Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life‪.‬ Spenser Brassard | Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Fertility Expert, Mama-B

 
I got a little (a lot) spicy in this weeks podcast

I’m unleashing a lot of pent up emotions I have about the fertility industry

This week's podcast is called: 3 things that drive me crazy about the fertility industry. 

If you don’t yet know this already — with the exception of a handful of fertility experts — I loathe 90% of fertility advice out there.

It DID NOT work for me. In fact, it made me feel farther away from the goal and it made me feel like I couldn’t trust myself. 

I don’t think most of the “tips and tricks” work for women who are: 
Naturally more anxious. 
Have perfectionist tendencies.

In fact, I think the fertility journey tends to EXPAND on these characteristics and make it feel worse. 

It’s a bit of tough love for you this week, as I offer blunt but very effective guidance, if you REALLY want to change this narrative from: 

Someone suffering and struggling to conceive.

to

Someone who is thriving and open to conceiving their baby.

There’s a huge difference mama bear. 

LISTEN NOW!

After you listen, I wanna open up the conversation about it. Tell me how it landed. I’m SO CURIOUS to learn what emotions it evokes within you. 

I love you (with big sister tough love)

xo Spenser

It might be hard for you to believe this right now… but ➡️there will be a day when your fertility journey will be over ⬅️
 
One day in the future, this chapter of your life will be completed 📕 All your current questions will have answers ✅ You will know HOW you finally got pregnant. Hallelujah! 🙏🏽
 
You’ll know what astrological sign your baby is. Your pregnancy will have lined up with some celebrity's pregnancy. You’ll know what this infamous tiny human looks like. It will all make sense! 
 
My question for you RIGHT NOW on this journey, is the same question Elizabeth Gilbert (author of Eat, Pray, Love) asked me when I asked if she had any advice for someone about to write a book:
 
(If you don’t already know, my new book - Fertile Ground - comes out May 8th!🎉And I had the chance to see Liz Gilbert live and ask her a question.)
 
She said, “Aren’t you curious to know who you’ll become in the process of writing this book?” 
 
She didn’t ask if I was curious to see how the book turned out. Or how it will change the world.
 
She invited me to become more interested in how it will change ME for the better. 
 
So I’ll ask you right now mama bear, “Aren’t you curious to know who you’ll become in the process of your fertility journey?” 
 
When you’re rocking your baby to sleep at night… aren’t you curious to see who you will become?
 
The immense value of your fertility journey isn’t just in the outcome.
 
It’s in the value of YOU in this lifetime.
 
Your life goes on beyond this journey. And who you decide to become right now — on the journey to your baby — matters tremendously. 
 
For example, do you decide to lean into this journey of self-discovery, or shy away and focus on the physical? Do you learn how to offer yourself empathy and compassion in times of difficulty, or is shame your driving force? Do you want to do less and with more presence, or is perfectionisms impossible rules still driving? 
 
Speaking for myself, I don’t think I would have ever decided to write a book, if I hadn’t learned everything I did on the fertility journey. I’m feeling so many correlations in the journey to create my book baby and the journey to create my human baby. The feelings are very familiar.
 
The only reason I felt equipped to handle writing a book is because of my fertility journey. Not just because TTC is the complete concept of the book LOL. But because I learned that I can do hard, scary, big things. I learned that I have a lot to offer the world. I learned I’m worthy of creating what I want. 
 
This week’s podcast — The fertility journey is not just about “fertility” — encourages you to lean into the VALUE inside this conception journey you’re on.
 
You’ll learn: 
The 8 correlations between writing a book and TTC. Meaning: you can copy and paste everything you learn from your fertility journey into every other category of your life. It’s gonna benefit you forever and ever and ever ❤️
Why this journey is shaping you into the most bad-ass, high worth version of yourself.
That you have way more to be proud of, then you give yourself credit for. It’s about time you give yourself the props, compassion and love that you deserve… (Your nervous system will thank you for it!)
Listen now!

We all want to love ourselves. But have we ever thought to ask WHY?
 
The truth is that “self-love” isn’t just about you being a good girl who should be nice to herself.
 
There’s waaaayyyyyy more of an exciting benefit to self-love than that — which is why I recorded this weeks podcast on this particular topic that you’re NOT going to want to miss. 
 
It’s important for you to know the fertility-enhancing benefits of self-love so that you can feel encouraged and motivated to make the relationship you have with yourself, the most important one. 
 
There are many health and happiness benefits to shifting your blame and shame for feelings of self-love, particularly in the subject of self-compassion.
 
