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On the Divorce Survival Guide Podcast we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go?
Hosted by Kate Anthony, your Divorce Survival Guide.

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Kate Anthony, CPCC

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On the Divorce Survival Guide Podcast we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go?
Hosted by Kate Anthony, your Divorce Survival Guide.

    The Truth About Family Court with Tina Swithin

    The Truth About Family Court with Tina Swithin

    Tina Swithin returns to the show this week! You know her as the leader of One Moms Battle, whose mission is to raise awareness and educate family court professionals on post-separation abuse as it relates to co-parenting and the family court system.  She is also a fierce advocate for survivors and change in the family court systems. In fact, through her work, she has been able to get the month of November to be declared Family Court Awareness Month in eight states to date.
    If you're eventually going to be entering the family court system, you must listen to this episode. It will help you to understand what the family court is designed to do, and enable you to prepare yourself to do battle within the court system—which is not designed to protect you.  Join us for this incredible conversation about family court awareness.
    Show Highlights
    Family Court Awareness Month is an opportunity for survivors to raise awareness at a community level. (2:20) The family court system is abusive. (5:24) How we can come together to increase awareness. (7:43) The disconnect between family court and other judicial systems. There is no regulation or checks and balances. (11:09) Very few states have required trauma-informed or domestic violence training for family court judges. (14:54) We examine how judges become appointed family law judges. (17:05) Tina’s family court system reform wish-list, including why we need judicial accountability and focus on prioritizing child safety. (21:00) Even with the reality of our present-day court system, children have a better chance of being healthy members of society if you are able to leave a toxic marriage. (35:07) What you can expect when advocating for yourself in the family court system. (43:24) Learn more about Tina Swithin
    Tina Swithin survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade.  Known for her internationally recognized blog, “One Mom’s Battle” and her book series, "Divorcing a Narcissist," Tina helps survivors to navigate the family court system against narcissists and other toxic individuals. In 2020, Tina launched two major projects: The High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program and a nationwide campaign, Family Court Awareness Month.  
    The mission at Family Court Awareness Month is to raise awareness and shine a spotlight on one of the most important branches of our judicial system; the family court system. The very system that was established to govern family law cases and make decisions that are “in the best interest” of children, has some undeniable shortcomings that warrant conversations, solutions and ultimately, change.  
    The mission at Family Court Awareness Month is fueled by the desire for a family court system that is trauma-informed and educated on domestic violence, coercive control and post separation abuse. To truly act in the best interest of children, our family court system needs to incorporate empirical data and research into their decisions and rulings. 
    Resources & Links:
    Family Court Awareness
    One Mom's Battle
    Tina on Facebook
    Tina on Instagram
    Tina on LinkedIn
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    SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO?
     
    An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all.  In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you’ll unlock the support, education, and deep transformational work you need to finally answer your most burning question: should I stay or should I go?










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    • 52 min
    How to Cultivate Healthy Relationships with Dr. Akua Boateng

