Your Confident Self Allegra M. Sinclair

Host Allegra Sinclair interviews Rachel Astarte, a psychotherapist and coach who helps women in midlife navigate challenges, develop their true selves, and step into mentorship. The episode covers a range of topics including:
- Rachel Astarte's three-step process for redefining mentorship beyond traditional workplace settings.
- The importance of healing childhood wounds, learning healthy boundaries, and understanding one's importance to collective consciousness.
- The power and beauty of the Sacred Feminine and how women in midlife can embrace their self-creating potential.
- The negative focus on aging and the importance of embracing perimenopause and menopause as rites of passage.
- The importance of recognizing our own strengths and value, and how this can help us contribute to collective consciousness.
Throughout the episode, Allegra and Rachel discuss how the broader definition of mentorship enables more people to participate, including those who may have made mistakes or feel like they are not "qualified" to be mentors. Rachel also highlights the importance of recognizing our own worth and the value of our experiences, which can be helpful to others seeking advice. The episode ends with Rachel offering a free workbook called "Polishing the Gem" for listeners interested in stepping into mentorship in midlife.
Rachel Astarte is a post-menopausal woman who is a dedicated life coach and mentor. She is passionate about helping people to embrace their true selves and successfully navigate the challenges of life. Over time, Rachel's message has evolved as she gained clarity during her own personal experiences with perimenopause. She now believes that women in midlife should share their wisdom and mentor others to contribute to the greater good of collective consciousness. Rachel's mission is to encourage everyone to live their best lives and make a positive impact on the world around them.
Resources mentioned:Rachel's website: https://rachelastartetherapy.com/
Full show notes are available at https://allegrativity.com/122

In a world where stress and negativity seem to dominate, it's easy to overlook the power of gratitude. But expressing gratitude for the positive aspects of our lives is one of the simplest and most effective ways to enhance our wellbeing. Gratitude has been scientifically proven to have numerous benefits that can transform our lives in unexpected ways.
In this episode, we'll explore eight hidden benefits of gratitude that you might not be aware of. From boosting your mental health to improving your relationships, these benefits offer compelling reasons why you should make gratitude a part of your daily routine. I added one gratitude habit to my daily routine, and it has blown me away with its effects. So if you're looking for an easy way to improve your life, stay tuned and discover how cultivating a thankful mindset could change everything.
8 Hidden Benefits of Gratitude:
The 8 Hidden Benefits of Gratitude are:
Gratitude Reframes AdversityGratituder Strengthens RelationshipsGratitude Lowers StressGratitude Improves your HealthGratitude Increases Self-Esteem and ConfidenceGratitude Improves Sleep QualityGratitude Reduces MaterialismGratitude Boost Creativity
Gratitude Is A Habit (Not Just A Feeling!)
Embracing a grateful spirit doesn’t mean you’ll never have another bad day. But it does mean that you’ll approach these days differently. Instead of cataloguing everything that’s going wrong, you’ll square your shoulders and look for the silver lining. Because you know if you search hard enough, you will find it. That’s the power of gratitude!
Full show notes available at https://allegrativity.com/121

