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Jay Dee from the blog UncoveringIntimacy.com explores married sexuality from a Christian perspective. Each week we'll explore topics relating to married sexuality from psychology, physiology and also explore what the Bible says about sex, and how to apply that to our lives. We'll also take listener's questions and answer them with frank, but informative answers, drawing on our communities experiences through surveys when applicable. If you have a question you'd like answered on the podcast, please visit UncoveringIntimacy.com to submit your anonymous question on our Have A Question page. So, if you want a healthy, vibrant, active sex life but have questions that are holding you back, please tune in and learn about how amazing and fulfilling marriage can be.

Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective Jay Dee - Marriage Educator

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.7 • 14 Ratings

Jay Dee from the blog UncoveringIntimacy.com explores married sexuality from a Christian perspective. Each week we'll explore topics relating to married sexuality from psychology, physiology and also explore what the Bible says about sex, and how to apply that to our lives. We'll also take listener's questions and answer them with frank, but informative answers, drawing on our communities experiences through surveys when applicable. If you have a question you'd like answered on the podcast, please visit UncoveringIntimacy.com to submit your anonymous question on our Have A Question page. So, if you want a healthy, vibrant, active sex life but have questions that are holding you back, please tune in and learn about how amazing and fulfilling marriage can be.

    SWM 082 – October 2021 Questions – Consensual adultery, caught masturbating, handjobs with condoms and more

    SWM 082 – October 2021 Questions – Consensual adultery, caught masturbating, handjobs with condoms and more

    October 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
    In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
    Why do people think it's okay to commit adultery if their spouse is okay with it?Caught son masturbating with his mom's underwear - what do I do?Handjobs with condoms on?Guilt about bachelorette partyIs crossdressing normal?The TENUTOHow do I get my wife to come to bed?This month our most popular resource is Our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a fun way to inject some intimacy into the holiday season. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.
    Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
    Why masturbation is a problem whether you are married or singleIs it wrong for Christians to crossdress?The TENUTO by MysteryVibeTOR 2 by LELOMelt - Couples massage coursesFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter
    If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.
    Thank you to all our faithful champions!
    If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference! Plus, supporters this month get our Intimacy Advent Calendar free!
    Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

    • 14 min
    SWM 081 – The Limon by Minna – Product Review

    SWM 081 – The Limon by Minna – Product Review

    The Limon by Minna - Product Review. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
    Get $50 off the Limon by by clicking here and using the coupon code UIBLACKFRIDAY.
    This month our most popular resource is Our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a fun way to inject some intimacy into the holiday season. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.
    Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
    The Ola by MinnaLearn how to give a great massageBook - ADHD After DarkFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter
    Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

    • 11 min
    SWM 080 – Is premature orgasm a thing for women? How do you last longer?

    SWM 080 – Is premature orgasm a thing for women? How do you last longer?

    Is premature orgasm a thing for women? How do you last longer? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
    The question we're answering today is:
    Hi Jay,
    I have a question for you / your podcast.
    So my husband and I have been married for about 8 months now. It seems like every time he gives me oral sex, I end up orgasming within just a few minutes. Now, as great as orgasming is, I feel like after I orgasm so quickly, I am not as stimulated by penetration. Also, I really enjoy oral sex and I wish the experience could last longer. My husband and I waited until marriage to have sex. But before I was following Christ and before I met my husband, I was sexually active, including oral sex, and this never happened. So my questions are: 1) is this normal? is "premature ejaculation" a thing in women? 2) are there any ways to fix this and/or last longer? and 3) in women, if you orgasm once, is there a "come down" period? How is it possible to have multiple orgasms in one "sex session"?
    Sorry for all of the questions! I still feel like we are so new to having sex and we have a lot to learn. I appreciate any and all input. Thanks!
    This month our most popular resource is Our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a fun way to inject some intimacy into the holiday season. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.
    Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
    How to make it easier to orgasm during sexMaking it easier to orgasm - a guide for Christian wivesIntroduction to talking dirtyOral sex surveyChristians, anal sex and anal playResponsive desire vs. spontaneous desireLimon by Minna (use coupon code UIBLACKFRIDAY for $50 off)Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter
    If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.
    Thank you to all our faithful champions!
    If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference! Plus, supporters this month get our Intimacy Advent Calendar free!
    Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