    How to Cultivate Healthy Relationships with Dr. Akua Boateng

    This week I am talking all about healthy relationships with Dr. Akua K. Boateng. Dr. Akua answers the question, “What the hell does a healthy relationship look like?” We explore the mechanics of developing a healthy relationship with Self and also learn the steps to reconnecting with your intuitive guidance.   
    Dr. Akua K. Boateng is a sought after mental health and relationship expert. With over 14 years experience in clinical practice and education, she specializes in an integrative approach to treating anxiety, trauma, relationship issues and other emotional concerns. 
    She is the founder & CEO of Boateng Psychotherapy & Consultation, where she counsels individuals and couples as well as partners with organizations in the integration of emotionally aware practices and initiatives. In the media, Dr. Akua has contributed to media outlets such as CNN, The Washington Post, Huff Post, Black Enterprise, Refinery29, Philadelphia Inquirer,  Slate Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, and others. Her genuine, empathic voice adds to the growing culture of mental health awareness.
    Show Highlights
    Reconnecting with your intuition and sense of self; also why you may have lost it in the first place. (8:15) You need time, safety, and a safe place to begin to lean towards repair and integration. (16:47) Why you can’t heal within an abusive relationship. (17:53) What does a healthy relationship even look like? Interdependence. Consistency. It does not look like pain and harm. (22:56) The shift in cultural dialogue about mental health within the last five to ten years. (33:35) Is the trope, “you can’t love another until you truly love yourself,” true? (36:21) Everyone has a blind spot. A healthy partner helps you see your blind spot and approach it with the utmost kindness and compassion. (38:26) A therapist’s job during couples therapy. (42:15) Sometimes the healthiest place you can be is not together. (45:21) Couples should not pursue therapy when active abuse is occurring. (48:17) Top conflicts that Dr. Akua sees in her couples work. (48:35) Learn More About Dr. Boateng:
    Dr. Akua K. Boateng, a native of California, is a licensed psychotherapist with an emphasis in individual and couples therapy. With over 13 years of experience in clinical practice and education, she specializes in an integrative approach to treating anxiety, depression, relationship issues, intergenerational trauma and several other emotional concerns. 
    In 2015, after sharpening her expert approaches for clients with other facilities, Dr. Boateng opened a Philadelphia-based private practice and consultation firm, Boateng Psychotherapy & Consultation. She now works with clients to take ownership of their emotional health, become aware of unhealthy patterns and work toward a more authentic existence. Dr. Boateng is a sought after mental health expert and consultant, partnering with organizations to support the integration of emotionally aware practices and initiatives into their operations.
    Resources & Links:
    Should I Stay or Should I Go - Money Survey by Kate Anthony and Amanda Steinberg
    Www.Akuakboateng.com
    Dr. Akua on Instagram
    Dr. Akua on Twitter
    Dr. Akua on Facebook
    TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY:
    SOBERLINK
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    The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system consists of a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines:
    Court-admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases.
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    • 55 min
    Post Betrayal Transformation With Dr. Debi Silber

    Post Betrayal Transformation With Dr. Debi Silber

    Betrayal can affect your entire life - work, health, and even your relationships.  In a previous episode, I explored how to heal from betrayal in your relationship. This episode focuses on how to heal from betrayal within yourself. Joining me to discuss post betrayal syndrome and post betrayal transformation is Dr. Debi Silber. 
    Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love.

    You’ve heard it before, “Time heals all wounds.” But,  Dr. Debi Silber has proof that this is not true. It doesn’t matter if your betrayal happened decades ago, you can still experience Post Betrayal Syndrome today. 
    However, if you are willing to do the work, you can move through all five stages of healing in order to get to post betrayal transformation and experience freedom on the other side.
    Show Highlights
    Betrayal is different from other life crises. (7:27) Post Betrayal Syndrome: a collection of symptoms that are very common in betrayal. (10:48) Why do we get stuck after we have been betrayed? (17:02) If you are going to fully heal from a betrayal, you will go through five predictable stages. Dr. Silber shares these five stages. (22:08) When you face it, feel it; you can heal it. (31:44) After the shattering of trust, it cannot be repaired. But it can be rebuilt. (37:34) The difference between resilience and transformation.  (38:07) What to look for in a therapist for post-betrayal healing. (49:51) Learn More About Dr. Silber:
    Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she’s an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.
    Resources & Links:
    Should I Stay or Should I Go - Money Survey by Kate Anthony and Amanda Steinberg
    Dr. Debi Silber's website
    Dr. Silber on Facebook 
    Dr. Silber on Twitter
    Dr. Silber on Linkedin
    Dr. Silber on Instagram
    Dr. Silber on Youtube
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    TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY:
    THE DIVORCE SURVIVAL PROGRAM
    As one of the pioneers of the divorce coaching industry, I’ve been helping women (most of whom are moms) navigate the divorce process for the last decade.


    AND NOW, FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER, ALL OF MY DIVORCE WISDOM IS AVAILABLE IN ONE ONLINE PROGRAM.
    This program is 100% for you if…
    You’re a mom looking for a clear roadmap to a divorce that won’t destroy your kids You’re looking for answers and a roadmap You understand that divorce is a long game You’re willing to put away your boxing gloves You want this to be a respectful and collaborative process in service of your kids You understand that divorce is, first and foremost, an emotional process and you’re ready to ‘go there’


    Are you ready to learn from one of the world’s top divorce experts and set yourself on the path towards the best possible outcome?


    YEAH, Y’ARE!!!

