Yearning Heart Podcast

Jennifer J Lehr

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Yearning Heart Podcast

Welcome to the Yearning Heart Podcast where we discuss with everyday people, our journey towards love, our growth and lessons, and the yearnings of our hearts. Hosted by Jennifer J Lehr, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist.

FEB 21

Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

In this conversation, Kristina shares her relationship journey, emphasizing the importance of compassion, communication,and understanding triggers. She reflects on her early experiences with relationships, the challenges of being heard, and the impact of generational patterns on her emotional development. Kristina also discusses recognizingnarcissistic traits in partners and highlights the foundation of mutual care in her current relationship. The conversation underscores the complexities of intimate relationships and the ongoing process of personal growth and self-compassion. Compassion is key in relationships. Realistic expectations are crucial for healthy connections.Understanding your triggers helps navigate relationships. Communication is a two-way street.Breathing techniques can help manage anxiety in relationships. Intimate relationships are opportunities for learning.Generational patterns influence relationship dynamics.Recognizing narcissism can prevent emotional harm.Mutual care is the foundation of a healthy relationship.Self-compassion is essential for personal growth. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Relationships: A Journey of Growth 06:03 Navigating Triggers and Communication 11:35 The Importance of Timing in Conversations 17:37 Generational Influences on Relationship Skills 22:30 Recognizing Narcissism in Relationships 26:48 The Foundation of a Healthy Relationship 29:26 Introduction to the Podcast and Its Purpose

30 min
FEB 7

I Put Up With Emotional Abuse Because I Grew up With Alcoholic Parents

In this episode, Jennifer and Janet discuss the profoundimpact of growing up in an alcoholic family, exploring themes of childhood trauma, emotional healing, and the journey towards self-discovery. Janet shares her personal experiences and insights on how these early experiences shaped her relationships and self-perception. The conversation delves into the importance of body awareness, emotional intelligence, and the role of therapy in healing.They also touch on generational trauma and the challenges of navigating truth in relationships, ultimately emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and personal growth. Growing up in an alcoholic family can deeply impactself-esteem. Healing requires focusing on oneself and personal growth. Body awareness is crucial for emotional healing. Telling one's truth can be challenging but necessary. Generational trauma affects relationships andself-perception. Recognizing patterns in relationships is key to healing. Emotional intelligence plays a significant role in personalgrowth. Therapy can help integrate traumatic experiences. Self-acceptance is essential for moving forward. Opening up to new possibilities can lead to personaltransformation.

31 min
JAN 16

How To Heal From Childhood Trauma

In this couragous and vulnerable conversation, Elaine shares her personal experiences with relationships, trauma, and the journey towards healing. The discussion delves into the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships, the search for love and connection, and the challenges of setting boundaries. Elaine reflects on her love addiction and the importance of safety in relationships, while also exploring her therapy experiences and the role of community support. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-discovery and healing as essential steps towards building healthy relationships.

47 min
JAN 1

Healing the Past: From Anxious Attachment to A Secure Love

In this conversation, Wynn Austin (founder of Wynn's Kitchen https://wynnskitchen.com/) shares her journey through difficult childhood experiences, a failed marriage, and her path to finding a secure and nurturing relationship. She discusses the impact of her upbringing on her attachment styles, the importance of healing from past wounds, and the lessons learned from her relationships. Wynn emphasizes the significance of communication, conflict resolution, and personal growth in building a strong partnership. As she prepares for marriage, she reflects on the importance of nurturing both her relationship and her own individual growth. takeaways · Wynn's childhood experiences shaped her relationship choices. · Attachment styles play a crucial role in relationship dynamics. · Healing from past wounds is essential for future relationships. · Coping mechanisms can hinder emotional connection. · Recognizing patterns in relationships is key to change. · Communication is vital for a healthy relationship. · Conflict is normal and can be managed effectively. · Taking time for self-reflection is important post-divorce. · Finding a secure partner can aid in personal healing. · Building a strong relationship container is essential for growth. Chapters 00:00Wyn's Childhood and Its Impact 47:44Understanding Emotional Needs in Relationships 50:10Healing Attachment Wounds 52:37Coping Strategies and Survival Mechanisms 55:11Navigating New Relationships After Divorce 57:29The Importance of Communication and Reassurance 59:36Daily Practices for Relationship Growth 01:02:33Creating a Strong Relationship Container