Are you ready to be blown away by Kristine Scott's journey to mastering the art of conflict resolution? Instead of shying away from difficult conflicts, Kristine dove headfirst into the topic, determined to gain a deeper understanding. What she found was truly inspiring: women have an innate ability to resolve conflicts. Armed with this knowledge, Kristine has helped countless women and revolutionized the way we approach conflict resolution. Join us as we delve into Kristine's journey and uncover how you too can tap into her 3 rings of conflict resolution to become a conflict resolutionary!
In this episode, you will be able to:
Recognize the intrinsic upper hand women possess in conflict resolution scenarios.Adopt a questioning and compassionate approach towards discord.Comprehend the effects of COVID-19 on professional disputes and communication.Learn about the 3 rings of conflict resolution and how to use them
Special guest: Kristine Scott
Meet Kristine Scott, an exceptional conflict resolution expert who began her career in social services, where she quickly realized the importance of effectively handling challenging situations. Over the past 20 years, Kristine has honed her skills in conflict resolution, becoming a sought-after trainer for clients ranging from the Seattle Space Needle to farmers markets and office teams. With a keen focus on helping people find their inner strength and remain calm in the face of adversity, Kristine's unique approach to conflict resolution has made her a go-to resource for women navigating workplace challenges.
Women and Conflict: Understanding Social Conditioning and Natural Advantages
In today's modern workplace, it's crucial to recognize how society shapes the way women approach conflict resolution. See, women are often taught to avoid being too direct, demanding, or arrogant, which can make it seem like they're not as good at handling conflicts as men. But here's the thing: women have a natural advantage when it comes to resolving conflicts because they tend to be more aware of emotional and social needs. This awareness helps them navigate conflicts more effectively by prioritizing mutual benefit and fostering understanding among everyone involved.
On the podcast, Kristine Scott points out that women aren't inherently wired to deal with conflicts differently than men. It's society's expectations that contribute to this disparity. Even with these external influences, Scott emphasizes that women tend to be more internally focused, which allows them to read situations better and respond with grace, ultimately leading to positive outcomes in conflict resolution.
Recognizing the Toll of Conflict in the Workplace and Managing Body Responses
Conflict in the workplace can be physically and mentally exhausting, especially for women who may already feel pressure to suppress their emotions or concerns. To properly manage conflict, understanding how your body and mind respond to tension and identifying its effects is crucial. During the conversation, Kristine Scott highlighted the importance of being aware of one's physical and emotional responses to conflict. She discussed the necessity of managing these reactions and cultivating the skills to use them effectively, as well as recognizing when it might be time to step away from a harmful environment.
The Opportunity for High Achieving Women in Conflict Resolution and Creating a Supportive Environment
High-achieving women have a unique opportunity to foster a culture of collaboration and respect by supporting one another in conflict resolution. By creating an environment that respects dissenting opinions and values a mutual-win approach, women leaders can champion better approaches to conflict resolution that benefit everyone involved. In the podcast, Kristine Scott encourages women to

Are you stuck in a rut, or facing a challenge that seems impossible? Maybe you have been wanting to make a huge change in your life but don’t know where to begin. Or maybe it’s time to take your career in a different direction and you need some help figuring out how best to do it. That’s where coaching comes into the picture.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Unearth the transformative impact of coaching on your personal growth and career success.Learn various coaching types tailored to specific goals, streamlining your journey for better results.Comprehend the vital role certified coaches play in delivering valuable guidance and support.Delve into the coaching process and understand the structure of an effective session.Recognize the importance of measuring coaching progress to ensure sustainable growth and development.
A coach can help you implement what you learn and support your goals.Introduction to CoachingCoaching is a powerful tool for personal and professional growth. It involves working with an experienced coach who will support you in achieving a specific goal. Coaches bring an unbiased perspective to their clients' situations, allowing them to identify solutions and pathways that the individual may not have realized on their own. In the episode, host Allegra M. Sinclair emphasizes the importance of the coaching process in helping individuals grow in various aspects of their lives, such as increasing self-confidence, setting and achieving goals, and improving focus and conflict management skills. She believes that coaching offers a valuable combination of support, guidance, and accountability that can create sustainable change for clients, provided they take an active role in their own growth.
Types of CoachesThere is a multitude of coaches available, each specializing in specific areas of personal and professional growth. Some common types of coaches include career coaches, health and wellness coaches, relationship coaches, executive coaches, performance coaches, spiritual coaches, money coaches, and body image coaches. Selecting the right type of coach to match your specific needs is crucial for getting the most out of the coaching relationship. Allegra M. Sinclair encourages listeners to research and choose a coach based on their unique requirements by seeking recommendations, checking out how a potential coach shows up online, and engaging in direct conversations with potential coaches to gauge their experience in your desired area of growth. She underscores the importance of partnering with a coach who aligns with yours goals and offers the support and guidance needed for a successful partnership.
What to Expect from CoachingWhen starting a coaching journey, you should expect an initial assessment or questionnaire to help your coach tailor her approach. Confidentiality is paramount, and regular coaching sessions typically take place monthly or weekly, depending on individual needs. Clients may also be assigned homework to reinforce learning and track progress. Coaching is a two-way dialogue, requiring clients to actively engage, participate, and be willing to implement changes. Allegra emphasizes the importance of an open, honest, and collaborative relationship with a coach. She recommends that, throughout the coaching process, clients evaluate their progress and discuss any changes in goals or expectations with their coach, ensuring a productive and impactful experience. She invites listeners interested in pursuing coaching to visit her website, explore her expertise, and engage schedule a conversation to determine whether her services align with their personal and professional growth aspirations at https://allegrativity.com/discovery.

