What It's Like To Be You

Josh Lavine
What It's Like To Be You

Intimate, high resolution interviews with people of each Enneagram type and practitioners of transformative inner work. Produced by The Enneagram School & hosted by Josh Lavine. Watch on YouTube @TheEnneagramSchool.

  1. How an SO 3w2 and SX 4w5 Worked Together to Make an Intro Course

    5 天前

    How an SO 3w2 and SX 4w5 Worked Together to Make an Intro Course

    John Luckovich and I (Josh Lavine) are RELEASING OUR INTRO ENNEAGRAM COURSE. In this conversation, we talk about what it was like working together and why this thing took us a whole year to make. We're very proud of the course. Official release is Jan 6, 2025, but you can buy it during our holiday presale at 50% OFF of the founding members price(through Dec 31). Link below. https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:57 Josh is burned out, editing is done, intro course is ready 04:17 Josh and John "access" the Enneagram differently 08:35 Josh's SO 3 ability to organize and communicate effectively 10:36 John's 4w5 way of teaching from the inner labyrinth 14:00 How the Enneagram lives inside us 15:30 Two heart type teachers, attention to identity and emotional landscape 18:03 Clarifying unexplored Enneagram terms 20:06 How surprisingly hard it was to create an intro course 24:23 Next steps for the Enneagram School 31:39 Why we did audio not video course 37:33 The course e-book 40:45 Why you should listen to this thing that we worked on! 43:07 Enneagram not just useful "at work" or "in relationships," but wherever people are 45:18 Use this course to start from the roots 49:09 Outro --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram3 #enneagram4

    51 分鐘
  2. Nicholas, Enneagram 9: Inner Envelop Functions, Dispersing Attention, & Learning to Focus [SP/SO 9w1 936]

    12月8日

    Nicholas, Enneagram 9: Inner Envelop Functions, Dispersing Attention, & Learning to Focus [SP/SO 9w1 936]

    In this episode, Nicholas (SP/SO 9w1 936) talks about 9's passivity in relation to their dominant instinct and how they can "hope things just work themselves out." He also talks about how he learned to focus, take himself seriously, and summon the discipline to manifest his life vision. He also works through an intense caffeine spike in self-pres 9 fashion, so you can see in realtime as Nicholas narrates his 9 way of containing the intensity of his experience within an acceptable window of tolerance, or "envelope function." Couldn't have written it better. Enjoy! Watch this interview on YouTube to observe body language and other type cues Learn the Enneagram at The Enneagram School --- Timestamps 0:00 Intro 4:11 Learning the Enneagram & mistyping 5:48 Enneagram as weed addiction substitute; something to "latch onto" - body attachment 7:13 9 "leveling" of experience, finding the optimal intensity 9:09 body vs image - what I say depends on how it feels in my body 10:05 Celcius caffeine hitting now, suppressing it within the 9 envelop function 15:24 Time Management, Discipline creates freedom 19:01 freedom as autonomy of the body center 22:16 Being mental last, mind vs body agendas battling; "crazy concept called a budget" 26:04 taking my projects seriously rather than letting it "figure itself out"; 9 passivity relative to dominant instinct 30:06 Relationship motivation to make life improvements - not wanting to be told what to do, but to come to it myself 34:01 What happens when you're told what to do? 40:18 golf is life? 42:03 9 line to 3 - Nicholas' life vision 49:41 Domains of obsessiveness 53:44 9 dispersion of attention keeps life force diffuse; 9 -> 3 is focusing attention 1:00:08 Josh's similarities; 3-9 stem up front 1:03:04 Prioritizing as 9 Engagement, yet paradox -- beware priorities coming from 9-3 ego vs God, grace, higher self 1:10:08 9 "I don't matter" --> others should prioritize ME more; 9 ego - not wanting to be ignored (disrespected) 1:12:58 faith as anchor for self-remembering 1:16:00 How enneagram can reinforce personality instead of liberate to focus on what's really important 1:20:31 The Celsius Drink Finale!