1h 4m
12/17/2024 · BONUS

People Pleasing, Self-Love and Family History - Notes on episode 3

In this podcast episode, Jennifer Lehr revisits episode 3 and explores the profound lessons that relationships teach us, emphasizing the importance of self-love, understanding people-pleasing behaviors, and the impact of family history on our relationship dynamics. She discusses the necessity of setting boundaries, the role of self-talk in healing, and the importance of creating healthy environments for children. The conversation delves into the steps needed to recover from unhealthy relationship patterns and the significance of kindness and empathy in choosing the right partner. takeaways Relationships provide valuable lessons about ourselves. People pleasing often stems from childhood experiences. Self-love is essential for healthy relationships. Choosing a partner requires kindness and self-reflection. Family history influences our relationship behaviors. Unresolved childhood issues can lead to repeating patterns. Setting boundaries is crucial for personal well-being. Self-talk can aid in recovery from past traumas. Creating a safe environment for children is vital. Addressing fears of abandonment can improve relationships. Chapters 00:00Kirsten's Journey 01:36Relationships Are Our Biggest Teachers 03:11People Pleasing 05:13What Kind of Partner To Look For 06:18Family History 08:41Awareness, Acceptance, Action 10:20Self Talk 11:00Leaving A Relationship for the Children 11:43Impact on Children 12:17Questions for you 13:08Introduction to Weconcile and Relationship Building #yearningheartpodcast #relationshiphelp #relationships #love #peoplepleasers #peoplepleasing #partnerselection #familyhistory #boundaries #personalgrowth

14 min
12/08/2024 · BONUS

The Role of Personal History in Love - Notes on episode 2

This is a bonus episode (5) where I discuss issues brought up in episode 2 of the Yearning Heart Podcast. In this short podcast, I address more deeply some of what Janice discussed when I interviewed her. I include: high drama relationships, self worth, looking at patterns of behavior, trust and safe relationships, the impact of family history on your relationships and developing new skills. Takeaways High drama relationships often stem from a lack of understanding of love. These relationships are typically not safe or secure. Self-worth plays a crucial role in relationship dynamics. Understanding personal history can illuminate relationship patterns. Choosing the right partner is essential for a healthy relationship. Relationships require learning and growth to thrive. Communication skills are vital in managing relationship challenges. It's important to recognize when the 'in love' feeling fades. Developing new skills can help navigate relationship difficulties. Picking your battles is key to maintaining harmony in relationships. Navigating High Drama Relationships The Role of Personal History in Love "Why do we get into high drama relationships?" "Have you explored your history?" "Relationships make us learn and grow." Chapters 00:00Understanding High Drama Relationships 06:42Navigating Relationship Dynamics 08:37Introduction to Weconcile and Relationship Building 08:38The Importance of Communication in Relationships

9 min
12/03/2024 · BONUS

Healing Attachment Wounds - Notes on episode 1

In this conversation, Jennifer Lehr delves into the themes of attachment wounds, narcissism, emotional safety, trust, and the importance of honest communication in relationships. Drawing from insights shared by Miette in a previous episode, Jennifer explores how early experiences shape our relational dynamics and the significance of understanding and addressing these issues for healthier connections. Takeaways Attachment wounds stem from inadequate nurturing during childhood. Narcissistic parents can hinder their child's emotional development. Emotional safety is crucial for a connected relationship. Listening without judgment fosters trust and understanding. Trust can be easily broken, especially in challenging situations. Expressing feelings honestly is vital for relationship health. Self-soothing techniques can help manage anxiety in relationships. Vulnerability is essential for building trust with partners. Assuming the worst can lead to unnecessary conflict. Understanding each other's experiences is key to a healthy relationship. Chapters 00:00Exploring Attachment Wounds and Relationships 07:41The Importance of Honest Expression in Relationships 09:05Introduction to Weconcile and Relationship Building 09:06The Importance of Communication in Relationships

