How Not To Suck At Divorce

Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
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How Not To Suck At Divorce

The only divorce podcast that's one part family law attorney and one part recovering comedian. We are dedicated to bringing you action steps, empathy, and a healthy side of snark. Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport bring you divorce content that's resourceful, entertaining, packed with ACTION STEPS from EXPERTS, and most importantly, help listeners feel less alone. You'll get through this. We promise. You've got this..and we've got you. **Do not listen to this show if you don't have a sense of humor.

  1. 17 HRS AGO

    135. When Your Kids Don't Want to Go To the Coparent's House (Divorce Tips)

    In this episode of How Not To Suck at Divorce, we are talking about what so many divorced parents struggle with—kids who resist going to the other parent’s house. We talk about why this happens and offer actionable tips for managing these tough transitions. It’s completely normal for kids to feel conflicted, and in this episode, we break it down and share ways to make those transitions smoother. We dig into the "EASE" acronym (you'll have to hit play to find out what this is if you don't know) to give you a simple framework for communicating with your child during these moments. We also talk about why setting boundaries is key and how to do it in a way that doesn’t make your child feel torn between parents. In this episode, you'll learn: How to show empathy for your child's feelingsThe importance of setting boundaries and maintaining a calm demeanor during difficult transitionsHow to document issues related to child transitions, especially if they become an ongoing concernHow to communicate clearly with your co-parent, and when it’s necessary to seek legal advice if the issues persist No doubt, this sucks. But you got this, and we got you! Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you. Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorce Follow Andrea: @theandrearappaport Follow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

    41 min

  2. 6 DAYS AGO

    134. Divorcing Over the Holidays Sucks. (Emotional Support)

    In this episode of How Not To Suck At Divorce, we dive into handling the tough emotions that can arise during the holiday season when you're going through a divorce. We know it’s not easy, and we’ve got your back! In this episode, you'll learn how to: Embrace the sadness – Don’t fight it. We talk about why feeling sad is totally normal and how pushing those feelings down will only make them linger longer.Move your body – It doesn’t have to be anything intense, but a little walk can go a long way in helping clear your mind and improve your mood.Shift your focus – Find a project, something to get your hands on, like a craft or home project, to take your mind off the stress and give you a sense of accomplishment.Get out there – Even if it's just for a short time, saying yes to an invite and getting dressed can help break the isolation and give you a sense of normalcy. So, if the holidays are feeling heavy or you’re just struggling to cope, listen in for some practical tips and support to make it through. We get it – divorce is a marathon, not a sprint, and we’ve got you every step of the way. Links to the amazing products discussed in episodes: Jouer Under Eye BalmWomen's Heated VestMen's Heated VestFlameless Candle lightera...

    48 min

  3. DEC 11

    133. Could You Save Time and Money with a Collaborative Divorce?

    In today’s episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive deep into the collaborative divorce process with Lucia Levias, a family law attorney specializing in this approach. We discuss what collaborative divorce is, how it differs from traditional litigation, and whether it might be the right choice for your situation. Lucia shares the benefits of this process, including cost savings and a more peaceful resolution, while also addressing who is best suited for this approach and the potential pitfalls to watch out for. In this episode, you'll learn: The basics of collaborative divorce and how it worksHow collaborative divorce can potentially save you money compared to traditional litigationWhat professionals are involved in a collaborative divorce and how they support the processWhen a collaborative divorce may or may not be right for youHow to approach your spouse about considering a collaborative divorceThe importance of being aligned with your spouse for this process to succeedReal-life examples of how collaborative divorce can help resolve tough issues like spousal support and parenting plans Lucia's website: https://duboislaw.net/ Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you. Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorce Follow Andrea: @theandrearappaport Follow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

    49 min

  4. NOV 30

    132. How Compartmentalizing Will Help You and Not Compartmentalizing Can Hurt You in Your Divorce

    In this episode, we're joined by Sarah Armstrong, author of A Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce, to discuss the importance of compartmentalizing during the divorce process. Divorce is emotionally draining, and the ability to compartmentalize can help you navigate it more effectively—especially when emotions run SUPER high. Sarah shares her personal journey through divorce and how she learned to compartmentalize to keep her focus on what really mattered: her daughter, her career, and making the best decisions for the long term. And oh - she's the VP of global marketing operations, at Google...yep! What you'll learn: The importance of compartmentalizing during divorce and how it can help you make better decisionsHow to manage emotional triggers and not let them dictate your actionsPractical steps for compartmentalizing, such as taking a breath and giving yourself time to cool down before reactingThe power of focusing on the long game and making decisions that are best for you and your kidsHow Sarah used her compartmentalization skills to balance her career at Google, motherhood, and her personal life post-divorce If you're feeling overwhelmed by the emotional rollercoaster of divorce, this episode will give you the tools to regain control and make decisions that serve YOU and your kids in the long run. Whether it's deciding when to show emotion or learning to take a step back during tense moments, Sarah’s insights are invaluable for anyone navigating the difficult journey of divorce and we're here for it - and we're here for you, too! Connect with Sarah: Sarah's website: https://www.gooddivorce.guide Sarah's book: A Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you. Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorce Follow Andrea: @theandrearappaport Follow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

    1h 1m

  5. NOV 15

    131. (This One is Juicy) Divorce Confessions...Including Andrea's..

