How To Love Yourself No Matter What Amanda Hess

When you are inside of a relationship that is not creating the kind of experience that you want to have, it is natural to want to complain. And when somebody tells you that YOU are doing something that they don't want or that they don't like, it is totally natural to want to defend yourself. But just because it's natural doesn't mean it's the best thing for us. And just because it's natural does not mean it's the best thing for the quality of relationship that we want to build.

I invited my former Life Coach, friend and colleague to be a guest on the podcast today and share a concept that she teaches called: No complaining. No defending. In today's episode, Maggie Reyes (Marriage Coach and Double Master Certified Life Coach) comes on to explain how applying this concept can create a major shift in ANY relationship (including the one you have with yourself)

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Sometimes life get's hard and shit get's real. Welcome to a raw and unfiltered episode where we dive deep into the complexities of navigating life when everything feels overwhelming. In this episode, we explore what to do when challenges pile up, responsibilities seem endless, and emotions run high. Join us as we uncover the strategies to handle life's real struggles with grace and resilience.

It can be really disheartening when the things you do to help yourself when emotions get high suddenly seem to stop working. It can be tempting to believe in these moments that something is wrong, that there is specifically something wrong with YOU. But that's not the truth. The truth is that nervous system regulation is not a set it and forget it game. We are humans and not robots, we need to really look at how to approach ourselves by looking at where we are at right now. Familiar routines sometimes are the worst ways to regulate yourself, and that's why I recorded this episode for you today. Nervous System regulation is all about hacking your brain. Sometimes the most regulating things we can do are HARD. And above all, we need to remember that we are always layering our tools for maximum results. So if you are struggling with enjoying the things that have always regulated you in the past, or if nervous system regulation has not been something you've really ever thought about, this is your episode.

In a world that often touts quick fixes and instant solutions, the concept of an "easy button" can be alluring. We are constantly bombarded with messages that promise a simple answer to life's complexities, whether it's through a new course, a magic program, or a revolutionary coaching technique. But what if the key to real growth and transformation lies not in pressing an easy button, but in embracing the journey of self-discovery and personal development? The latest episode of the podcast delves deep into this very notion, challenging the prevalent narrative that there is a one-size-fits-all solution to navigating life's challenges.

I guarantee you could ask 5 people in a row how they are doing, and all 5 of them would tell you that they are busy. Being busy has become a familiar refrain among the modern world, and the truth is, it needs to stop. If you are feeling anxious and depleted and like you are on your last nerve, busyness addiction is playing a much bigger part in this problem than what you might realize. Too many women are jumping from task to task with a to-do list that is a mile long and and a mile wide. You might think that the way through this is to get it all done, and I am here to tell you that you are dead wrong.

Let's dive into today's episode where I am going to break this all down for you and show you a real way out of breaking free of busyness addiction. It's easier than what you might think.

Resentment cancer. Here's what you know, resentment is always cancer. Always. It hardens you from the hurt, it protects you from the pain, but the long game when it comes to resentment is one of loneliness, bitterness and despair. Resentment protects us, but it also blocks us. It keeps us from the things that we desperately want in the world because we decide that the world sucks, we decide people (or maybe just a gender) sucks and we decide that hope isn't worth it.

It takes courage to open back up to the world. It takes strength to open ourselves up to get hurt again. Resentment tells us the lie of "we don't need that shit", because the truth is, we actually DO need that shit. We need love, and acceptance, and romance and desire. We need connection and joy and fulfillment and fun.

Today's episode is going to walk you through why you want to learn how to let go of resentment and what to tap into instead. My friend, you are capable of far more than you know. Listen in, let's talk about it.