Your Parenting Long Game Rachel Bailey

When I speak to parents about staying calm, they often say things like “I would stay calm if only my child would stop acting that way!” Of course we are more calm when our kids are doing what we want them to do. But do we want to ONLY be able to stay in control of our emotions when others are doing what we want them to? In this episode, you’ll learn a tool -- that doesn’t require anyone else to behave a certain way -- that will allow you to stay calm, no matter what is happening around you.

If you have a school-aged child, you’ve probably experienced more than one power struggle over schoolwork. So often we use punishment as our way to motivate them to do better. But punishments don’t tend to lead to long-term results because they don’t teach kids HOW to do what they don't want to do. In this episode, you’ll learn how to foster internal motivation by teaching kids tools they need to be successful when it comes to doing their schoolwork -- even when it doesn’t interest them.

We need to teach our kids how to act responsible and respectful. But how do we respond when they don’t act that way? Most of us rely on strategies like yelling, nagging, or taking away things that they care about with the hope that that will motivate them to act better in the future. Often, however, these strategies don’t lead to long-term positive change. Learn 3 reasons that punishment (and other external motivators) don’t tend to lead to the results we want… and what to do instead. 

Listen in to a real coaching / problem-solving session as Rachel offers suggestions to mom Sara, whose daughter worries frequently -- even at events that might normally be cause for celebration. 

Not only are the solutions meant to support Sara’s daughter, but they’re also meant to support Sara too. Raising a child with worries, fears, and big emotions can be difficult… and  how we think about kids’ worries affects both us and them.

It's so frustrating when we KNOW our kids and teens know how to do the things we ask them to do... but they don't do them. Often we’ve tried multiple strategies to motivate better behavior, but they don’t lead to long-term results... so we nag, threaten, yell... and nothing! So let’s try a new strategy -- one that actually addresses the REASON that they are not doing what they’re supposed to do, and helps both us and our kids have a plan for exactly how to handle it if they don’t.

Being home all the time means that there is MORE to do in certain areas. And if you’re doing more of the work but don’t have more help, you may feel (understandably) resentful. While it may seem like we need other people -- or situations -- to change before we feel less resentful, there are actually things we can do to change the dynamic. In this episode, we’ll talk about how resentment affects you and your relationships… and what specific actions you can do to reduce resentment and its impact.