    Yep, divorce confessions! We're talking real moments that often come up during divorce! We share anonymous confessions and are here to remind you that divorce can make you feel like you're losing your mind, but you're not alone. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why it’s totally normal to have wild, irrational thoughts during divorce (and you’re not crazy)How to protect yourself legally when things get out of controlThe importance of having a legal team you can trust, especially if criminal behavior is involvedWhy you should absolutely NOT write your kids a letter explaining your divorceWhy giving into the urge to stalk or harass your ex can make everything worseWhat to do when you’re overwhelmed and just want to pack your shit and leave No matter how crazy things feel right now, you’re not losing it. You'll feel that in this episode! Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you. Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorce Follow Andrea: @theandrearappaport Follow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

    45 min

  6. NOV 8

    130. How to Mentally Prepare for Your Divorce

    Today we welcome Hilary Rosenberg back to the show to dive into the topic of mental preparation for divorce. I know, I know - but hear is out. The emotional complexities that come with ending a marriage are so hard, terrible, overwhelming and more. Let us take a load off and share our insights and practical strategies to help you navigate your divorce with clarity and strength! In this episode, you'll learn: The critical importance of allowing yourself to grieve the end of your marriageActionable steps to support your mental well-being during the divorce processHow to create a nurturing and positive environment for yourself as you transition to this new chapter Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you. Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorce Follow Andrea: @theandrearappaport Follow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

    56 min

  7. NOV 2

    129. A New Tool to Help You with Parenting Schedules

    In this episode, we're diving into the difficult and emotional topic of creating a custody schedule. Whether you’re just beginning the divorce process or in the thick of it, figuring out the best arrangement for your children while managing your own emotions can feel overwhelming. We’re here to help you break it down, with guidance from family law attorney and mediator Rebecca Parra. Rebecca brings a wealth of experience in creating custody plans and offers practical tools to help you make the best decisions for your family. In this episode, we answer questions like: What are the biggest challenges parents face when creating a custody plan?How can the new Custody Navigator tool help visualize and plan your custody schedule?What creative custody arrangements can be used for non-traditional work schedules?How do factors like child support affect custody agreements?What can you expect from mediation, and how can it help you come to a peaceful resolution? Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you. Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorce Follow Andrea: @theandrearappaport Follow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

    45 min

  8. OCT 26

    128. Is Your Divorce Driving You to Drink Too Much?

    In this episode, we explore the relationship between alcohol and divorce, diving into how exactly how drinking impacts your emotional state, decision-making, and overall well-being during one of life’s most challenging times. This episode IS NOT about giving up drinking completely; it’s about understanding when alcohol is helping or hurting as you navigate the divorce process. In this episode, you'll learn: -What actually happens in your brain when you drink to cope with stress? -How do you know if you're drinking for the wrong reasons? -What are the warning signs that you’re blowing past your emotional "stop signs"? -What action steps can you take to keep your relationship with alcohol in check during a divorce? Our guest, Colleen Kachmann, known as the "Hangover Whisperer," is a recovery-certified master coach and an expert in alcohol use awareness. She shares science-backed insights on the impact of alcohol on the body and mind during stressful periods and offers practical advice on mindful drinking. Remember, this episode is here to guide you without judgment—only support. Whether you decide to drink less, stay mindful, or seek more support, we’re here to help you navigate this journey in the healthiest way possible. Connect with Colleen: Website: https://www.colleenkachmann.com/ Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Tiktok: @hangoverwhisperer Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you. Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorce Follow Andrea: @theandrearappaport Follow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

    40 min
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The only divorce podcast that's one part family law attorney and one part recovering comedian. We are dedicated to bringing you action steps, empathy, and a healthy side of snark. Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport bring you divorce content that's resourceful, entertaining, packed with ACTION STEPS from EXPERTS, and most importantly, help listeners feel less alone. You'll get through this. We promise. You've got this..and we've got you. **Do not listen to this show if you don't have a sense of humor.

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  • Creator
    Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2024
  • Episodes
    135
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Morgan L. Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport 2021-2024
  • Show Website
    How Not To Suck At Divorce

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