What They Don't Say: Sexual Assault and Everything in Between What They Don't Say Podcast

Today's episode dives into the questions and curiosity of so many listeners trying to decide whether or not a legal route is the right form of justice. Lauren and Shannon answer questions from listeners and shed some light on what the legal process looks like for a sexual assault case. This episode is lots of emotional advice with a sprinkle of legal, answering questions like:

What if cross-examination destroys me?

What if they think I’m a liar?

How do I stay strong through this?

Knowing whether or not you should pursue a legal case can be quite scary so this episode hopes to bring a sense of security and understanding so you’re not left in the dark.

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If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)

My Calvin's, your questions, but not my consent. Today the ladies are here to answer your questions and comments from a recent TikTok video discussing the parallels between the trial that Denim Day stemmed from and Shannon & Lauren's court-martial. Why would you keep the bra you were assaulted in? How did you get access to your trial files? Was your perpetrator found guilty? Naturally, they delve into a discussion about consent, exploring the notion that it's fluid and can be revoked at any moment you choose! Cheers! Video Referred to: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial/video/7362382615032220971?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7267593752914167342 Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence Got questions? Have an episode idea? Send us an email: WhatTheyDontSayThePodcast@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/whattheydontsay/support

Shannon and special guest, Lori Allen, have a conversation about teaching your kids about consent, what to do if your child says they've been assaulted, and what needs to happen for us to see change in the world of child sexual abuse. Lori is the Executive Director of the Gulf Coast Children's Advocacy Center, Gulf Coast Sexual Assault Program, and Healthy Start and Parents as Teachers of Bay County. This woman is a true badass who is on the forefront of creating change. Cheers! (0:00) Introduction  (3:03) How did Lori get here?  (6:40) Panama City’s spring break party history  (12:00) The number of children facing CSA and being comfortable with the conversation  (16:33) Teaching your kids about consent  (20:11) Impacts of CSA over time  (23:54) What do you do if your kids tell you they’ve been assaulted?  (28:04) Creating a child-friendly space  (30:58) Civic policy work for CSA Resources mentioned in the episode: https://safersmarterkids.org/https://laurenskids.org/https://a.co/d/9GI51dUhttps://thebasics.org/ Gulf Coast Children's Advocacy Center: https://www.gulfcoastcac.org/ Our Episode With Brent: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6AL2LaP2HYKPYVseyWQuuF?si=cc90cf5dd64e492f Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence Got questions? Have an episode idea? Send us an email: WhatTheyDontSayThePodcast@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/whattheydontsay/support

In this episode, the ladies dive deep into the unfortunate reality of how college athletes are protected at all costs by universities. Through the lens of issues at the University of Colorado Boulder, they discuss the hiring of perpetrators, misconducts that have been covered up, and the direct ties of schools with big sports teams and rape culture. But, this is not just a problem at their college, this is a universal University problem. Cheers! (0:00) Introduction (0:24) Do you want a hat? (4:07) Rape culture & college athletics overview (5:50) Cal Poly football player/assailant story (13:30) Ralphie handler on trial (23:38) CU's history with sexual violence (29:05) Deion Sanders concerns Articles referenced: https://cuindependent.com/2024/04/10/buffs-ralphie-handler-remains-on-team-ahead-of-trial-for-sexual-assault/https://www.cuindependent.com/2024/04/10/cu-athletics-sexual-misconduct-raises-concerns-again/ Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence Got questions? Have an episode idea? Send us an email: WhatTheyDontSayThePodcast@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/whattheydontsay/support

In this solo episode, Shannon confronts her struggle with desensitization towards her own sexual assault and the ongoing denial she faces when reflecting on her assault. Moreover, she gets real, raw, and honest about feeling like her assault "wasn't that bad". Grab yourself a bubbly beverage, put on your cozies, and get ready to get personal. Cheers! Book mentioned: https://a.co/d/506ZCJD Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence Got questions? Have an episode idea? Send us an email: WhatTheyDontSayThePodcast@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/whattheydontsay/support

Lauren and Shannon's conversation with Jeffrey Epstein survivor, Jess Michaels. On this episode the ladies talk about the impacts of being raped at a crucial developmental age, the neurobiology of trauma, the unique paths Jess took in order to heal and a whole lot more. Jess also shares her innovative sexual assault first aid company, 3Joannes, she founded. Cheers! (0:00) Introduction (3:14) Jess’s story (7:10) Perception of rape laws change response to SA (9:16) SA turned her into a mouse of a woman  (10:34) Learning others were raped by Epstein too (11:05) Freeze trauma response explained  (13:09) Why Epstein hired her  (14:09) Trauma responses are automatic (17:06) Stress hormones extreme impact on body  (20:14) Creating safety and our nervous system  (21:55) Brain and body impacts of being raped at 22  (32:53) How Jess healed and neurobiology of trauma  (37:31) Adrenal fatigue syndrome  (46:10) Sharing my story isn’t the brave part  (50:19) Gaslighting ourselves  (52:10) Look at SA as an injury   (54:22) 3Joannes Jess’s business, sexual assault first aid  (1:05:57) Using brain scans in court as evidence  (1:11:19) If we had SA first aid plan before it happened  (1:13:16) Trauma informed therapists (1:15:08) 3Joannes Soft Launch & Callisto- perpetrator matching system  Jess Michaels: https://www.jessmichaelsspeaks.com/https://www.instagram.com/jessmichaelsspeaks/ TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/bJtjJiWAra8?=si=giTSp4IVvnbg0Yhg Callisto: https://www.projectcallisto.org/ End Rape On Campus Mapping Tool: https://endrapeoncampus.org/map-and-tool/ Perversion of Justice Book: https://a.co/d/bDtBeCD Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence Got questions? Have an episode idea? Send us an email: WhatTheyDontSayThePodcast@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/whattheydontsay/support