    1 小時 24 分鐘
  3. #38: Tracy Einstein - Somatic Experiencing® & Alexander Technique - Opening the Brain-Body Superhighway

    9月18日

    #38: Tracy Einstein - Somatic Experiencing® & Alexander Technique - Opening the Brain-Body Superhighway

    Tracy Einstein is a Somatic Experiencing® practitioner and Alexander Technique teacher. We talk all about the body, how it holds and releases trauma, and how she works with clients. Tracy's Enneagram type is SPSO (Self-preservation / Social) 9w1.  Enjoy! LinksTracy's WebsiteThe Enneagram SchoolDeb Dana's website (Teacher of Polyvagal Theory) Book mentioned Nurturing Resilience: Helping Clients Move Forward from Developmental Trauma--An Integrative Somatic Approach by Kathy Kain & Stephen Terrell Resources to Go DeeperBody Learning -- a book about Alexander TechniqueIn an Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine -- a book about Somatic Experiencing Timestamps 0:00 Intro 2:49 Our Body-blind culture 4:22 Tracy's journey to body work 7:44 The Preverbal universe 11:22 What is Alexander Technique? 15:00 Debauched Kinsethesia 18:03 Optimal Use 27:22 Endgaining -- how being too results oriented sabotages the work 30:37 The Enneagram Centers (Body, Heart, Mind) 32:22 Opening up superhighway between brain and body 34:48 What is somatic experiencing? (Letting body process without mental self-consciousness) 40:00 Tracy's practitioner lens -- what she notices 47:50 What is Polyvagal Theory? 51:31 You have to disengage social posturing to sense within 54:09 Many paths to regulation -- arguably the point of all modalities 56:46 Centering your own healing as practitioner is crucial; very clear lesson from AT because of body to body transference 58:57 Alexander Training 1:02:17 Having kid -- noticing what we learn before words -- the preverbal universe is the foundation of our lives 1:05:01 The terrible gift of trauma -- & the structure of society creates impossible parenting situations 1:09:07 You might not understand what's shifting somatically but don't need to -- body vs mental intelligence (or left vs right brain) 1:12:04 Final reflections 1:12:50 Plugs & Resources! --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #alexandertechnique #somatic #somaticexperiencing

    1 小時 16 分鐘
  4. #37: Dreams & the Enneagram -- Kristen Oberly & Kaisa Jauhiainen

    8月20日

    #37: Dreams & the Enneagram -- Kristen Oberly & Kaisa Jauhiainen

    Kristen Oberly & Kaisa Jauhiainen -- aka The Dream Girls (minus Sammy!) -- are brilliant pioneers who have discovered the connection between their unconscious dream worlds and their instinctual drives and Enneagram type, and they have convinced me of the power of working with Dreams for personal transformation. They are offering a class through the Enneagram School starting 9/15 to help you develop a creative relationship with your unconscious. Enjoy! LinksConnect with Kristen for Dream AnalysisSinsomnia Podcast on AppleDreams Class WebinarSign up for their classEnneagram ResourcesThe Enneagram School WebsiteLongform Interviews with Each Enneagram Type Timestamps 0:00 intro 3:37 Interview Start 4:15 Josh's Dream 17:12 Dream Ego vs what the unconscious is really saying 24:24 social 3 material in Josh's dream 27:59 Josh's skepticism -- are dream symbols really universal? 33:08 Dreams create your personal mythology 38:41 What the unconscious perspective adds to Enneagram 45:22 Kaisa's life since working with dreams 48:51 FIRST to apply jungian dream analysis to personality in this way 51:01 Dreamgirls' synchronized dreaming, unconscious to unconscious connections 55:22 Dreamwork as path to individuation and, surprisingly, the body 58:56 Individuation needs the unconscious perspective 1:02:44 Dreams are creative and freeing; Overcoming inner work fatigue 1:06:49 Kaisa's creative relationship with dreams -- becoming more grounded 1:13:07 All about their class 1:21:25 Outro & Plugs! #dreams #enneagram #innerwork #growth #dreams

