It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People Dr. Heidi

Those who have been through a toxic relationship will tell you that there were things that they thought were true about the situation, and now looking back with a clear mind realize they are not true at all. The years we spend thinking these are true become a long continual cycle of us not realizing that we keep doing the same thing over and over, thinking maybe this time it will work and the relationship will feel more comfortable. Here are the 5 things that many believe to be true at some point during the course of their unhealthy relationship. See if you have been thinking the same thing..... I know I did!

Toxic Relationships are confusing and when we are trying to understand them and learn how to operate within them we often fall into behaviors that we believe will help make the relationship feel better. Many times these behaviors, not knowing they are "mistakes" cause continued confusion and become more and more difficult to remove yourself from. We would never know that we were making mistakes until we can look back on them.

Many are afraid to leave toxic relationships. We have become comfortable because we have learned how to survive within them, but what happens when we leave? When I left, I thought that's all there was to it. When I got into this relationship my life became disastrous and chaotic, so it would make sense that when I leave this relationship things will become less disastrous and less chaotic... Right? I don't think I even realized that there was a healing journey that needed to happen. Boy did I find out quickly that the toxic relationship had changed so much of me that I did not even know where to begin. Yes, there is a healing journey, and yes parts of it are painful, and yes I made it. I'm of course still healing but I am understanding more and more about myself everyday. Don't be afraid of the pain because the person that comes out of it makes it all worth it. We are formed by the things we go through, we are always going through something, and we are always on the journey.

I was never asking about tocix relationships or emotional abuse I was always asking what “I” needed to do to fix it. What are you asking yourself about your relationship?

We hear these terms all the time, Love Bombing & Hoovering. Today let’s dive a bit deeper into the similarities and the differences between them as it relates to the toxic relationship and why these behaviors show up when they do.

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Those who have been in toxic relationships will find that they are on a continual path of learning, growing, and self acceptance. I am no different. My January was tough, I am tired of fixing myself, trying harder, and being better. I gave that up this month. Thank you for your patience with me. -Dr Heidi

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