But Still, She Thrives - Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Grey Rock Method, Healthy Boundaries, Childhood Abuse, Tra Christy Jade - Narcissistic Abuse Coach, Grey Rock Coach , Gaslighting Expert, No Contact Mentor

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Speaker 1: (00:03)Um, hello ladies. Hello my queens. I have something epic lined up for you. I'm so excited. First, I guess I'll say, you know, welcome to, but still she thrives. There's the official, hello. But I am so excited. I am relaunching my boundaries course with a special bonus for a limited time for a limited amount of people. I don't know when that time is gonna be up. I'm gonna see how many I sell and go from there because I need to have enough space to give this bonus offer this time, which is going to be an hour free one-on-one coaching with me. So you will get that on top of your Epic Boundaries course, which is prerecorded go at your own pace. So it's not like you're rushing around. If you've got a very busy life, it's easy to include in your weekly routine, or if you wanna do bi-weekly, it is dripped out weekly. Speaker 1: (00:57)So one video will come out to your email, directly to your email every week on boundaries. So if you feel like you are somebody who feels stressed out, overwhelmed, not at peace, feeling like relationships are stressing you out, feeling like maybe work is stressing you out, maybe the home life with the kids is stressing you out, odds are you have a issue with setting boundaries or keeping them or even knowing what or how to set boundaries. So my course is all about that, but we're going to touch on a few of those things today. And then, um, the offer will be in the show notes, the podcast description area. Um, so you can go ahead and sign up and if you sign up for a limited time, you will get that one hour one-on-one coaching with me, which it's just gonna be amazing, like the course with me helping you, guiding you on your journey to peace and joy and just ease. Speaker 1: (02:02)Don't we want an easier life? I know I did. And I'm here. So here's my hand. I'm gonna pull you on through and let's dive into the actual episode, shall we? So what are boundaries, right? We hear that word all the time to me, and we're gonna, we're gonna speak queen language today 'cause y'all are some queens. So I want you to picture boundaries like the walls that protect your castle, right? So just as a castle's, walls keep the unwanted out and the good within, that's important too for you to focus on, right? To me, it's protecting your peace. So all the good things you want to stay there and you want to block the negativity from coming and seeping into any even little cracks in your walls, right? So just as you get, you keep that unwanted out and the cherished in the personal boundaries define what you are comfortable with and what crosses the line. Speaker 1: (03:01)So imagine your emotional boundaries as this big protective shield around your emotional wellbeing. So when boundaries has such a negative connotation, and I hate that, I wish there was a more positive association with it, um, for me it is. But for a lot of people it feels like, oh, I'm telling someone what to do. No, you are telling yourself what you will and will not tolerate. And yes, you may communicate that to somebody, but in, in healthy loving boundaries, you're not really telling someone to do. I'll give you a quick example. Um, I had a person in my life that raised their voice a lot at me. And I was a grown adult. I was a grown adult, and I didn't want that to happen anymore. I was used to it. It was my way of life, my whole life. But I woke up one day, I was like, this really has caused me a negative feeling, like a lot, right? Speaker 1: (03:53)So I don't like that. I don't like that feeling. So what do you do ab

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Speaker 1: (00:02)Hello Queens. How are you? I'm so excited to be back after a little break. Here we are, we are gonna do some affirmations today. I wanna ask you guys for feedback. If you like this type of thing. Every once in a while hit me up at Fiercemamac@gmail.com and all my connecting links are always in the show notes. So don't forget to go to the show notes after the show or save it for later. Send yourself a little reminder. Um, but I would love to hear from you guys. Okay. Second thing we need to discuss, this is amazing. This is awesome. For the rest of the month, I have a few more slots open in my schedule for you guys. This is a super, super special pricing. I first sent it out to my email list, um, so they got the first dibs on it and uh, the spots are going. Speaker 1: (00:55)And if you're not on my email list, also in the show notes that go to the four minute meditation, you get an epic four minute, yeah, ends four minute meditation to start every morning with it is amazing. It's like relaxing but like energizing and grounding all at the same time. It's my client's favorite meditation that I do. So I'm giving you guys that free and when you sign up for that, you also