    1 小時 24 分鐘
  5. #36: Kim, Enneagram 7 - Surviving Trauma, EMDR Therapy, Avoiding Entrapment, and Settling the Mental Froth

    7月19日

    #36: Kim, Enneagram 7 - Surviving Trauma, EMDR Therapy, Avoiding Entrapment, and Settling the Mental Froth

    "I'm a manifester like nobody is.... No doesn't work for me. I don't even know what no means. No means I gotta think about it in a different way." ~ Kim Jozwiak --- WATCH THIS INTERVIEW ON YOUTUBE The Enneagram School Website --- Kim Jozwiak [SP/SO 7w6 712] is a therapist and trauma survivor whose life story blew me away. As a therapist, she works with EMDR therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and various forms of mindfulness. We discuss her life story, her trauma, and how she settled her mental center and grounded herself. Enjoy.    LinksKim's Website for EMDR & Equine TherapyInterviews with other Enneagram Types Timestamps:  0:00 Intro 3:48 Sweaty hands to start, nervous, "I've always been a runner" 6:08 7 interpretation of arousal unlikely to be "I'm anxious," more positive framing, buzzing exhilaration 9:01 Haircutting after trauma; mom's response, "Just trust in the Lord!" 11:24 Kim's "parts" consent to tell her life story; mom's brain injury 1 year before pregnant with me 15:41 Being molested & later symptoms, social anxiety 20:22 7 with triple super-ego (1, 2, 6) + disorganized attachment; repulsed when others merge with me 24:25 True crime fascination as counter-phobic response to be near psychological pay-dirt; "President of the misfits" 27:11 Traumatic middle school years: "instant love affair" with pot, alcohol; being taken advantage of; dad dies, religious gaslighting 33:43 Hiding overwhelmed self; NO ONE KNEW; checked out mother praying over me in tongues 37:09 "I'm amazing at not getting caught." 7 ability to get what I want; "I will not be trapped by not having enough money" -- the only friend with a job; SP awareness 41:55 From insincere faker to genuine "Jesus freak" - The Billy Graham Crusade and Kim's religious awakening (at 16) 46:43 Josh making sense of Kim's awakening, given previous religious gaslighting 50:32 Despite being pied piper leader, so disconnected that barely remember those people 52:55 The risky 7 way she moved to Chicago after high school 55:47 Flight energy -- "I can't be here. It'll be better somewhere else." Keep moving, "No one's gonna trap me." 58:28 Personality as survival mechanism 1:00:07 "I meet a boy" -- Christian morality, get married bc we're having sex (6 wing); inner split; difficult marriage, intensified drinking; "I kept moving, job to job, skimmed it all, didn't leave room for digestion" 1:06:03 Couples therapy - first time in therapy at all -- then met Joe 1:09:58 Self-abandonment, trauma-based; "should" vs "want" 1:13:41 7 mental "digitization" of others, not truly seeing others, creating suffering; 7-2 stem; in relationship with a 2 1:16:48 The conscious practice of connecting -- can only connect to other when I'm connected to my body 1:19:02 Therapy with Steve the 8 -- into the body; Being a mental type in therapy, getting past the "froth" to the substance 1:24:31 EMDR therapy -- a method for mental types! 1:32:26 Asking for what I want at my job 1:37:40 Equine therapy, "I'm a manifester" "No doesn't work for me"; drinking a lot of wine...; couldn't crawl out of depression 1:41:39 Confronting my alcohol addiction in therapy school; Going to AA, "something pierced through"; Gluttony leads to entrapment 1:53:49 Sober, vegan therapist -- living from inside out now, aligned to heart 1:57:30 7 Virtue of Sobriety, settled inner state "vs" the frothy mental center activity; IFS helps (!) 2:01:11 IFS similar to working with horses 2:05:03 7 awareness of darkness 2:08:31 How do you know when you're being wise and clear vs cluttered and frothy? 2:13:10 What's this been like? 2:15: 31 Kim's "Angel of Death" -- the part that gave Kim permission 2:17:49 Final Reflections 2:19:06 Plugs ---   Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay  Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/  Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/   ---    #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram7 #type7

