Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Karen Stubbs
Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Wire Talk was created to encourage and equip moms throughout the challenging and life-changing journey of motherhood. Each week on Wire Talk Karen Stubbs offers godly, practical advice on the topics every mother has questions about: mom guilt, our children’s faith, potty-training, divorce, our teenagers dating, and more!

  1. 2D AGO

    460: Title: Help! My Teen is Struggling

    The stakes feel high when you’re parenting teenagers, but you don’t have to go it alone! Today Karen is answering questions from moms facing challenges as they are navigating the teen years. From dealing with inappropriate relationships and emotional struggles to setting boundaries and having tough conversations, Karen offers encouragement to help you parent with confidence. Whether your teen is acting out or just feeling melancholic, you'll find practical wisdom and support in this candid conversation. Episode Recap:4:06- It’s critical to be a parent rather than a friend during the teen years.6:48- My 16 yr old is texting inappropriate pictures with his girlfriend, what do we do?11:49- Strategies for connecting with a melancholic teen.16:50- My college-age child is making poor choices when it comes to grades/work ethic - what does tough love look like?23:07- How do I firmly address drug/alcohol use concerns with young adults who aren’t living at home anymore?26:21- My 16 year old is dealing with depression and thoughts of self-harm - help! Scripture for Reflection: Proverbs 22:6 (NIV)"Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it." Questions for Discussion: Do you struggle with balancing being a parent versus being a friend to your teenager?Think of a time your teen has made a poor choice. Did you manage your own emotions well while addressing the behavior? If not, what would it look like to have a re-do in that particular situation?What role does prayer play in your parenting during the teen years? What are 3 things you can be praying for your teen right now? Write them down and hold one another accountable to praying daily for those things in our teens’ lives.Resources: Check out our studio glow up on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@birdsonawiremomsDon’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.comListen to Raising Emotionally Strong Boys with David Thomas: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/347-raising-emotionally-strong-boys-with-david-thomas

    31 min
  2. MAR 25

    459: Not Every Conflict With Your Child Is Defiance (Sometimes, It’s Just Personality)

    From preschool power struggles to teenage arguments, this episode is full of real mom moments. Today, Karen’s answering your questions on sibling conflict, possessiveness, and strong-willed kids. Whether it’s a four year old not wanting to share, or a teenager pushing against boundaries, Karen reminds us that parenting isn’t about controlling every outcome—it’s about cultivating character, modeling grace, and being a steady presence as kids grow and learn. Episode Recap: 5:24- How do I help my child get over her excessive possessiveness? 9:50 - Should I get involved over the messiness of my daughters’ room? 12:18- My teens’ argumentativeness ruins the mood of our entire family, help! 17:55- How can I help cultivate a close relationship between siblings? Scripture for Reflection: Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Questions for Discussion: Have you ever struggled with a child being overly possessive or anxious about their belongings? What has helped (or what would you try based on this episode)?How do you handle arguments with your strong-willed children, especially when they push back against authority? Is what you’re doing working? What’s one way you’ve helped your kids build or maintain a strong sibling bond?How do you balance honoring your child’s temperament with helping them grow in areas like generosity, respect, and submission?Which part of Karen’s advice in this episode resonated most with you today—and why?Resources: Check out our studio glow up on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@birdsonawiremomsDon’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: www.soaratsea.comWant more on parenting toward your child’s temperament? Check out A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring: https://amzn.to/4c34sYCListen to Karen’s episode with Abby: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/wt-284-worth-the-fight-with-karen-and-abbyGrab a copy of Karen’s devotional for Teen Girls: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/all-active-products/products/preorder-teen-devotionalWant to know your or your child’s temperament? Take our FREE Colors Quiz! www.boaw.mom/quiz

    24 min
  3. MAR 18

    458: Handling Hard Conversations with Grace

    Navigating hard conversations can feel like walking a tightrope, especially when it comes to extended family! Today Karen is answering your questions about setting boundaries, honoring traditions while carving out your own space, and maintaining peace without losing your voice. We hope you’ll take away some practical nuggets for the next time you find yourself facing a difficult conversation.  Episode Recap: 5:20 How do I know when to stand up for myself and when to bend?6:22 My husband’s family celebrates religious holidays in a purely secular way. I’m always frustrated by it when we are with them! What can I do? 10:18 We feel guilted into vacationing with extended family every year when it really doesn’t work for us anymore. It has become a source of tension between my husband and I. How do we navigate this? 15:26 How do I “uninvite” our babysitter on our family vacation??!20:00 My dad doesn’t want to see us at the holidays because he says we haven’t seen him/done enough with him all year long. How do I approach him? Scripture for Reflection: James 1:5 (NIV) "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." Questions for Discussion: Did you relate to Karen’s story about being “afraid” of the 7 year old neighbor? Do unpleasant conversations make you nervous? Have you experienced tension around family traditions or expectations?Do you have particular family members you find it difficult to communicate with?When navigating family gatherings or vacations, what boundaries have you established that have been helpful?How can you invite God into these difficult conversations for wisdom and peace?What steps can you take to ensure your core family unit is nurtured and protected, even amidst extended family obligations?Resources:- Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: www.soaratsea.com - Check out Wire Talk’s viral clip - https://youtube.com/shorts/yd-lyxHD0HU?feature=share- Take the free colors quiz - www.boaw.mom/quiz

    26 min
  4. MAR 11

    457: Talking to Kids About Loss: Lessons from Where Did TJ Go?