Have you ever been told that the only way to manage your emotions in the workplace is to suppress or ignore them? But this strategy has only left you feeling stuck, frustrated, and unfulfilled? If so, this episode is for you! Learn how to consciously address and guide your emotional responses, reduce the impact of emotional triggers, and enhance your emotional resilience, so you can become an emotionally savvy professional.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Uncover the power of the Emotionally Savvy Assessment (ESA) framework to navigate emotions in professional settings.Master four thought-provoking introspective questions for intentional emotional regulation.Delve into effective self-care practices to minimize vulnerability to emotional triggers.Develop emotional strength through journaling exercises and heightened self-awareness.Understand the value of seeking coaching to bolster your emotional skill set.
The Emotionally Savvy Assessment (TM) was developed by Allegra Sinclair based on her experiences working in high-stress situations.
Managing Emotions in the Workplace
While emotions are an inevitable part of everyday life, maintaining professionalism and strong interpersonal relationships in the workplace are crucial for success. A deliberate and thoughtful approach to emotional management is essential for striking a balance between being authentic and avoiding career-limiting mistakes. This involves identifying emotional triggers, overcoming them, and being aware of both immediate and long-term consequences of one's actions.
Adopting a proactive approach to managing emotions can help women achieve higher emotional intelligence and contribute to the overall success of their organizations. Allegra M. Sinclair emphasizes the importance of introspection and emotional awareness in the workplace. Her Emotionally Savvy Assessment (ESA) approach asks four reflective questions to help women identify their emotions and respond in a more intentional and constructive manner. Allegra encourages women to practice this approach regularly, achieving better emotional control and fostering improved relationships with their colleagues.

Have you heard the myths about dressing for confidence and success? Maybe you've heard that you need expensive designer clothes, that you have to wear a suit every day or that you have to dress in one specific style. The truth of dressing for success is far more complex. Listen to this episode of the podcast as Toi Sweeney shares the truth and debunks the myths about dressing for confidence and success.
A TEDx speaker, entrepreneur, and host of the Well Dressed Brand TV show, Toi has a unique perspective on how dressing for confidence can lead to success in both personal and professional life.
When Toi Sweeney ventured into the fashion and design industry, she had no idea her journey would lead her through a devastating business setback, a crushing personal tragedy, and an unexpected use of color and wardrobe as a business strategy.
In this episode, you will learn:
How Toi gathered the courage to step into an area in which none of the people looked like herHow to remain confident when you reach a bigger stage in your careerWays to refine your personal image with strategic wardrobe choicesWhat's more important than making a good first impressionHarnessing the power of color psychology to boost confidence and self-expression
Who is Toi Sweeney?
Toi Sweeney, an accomplished fashion stylist and brand image strategist, joins Allegra M. Sinclair on Your Confident Self. With her impressive background as the founder and chief style officer of the Well Dressed Brand, Toi is a powerhouse in the fashion industry. From founding her own design firm, Her Majesty the Queen, to managing the image of almost 30 TV personalities at the leading home shopping network, she uses her background to tell original stories through fashion.
The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Consider reading Toi Sweeney's book, Secrets of a Well Dressed Brand, for more insights on building your personal brand and image.Tune in to the Well Dressed Brand TV show to learn more about style, confidence, and personal branding from Toi Sweeney.Visit Toi Sweeney's website, ToiSweeney.com, to explore her services, resources, and offerings.Watch Toi Sweeney's TEDx talk rejecting your story and embracing your adventure.
Get full show notes at https://allegrativity.com/toi