get put on the email list if you opt in for that. If you do that, you can unsubscribe at any time. But why would you want to? Um, so you get first dibs at special pricing. If you're on the email list, you get just a reminder when my podcast comes out every week and then other little things drift in there. Alright, so let's shut up. Well not shut up totally, but shut up about all this and let's get into the actual affirmations. Speaker 1: (01:44)Okay? So I wanted to give you some affirmations for if you have been through abuse or if you've been through any trauma that has just kind of, I don't know, destroyed your confidence, brought you down, messed up your nervous system, any of that. I think we all deserve to actually take some time here. And I wanna hold space for you. So save this for either a time in solitude or if you are driving, just let me do the talking and you don't have to talk back. Pay attention to the road. If you're driving, I will just say these and they will go into your subconscious even if you don't repeat them. Um, and you can save this episode that you can go back to it over and over again every day of your life. No, but saying affirmations morning and night, literally, it's life changing. Speaker 1: (02:36)And it's, when I started my whole healing journey, this was a huge part. I still do it, but this was a huge part and I'm so glad that I did it because it truly does change the wiring in your brain. So let's dive in. So I will speak it and then you will repeat it after out loud in your mind. Or if you're driving and you just wanna let it marinate up in there, that's what you can do. Okay? So I'm gonna give space after. If you're like, where'd she go? That's where I went. All right, let's take a nice breath and get grounded. Ah, just shake out any stresses if you've had, if this is the end of the day or listening, shake out that stress. If this is your morning commute in, just envision a beautiful day ahead and let's go. I will break them up because some are longer. All right? I am worthy of love and respect and I deserve to be treated with kindness and empathy. I release the pain of the past and embrace a future filled with healing. I trust my instincts and boundaries to protect me from toxic relationships.

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Speaker 1: (00:02)Welcome to, but still she thrives. This is your host, Kristi Jade, and we're gonna do a short but sweet podcast today. It's sweet because there's some simple tips for just living happier. And then I'm gonna talk about a program that I am putting out there. Again, I had it a few years ago and I am amping it. I have built more into it. It is epic, it is life changing. I will put a link with testimonials and all the details, but first, let's just dive into some simple things. We kind of complicate life, right? We have a lot of stress and there's a lot of external things that affect how we live our lives every day, right? The things we have to do, the feel, things we feel we need to do. External relationships, our relationship with ourself, our self-talk. There's so much that impacts our daily lives. Speaker 1: (00:59)So sometimes it's hard to take ourselves out and step back and evaluate what's going on. So number one, before this is just like a little bonus, but number one is sit back and evaluate first, right? Like what is going right and what is not going right in your life? That's pretty simplified. We go deeper to that, into that in my program. But starting there where you actually step outside of yourself and take a breath and stop just doing that. Like run, always go, always go. And not really taking the time to actually say, Hey, where am I? Not happy? And doing it in kind of a logical way and getting your emotions out of it so you can do it successfully. So one of my biggest tips for living a happier life is to not get sucked into the drama. What is the drama though, right? Speaker 1: (01:54)Drama can be so many things, but for me, drama really looked like getting in conversations that are negative, where people are draining your energy, where you feel tired after a conversation with someone. 'cause it's someone who complains a lot or they're negative, or you guys bring out negativity in each other. It just doesn't feel healthy and you don't leave conversations feeling uplifted and more energized. So pay attention to your body. Don't get sucked in. Also, don't take the bait if there are people in your life. And if you're on this podcast, a lot of you have been through abuse that are abusive to you, don't take the bait and don't get sucked in. It kind of goes into that realm as well. Number two, you have to find the time for self-care. I don't care who you are, I don't give a. You have some time. Speaker 1: (02:44)You will create the time. I am big on this. This is something I do with my clients, and every client has been able to create self-care time for themselves, even if they came in thinking they did not have the time. So you need to find the time. Number three, stop trying to please everybody, especially us as moms, as women, we by nature, can be more nurturing and wanna help people and that's all great, but it, when it's at the expense of your own wellbeing, it is no longer helpful to anybody. My favorite quote in the world is, y

