Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell Dan Purcell

it's March Madness in the United States--the NCAA college basketball tournament.

And a lot of people create brackets where they guess ahead of time which teams are gonna win and come out on top. In getting in the spirit of this tournament, we thought we'd have some fun, so we created a sex position bracket for March Madness bedroom edition that you can print for yourselves.

So to celebrate sex positions in the Intimately Us app and also March Madness Bedroom edition, I wanted to record a special podcast episode all about sex positions today.
First, we're going to talk about why you might want to try new sex positions, why it's important to have these conversations about it (and how to have these conversations) with your spouse, and then we'll dive through a few specifics on sex positions and how you can make sex more exciting, creative, and most importantly, connecting for you and your relationship.
 
For more great content like this, check out the following resources:
Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/
Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/
Website: getyourmarriageon.com
Instagram: @getyourmarriageon
 

One source I found states that one in five women experience sexual assault or unwelcomed sexual attention. Trauma from sexual abuse is ugly and can interfere with a healthy and thriving sexual relationship in marriage.

Today my guest is Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a marriage therapist that specializes in helping individuals overcome, heal from, and thrive after a history of sexual abuse. His own wife was a victim of sexual abuse as a child and discusses how that impacted their marriage. He shares how his approach towards her trauma in the beginning was actually making things worse (oops!), and what steps they both took to heal from it.

Although sexual abuse isn’t part of my or my wife’s history, there are many things I found valuable in this episode. For instance, I love the story Dr. Wyatt shares about how he became more compassionate about his wife’s situation. I also learned that although trauma from sexual abuse is very serious, healing from abuse is also seriously cool and possible.

 
For more great content like this, check out the following resources:
Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/
Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/
Website: getyourmarriageon.com
Instagram: @getyourmarriageon
Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

One complaint I hear a lot from couples is where they feel like their spouse is consenting to sex but isn’t enthusiastic about it. These reports sound like, “let’s just hurry and get this done.” “I know it's been a while so let me give you sex so that you’ll get off my back.” “I know sex is important for our marriage, and if I don’t give you sex, I’m afraid you’ll stray, besides it’s my wifely duty.” Or, “The bible says that I should never deny my husband so I let him have me, even if I don’t enjoy it at the moment, because aren’t we supposed to make sacrifices – and we’ll be rewarded for it later on?”
Sexual desire is strongly tied to a sense of self and freedom. But when you don’t feel free to be yourself in sex, it can be more harmful than good in your relationship.
My guest today is Dr. Cami Hurst. She recently completed an extensive study for her dissertation on the effects of “consensual” yet duty-focused sex in marriages. 
I personally gained a lot from this episode. It made me reflect on how important choice and freedom is to a healthy sexual relationship, and how harmful duty sex can be to the intimacy of the marriage.
She makes an important distinction between responsive desire (where you may not be in the mood when sex begins but as things get going you generally can get into it and enjoy it) and duty sex, where you don’t enjoy it but you feel like you can’t say no. She talks about how PTSD symptoms show up in women who engage in duty sex over time. She also talks about what you can do about it!
 
For more great content like this, check out the following resources:
Next Level: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/
Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/
Website: getyourmarriageon.com
Instagram: @getyourmarriageon
Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Albert Einstein is said to have once said, "We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them." And I believe that to be true when it comes to issues in marriage and that's why marriage coaching is so helpful.

It raises the level of thinking or the intelligence in the relationship so you can see what's going on.

Over the years, I've had the privilege of coaching over 100 individuals and couples; last week alone I coached 10 couples or individuals and I helped them raise their level of thinking in their relationships.

I do all of my coaching through my program and it's called Next Level. Next level is my affordable coaching program, designed specifically for busy couples on the go that want to take their intimacy to the next level.


You get access to a ton of content, videos, courses, and workshops I've developed over the years to you also get access to a private podcast that's not available anywhere except for members of next level. I also give our Next Levelers an opportunity for private one on one coaching as well.

And today I have permission to share with you a part of a recording of a recent private coaching session that I did last week with a wonderful couple Andy and Stephanie, which by the way are not the real names to protect their identity.

Andy and Stephanie have been married for about 30 years and have recently been pushing themselves to grow together sexually. It's been exciting and scary for them at times.

Listen to how Andy and Stephanie confront themselves in real time and get clear in their mind around how they can think about certain concepts and how it leads to deeper intimacy in their relationship.

Now, most of my coaching sessions like these are an hour long, but I've cut it down for brevity sake for this podcast, but I still think it carries the main gist of what coaching can really be like, so you can see yourself and how coaching can really help you in your relationship if you'd like to join me and over 100 other members that are in next level. The doors are now open just for another week, it's $49 a month per couple with no long term contract.

It's a really, really good way to accelerate your growth in your marriage and I hope I get to work with you there. Check it out here!

Holy smokes, this episode is jam packed with so much goodness and truth bombs. You’re about to hear Tony and I get a bit vulnerable as we share some of our mistakes and lessons learned about growing more emotionally mature in our relationships.

Ever accuse your spouse of being a narcissist – or at least being myopic or only seeing their side of things without taking you into account? Well, this episode is for you.

Ever desire a stronger emotional connection with your spouse? This episode is for you too!

Tony Overbay is a licensed marriage and family therapist from the Bay Area of California. He’s the host of the popular podcast called The Virtual Couch. In his practice working with thousands of couples, he’s noticed how crucial emotional maturity is, and how “narcissism” (which he explains is emotional immaturity) plays a role in the way we relate to ourselves and others. He goes on to explain how to wake up to it and steps we can take to be stronger within ourselves and our relationships.
 
For more great content like this, check out the following resources:
Live Workshop on Feb 22: How to Have an Orgasm (and have better orgasms)
Next Level Waiting List: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/
Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/
Website: getyourmarriageon.com
Instagram: @getyourmarriageon
Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Mutual pleasure is an important ingredient of a good sexual relationship. The pleasure we get from sex facilitates bonding, joy, and makes sex way more fun!
Orgasms are probably one of the most pleasurable sensations we can experience. However, generally speaking, women have a harder time reaching orgasm than men do. There are many theories as to why this is the case. It can be distressing for a woman who wants to experience an orgasm in sex yet struggles to get there.
Many people forget that reaching orgasm is a learned behavior. It’s not as effortless as it seems like from movies or magazines. Although orgasm is a natural reflex to sexual stimulation, it’s a skill to be learned – much like learning how to ride a bicycle. It's something that we learn how to do, and it might come easier for some people than others (no pun intended).
I'm always inspired by accounts of men and women who work really hard to close the pleasure gap in marriage. They show investment in each other and commitment to building something wonderful both enjoy and want to be a part of.
Today I got to interview a fantastic woman named Ashley who overcame many hurdles to experience more pleasure in her sexual relationship with her husband. After 5 years of heartache from trying all sorts of things, including spending a lot of money on high-end sex toys, she was ready to give up trying. She shares what shifts happened within her that finally helped her learn how to orgasm, and how amazing things have been since then.
If learning how to orgasm has been a struggle for you or for someone you love, here’s a good opportunity for you. On February 22nd I will be putting on a live coaching workshop about learning how to orgasm or how to have better orgasms. This is the workshop that Ashley refers to in this interview. Sign up today on our website. 
If you’re interested in working with me to take your intimacy to the next level, I’ll be opening the doors for registration again to my program called Next Level at the end of this month! Get on our waiting list to be the first to know when it opens.
 
For more great content like this, check out the following resources:
Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/
Website: getyourmarriageon.com
Instagram: @getyourmarriageon
Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us