    • 53 min
    Solo episode: One Million Downloads: My Gratitude and a Peek Behind-the-Scenes

    Solo episode: One Million Downloads: My Gratitude and a Peek Behind-the-Scenes

    This week I am pulling the curtains back and giving a glimpse of what it takes to build a business, post-divorce. You’ll hear the lessons I learned, the pivots I made (and re-made), as well as how I faced some of the hard truths of business building (d-e-b-t) and life. 
    Plus, this episode is a celebration of the culmination of so many things: first and foremost, it celebrates you! The show has reached one million downloads and that’s because you keep tuning in week after week, sharing episodes, and being part of The Divorce Survival Guide Community. There is a special announcement in this episode for you - so be sure to tune in. And, thank YOU!
    I am also celebrating how this podcast has helped me to build my audience and grow my business. It has transformed the landscape of divorce and has been one of the top resources that women and men turned to in their time of transition.
    Finally, I am celebrating how the podcast, and listeners like you, have given me the strength and courage to own my story and share it openly with you. This podcast has been and continues to be a place for reciprocal healing and support. This episode is my thank you to you for helping me get here.
    Psst...did you hear? This episode includes a contest announcement - yay! Here are the contest details:
    5 winners will be randomly selected and the prizes are 1 private coaching session with Kate, 1 Should I Stay or Should I Go full scholarship, 1 Divorce Survival Program full scholarship, and 2 Ultimate Divorce Survival Guide winners. To enter, they will need to leave a review of the podcast on their podcast platform of choice (Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts), take a screenshot of their review, and email it into us at info@kateanthony.com. The deadline to enter is November 20, 2021 at midnight Pacific. Winners will be contacted via email. Resources & Links:
    For resources and links, also visit: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/one-million-downloads-my-gratitude-and-a-peek-behind-the-scenes

    Divorce Survival Program is here! 
    Uncage Your Business by Rebecca Tracey

    • 27 min
    Narcissistic Trauma Recovery with Caroline Strawson

    Narcissistic Trauma Recovery with Caroline Strawson

    This is the last week of domestic violence awareness month, so I wanted to explore the topic of narcissistic trauma and recovery. Caroline Strawson helps us understand the complexities of narcissistic trauma and the healing journey that is necessary for those of us who have suffered from it. 
    Caroline Strawson is a multi award winning narcissistic trauma informed therapist and coach and best selling author of Divorce Became My Superpower. She has completely transformed her life from being at rock bottom after her divorce to a narcissist; and now works on helping others process the trauma of narcissistic abuse for post traumatic growth.
    Show Highlights
    Caroline shares her story of divorce from a narcissist and her transformation. (7:45) The narcissist is the abuser. Trauma is what you hold in your body about the narcissist. (15:20) You can’t change the abuse, but you can change your experience and what you say to yourself about the abuse. That’s the key element to healing. (18:29) Caroline explains the traffic lights of tolerance analogy and how it ties to our normal nervous system response to trauma or abuse. (20:01) The root of codependency and narcissism is trauma. (27:56) How to support a friend or loved one as they heal from narcissistic trauma. (38:07) The three stages for healing from narcissistic trauma. (42:25) Why Caroline says you can’t co-parent with a narcissist. Instead, she says choose parallel parenting. (44:41) Learn More About Caroline:
    Caroline Strawson is a multi award winning Trauma Informed therapist and coach, #1 best selling 
    author and #1 iTunes rated podcast, The Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Podcast. She specialises in helping heal the trauma of narcissistic abuse at a deep nervous system level. She uses a unique integration of therapy and coaching including EMDR, Brainspotting, RTT, Breath work, Internal Family Systems and positive psychology. She was diagnosed with complex PTSD, depression, anxiety and self harm in 2011 
    and was in over $100,000 debt and had her home repossessed after a narcissistic marriage. She 
    has now helped thousands of women globally with her Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme and her Narcissistic Trauma Unlocking Method™. 
    She has appeared in national newspapers, magazines, television and BBC Radio to give hope to 
    others and lift the guilt and shame associated with the trauma of narcissistic abuse. 
    Resources & Links:
    For links and resources also visit:
    https://kateanthony.com/podcast/narcissistic-trauma-recovery-with-caroline-strawson
    The Divorce Survival Program is here.  Learn more or purchase!
    Caroline’s website 
    The Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Podcast
    Caroline on Instagram
    Caroline on Facebook
    TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY:
    THE DIVORCE SURVIVAL PROGRAM
    As one of the pioneers of the divorce coaching industry, I’ve been helping women (most of whom are moms) navigate the divorce process for the last decade.