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Speaker 1: (00:00)In today's episode of, but Still She Thrives. We are gonna talk about do narcissists really have emotions? They have what we see as emotions, but are they true emotions? Stay tuned and find out. Speaker 1: (00:14)Hey, Queens, welcome to, but still she thrives. Do you wanna stop getting caught up in that wicked web of a creepy crawling narcissist? You find yourself up late at night replaying the abuse you put up with and wondering how you can heal now, do you wake up hoping for healthy relationships and peace only to feel totally exhausted? And mind ed, girl, I see you. I'm Christie. I too had to disconnect from toxic people in my life, and I wished I could undo the damage. I felt ashamed, lonely, and kind of lost. But I'm a stubborn Italian and I refuse to give up. I found ways to recalibrate my mind and body more quickly than I thought and can now share them with you. In this podcast, you will find coping tools, healing methods, and confidence boosters so you can trust yourself and find peace and freedom. So, shields up ladies, let's go protect our peace. Speaker 1: (01:12)All right, let's dive into this. I can say I myself was really wondering about this. When I started to really delve into narcissistic abuse with my own experience with studying it. This was something I was like, oh, I get so confused about this because they can turn on the tears. Or are they real tears? Sometimes it seems so genuine. They have all these different emotions that we can relate to, but there's something that seems off about it, so it makes us wonder. So we're gonna explore. All right. To begin, let's clarify what narcissism is. If you're new here, maybe you don't know. It is narcissistic personality disorder or N p D. It's a mental health condition, really characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for admiration and important, very important in this is the lack of empathy for others. So it's not just someone who's like, oh, they're such a narcissist. Speaker 1: (02:08)They're just so cocky, right? It goes a lot deeper. There's a lot of characteristics. You can go binge a bunch of my episodes to find out more, but they often come across as arrogant and self-centered. So I think it's important to know do they have emotions? Do they real emotions? Do they have the same emotions the rest of quote us do? So do they have emotions? The short answer is yes. Like anyone else, they experience a wide range of emotions, happiness, sadness, anger. We know about that. Anger and narcissist, don't we? And even fear, right? However, the way they experience and express their emotions is what's really very different from what we consider typical. So they may have difficulty connecting with and understanding their own emotions. For me, I I really picture them as having these deep, deep buried emotions that they can't even touch on. Speaker 1: (03:06)Occasionally, depending on how much frequency of contact, how long you've known the narcissist, you may get a little glimpse of this vulnerability where you see a true ish emotion. I've

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Speaker 1: (00:00)On today's episode of, but Still She Thrives. We are going to talk about the secret of how my narcissist got me back. It probably works on you too. If you're still in this situation or if you're out of the situation, this may be a struggle and you're scared. You don't wanna go back or get re-involved in any way. Sometimes, even if you're a romantic. And then they try to suck you in as like a friend. They can use this tactic and it, it worked pretty well on me. I'm a sucker for it. So stay tuned to find out what it is and how we can say no, like to drugs. Just say no. Speaker 1: (00:39)Hey, Queens, welcome to, but still, she thrives. Do you wanna stop getting caught up in that wicked web of a creepy crawling narcissist? You find yourself up late at night replaying the abuse you put up with and wondering how you can heal now. Do you wake up hoping for healthy relationships and peace only to feel totally exhausted and mind effed? Girl, I see you. I'm Christie. I too had to disconnect from toxic people in my life. And I wished I could undo the damage. I felt ashamed, lonely, and kind of lost. But I'm a stubborn Italian and I refuse to give up. I found ways to recalibrate my mind and body more quickly than I thought and can now share them with you. In this podcast, you will find coping tools, healing methods, and confidence boosters so you can trust yourself and find peace and freedom. So, shields up ladies, let's go protect our peace. Speaker 1: (01:36)All right, so let's dive into the secret to how my narcissist got me back. I mean, there were, you know, several ways, but this is a huge one that I think some of us may oversee. Or if you are an empath, like