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The Universal Needs
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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple...

Join Claire & Serena as they take you through a journey to discover more about your Universal Needs, WHY they aren't currently being well met, HOW to meet them in ways that work for you and how to CONSISTENTLY do so in quick, easy and simple ways that fit seamlessly into your life. A combination of personal development & entertainment, this podcast shows you how meeting your Universal Needs is VITAL to all the most important areas of your life including relationships, mental health, self worth, business, parenting, boundaries, emotional wellbeing and more...with plenty of fun along the way.

  1. Episode 137 - Why happiness is not the goal

    1 DAY AGO

    Episode 137 - Why happiness is not the goal

    When we don't achieve happiness we can feel as though there is something wrong with us or that we've failed. This is because we're in the pursuit of happiness...that's the point right!? Not quite. Join us for today's episode where we discuss what happens when we make happiness the goal, the difference between happiness and fulfillment and how to create a path that allows you to achieve both. In this episode we cover: The pursuit of happiness Issues with happiness as the goal What happens when we're not "happy" and how we internalize that I should be happy, I'm not and I don't know why Seeing life through the Needs Lens and seeing the Needs Lens through life Isolating happiness and removing its joy The connection between grief and happiness What happens when we force ourselves into happiness What is fulfillment and how it's difference from happiness Creating a path to fulfillment The practice Claire used during both natural disasters and heartbreak Why our happiness is vulnerable What happens when your focus switches from happiness to fulfillment How the movie "Inside Out 2" serves as a great representation of this What would happen when Claire would meditate and how it relates to fulfillment Episode References: Episode 39 - Just HOW toxic is Toxic Positivity? The anger, judgment and carrots episode - Episode 33 - Why there's no such thing as negative emotions The episode about why we don't share the Universal Needs (yet) - Episode 8 - Shhh, I've got a secret… The episode where we talk about miswanting - Episode 136 - Why you might not WANT the goal that you THINK you do…especially when it comes to weight loss The episode where we talk about dopamine hits - Episode 135 - The problem with goal setting Note: We do not believe we should be utilizing the term "zen" as it is not stemming from our lineage its usages is cultural appropriation. We will continue to be mindful of this and act to remove it from our language.  Full Show notes: ⁠https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide⁠

    50 min
  2. Episode 136 - Why you might not WANT the goal that you THINK you do…especially when it comes to weight loss

    JAN 6

    Episode 136 - Why you might not WANT the goal that you THINK you do…especially when it comes to weight loss

    Have you ever set a goal and reached it only to find out the result wasn't what you were expecting? When it comes to setting goals, weigh loss is a topic that often comes up and, especially as women, one that both Claire and Serena have had a long history with. In the second episode of our impromptu setting goals mini-series, we'll share how to set set goals in ways where you will enjoy the process and truly meet your needs along the way. We'll also discuss the approaches to goal setting and how it's relevant to so much more than just weight In this episode we cover: The ideals that we have in our heads, especially when it comes to weight The mind blowing thing that happened when Claire's friend met her weight loss goal What's your "number"? Serena's experience with this given her extreme weight loss Why we think we want to meet our goals and what happens when we get there What is miswanting Putting a Needs Lens on Dr. Laurie Santo's Yale course "The Science of Wellbeing" The Life Conveyor Belt The problem with getting exactly what you wanted The outside in approach to meeting your needs Who are the happiest people and why? The expectations we have in life vs the reality The inside out approach to meeting your needs How to audit using a Needs Lens Finding what works Episode References: The first episode in the goals mini-series - 135 - The problem with goal setting Notes: "Women who are not married and do not have children are the happiest group in the population." The study was done by Paul Dolan, a Happiness Expert and Professor of Behavioural Science at the London School of Economics - https://pauldolan.co.uk/happy-ever-after/prof-paul-dolan-on-the-independent-and-who-the-happiest-people-of-all-are.html Full Show notes: ⁠https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide⁠

