many people wouldn't be surprised that one partner (or both) still watch porn in secret. It's easy to dismiss this and assume it's harmless. Maybe even a good way to balance out mismatched libidos between the partners!

Unfortunately, this is not the whole truth. And when you look more closely at the long term effects and at the causes underneath, a very different picture reveals itself.

00:00 Could it really be worse than cheating?

00:58 Reason Nr. 1 - Brain Health

01:37 Evolutionary Perspective on Infidelity

02:48 Ethics vs. Health

03:33 Casual Use

05:04 What's better for the relationship?

05:29 The Long Term Harm

06:12 How it all goes wrong

06:29 The "Mismatched Libido" Excuse

07:50 Do women really have lower libido than men?

08:55 Using porn in a "healthy" way?

10:26 What happens when you keep numbing

10:39 Scenario 1

12:07 Putting your life back together

12:43 No longer the man-child

13:41 Scenario 2

14:19 The slow death of a relationship

14:49 Stuck in the same cycle

15:16 Sadly, I speak from experience

16:08 None of this means cheating is good

16:24 The third option

17:23 Make the honest choice

18:12 Set a High Standard

20:26 This is Why You Need to Step Up

21:30 How to Do the Honorable Thing

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Sources:

- The Evolution of Desire by David M. Buss

- The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

- Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan

Watching P*rn is Worse than Cheating (in these 2 ways)

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