    2 小時 22 分鐘
  6. #35: How to Activate Your Sexual Instinct with John Luckovich & Alexandra Arroyo-Acevedo

    7月1日

    #35: How to Activate Your Sexual Instinct with John Luckovich & Alexandra Arroyo-Acevedo

    Join John Luckovich and Alexandra Arroyo-Acevedo for a Summertime class on the Sexual Instinct at The Enneagram School. LinksThe Sexual Instinct Class at The Enneagram SchoolThe Enneagram School Home Page John Luckovich [SX/SP 4w5] is Co-Founder of The Enneagram School, author of The Instinctual Drives and the Enneagram, and co-host on the Big Hormone Enneagram podcast. Alexandra Arroyo-Acevedo [SO/SP 9w1] is a co-host on the Big Hormone Enneagram Podcast. She also does personal Astrology readings and Enneagram-based commentary on reality shows like the Bachelorette. Timestamps 0:00 Intro 1:18 What are the instincts & instinctual stacking? 3:06 What the course is about 4:55 Interview Start — Inspiration for offering this class 7:33 Why develop your sexual instinct? 12:15 Sexual value vs social and self-pres value 14:10 Sexual energy is being your own fun 19:39 Sexual instinct is play; combatting societal shame for frivolous pleasure 21:20 What’s scary about the sexual instinct 26:43 Polarities — you have to be in yourself to occupy a pole 31:46 How different stackings approach sex 37:31 Heart & the instincts; being yourself and losing yourself 40:42 Purpose & sacredness in pleasure, surrendering to enjoyment 45:07 One way doors, loss of self and transformation 46:17 Masculine & feminine polarity 55:14 Polarity is exciting, creates tension 58:59 Balancing the sexual instinct as SX blind vs SX dominant 1:08:31 Practices in the course; differentiating instincts via sensation; reinforcing sexual instinct through personal aesthetic and display 1:15:49 Importance of this topic for society 1:18:20 Class Info --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #instincts

    1 小時 19 分鐘
  7. #34: Chanti, Enneagram 7 - Magically Enhancing My Environment, Having Fun, and Getting (Away With) What I Want [SX/SP 7w6 794]

    6月14日

    #34: Chanti, Enneagram 7 - Magically Enhancing My Environment, Having Fun, and Getting (Away With) What I Want [SX/SP 7w6 794]

    "I think it's my purpose in life to leave an imprint on people or places I go. Maybe it's like little seeds that I plant or pixie dust I spread around and it blooms a little bit. I just love that." Full Title: Chanti, Type 7 - Magically Enhancing My Environment, Having Fun, and Getting (Away With) What I Want Chanti [SX/SP 7w6 794] is a fascinating and magical human being living in Belgium. We explore how how assertive Chanti can be about her priorities, the difference between frustration and attachment perspectives, and the centrality of her aesthetic impact to her identity. Enjoy. Note: I make a mistake in the first minute, calling Chanti "social first." She is sexual first. Chanti's Links YouTube: @MOONFLOWER_asmr Insta: @moonflowerchanti The Enneagram School   Timestamps 0:00 Intro 3:10 Magically enhancing the space between us 10:57 Bumping heads with 6s, being assertive about standards of art, creativity 14:12 Frustration with 6 colleague about "having to be grateful to boss" for being "allowed" to go on a trip 16:43 Chanti vs Josh's "rule-following" disposition (Frustration vs Attachment) 20: 14 "When people like me I can do whatever I want"; but when charm doesn't work, gets under my skin 26:11 Social blind 7 moment 36:05 Being low superego, story of family, brother's expectation (Frustration vs Attachment) -- low "obligation" energy 44:35 Rationalizing vs coming from sincere inner place 48:27 Chanti's values "vs" Responsibility 52:42 Other's "shoulds" about contraint, my "shoulds" about freedom 56:24 Convincing myself "why I should do something," asking for permission til I get yes (6 wing) 59:41 New nourishment -- social, listening, attunement in relationship 1:08:32 Hidden Social/Heart suffering when others don't value me for my aesthetic contributions 1:18:27 Our SO/SP 3 vs SX/SP 7 conversation dynamic 1:21:12 Chanti's ASMR 1:26:48 Not fun to be social or 6-fixed? ... 1:30:44 Outro & plugs!   --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram7 #type7