    • 20 min
    SWM 079 – September 2021 Questions – Guarding fantasies, low libido, not wanting sex, pain during sex and more

    SWM 079 – September 2021 Questions – Guarding fantasies, low libido, not wanting sex, pain during sex and more

    September 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
    In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
    Wanting your wife to have sex with other menHow to handle a spouse who doesn't want to have sexWhat is healthy sexuality for single people?Does God intend for you to be a virgin if you don't get married?Dealing with the loss of a wifeCan men continue to have sex after orgasm?Should you do Our Sexploration List while aroused or not?Pain during sexAre men turned off by prolapses?How to build staminaAre topless and nude photos the same as porn?This month our most popular resource is Our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a fun way to inject some intimacy into the holiday season. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.
    Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
    Covenant Eyes - Accountability SoftwareWhere did my sex drive go? - Free EbookOur Sexploration ListPost on pain during sexMoringa seedsMoringa seedsMaca powderL-ArginineRed GinsengAshwagandhaRed Raspberry Leaf TeaFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter
    If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.
    Thank you to all our faithful champions!
    If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference! Plus, supporters this month get our Intimacy Advent Calendar free!
    Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

    • 44 min
    SWM 078 – August 2021 Questions – Catching spouses with porn, birth control, Zoloft and PE and more

    SWM 078 – August 2021 Questions – Catching spouses with porn, birth control, Zoloft and PE and more

    Today we’re answering more questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  With everyone coming back from vacations, we seem to be getting more questions again, so today we have a dozen to get through.  







    Just to remind you, the Christian Married Sex Virtual Conference is coming up soon, you can still get your tickets here to get access to a lot of good, Christian speakers on the topic of sex.  As well, we’re going to be starting our Becoming More Sexually Engaged course up again this coming week for any Christian wives who are interested in improving their married sex lives in a more targeted way.







    Now, let’s get to the questions.







    Question 1 - Snoopy wife caught husband







    I feel like a snoopy wife but I go through my husband’s activity log on his phone. I have seen that at one point he’s been YouTubing sexual videos. He is a man of faith and I feel like he knows it’s wrong. I have told him how I feel about that but how do I approach him about it without him knowing that I snoop?? I get angry when I find out and wonder why he does it when we have a VERY healthy and active sex life.  What should I do?







    First, you tell him you snooped.  If you feel this was a violation of privacy, then you apologize and you ask for forgiveness.  Personally in my marriage, that wouldn’t be considered “snooping”.  We don’t have private lives from each other, so it wouldn’t require forgiveness as it wouldn’t be a breach of privacy.







    Second, one sin doesn’t cancel out another one, so even if you snooped and it was wrong, that doesn’t excuse his behaviour.  Apologize, ask for forgiveness, then get back to what you wanted to bring up.







    Third, don’t accuse him - share what you saw and ask if you can help.  You’ll have a much better chance of a positive outcome if he doesn’t feel like he’s under attack.  I understand that you’re angry - that’s a fairly typical response, but it’s also not a terribly helpful one.  I would say it’s likely more productive to cultivate feeling compassion for him and a desire to understand.  







    Going to your husband and saying something like “I’m sorry, I looked at your phone, and I feel that was a breach of trust/privacy, and I would like you to forgive me for that when you’re ready.  But I also would like to talk about what I found.  I’d like to understand why you feel the need to look at women on YouTube and how I can help you with temptations like this in the future.” is likely to be more productive than “I looked at your phone and I can’t believe what I saw! Aren’t I good enough? Don’t we have enough sex? What’s wrong with you that you have to look at those women on YouTube?!”  That’s just going to put him in a defensive position, he’ll probably retaliate about the snooping and you’ll both be angry and will have driven a wedge between rather than using this opportunity to get closer and move the marriage forward.







    Question 2 - Is orgasming the same as cumming?







