75 episodes

Welcome to Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast! I’m your host Michelle Panning - intimacy alchemist AKA your love, sex, and relationship bestie, trigger queen, and founder of my signature program The Connected Woman.

I get it, you’re done being left on read, getting ghosted and being caught up in a cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable men. Let’s be real - you have NEEDS. You deserve it all, you deserve to feel worthy and confident. You deserve a fulfilling love life.

For years I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious, and pissed off. I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected, and abandoned. I just wanted a meaningful relationship and thought I was doing all the right things. But none of it was working.

I knew I couldn’t continue to repeat the same cycle with different men.

Something had to change.

I decided in that moment that I was going to finally work on healing my own wounds and work on myself, so that I could experience a beautiful and fulfilling relationship. I decided to put myself first.

And now, with this podcast, I want to share with you the exact internal work strategies that I did to get to a place of confidence, peace, and worthiness.

You can kiss ALL of your worries and limiting beliefs around love goodbye. Are you ready? Grab your favorite glass of wine and let’s get to work, because it is time to reclaim your self worth babe.

For more information about the podcast, or other ways you can work with me, visit: www.michellepanning.com

I would love to connect with you more on social media! You can find me at:
IG: @michellepanning
Website: michellepanning.com

Unf*ck Your Relationships Michelle Panning

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 27 Ratings

Welcome to Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast! I’m your host Michelle Panning - intimacy alchemist AKA your love, sex, and relationship bestie, trigger queen, and founder of my signature program The Connected Woman.

I get it, you’re done being left on read, getting ghosted and being caught up in a cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable men. Let’s be real - you have NEEDS. You deserve it all, you deserve to feel worthy and confident. You deserve a fulfilling love life.

For years I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious, and pissed off. I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected, and abandoned. I just wanted a meaningful relationship and thought I was doing all the right things. But none of it was working.

I knew I couldn’t continue to repeat the same cycle with different men.

Something had to change.

I decided in that moment that I was going to finally work on healing my own wounds and work on myself, so that I could experience a beautiful and fulfilling relationship. I decided to put myself first.

And now, with this podcast, I want to share with you the exact internal work strategies that I did to get to a place of confidence, peace, and worthiness.

You can kiss ALL of your worries and limiting beliefs around love goodbye. Are you ready? Grab your favorite glass of wine and let’s get to work, because it is time to reclaim your self worth babe.

For more information about the podcast, or other ways you can work with me, visit: www.michellepanning.com

I would love to connect with you more on social media! You can find me at:
IG: @michellepanning
Website: michellepanning.com

    Ep 75: All Emotions are Valid...Even Jealousy

    Ep 75: All Emotions are Valid...Even Jealousy

    Brace yourselves, love. This is going to get spicy, and maybe not in the fun way.
     
    Let’s talk jealousy.
     
    Contrary to popular opinion, jealousy by itself is not a fucking red flag. It’s just another emotion, and like any other emotion—anger, fear, pleasure, pain, etc.—it’s actually just trying to tell you something.
     
    The issue isn’t feeling jealous. The issue is the controlling, toxic, manipulative behavior that can come out of feeling jealous if you don’t tackle it in a healthy, communicative way.
     
    Shaming yourself for being jealous is not the vibe, friends. There are better ways to tackle this without slapping yourself on the wrist every time you feel a fucking human emotion, and I’m here today to tell you how.
     
    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:
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    Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
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    • 21 min
    Let's Talk Friendship: A Bad Bitch Collaboration with Beatrice Kamau

    Let's Talk Friendship: A Bad Bitch Collaboration with Beatrice Kamau

    You guys. I had the absolute pleasure of being a guest on Beatrice Kamau’s podcast, The Self Love Fix, this week, and we had the best fucking time.
    If you don’t know Beatrice, she’s a self-trust embodiment coach who helps bad bitches magnetize their desires with ease through shadow work and developing self-trust…and happens to be a bad bitch herself! 
    This week, we got to talk all things friendship: how to cultivate deep and lasting ones, why vulnerability is absolutely key in forming ANY relationship, how ingrained jealousy can threaten even those friendships you consider unbreakable, and even more. Every chance to hang out with Beatrice is a fucking gift, and I can’t wait for you all to hear the tough love we dropped this week.
     
    CONNECT WITH BEATRICE:
    Instagram: @theselflovefix
    Website: https://beatricekamau.com/
    Podcast: https://beatricekamau.com/podcast
     
    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:
    Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning
    Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
     
    EPISODE RESOURCES:
    Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

    • 1 hr 4 min
    Are You Addicted to Feeling Not Good Enough?

    Are You Addicted to Feeling Not Good Enough?

    News flash: healing isn’t always good.
    I can already hear the comments: “Who the fuck are you and what have you done with Michelle?” Take a breath, okay? I promise I’m going somewhere with this.
    When we uncover our wounds, it’s absolutely crucial to not let them sit untouched. We absolutely should be doing the work to heal ourselves. The healing industry is so beautiful for helping us transcend our shit. And you know what else?
    It can be shadowy as FUCK if you let it be.
    Healing work is so important, but when it becomes our entire lives, it can actually do a lot more harm than good. Let’s talk about what happens when healing becomes an addiction, and how we can shift our mindset to something ACTUALLY healthy instead.
     
