YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton, MEd, LLC

This is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages. 
In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for  partners and couples, and how other obstacles like low self-worth and chasing dead-ends lead to increasing distress and antagonism in neurodiverse relationships.The final step navigating your neurodiverse relationship involves evaluating all of your choices and options and implementing changes for yourself. No more staying stuck.Let us help you get out of the quicksand to determine a real path forward!
 
00:00 Season 4:: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
00:28 The Five Key Step
01:37 The Final Episode: Step Five - Figuring Out a Path Forward
04:03 Inappropriate Hope
12:17 Healing and Moving Forward
20:52 Finding Happiness and Peace
26:12 Concluding Thoughts and Resources for Neurodiverse Couples
 
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. 
 
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. 
 
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 
 
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
 
 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. 
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
 
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
 
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

In the 5th episode or a 5-part series, Jodi Carlton and her co-host, Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, delve into the personal experiences and critical insights into Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships. They provide a retrospective look at their marriages, both of which ended after two decades, and clarify that their mission is not to advocate for divorce but to assist individuals in understanding their relationships and exploring options for moving forward. This episode covers various unconventional solutions they considered in their attempts to save their marriages. The episode underscores the importance of identifying and evaluating options within neurodiverse relationships and the necessity of making informed decisions that are best for all parties involved. Jodi and Mona share their processes of coming to terms with the reality of their situations and the steps they took towards healthier futures for themselves and their families.
 
00:00 Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships
01:06 Power of Personal Journeys
02:16 The Support Group: Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship
02:49 The Impact of Hearing from Different Neurotypes
06:54 Exploring Options in Neurodiverse Relationships
09:25 Discovering Creative Solutions
14:01 The Challenges of Traditional Marriage Expectations
18:46 The Role of External Changes in Relationship Dynamics
23:30 Understanding Individual and Collective Needs in a Relationship
25:20 Navigating External Pressures and Internal Choices
28:01 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Relationships
31:13 The Journey to Self-Discovery and Healing
36:03 Healing, Regulation, and Moving Forward
41:16 Reflecting on Parenting, Mistakes, and Growth
45:52 Concluding Thoughts on Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
 
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. 
 
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. 
 
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
 
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.  This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
 
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 
 
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
 
 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and cha

Relationship challenges are like icebergs; what you see on the surface is just a fraction of what lies beneath. If you don’t look underneath the surface to uncover all of what is contributing to the problems, your chances aren’t good for navigating your way to a fulfilling relationship.In this episode of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship,” Mona and I share our own mistakes that ultimately contributed to sinking our relationship.Our goal is to help you figure out the root issues that are well beneath the surface of your problems as a couple. Otherwise, you’ll just keep putting that temporary fix on things. Your relationship and your quality of life will slowly deteriorate, and your ship will sink.
00:00 Episode 3 of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship”
02:17 Reflections and Realizations
03:21 Identifying Problems and Non-Negotiables in Your Relationship
05:47 The Power of Support Groups
07:56 Our Personal Stories of Growth and Healing
10:48 The Challenges of Communication and Understanding in Neurodiverse Couples
20:04 Learning from the Past: Identifying and Addressing Relationship Problems
26:20 Navigating Differences in Values in Relationships
31:31 Recognizing and Addressing Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics
33:21 Exploring Apology Languages and Relationship Dynamics
34:45 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Apologies and Understanding
36:13 Therapy Experiences and the Quest for Solutions
39:54 Unpacking the Emotional Baggage from Family Histories
44:25 Learning from Past Relationships and Moving Forward
53:15 Identifying Deal Breakers
01:04:59 Looking Ahead: Determining Choices and Options
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. 
 
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. 
 
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
 
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.  This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
 
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 
 
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
 
 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown

Mona and I delve into the necessity of 'stopping the bleed' when your relationship is stuck and has become hopeless. We address the most damaging issues in relationships by sharing our own personal stories and insights from being in neurodiverse marriages for over two decades. Mona and I discuss the importance of recognizing and stopping toxic cycles, the benefits of both individual and couple's therapy, and the transformative impact of setting boundaries on personal health and relationship dynamics. 
 
Featuring co-host Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, this is Episode 2 (Season 4) of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast. This 5-part series is about navigating relationship challenges to figure out a path forward.
 
00:00 Welcome to Episode 2: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
00:28 The Five Key Steps for Relationship Challenges
01:35 Episode Overview: Stopping the Bleed
03:59 The Support Group
04:49 Exploring Personal Stories and Insights
15:57 Exploring Boundaries and Codependency
26:00 The Impact of Communication Styles and Trust Issues
26:57 Understanding Neurodiversity in Relationships
27:41 The Importance of Individual Therapy
36:00 Setting Boundaries for Safety and Emotional Well-being
46:23 The Physical and Mental Health Consequences of Relationship Stress
48:24 Looking Ahead: Making Difficult Decisions
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. 
 
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. 
 
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 
 
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
 
 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. 
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
 
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
 
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

In this 5-episode podcast series, I (Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert), and Mona Kay of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, share very personal experiences from our own marriages to neurodiverse partners. We share a five-step approach for assessing relationship challenges and navigating a path forward. The podcast covers toxic dynamics, the importance of understanding neurodiversity in relationships, and offers support and strategies for communication, connection, and making difficult relationship choices. By sharing our journeys and insights, Mona and I aim to help you feel seen, understood, and less alone in your own neurodiverse relationships, but also to give you a framework for navigating your own neurodiverse relationship. 
 
00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Navigating YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship
01:46 Introducing the Support Group: A Safe Space for All Neurotypes
04:41 Decision Making in Neurodiverse Relationships
06:22 Understanding the Stages of Assessing Relationship Challenges
11:14 Triage: Assessing the Risk in Your Relationship
16:41 Reflecting on Personal Experiences with Neurodiversity and Relationships
26:36 The Importance of Assessing Needs and Risks in Relationships
29:39 Unpacking the Past: Stories of Miscommunication and Conflict
30:17 The Christmas Eve Incident: A Tale of Family Dynamics
32:27 Navigating Neurodivergence and Codependency
33:47 The Shift from Romance to Reality
35:30 Unveiling Incompatibilities
40:19 Recognizing Red Flags and Toxicity
52:08 The Journey to Self-Recognition and Healing
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. 
 
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. 
 
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
 
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.  This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
 
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 
 
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
 
 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. 
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
 
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com

In season four of 'YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship' podcast, Jodi Carlton teams up with Mona Kay from the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast to dive deep into personal experiences and professional insights on managing neurodiverse relationships. They discuss five key steps for assessing relationship challenges, whether it involves working together with a partner for a better connection or realizing it's time to part ways. With over two decades of experience in neurodiverse marriages, they share their own stories of navigating love, making tough decisions, and finding strategies that might be non-traditional but effective. This season aims to make listeners feel seen, understood, and less alone in their experiences. The first episode airs on Wednesday, March 20th.
 
00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships
00:14 Introducing the Co-Host and Our Mission
00:31 Five Key Steps for Navigating Relationship Challenges
00:58 Personal Journeys: Learning from Our Own Relationships
01:15 The Importance of Sharing Vulnerable Experiences
01:35 Join Us for the Journey