127 episodes

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse gives you the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage.

You'll learn about covert abusive communication that takes away your power. And you'll discover how to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors, such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse, before you are dragged into a game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Get the guide that will tell you exactly what's happening in your relationship over at loveandabuse.com.

Transcripts available upon request: https://loveandabuse.com/contact/

Love and Abuse Paul Colaianni

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.9 • 81 Ratings

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse gives you the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage.

You'll learn about covert abusive communication that takes away your power. And you'll discover how to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors, such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse, before you are dragged into a game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Get the guide that will tell you exactly what's happening in your relationship over at loveandabuse.com.

Transcripts available upon request: https://loveandabuse.com/contact/

    What change really looks like when the emotional abuser heals

    What change really looks like when the emotional abuser heals

    The healed former emotional abuser looks a lot different than the person they used to be. If you've ever accepted a hurtful person back into your life after they said they've changed but notice after a short while that their old behaviors are creeping back in, you might have missed an important clue that they haven't changed at all. 

    • 38 min
    Feeling discarded when they leave the relationship

    Feeling discarded when they leave the relationship

    Why does it seem so easy for some people to leave a relationship, get into another one, and act as if the one they were in didn't mean anything?
    If you've felt discarded and can't stop thinking about what you did wrong, this episode is a good reminder of everything you were doing right. 

    • 30 min
    When the emotional abuser reaches back out after they've healed and changed

    When the emotional abuser reaches back out after they've healed and changed

    When the emotional abuser apologizes and tries to make amends with their ex-partner after they've done a lot of personal growth and development, should they expect a response from their ex? Is that expecting too much? Or is it time for all to move on and start anew?

    • 24 min
    Time with yourself is not only necessary, its required

    Time with yourself is not only necessary, its required

    You give, you adapt, and you change who you are almost to your very core... to what end? When you are overly compassionate to others, you might actually be taking away from yourself. This is as harmful to your mind as a lack of sleep is to your body. 

    • 28 min
    Emotionally abusive behavior is also physically painful

    Emotionally abusive behavior is also physically painful

    Victims of emotional abuse can experience physical pain from all the trauma, potentially leading to increased tolerance and resilience of harm. They can gradually lose their identity due to the abuser’s actions, becoming a shell of their former selves. 

    • 19 min
    When the good you do for them leads nowhere

    When the good you do for them leads nowhere

    Some emotionally abusive people don't change, no matter how much the victim of their hurtful behavior changes for them. Is there ever a point where they will be the person you want them to be? Or does anything you do really matter at all? 

    • 22 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
81 Ratings

81 Ratings

Bushyuppie ,

A life saver!

This podcast helped me understand toxic and emotionally abusive relationships and played a huge role in getting out of my toxic marriage. It was a lifesaver!

JennyK645 ,

The podcast I have been waiting for

Wow. I have been separated from my husband for three years and have read and listened to all kinds of things to help make sense of what happened and what continues to happen (we have two children together). All of my reading helped, but this was the missing piece. I now understand much better how to change my language in order to communicate more effectively with my ex. Thank you so much.

tanm70 ,

Top notch

Everything about this podcast is AWESOME. I love the fact you have life experience not just a voice narrating the subject. Thank you!!

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