Compassion comes up a lot on the fertility journey, because compassion is often high-lighted as a response we have to ourselves in times of challenge and difficulty. 
 
It’s sad to admit, but we are a culture who normally kicks ourselves when we’re down. We don’t feel self-compassion to be productive. But again, it extends beyond the benefit of it being just a feel-good concept. 
 
The latest research on the connection between shame and inflammation/auto-immunity challenges: 
 
Auto-immunity refers to a condition where the body's immune system mistakenly targets and attacks its own tissues. Autoimmunity often involves inflammation because the immune system's attacks trigger inflammation in the affected tissues. 
 
Health experts are noticing a correlation between shame and inflammation within the body. 
 
Auto-immunity is when the body attacks itself. 
Shame is when the human psyche attacks itself. 
 
❤️Self-compassion offers the mind AND the body relief from this mistaken attack ❤️
 
You DO NOT WANT TO MISS this weeks podcast: Can self-compassion heal inflammation in the body? (Hint: The answer is YES! 😆) You’ll learn more about the exciting benefits of self-compassion and exactly how to begin your journey towards it, to enhance your health, happiness and fertility. LISTEN NOW! 

Chances are, there’s a totally untrue hierarchy between you and your baby that’s swirling around in your head.  
 
Here’s how the ego’s playing this mental story out: Your baby is HIGH up on the pedestal. Maybe even wearing a crown with jewels sipping on the most delicious nectar of milk. And you’re at the bottom, exhausted, trying to claw your way up with all the energy you have. You’re looking up hoping you can earn your worth to them by doing all the things (and doing them with precise perfection) to prove how bad you want it. 
 
And this my love… is totally unnecessary. 
 
Why? Because you are already insanely loved by the spirit of your baby.
 
They ALREADY chose you – out of 4 billion other women in the world. They want the authentic version of you to be their mother… not the perfect one. And… they want you to see this for yourself.
 
Listen to this weeks podcast to explore this topic further: The spirit of your baby chooses YOU. It will paint the picture of what’s REALLY happening behind the scenes, so you can let go of earning something you already fucking have.

I used to think my shame was a reaaaallllly good protector of judgment. I used to think, “If I just listened to the orders of my shame – stayed small, pretended everything was fine, kept it all inside – then I wouldn’t have to face judgment.”
Meaning, if I silenced my true thoughts and feelings, then no one would know how broken I am. 
 
But I was never broken, despite shame making me feel that way. And I never felt more loved then when I let go of my shame, opened my heart and let my authentic feelings be seen and heard. There is nothing more healing than this to the mind and body liberated from the chains of shame.
 
It helps to see how this plays out IRL, so I’m sharing an interview with 2 of my former Fertility Mind-Body Mastery members Marcie and Emily. I interviewed them in a retreat last year on how they shed their shame – and the outer results that came from the inner transformation. It’s kinda mind-blowing what happened!
 
On this weeks podcast: How real life women TTC let go of their built up fertility shame -- you’ll learn: 
Why shedding your shame creates a deeper connection in your marriage.
How it can inspire life-changing change, like a career switch to your dream job.
How Fertility Mind-Body Mastery makes it easier for you to safely let go of your shame and feel worthy of exactly who you are, in all of your imperfections…
Why human support is needed for our survival.
What it’s like to be inside of my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. What happens? How does it feel? What’s it like to be in a group container like this? How much time do you get to be coached?

All these answers are inside the podcast. Listen now!

Today’s new Fertile Ground podcast is a free gift for you! 
A free meditation: How to cultivate a feeling of enoughness. 
 
Listen if you want to feel enough and worthy of your baby, now. No more proving. Let’s embed this truth into all the cells of your body. You can listen to it here.
 
I wanna ask a favor of you…
 
If you appreciate the Fertile Ground podcast and how it’s helped you, it would be so helpful for you to leave a quick review on iTunes. 
 
The fertility industry is loud with noise on all the things you need to do to change, fix, and perfect yourself. This space - The Fertile Ground Podcast - is the relief all women TTC need. Your review will help it to get seen. 
 
You can leave a brief review here
 
Tips for an effortless review: Don’t overthink it. Speak from your heart. Keep it simple. 
 
Prompts: 
 
What do you want other women TTC to know about what the journey can feel like?
 
How does the podcast make YOU feel?
 
What does it bring to the TTC journey that’s missing? 
 
So grateful to you. Enjoy the meditation!