    55 min
  3. Episode 135 - The problem with goal setting

    12/30/2024

    Episode 135 - The problem with goal setting

    This time of year we are often focused on phrases like "out with the old and in with the new" or "new year, new you". This "new" often comes in the form of setting goals. Join us on today's episode as we discuss why goals aren't always as helpful as we may think they are, the negative impact they can have on us and what we can do to reach our desired outcomes in ways that are simple and help make the entire process feel better. In this episode we cover: What is the problem with goal setting What often happens when we set significant goals How we can start to do things differently Claire's marathon training How to create to meeting your goals How Claire and Serena set goals to create a process that feels easy and supportive The role dopamine plays in your goal setting and how to create more of it The importance of balancing chunking and dopamine hacking The problem with quantitive goals and what can work better Where our focus is and where it should be to help meet and exceed our goals How to train your brains Serena's experience with goal setting at the gym The exercise Claire gives clients as an alternate to goal setting How we make ourselves miserable The negative impacts to our needs reaching a big goal can have The four quadrants that help you achieve your goals How to meet the right person for you Enjoying the process of reaching your goals Life getting in the way of your goals Episode References: The episode where we talk about "new year, new you" - Episode 111 - It's OK to change behaviors if they no longer meet your needs Our last episode where we talk about our training to feel bad abut ourselves - Episode 134 - What if feedback could be the ultimate gift Notes: In case you're curious, in the 7 months of marathon training Claire covered 132.27 miles Full Show notes: ⁠https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide⁠

    1h 6m
  4. Episode 134 - What if feedback could be the ultimate gift?

    12/23/2024

    Episode 134 - What if feedback could be the ultimate gift?

    It's easy to take feedback as a criticism, especially since we are conditioned to base our self worth on the opinions and judgements of others. When we stop viewing feedback as something to get defensive about and start viewing it as something to lean into, we can create more fulfilling and supportive relationships. Tune into today's episode where we discuss how we can utilize feedback to bring our relationships closer together and why it really is one of the greatest gifts you can give your relationships. In this episode we cover: Why Serena has sparkle FOMO Why we get defensive when we receive feedback The connection between being right and our Value Need Mental gymnastics and the holes we dig ourselves into Removing our dependency on other people and connecting to our intrinsic value Feedback that compromises needs Levels of competence The steps to responding to feedback Seeing feedback as a gift When feedback isn't delivered in the most kind and respectable way Disarming the charge of feedback How "I didn't know" can cause fractures in a relationships or bring them closer together Episode References: Our holiday themed episodes - Episode 55 - Our Wholeness Holiday Series: 'Tis the season to be selfirst, Episode 56 - Our Wholeness Holiday Series: Taking the pressure out of the holidays, Episode 57 - Our Wholeness Holiday Series: How to create the holiday season that works for YOU, Episode 58 - Our Wholeness Holiday Series: How to start the year filled up, 111 - It's OK to change behaviors if they no longer meet your needs Our episodes on connecting with your value - Episode 34 - Self Worth Series: The difference between self worth and confidence, Episode 66 - People Pleasing Series - Sorry Not Sorry, Episode 114 - How to deal with Imposter Syndrome The episode where we talk about the Star Trek shields - Episode 28 - An antidote to anxiety The episode about bringing relationships closer together - Episode 13 - How screw ups can make our relationships closer Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

    1h 5m
  5. Episode 133 - Why we sometimes resist joy

    12/16/2024

    Episode 133 - Why we sometimes resist joy

    Trigger warning: Gambling addiction Life will inevitably have it's ups and downs which means it's not if a drop will happen, it's when. Join us on today's episode where we will take a journey on the emotional rollercoaster and share what we can do before and during that drop so that our highs become higher and our lows aren't as low. In this episode we cover: Focusing on "problem" emotions Why do some people resist joy? The four main reasons people experience anxiety The relationship between anxiety and joy The emotional rollercoaster How we steal joy from ourselves Avoiding hitting bottom How we rung every drop of joy out of Serena leaving the island The fear of losing joy How you can create more joy What really may be waiting for you at the top of the roller coaster Why do some people hate change? Determining what you want from where you're at The problem with the happiness rollercoaster Episode References: Episode 28 - An antidote to anxiety The episode in which we talk about the star trek shields and the med packs - Episode 28 - An antidote to anxiety Full Show notes: ⁠https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide⁠