    1 小時 33 分鐘
  8. #33: Russ Hudson, Type 5: Isolation, Hyperfocus, & Escaping to Emptiness

    5月14日

    #33: Russ Hudson, Type 5: Isolation, Hyperfocus, & Escaping to Emptiness

    "When we live inside a pattern, we don't know that we're living inside a pattern, which is why it's hard for people to type themselves. We just think that's reality. It's like the Johari box, there's what we don't know what we don't know. And I didn't know how desperately disconnected I was. I didn't feel as a child that was missing out on anything. I thought I was just fine. I thought watching the ants was more interesting." Russ Hudson co-authored The Wisdom of the Enneagram and other Enneagram classics with his longtime collaborator Don Riso. He is also the Co-Founder of the Enneagram Institute and the Founding Director and former Vice President of the International Enneagram Association. Russ has appeared on Good Morning America and The CBS Morning Show and is a popular speaker at conferences and retreat centers around the world including the Esalen Institute, the Wisdom 2.0 Conference, and the Science and Non-Duality Conference (SAND). WATCH THIS INTERVIEW ON YOUTUBE Russ Hudson's Website & TeachingsThe Enneagram School Website Time Stamps 0:00 Intro 2:52: Interview Start — Discovering I was a 5 8:41 The “Ouch” of facing my disconnection 11:03 Spending time alone in childhood, not feeling like I was missing out 14:03 Hard to feel genuine connection or belonging 16:49 Connection problem not fixable on level of personality; not "safe" around people 18:08 Russ' emotional breakthrough & receiving holding 23:35 Love present even when people are deluded or in personality 25:15 Reconciling science & religion since childhood 30:03 Mystery: why some people shrug off experiences but others are transformed -- 5 judgement of others’ valuing their ignorance 32:43 Touch overwhelming as kid — complicates romance & sex; Somatic tightness cementing social isolation 37:24 5 fear the "overwhelm of being" 40:29 Inner experience of escaping to emptiness 43:05 Mental density or emptiness polarity — penetrating into the void 47:30 The experience of discovery, illumination 50:32 The gift & danger of Russ's meticulous memory 52:48 Romance & relationships; merging with ambivalence 57:04 Unsentimental realism / non-attachment "vs" nihilism, cynicism, eject from world 1:00:27 5 Uncooperativeness “vs” flexing for relationship 1:03:51 How Russ relate to your publicness as a 5? 1:06:26 Avarice, withholding of self; withdrawal is rapid and intense 1:11:20 Growing edge: SP blindspot; keeping hope, fighting natural tendency for cynicism; "reasons to be cheerful” 1:17:40 Are you still interested in the enneagram? 1:19:36 The practical angle of creativity 1:21:55 Impractical interests 1:25:46 Plugs --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram5 #type5

    1 小時 28 分鐘
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Intimate, high resolution interviews with people of each Enneagram type and practitioners of transformative inner work. Produced by The Enneagram School & hosted by Josh Lavine. Watch on YouTube @TheEnneagramSchool.

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