most narcissistic abuse victims, survivors, whatever you wanna be called, don't, don't yell at me, often have this trait of being empathetic and having big hearts, right? So this is something that narcissists really manipulate and in a calculated way use against us. So for me, one of those really, really hard things to resist is nostalgia slash memories. Anything related to good times, and it doesn't necessarily even had like, have to be with that specific person. And I'm gonna use an example, I'm gonna throw it out there. One of my real life examples that has happened to me in recent years even is that one of the narcissists that I cut out of my life is famous. Speaker 1: (02:42)Not famous, but famous for trying to suck me back in with nostalgia. He knows that's the thing. This is someone who knows me very well, we spent lots of time together and he thinks he is really smart. But I see through it. So now, honestly, it's comical when it would come through in recent years, it would be like, oh my gosh, this is so obvious that, I mean, it's comical, but it's gross too. It's gross behavior. So the nostalgia. So it doesn't necessarily, like I said, it doesn't have to be like, oh, remember when? And those can happen too. The whole, remember when we went to Maui together? I wish actually I went to Maui with anybody. That didn't happen. But you know, going down memory lane in that way is a great fast way to suck people in. Also, another way is just thing

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TRANSCRIPTSpeaker 1: (00:00)My beauties, how are you? Okay. I have been off. I have been vacationing and I also went to the lake with my group of friends, and I wanted to just slide this in here in the intro. How important it is to find very supportive, upbeat, uplifting people that do not gossip, who aren't negative, who don't bring you down to have in your life. It's so important to surround yourselves with good freaking people. I can't tell you the difference in my life now from 15 years ago. I'm not saying all my friends were negative, but there were some people that I had to walk on eggshells around that brought me down. And now having a solid group of friends that just were there for each other and always positive and not like. Talking other people and doing things and doing fun things and doing good for others, it's just such a game changer. Speaker 1: (01:05)Like relationships are seriously a huge key to healing and to just living an amazing life. So maybe we'll talk about that next week, but for now today, I have gotten this question from multiple people in different ways. It's been said in different ways, but how do you accept that the narcissists are the way they are? How do you, you know, 'cause it's hard. You're like, you don't get it because you're not that way. So it's, it's awful because they're awful, but it's even more awful because we can't even understand how on earth someone could be like that or treat people like that when we're finally like seeing it for what it is, or on the other side, right? Just the thought of how they treat us or other people can give us that visceral reaction. I've been there and it boils your blood. And then they can set you off if you still have to have them in your life. Even if you're like, I know I don't want them. I, let's say you're divorced or they're a family member, but you feel like you can't fully disconnect whatever it is, you still have to have that connection. So you have to see them or hear from them, at least here and there. That visceral reaction when they say or do certain things, will haunt you. So we're gonna talk about some tips that I've done in my own personal life in dealing with this stuff and hopefully can help you. Speaker 1: (02:28)Hey Queens, welcome to, but still she thrives. Do you wanna stop getting caught up in that wicked web of a creepy crawling narcissist? You find yourself up late at night replaying the abuse you put up with and wondering how you can heal now. Do you wake up hoping for healthy relationships and peace only to feel totally exhausted and mind effed? Girl, I see you. I'm Christy.(02:51). I too had to disconnect from toxic people in my life and I wished I could undo the damage. I felt ashamed, lonely, and kind of lost. But I'm a stubborn Italian and I refuse to give up. I found ways to recalibrate my mind and body more quickly than I thought and can now share them with you. In this podcast, you will find coping tools, healing methods, and confidence boosters so you can trust yourself and find peace and freedom. So, shields up ladies, let's go protect our peace. Speaker 1: (03:25)Alright, so let's dive in. Accepting that narcissists are the way they are, can be challenging. 'cause again, it's awful, especially if you've had personal experiences with them, which is why you guys are here. So here's some steps to help you navigate the process. Number one, and this helped me in a big way, is educating yourself. So that's what you're doing here. I definitely talk about why narcissists are the way they are or why they do certain things, r