    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:
    Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning
    Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
     
    EPISODE RESOURCES:
    Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

    • 25 min
    Why the Emotionally Unavailable Man is so Addictive

    Why the Emotionally Unavailable Man is so Addictive

    We’re getting into a fucking juicy topic today, friends, so buckle up and get ready.
    Today, we’re talking emotionally unavailable men.
    Not just what a relationship with these men looks like, though I will be going over that. No, today I’m coming at this from a different angle. I want to talk about why these men are so fucking addicting to us, even when we claim to want something completely different.
    When it’s good, it’s so fucking good. But when it’s bad? It’s the worst thing we can make ourselves available for.
    We say we’re so over dating the emotionally unavailable man, yet we keep coming back for more and more and more, over and over and over again.
    Why do we do this, and more importantly, how do we stop? I’m here today to give you the answer. If you’re ready to get yourself out of this addictive cycle, this is the episode for you.
     
    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:
    Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning
    Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
     
    EPISODE RESOURCES:
    Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

    • 17 min
    Getting Comfortable in Your Skin: A Discussion with Victoria Alario

    Getting Comfortable in Your Skin: A Discussion with Victoria Alario

    I am so fucking excited to share today’s episode with you all. I have invited the illustrious Victoria Alario onto the podcast to chat with me today!
    Victoria is a multi-passionate and multifaceted entrepreneur with a focus on helping women unleash their confidence and step into their 2.0 self. Her work helps women build their self-esteem, embrace their purpose, and get everything they want out of life. She's known for telling it like it is, keeping it real, and pushing you out of your comfort zone to raise the bar—which, hello! She fits right in here!
    I brought Victoria on to chat about her enhanced lingerie line, her commitment to celibacy and how it’s affected her confidence and dating life, her journey to her own 2.0 version of herself, and even more fantastic insight into all things confidence. I loved getting to know her, and I know you will, too!
     
    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:
    Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning
    Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
     
    CONNECT WITH VICTORIA:
    Website: https://vicsenthelabel.com/ 
    Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/for-the-girls/id1579104385 
    Main Instagram: @victoria.alario
    For the Girls Podcast Instagram: @forthegirls.podast
    Vicsen the Label Instagram: @vicsenthelabel
     
    EPISODE RESOURCES:
    Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

    • 59 min
    You Can Be Happily Single and Still Desire a Relationship

    You Can Be Happily Single and Still Desire a Relationship

    If you’ve been following me for a while now, you’ve probably heard me speak on the term duality—the concept of two opposing things being true at the same time. This week, I’m diving into one example of duality that very few people seem to understand: that you can be perfectly happy living your single life, and still desire a relationship.
    Wild, right? You don’t actually have to choose between one or the other. You don’t have to pick between contentment and desire. You can feel both. You can have both. And nobody, NOBODY should be shaming you for it.
    This is a controversial topic, but hey, those are my favorite to tackle. If you find yourself riddled with shame for wanting a relationship on top of all the other good things in your life, if you feel ungrateful or unreasonable for wanting more, you need to listen to this episode. It’s time to let go of all that shit.
     
    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:
    Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning
    Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
     
    EPISODE RESOURCES:
    Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

    • 19 min

Customer Reviews

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27 Ratings

27 Ratings

annatothevan ,

Michelle is a QUEEN!

I have listened to nearly every single one of Michelle’s podcast eps and I take something out of each one. Legit, there’s times where I feel like she’s speaking to my soul or calling me TF out — but they have benefited me so much. It’s like chatting with a bestie, but a bestie who has all the juice and the insight into why we do what we do and how to make it so much better.

Kristyn M1 ,

Life changing!!!

Michelle is absolutely incredible!! I started listening to Michelle and then subsequently working with her in the September round of The Connected Woman, and with her help…I have changed my life. I was going through a really difficult time in my life, and with her guidance I was able to navigate some really challenging things and have been able to connect with and trust and love myself more. I love how vulnerable and real she is. Calling me out for some of the things that I need calling me out on and offering such amazing advice and support. I’m back in TCW for another round because I was so missing being in her energy. The podcasts are amazing…but I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to work with her again. I owe her and love her so much. ❤️❤️❤️

trexmonster ,

The Ick = Splitting.

Hi.
I just wanted to point out something really important. Series 1. Ep 47 “the Ick”.

The correct term is psychological splitting. It’s a very unhealthy defence mechanism and means you are insecure and have a subconscious ego defence to criticise and “switch off” attachment.

It’s a trauma response.

Please name it for its proper name. It’s not “cool” or “hip” or “evolved” in any way. It’s a form of abject destruction in relationships and it is the responsibility of person who DOES the splitting to stop it. It has NOTHING to do with the partner. Absolutely nothing.

Splitting is a toxic behaviour in healthy relationships and means the splitter WILL ruin healthy relationships.

Harsh truth perhaps. But we can’t call it “Ick”. It isn’t.

It’s a defence mechanism generated from trauma. Or at best a VERY immature emotional response. Teenagers do it as party of growing up. ….

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