    Grief and joy don’t have to be opposites—sometimes, they go hand in hand. In this tender conversation, Annie F. Downs shares the story behind Where Did TJ Go?, a book she co-authored with her sister to help families navigate the loss of a child. Annie opens up about how her nephew TJ’s brief but impactful life deepened their family’s bond and taught them the beauty of holding joy and sorrow together. Whether you’ve experienced loss yourself or want to support a grieving family, this episode is filled with wisdom, encouragement, and hope. Episode Recap: 4:26- Annie F. Downs joins us today!5:40- Prior to TJ’s death, Annie’s family was not nearly as close 8:00- Annie’s sister discovered she was pregnant with a child who had a life limiting diagnosis 10:45- Aunts and uncles get to say yes, so do it often! 12:45- How can we love on families who are raising kids while grieving? 14:30- Where Did TJ Go?  is a conduit for families to connect while grieving16:00- There is good news in sad stories, this is a Gospel story20:50- Get a bookplate customized with the name of a child you want to honor Scripture for Reflection: Romans 12:15 (NIV) "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn." Questions for Discussion: Annie talked about how grief and joy can coexist. Have you seen this play out in your own life or in the lives of those around you?How can we, as moms, create space for our children to express their emotions—both happy and sad—without feeling like they have to choose one over the other?Annie’s family found a surprising closeness through their loss. Have you experienced a hardship that has brought you closer to family? How did it change your relationships?What are some ways we can support grieving families, especially those with young children, in a way that honors their loss while also bringing hope?Resources: Pick up Where Did TJ Go? anywhere books are sold: https://amzn.to/4kxSYzTGet a bookplate customized with a name you want to honor at wheredidtjgo.comLast chance to register for the Soar Conference! Don’t procrastinate another day: https://subsplash.com/birdsonawire-ga/lb/ev/+j2j9wpqConnect with Annie: https://www.anniefdowns.com/

    26 min
  5. MAR 4

    456: Raising Kids with Unshakable Faith

    What is it like to raise children in the middle of a war? In this special episode, Karen sits down with Kimmie Saado, an American mom raising her five kids in Israel, to hear about the realities of life during conflict. From sirens and safe rooms to worshiping through fear, Kimmie shares how faith has anchored her family in uncertain times. Listen in as she encourages moms to raise up the next generation of Daniels—children who stand firm in faith, no matter the circumstances. Episode Recap:1:26- Kimmie is an American mom raising five kids in Israel3:03- How Kimmie and Sahar met and challenges of cross-cultural dating/engagement7:50- What it’s like to lead a Bible tour company in Israel13:20- Karen and Kimmie’s favorite places in Israel15:45- what has it been like to raise children in a conflict zone?19:39- how Kimmie’s son led their family in worship during moments of fear.22:30- how faith-filled habits help equip our kids and others to stand firm in faith.24:31- what does it mean to be a “Daniel”?28:15- what Kimmie and Sahar are doing in the States this year30:00- how Americans can pray and support the Jewish people right now37:30- we have made God so small and our problems so big Scripture for Reflection: 2 Timothy 1:7 (NIV)“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” Questions for Discussion: Kimmie shared a vivid story about responding to a bombing by shouting a Bible verse and also, how her son responded to bombing sirens with worship. How do you model turning to your faith in scary times? Do your kids get to witness that? What does it mean to raise a "Daniel" in today’s world? How can we instill resilience and faith in our children?Kimmie and her husband took intentional steps to prepare for challenges before those challenges arrived. How can we spiritually equip our families before trials come?Kimmie spoke about finding peace in God’s presence, even in uncertainty. What are some practical ways we can cultivate that kind of faith in our own lives? Resources: Last chance to register for the Soar Conference! Don’t procrastinate another day: https://subsplash.com/birdsonawire-ga/lb/ev/+j2j9wpqCheck out Kimmie and Sahar’s company: Israel Bible Tours: https://www.israelbibletours.com/