10 min
SEASON 1 TRAILER

The Yearning Heart Podcast Trailer

The stories of our challenges, struggles, learning and growth in love and relationships are valuable and often unseen - and they can help others on their journeys as well. Transcript Jennifer Lehr (00:00) Now is the time to learn how to have healthy relationships. It's time to learn how to get help from others who have walked the same path, faced the same challenges, learned and grown, and had the courage to share their stories. I'm here to help. I'm Jennifer Lehr, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 20 years of experience. guiding others on their journeys to creating better lives and happier relationships. I'm also the founder of WeConcile An app that helps you with your relationships, whether you're still single and looking for that special someone you can build a life with or you're in a relationship that needs help. I'm the host of the Yearning Heart podcast, which I started because so many of us have valuable stories to tell, stories that can help where I will point out what may help you. Whether we learned and grew from life's challenges or were injured in some way, our stories are valuable, intimate, and important. Our ability to have fulfilling relationships, the capacities that we have worked to develop, make our lives richer and fuller. The quality of our relationships directly influences how we feel in our lives. So many of us struggle with the same things. We have yearning hearts, dreams, and the desire to find love and happiness and to feel secure in ourselves, our lives, and our relationships. It is time to find your life partner or repair a relationship that you're already in. What follows are my discussions with people who want to share their stories of growth around relationships and love. My goal is to help you find the guidance you need, change how you show up for yourself, and manifest your best love life. Join us weekly as my guests share their learning, growth, and success, and I help you understand what you can do to make those same changes, strengthen your relationship with yourself, release dysfunctional patterns, and choose to create better partnerships. You can follow the show on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple podcasts to begin or continue your relationship journey of healing and fulfillment.

3 min
11/22/2024

Divorce's Impact and Developing Self Love

In this conversation, Kirsten shares her journey of personal growth and the impact of her childhood experiences on her adult relationships. She reflects on her parents' divorce, her own marriage, and the lessons learned from her relationships. Kirsten discusses the patterns of codependency and people-pleasing that emerged from her upbringing and how she is now focusing on self-discovery and empowerment. The conversation highlights the importance of self-reflection, the desire for reciprocation in relationships, and the ongoing journey of healing and growth. Takeaways · Kirsten's biggest teachers have been her relationships. · She recognized her tendency to be a people pleaser. · Divorce was ultimately the best solution for her. · Kirsten acknowledges having a 'faulty picker' in relationships. · She learned to read emotional cues from a young age. · Happiness is an inside job, not dependent on others. · Self-love includes accepting not-so-great qualities. · She seeks partners who are self-reflective and independent. · Kirsten emphasizes the importance of kindness and reciprocation in relationships. · People do the best they can, and understanding this is key. Chapters 00:00Introduction to Relationships and Personal Growth 06:09Navigating Divorce and Its Aftermath 11:15Patterns in Romantic Relationships 16:41Breaking the Cycle of Codependency 21:32Reflections on Parental Relationships 26:33Conclusion and Final Thoughts 30:26Introduction to Weconcile and Relationship Building 30:27The Importance of Communication in Relationships