    AND NOW, FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER, ALL OF MY DIVORCE WISDOM IS AVAILABLE IN ONE ONLINE PROGRAM.
    This program is 100% for you if…
    You’re a mom looking for a clear roadmap to a divorce that won’t destroy your kids You’re looking for answers and a roadmap You understand that divorce is a long game You’re willing to put away your boxing gloves You want this to be a respectful and collaborative process in service of your kids You understand that divorce is, first and foremost, an emotional process and you’re ready to ‘go there’


    Are you ready to learn from one of the world’s top divorce experts and set yourself on the path towards the best possible outcome?

    YEAH, Y’ARE!!!









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    • 55 min
    Healing from Betrayal with Gilza Fort Martinez, LMFT

    Healing from Betrayal with Gilza Fort Martinez, LMFT

    Betrayal is a broken promise. And oftentimes when you are faced with the decision to stay or go, you are forced to decide if you can work through the betrayal or if it’s better to walk away. Further, a betrayal leads to erosion of your sense of Self. So, how can you move forward—whether you remain with your partner or not—and come out the other side with your heart and sanity intact? This week I am joined by Gilza Fort Martinez to talk about what it takes to heal from a betrayal and how to recover your sense of Self in the aftermath. Healing will take effort and it will take willingness, but there is a way out.

    Gilza specializes in family therapy, women's transitions, as well as marital and premarital therapy. Her work focuses on helping women overcome the devastation of betrayal in order to restore their self-trust and help with the decision to re-engage in relationships. Listen to hear this informative and important conversation.
    Show Highlights
    Infidelity is not the only form of betrayal. At betrayal’s core it’s a broken promise. (3:42) Some red flags that signal that you should seek therapy with your partner or explore what may be going on. “If we pay attention a little sooner, we can intervene.” (9:27) Losing your sense of Self in relationships: how it happens. (9:53) Why we gravitate toward toxic or mismatched relationships. (12:46) Gilza answers the million-dollar question: why do people cheat? (16:10) The difference between discovered infidelity versus a partner disclosing they have cheated. (22:33) How to determine if the betrayal you’ve felt is something you can work through or walk away from. (26:06) The essence of a sincere apology. Hint: it’s about ownership. (30:18) The emotional hits your partner must be willing to absorb during the healing process. (32:59) How to recover your sense of Self after you’ve been betrayed. (50:55) Learn More About Gilza:
    Gilza Fort Martinez is a bilingual licensed marriage and family therapist in Florida with over 30 years of experience in conflict resolution, improving interpersonal relationships, and navigating life transitions.  
    She specializes in family therapy, women's transitions, as well as marital and premarital therapy. Her work focuses on helping women overcome the devastation of Betrayal in order to restore their self-trust and help with the decision to re-engage in relationships.  Her approach to helping you rediscover yourself is honest and solution-focused so that you can focus on living a fulfilled life in emotional wellness. 
    Aside from her one-to-one work with clients, she has a woman-owned and run practice and has focused on collaborating and encouraging other women therapists to start and thrive in their own practice!  She also has significant experience in public speaking and leading workshops for corporations and organizations about a wide range of topics including stress and conflict management, improving communication effectiveness, leadership, and more.  Gilza has been featured in multiple media outlets including Self-Prevention, Greatist, Shondaland, Telemundo, Univision, People in Español, and others. Recently she has participated in several podcasts highlighting women, their challenges, and triumphs.  
    Resources & Links:
    For show notes and resources, also visit: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/healing-from-betrayal-with-gilza-fort-martinez-lmft
    The Divorce Survival Program is here.  Learn more or purchase!
    Gilza's website
    Gilza on Instagram
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    • 57 min

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I look forward to my 30+ min commute, just so I can listen to Kate Anthony. Kate is a tremendous emotional support for anyone facing divorce. She holds practical advice and tips to work through some of the most difficult things as a woman facing divorce. With each episode I am left with thought provoking ideas and insight to make this experience the best it can possibly be. Thank you Kate.

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Kate has helped guide me through my divorce with her podcast. The guests and advice offered has been so incredibly empowering and after over a year of separation I am finding myself again and finding my voice and power. I am now able to show my children how strong their mom is and Kates insights have always helped me keep focused on the bigger picture and not the pettiness.

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