Black Fluidity: Bi Black Men Talk BlackFluidityPodcast

In this episode, BlackFluidity hosts, Frank and Mo, address the sensitive topic of "Touch Deprivation," aka ‘Skin Starvation’. They discuss its definition, personal experiences, societal impacts, and the distinction between sexual and non-sexual touch. They also cover the significance of touch from childhood to adulthood, cultural variations in touch, the role of technology in fostering isolation, and strategies to combat touch deprivation, such as engaging in social activities, understanding consent, and utilizing technology for connection. The conversation is insightful, with the speakers sharing personal anecdotes, posing reflective questions, and offering potential solutions to touch deprivation. The script reflects a deep dive into an often overlooked aspect of human interaction and its importance for mental and emotional well-being.

A powerful and deeply personal narrative shared by Terrell, a 23-year-old bisexual Black man who is also disabled. Born and raised in Decatur, Illinois, Terrell opens up about his journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and the challenges he faces at the intersection of his identities. From an early age, Terrell felt different from others, grappling with societal stereotypes and expectations tied to his race, sexuality, and disability. He speaks candidly about the internal conflict and self-hatred he initially felt upon realizing he was different, compounded by the difficulties of being Black and disabled in society.

 

Despite these challenges, Terrell's story is one of growth, self-love, and resilience. He recounts his adolescence, his first crushes on both a female and a male at the age of 16, and the process of coming out in a Christian household that had instilled fear of damnation for his sexuality. Terrell found solace and acceptance among friends who were also part of the LGBTQ+ community and through his involvement in a high school GSA (Gay-Straight Alliance), which provided a supportive environment to explore and affirm his identity.

 

Terrell's narrative also touches on the complexities of navigating sexual relationships, confronting biphobia, and the importance of connection over casual encounters. He emphasizes the significance of understanding and respecting LGBTQ+ history, advocating for self-education as a means to empower oneself and others.

 

He also reflects on the importance of embracing both his masculine and feminine sides, advocating for self-acceptance and the freedom to express oneself without fear of judgment. Terrell's journey is a testament to the power of self-acceptance, the value of supportive communities, and the strength found in embracing one's full identity. His story highlights the challenges and triumphs of living at the intersection of multiple marginalized identities, offering insights and encouragement to others navigating similar paths.

We ask one another insightful and fun questions so you can get to know us, and perhaps to stimulate convo where you're at. This one is not such a quick-hitter, we go in on a few subjects!



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A personal narrative of self-discovery and evolution. Jay's story, the journey of a 38 year old bisexual Black man, delves into his personal journey of self-discovery and growth, his identities, exploring his experiences with bisexuality, relationships with both men and women, challenges in communication and acceptance, as well as reflections on community involvement and personal development.

Ross Victory, a 37-year-old bisexual Black man from Los Angeles reflects on his identity, experiences, and challenges growing up and navigating his bisexuality in a society that sometimes lacks acceptance. He shares moments of self-discovery, struggles with biphobia, the importance of community, his hopes for the future, and experiences with openness and vulnerability. 



Highlighting the importance of community, self-empowerment, and storytelling his narrative is introspective, personal, and highlights the importance of self-acceptance and creating space for diverse voices. Through his words, Ross aims to educate, inspire, and create a space for authentic representation of bisexual Black men.

 

Ross expresses himself through music, writing, and speaking engagements, using his platform to advocate for bisexual representation and empowerment. He discusses his creative endeavors as a means of self-expression and advocacy for the bisexual community.

Heru’s story is a powerful and candid personal journey of its speaker, Heru, through discovering and accepting his bisexuality. Heru, now 29 years old and living in Atlanta, Georgia, reflects on his upbringing in Jamaica, Queens, New York, and his early struggles with understanding his attraction to both men and women. Despite societal pressures and the absence of the term 'bisexual' in his early vocabulary, Heru navigates through the complexities of sexual orientation and internalized biphobia. 

He shares pivotal moments from his youth, including the influence of pornography and his initial sexual experiences, that led him to question and eventually affirm his bisexuality. Heru's narrative also delves into the challenges of dating as a bisexual Black man, confronting and overcoming stereotypes, and seeking validation and confidence within himself and his relationships. 

His journey includes seeking community and finding support among other bisexual Black men, which played a crucial role in his self-acceptance and empowerment. Heru's story highlights the societal misconceptions and stigmas associated with bisexuality, particularly within the Black community, and his ongoing efforts to navigate a predominantly binary understanding of sexual orientation. 

This speaker presents an intimate and reflective account of his life experiences, emphasizing the importance of authenticity, community support, and self-acceptance.