    Hey Jay Dee, I have two questions here.Is orgasm the same thing as cumming? From what I have heard orgasming is exclusively only for women that "get off", rather than when a man gets off it's not as intense and doesn't qualify as an orgasm, therefore it's cumming.Also, I have heard there are ways for a man to be able to feel the pleasurable sensations of cumming while not ejaculating, that they are two separate actions but happen so close together that a lot of people mistake it as one.

    SWM 077 – July 2021 Questions – Dealing with PCOS, fantasizing about your fiancee and more

    SWM 077 – July 2021 Questions – Dealing with PCOS, fantasizing about your fiancee and more

    Summer break is over and it’s time to catch up on our questions.  Today I’m answering a few we got in July from our anonymous Have A Question page so I can get August’s out, hopefully before October comes.  Before we get to the questions though, I want to let you know about a Christian Married Sex Virtual Conference coming up being hosted by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta.  It opens in 17 days, you can sign up to hear all the speakers - over 20 of them, giving 15-30 minute talks, and best of all, it’s all done from the comfort of your own home at your own pace.  You have a year to watch all the videos.  If you’d like to check it out, just visit www.uncoveringintimacy.com/marriedsexcon to get all the details.







    As well, our Becoming More Sexually Engaged course is about ready to start another cohort.  I only run this course a few times a year, so if you’re a Christian wife who wants to focus on becoming more sexually engaged and give you and your husband a fresh outlook on marriage for Christmas, now is a great time to check it out as we’re going to be starting in the next couple of weeks.







    With all that out of the way, let’s check out the questions.







    Question 1







    I have a question. I live with my parents and I might be sharing a bedroom with a sibling. I have a bunch of BDSM toys cause I somewhat love to practice self-bondage but don’t want anyone to find out but if we move I don’t know where to hide it and I would really hate to throw 100 dollars worth of stuff out in the trash. I plan to move out in the future though. If you could help me with advice please and thanks.







    My advice would be to throw it out and not buy any more BDSM stuff until you’re married.  As well, self-bondage can be very dangerous and not having anyone know you’re doing it makes it even more dangerous.







    Question 2







    Greetings Jay!Quick question (well, not sure how quick it is) :-)Can you give spiritual insight and expound on Leviticus 12:2-5 that speaks of the "uncleanness" of a woman conceiving seed and born a male child, then she shall be unclean 7 days; according to the days of the separation for her infirmity shall she be unclean.Verse 4: And she shall then continue in the blood of her purifying three and thirty days; she shall touch no hallowed thing, nor come into the sanctuary, until the days of her purifying be fulfilled.Verse 5: But if she bear a maid child, then she shall be unclean two weeks, as in her separation: and she shall continue in the blood of her purifying threescore and six days.It suggests women being "unclean" longer for maid seeds (2 weeks) than male seeds (7 days) - Is there a physical reason associated with having a male child vs a female child that causes a slower physical recovery? Does this mean, in your wisdom, that The Father value men more than women?One person in our supporter’s group suggested that maybe God valued women more because he gave the mothers more time off to care for them.  I’m pretty sure it was tongue-in-cheek.  







    I have no wisdom other than what I find in scripture, and scripture leads me to believe God values men as much as women.  I’m not aware of anything in scripture that equates cleanliness to value, nor gender to value.  I don’t believe uncleanliness was seen as a punishment, but rather as a symbolic representation of sin in the world.  Some suggest that this was a hallowed time to reflect on bringing a sinful being into the world,

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
14 Ratings

14 Ratings

TheRealYoze ,

Great advice

These podcasts are really good. They taught me so much about relationships. The host has a strong understanding of the Bible and everything he says is based on it.

RainyJane ,

Solid

Practical, applicable advice based on solid Christian theology for the discerning listener.

Laurhen3668 ,

Great for non-Christians too

I'm a non-Christian female who was looking for some insight into what my husband was thinking/feeling especially when it came to sex. This podcast helped me to decode a lot of this and as a result my marriage has drastically improved. Listen with an open mind, I promise you'll learn a lot. Also the host Jay Dee was quick to get back to me with f-up questions I had. Highly recommend.

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