Intimacy Matters Real Relating with Nicola Foster

Prepare to dive into the wonderful world of sexual fantasy in this episode. We'll uncover the prevalence of fantasy in human sexuality and its vital role in exploring desires and boundaries. From understanding the functions of fantasy to exploring popular categories like multi-partner sex, taboo acts, and gender role exploration, we'll provide practical insights and tips for talking about fantasy without tears!Learn how open communication and shared exploration of fantasies can deepen intimac...

In this episode we welcome erotic author Anna Sansom. We chat to Anna about all things erotic - and how we can get in touch with our own desires through creativity, even when it might feel really challenging. We also discuss her book Desire Lines - part memoir, part guide to reclaiming our erotic nature. Anna is a queer cis woman (pronouns: she/her) who is endlessly curious about how we experience and express our unique sexual selves. She started writing erotica over two decades a...

Endings, though difficult, are an essential part of life. Whether it's a breakup, divorce, or the loss of a loved one, endings can be traumatic. In the podcast we talk about how society often downplays the significance of endings, offering clichés like "plenty more fish in the sea," which fails to acknowledge the pain and complexity of separation.Research shows that the pain of a breakup can trigger physical responses similar to those of physical injury. Heartbreak is real and can have a prof...

Welcome to the latest episode of the Intimacy Mattters podcast where we dive into intimacy and relationships. Highlights of this episode include:Sex Frequency: How often is "normal"?Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire: Why knowing the difference makes ALL the difference.Navigating Differences: Contrary to popular belief, sex can improve with time through exploration, communication, and a shift away from performance-based attitudes.Initiation Strategies: We share some playful app...

In this episode, hosts Nicola and Jason dive into the crucial topic of consent within established relationships. We explore the dynamics of consent using the "wheel of consent" framework, addressing common questions and concerns about ongoing consent. Emphasizing open communication and mutual respect, we reflect on our own experiences with non-consensual touch and discuss practical ways to ensure boundaries are respected.Consent isn't just a one-time conversation—it's an ongoing dialogue that...

In this episode Nicola and Jason talk to author and psychotherapist Silva about the myths surrounding 'sex addiction'. It's become a buzzword of late, with celebrities caught in the 'Me Too' movement citing it as a reason for their behaviour. In his book 'Compulsive Sexual Behaviours', Silva challenges the notion that sex can be addictive at all, and provides a pathway towards healing for those who feel they do have a problem.In this wide ranging talk we'll bust some common misconceptio...