31 min
11/11/2024

Moving From Drama Equals Love To A Secure Marriage

In this conversation, Janice Williams shares her transformative journey through relationships, highlighting the evolution of her understanding of love and partnership. From her early experiences shaped by her family dynamics to her current successful marriage, Janice discusses the importance of communication, emotional safety, and personal growth. She reflects on the challenges of navigating differences, the impact of past relationships, and the ongoing journey of self-discovery and acceptance within her marriage. takeaways Janice's early relationships were influenced by her upbringing. She learned to set boundaries after experiencing unhealthy relationships. Her current husband showed commitment and patience, allowing her to feel safe. Conflict resolution in their marriage has evolved to be more respectful and calm. Janice recognizes the importance of emotional safety in a relationship. She has grown to appreciate the complementing differences between her and her husband. Janice's perspective on drama in relationships has shifted significantly. She acknowledges the impact of her parents' relationship on her own views. Janice is still growing in her relationship, focusing on acceptance and patience. Looking forward, she anticipates new experiences and growth in her marriage. Chapters 00:00Janice's Journey Through Relationships 03:39Building a Strong Foundation 07:18Navigating Differences and Conflict 10:21Understanding Family Dynamics 14:22Creating a Secure Relationship 18:55Personal Growth and Self-Discovery 22:52The Impact of Past Relationships 26:11Embracing Imperfections 28:25Looking Forward to New Chapters

29 min
11/06/2024

The Challenges and Gifts of Blended Families

In this conversation, Miette shares her insights on relationships, focusing on her personal growth, experiences with long-distance love, and the impact of her family dynamics on her trust issues. She discusses the importance of emotional safety in relationships and her aspirations for future partnerships, emphasizing the need for trust, fun, and understanding. Miette reflects on her journey of self-discovery and the lessons learned from her past relationships, highlighting the significance of communication and emotional support. Takeaways There's always room to improve in relationships. Long-distance relationships require open communication and trust. Family dynamics significantly influence personal trust issues. Emotional safety is crucial for healthy relationships. Self-awareness is key to understanding relationship patterns. Miette's relationship serves as a mirror for her growth. Trust issues can stem from childhood experiences. It's important to define what you want in a partner. Being a people pleaser can hinder personal well-being. Finding a balance between independence and togetherness is essential. Chapters 00:00Navigating Relationships: A Young Adult's Perspective 12:31Trust Issues and Their Origins 22:08The Impact of Parenting on Relationship Dynamics 30:12Defining Future Relationship Goals and Emotional Safety 36:14Introduction to Weconcile and Relationship Building 36:15The Importance of Communication in Relationships

37 min

TRAILER

The Yearning Heart Podcast Trailer

The stories of our challenges, struggles, learning and growth in love and relationships are valuable and often unseen - and they can help others on their journeys as well. Transcript Jennifer Lehr (00:00) Now is the time to learn how to have healthy relationships. It's time to learn how to get help from others who have walked the same path, faced the same challenges, learned and grown, and had the courage to share their stories. I'm here to help. I'm Jennifer Lehr, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 20 years of experience. guiding others on their journeys to creating better lives and happier relationships. I'm also the founder of WeConcile An app that helps you with your relationships, whether you're still single and looking for that special someone you can build a life with or you're in a relationship that needs help. I'm the host of the Yearning Heart podcast, which I started because so many of us have valuable stories to tell, stories that can help where I will point out what may help you. Whether we learned and grew from life's challenges or were injured in some way, our stories are valuable, intimate, and important. Our ability to have fulfilling relationships, the capacities that we have worked to develop, make our lives richer and fuller. The quality of our relationships directly influences how we feel in our lives. So many of us struggle with the same things. We have yearning hearts, dreams, and the desire to find love and happiness and to feel secure in ourselves, our lives, and our relationships. It is time to find your life partner or repair a relationship that you're already in. What follows are my discussions with people who want to share their stories of growth around relationships and love. My goal is to help you find the guidance you need, change how you show up for yourself, and manifest your best love life. Join us weekly as my guests share their learning, growth, and success, and I help you understand what you can do to make those same changes, strengthen your relationship with yourself, release dysfunctional patterns, and choose to create better partnerships. You can follow the show on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple podcasts to begin or continue your relationship journey of healing and fulfillment.

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3 min

Welcome to the Yearning Heart Podcast where we discuss with everyday people, our journey towards love, our growth and lessons, and the yearnings of our hearts. Hosted by Jennifer J Lehr, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist.

Creator

Jennifer J Lehr
Years Active

2024 - 2025
Episodes

11
Rating

Clean
Copyright

© Jennifer J Lehr
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Yearning Heart Podcast