96 episodes

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage.

Revealing covert abusive communication that takes away your power. Learn to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse before you are dragged into their game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Download the guide at loveandabuse.com.

Transcripts available upon request: https://loveandabuse.com/contact/

Love and Abuse Paul Colaianni

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.8 • 63 Ratings

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage.

Revealing covert abusive communication that takes away your power. Learn to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse before you are dragged into their game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Download the guide at loveandabuse.com.

Transcripts available upon request: https://loveandabuse.com/contact/

    Can depression be used for manipulation?

    Can depression be used for manipulation?

    There can be some good excuses for hurtful behavior. With some excuses, it can be hard to differentiate between fact and fiction. 
    When someone uses their condition or illness to manipulate or control you, it can make it that much more difficult to get out from under their spell. 

    • 30 min
    The abuser that sneaks their way into your heart and life in order to lock you in to a controlling relationship

    The abuser that sneaks their way into your heart and life in order to lock you in to a controlling relationship

    Some abusive people know exactly how to lock you into the relationship so tight that you find it near impossible to get out of it. When that happens, the longer you wait, the worse it gets. No matter how deep you are, you need to do something right away unless you want to continue down a road that never ends.

    • 48 min
    Can you find yourself after they stop the hurtful behavior?

    Can you find yourself after they stop the hurtful behavior?

    Sometimes the emotional abuse stops. If and when it does, will you know who you are? Do you know where you went? Sometimes we lose ourselves in relationships like this because we are so busy trying to make the other person happy so they won't make us miserable. But that's probably not who you wanted to be. Finding yourself again can be the next challenge after the emotional abuse stops.
     
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    • 31 min
    Healthy responses to their frustrations and annoyances

    Healthy responses to their frustrations and annoyances

    How can you respond or react in the most concise, clear and healthy way so that their annoyance or frustration with you doesn't turn into another toxic event in your relationship?  Learning to respond in the most healthy way possible can make the difference between another argument with misunderstandings and confusion, and something that could be cleared up fast.  For more episodes, visit loveandabuse.com

    • 56 min
    The thoughts and beliefs that allow toxic behavior to seep into your relationship

    The thoughts and beliefs that allow toxic behavior to seep into your relationship

    You are not to blame for getting into a toxic relationship. It is not your fault. However, there is a way you process bad behavior that may be working against you causing you to get into bad relationships over and over again. Sometimes we do things that raise our levels of toleration so high, that we can't recognize just how hot the water has gotten.
     
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    • 47 min
    The needy and clingy people that become emotionally abusive

    The needy and clingy people that become emotionally abusive

    Needy and clingy people can become obsessive and emotionally abusive. They will find ways to keep tabs on you so that they are always on your mind. They need constant attention and there's little you can do to make them happy except to be with them all the time. Neediness can turn into bad behavior to the point where unless you comply with everything they way, they'll make you believe you're being awful to them.
     
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    • 23 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
63 Ratings

63 Ratings

JennyK645 ,

The podcast I have been waiting for

Wow. I have been separated from my husband for three years and have read and listened to all kinds of things to help make sense of what happened and what continues to happen (we have two children together). All of my reading helped, but this was the missing piece. I now understand much better how to change my language in order to communicate more effectively with my ex. Thank you so much.

tanm70 ,

Top notch

Everything about this podcast is AWESOME. I love the fact you have life experience not just a voice narrating the subject. Thank you!!

kwiaka20 ,

Very helpful words

I just reviewed your podcast from June 3, 2020. It was very good, as are all your podcasts, and sometimes we need to hear your words over and over until they sink in. Bottom line is, if someone is showing you who they really are, you need to except that, honor yourself and not live for months and years hoping they will change.

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