I'm Not Your Shrink Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

We all have triggers.


Our partners all have triggers.


And they are not always the same things.


Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated.


When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms.


In this replay episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss building compassion for healthy and strong relationships.


In this episode, we discuss:



The Fire Triangle of Relationships [7:23]

The 3 Parts of Compassion [22:59]

Motherhood & Compassion [29:12]

Defining Compassion & Mindfulness [33:13]

What you can do in your relationship to start using compassion [46:07]



EPISODE LINKS:


Michaela Thomas on IG


Pause*Purpose*Play Group on Facebook


The Thomas Connection


The Lasting Connection Book Now Available


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again


Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love


Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass


Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

Whether you’re expecting your first child or your fourth, pregnancy, childbirth, and bringing home baby can stir up a lot of big feelings. Fear of the unknown, discomfort from lack of control, sleepless nights, and hormones can leave us feeling anxious. 


This week, I sit down with Liesel from Mommy Labor Nurse to discuss how birth and postpartum education can help empower couples to feel more satisfied with their experience. 


If you haven't yet, be sure to check out Mommy Labor Nurse Podcast Episode 136 where Liesel and I talk about preparing your relationship for baby. 


Liesel Teen, BSN, RN is a labor and delivery nurse and the founder of Mommy Labor Nurse. Mommy Labor Nurse equips pregnant women with the tools, knowledge, and confidence they need to erase the unknown, feel in control, and have an even better birth - no matter how they deliver.


With 8 years and counting as a bedside labor and delivery nurse, Liesel knows that knowledge is the key to an even better birth. To date, over 40k women have completed a Mommy Labor Nurse birth class, eliminated fear, and been empowered by Liesel’s comprehensive childbirth education.


In this episode, we discuss: 



The biggest fears that show up during pregnancy and delivery

Boundaries 

The mental load of pregnancy 

Tracy’s experience with her unplanned c-section 

Liesel’s tips for expecting parents



EPISODE LINKS:


Mommy Labor Nurse Instagram


Mommy Labor Nurse TikTok


Mommy Labor Nurse Online Birthing Classes


Mommy Labor Nurse Podcast


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again


Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love


Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass


Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected


 

Have you ever tried to explain the mental load to your partner only to find yourself struggling to find the words or perhaps frustrated that your partner just doesn’t get it? 


If you have, you’re not alone. This is a common experience shared in DMs, comments, and even in therapy sessions. So how do we communicate the mental load so our partners can understand? 


In this episode, I sit down with Zach Watson, to talk about the mental load. Zach is a content creator, Accountability Coach using the Fairplay method, husband, father, author, TEDx speaker, rapper, and former teacher.


In this episode, we discuss: 



What lead Zach to learn about the mental load

Ways we can help our partners better understand the mental load

The common fallacy about the worth of our time

Zach’s Christmas present that helped his wife get back into her unicorn space

Having tough, vulnerable conversations around sex and intimacy 

Showing up authentically and vulnerably on social media



EPISODE LINKS:


Zach’s Instagram


Zach’s TikTok


Zach’s YouTube


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again


Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love


Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass


Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected 


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Are we wired to fix our loved ones? It might feel that way when you notice discomfort showing up when your kids or your partner are experiencing something unpleasant. 


It’s easy to get caught up in finding the solution, but could we be missing their feelings and leaving them feeling invalidated? 


In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Kenney from Peace and Parenting, to talk about repair, the urge to fix our loved ones, and what we can do instead when these feelings show up in our partnerships and parenting. 


Michelle is a mother of two girls, as well as a former teacher and counsellor turned Certified Parenting Instructor. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts, she finally reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters and credits peaceful parenting for changing her life. Michelle considers herself a recovering yeller, perfectionist and control freak who has found a more calm and connected way to parent. Using the ideas of Brain Science as her guide and working on childhood hurts as her deeper work, she helps other parents do what she has been able to do for herself over the last decade.





In this episode, we discuss: 



Fixing in our relationships [03:00]

The desire for our partners to parent as we do [05:45]

Our inability to separate other people’s suffering from our own [06:15]

The contrast between how we consciously parent our children and how we treat our partners [07:00]

Helping our partners parent vs telling them what to do [11:45] 

Seeing our younger self is our child’s reaction [19:30]

Apologies without saying “I’m sorry” [22:30] 

Why we push pain away [27:30]






EPISODE LINKS:


Peace and Parenting Instagram


Peace and Parenting Website


Peace and Parenting YouTube Channel 


Peace and Parenting Podcast


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again


Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love


Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass


Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected 


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For today's bonus episode, I sit down with fellow Psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship. 


Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist. 


If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and I discuss the parent-child relationship.


EPISODE LINKS


Order Dr. Shefali's newest book The Parenting Map


Free Online Summit the Parenting Mastery

We all pee ourselves a little after having kids and it’s totally normal, right? Sure, it’s common… but it actually isn’t normal.





Chances are your OB didn’t sit you down at your first prenatal appointment to discuss the importance of keeping your pelvic floor healthy and there’s an even higher chance they never talked to you about how urinary incontinence, at any level, isn’t normal after baby.


So what is normal and how do we take care of our pelvic floor?


In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sara Reardon from The Vagaina Whisperer, to talk about your pelvic floor. Dr. Sara Reardon PT, DPT, WCS is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, Board-Certified Women’s Health and Pelvic Floor Therapist, and mom of 2. She is the founder of The Vagina Whisperer, an online platform for pelvic floor health and the owner of NOLA Pelvic Health. 


In this episode, we discuss:



The importance of normalizing correct terminology and the care/treatment of our pelvic floors (5:30)

What the pelvic floor is (6:30)

Common pelvic floor issues during pregnancy (8:30) and postpartum (13:00)

The myth that “leaking is normal” (17:15)

Common mistakes surrounding bladder health (19:15)

Pain with sex (21:30)

What a visit with a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist might look like (22:45)

Sarah’s tips for you (32:30)



EPISODE LINKS


The Vagina Whisperer Website


The Vagina Whisperer on Instagram


The Vagina Whisperer on TikTok


FREE GUIDE: How to Take Great Care of Your Pelvic Floor


NOLA Pelvic Health website


Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again


Struggling with intimacy? Download my FREE GUIDE with 5 ways to improve your intimacy


Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass


Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected


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