    52 min
  6. Episode 132 - How to help children process their emotions

    12/09/2024

    Episode 132 - How to help children process their emotions

    As adults it can be hard to identify and process our emotions, yet we often expect children to be able to do so as if they were adults. Their worlds are often much smaller than ours, and because of that, emotions can feel very big. Tune into today's episode where we will discuss the process Claire suggests to help children process the full spectrum of emotions in ways that are healthy, and can help to create better habits as an adult. In this episode we cover: What happens when we don't express our emotions The route to becoming a fulfilled and well supported adult How we can help support our children's needs The emotional awareness of children The process Claire gave a client to help their child process and express their emotions Why this process is so powerful Our conditioning around processing anger The three steps to experiencing the full emotional spectrum The effect hiding emotions from your child can have The vulnerability of joy Episode References: The episode where we talk about the Red-Green Spectrum - Episode 3 - I need to do WHAT? The episode where we talk about dancing to somatically move emotions - Episode 130 - When in doubt, dance it out (or your version of this!) Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

    43 min
  7. Episode 131 - Why it's so important NOT to say "It's OK" when someone apologizes to you

    12/02/2024

    Episode 131 - Why it's so important NOT to say "It's OK" when someone apologizes to you

    We're so conditioned to do it...someone does something wrong, apologizes for it and then, often without even thinking about it, the next phrase out of our mouth is "it's OK". In today's episode we discuss what is really happening when we say this phrase and how we can begin to change this conditioning. In this episode we cover: Claire's exciting news The TikTok that prompted this episode What saying sorry really is The thing that we desperately resist that significantly compromises our relationships What really happens when we say "it's OK" Showing strength of character What can create motivation that brings our relationships closer together The triple whammy of anxiety The formula we learn during childhood and why it doesn't work Temperature checking the relationships in our lives What not saying anything can do What's the why? How to heal the root issue Episode References: The Guilt & Shame Series - Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shame The anxiety episode - Episode 28 - An antidote to anxiety The episode about the relationship orbits and the Apology Blueprint - Episode 17 - Apology Series: What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

    46 min
  8. Episode 130 - When in doubt, dance it out (or your version of this!)

    11/25/2024

    Episode 130 - When in doubt, dance it out (or your version of this!)

    Adulting is hard, life be lifeing and shit is inevitably going to happen. Many of us are no stranger to this however, not many people know the things that can really help them process when things get difficult. Join us for today's episode where we talk about what we can do to help get to the other side of the healing journey as quickly and easefully as possible. In this episode we cover: What dancing does for Claire and how its helped during her recent breakup The importance of self expression in processing What self expression actually does for us and our needs Finding what works for you Why it doesn't matter what you are "good" at The combination that can create magic in your processing Things we can do to get our system to process emotion The effect that dance has for both Claire and Serena Doing things we've never done before and what often prevents us from doing so The joy of twirling Removing the noise of other people's judgments Getting to the other side of healing Episode References: The episode where we talk about the haunted house - Episode 129- The key to customer experience, that is also the key to incredible friendships Notes: History/Timeline of Krumping: https://historytimelines.co/timeline/krumping Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

    47 min
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Join Claire & Serena as they take you through a journey to discover more about your Universal Needs, WHY they aren't currently being well met, HOW to meet them in ways that work for you and how to CONSISTENTLY do so in quick, easy and simple ways that fit seamlessly into your life. A combination of personal development & entertainment, this podcast shows you how meeting your Universal Needs is VITAL to all the most important areas of your life including relationships, mental health, self worth, business, parenting, boundaries, emotional wellbeing and more...with plenty of fun along the way.

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