    47 min
  6. FEB 25

    455: Helping Moms Lead Their Families in Faith

    Discipling our kids can feel like a big responsibility, but moms don’t have to do it alone! In this episode, the new BOAW Moms operations manager, Erin Mashaw, shares her journey in ministry and her passion for equipping parents to lead their children in faith. She opens up about her own experiences as a pastor’s kid, her years in church ministry, and the resources she’s excited to create to support moms. Tune in for encouragement that you absolutely can disciple your kids with confidence! Episode Recap: 1:10 - Erin is going to be a breakout session speaker at the Soar Conference 4:05 - True discipleship happens at home 5:25 - Moms are the faith catalyst in American homes right now 7:20 - During difficult times, we experience the deepest intimacy with God 8:48 - How do we trust God in the waiting and the what ifs? 10:40 - What can moms expect from you in your breakout session?  11:30 - Sign up for the Soar Conference!  12:15 - Fill your mind with truth through Scripture, worship, etc.  Scripture for Reflection: Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) – “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Questions for Discussion: Do you feel like the primary catalyst for your family’s faith journey? If so, do you resent your husband? Are you content in that role? How do you typically respond to uncertainty or fear in parenting? What helps you refocus on God’s truth?Erin talked about using worship music, scripture, and even meditation apps to combat anxiety—what are some ways you can incorporate these practices into your daily routine?What’s one step you can take this week to invite your spouse or children into a deeper faith walk alongside you? Resources: Snag your ticket for the Soar Conference: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/soar-2025Barna study on the influence of moms in Christian homes: https://www.barna.com/research/moms-christians-households/

    16 min
  7. FEB 18

    454: Raising Kind and Respectful Kids

    Raising kind and respectful kids feels like a lofty goal some days, but it's possible! Today Karen tackles your questions about guiding kids through friendship struggles, addressing disrespectful behavior, and teaching them to stay true to their values. Whether your child struggles with peer pressure, sibling dynamics, or showing respect at home, listen in for Karen’s practical wisdom and discipline strategies to shape your child’s heart for the long haul. Episode Recap: 5:45 - The Soar Conference is a chance to pour into your home, get signed up! 9:00 - My 8 year old is picking up bad behavior from friends, how do I influence her?  11:30 - Sometimes our kids have to learn the hard way 12:15 - My daughter changes her personality depending on who she’s with- how do I handle it? 17:30 - My husband and I have different approaches to parenting disrespect, what can we do? 23:35 - My child is so stubborn! How do I motivate her? Scripture for Reflection: Ephesians 4:2 (NIV) "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Questions for Discussion: Have you felt like your influence as a mom is fading as your child’s friendships become more important? How do you navigate that shift?How do you encourage your child to stay true to who they are in different social settings?How do you handle discipline in a way that connects with your child’s personality?If you and your spouse differ in your parenting approaches, how have you worked toward unity? What has helped you get on the same page?For moms of green-wired children, what strategies have worked best in motivating them without overwhelming them? Resources: Snag your ticket for the Soar Conference: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/soar-2025Our Parenting Together curriculum is FREE in the BOAW Moms app:  [App Store] [Google Play]Curious about your child’s personality “color”? Take the free quiz: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/personality-quiz

    31 min
  8. FEB 11

    453: How to Parent a Sensitive Son By Encouraging His Strengths

    Today, we’re diving into your questions about parenting kids with melancholy personalities—from helping a 5-year-old navigate self-critical thoughts to encouraging a 10-year-old who always wants to leave the party early, to figuring out how to connect with a tween who keeps butting heads with you. If you’ve ever wondered how to better understand your child’s temperament and parent with both wisdom and grace, you’re in the right place. Episode Recap: 9:15 - My son can be so negative about himself, how can I coach him?  12:10 - My melancholy child always wants to leave events early - how would you approach this? 14:45 - We have to learn not to be embarrassed our kids behavior 15:40 - How do I build a better relationship with my blue son?  17:55 - Practice encouraging your son in his strengths  19:00 - How can I figure out my child’s personality color? Scripture for Reflection: Psalm 139:14 (NIV) – “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Questions for Discussion: How do you see your child’s temperament influencing their everyday experiences?What strengths do you notice in your child that may be hidden beneath their struggles?How can you shift your parenting approach to encourage and support, rather than correct, your child’s personality?What strategies have worked for you in connecting with a child who tends to be more withdrawn or self-critical?Are you praying for the Lord’s guidance so that you can parent your son according to his strengths? Resources: Register for the Soar Conference today: https://subsplash.com/birdsonawire-ga/lb/ev/+j2j9wpqTake the Colors Quiz for yourself or your child! https://birdsonawiremoms.com/personality-quizDownload our FREE temperaments guide: www.boaw.mom/colorsPick up the book A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring https://amzn.to/40QLoaO

    23 min
4.9
out of 5
916 Ratings

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Wire Talk was created to encourage and equip moms throughout the challenging and life-changing journey of motherhood. Each week on Wire Talk Karen Stubbs offers godly, practical advice on the topics every mother has questions about: mom guilt, our children’s faith, potty-training, divorce, our teenagers dating, and more!

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