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Sex in Space is a podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.If sex is a subject that interests you, if you feel… (like most of us do) your education might have more than a few gaps in it, if you’re not sure you’re fully equipped to talk to the next generation, or you just feel like exploring some new points of view, awesome, you’ve reached somewhere that might interest you. Join us as we meet some earthly guests who may well introduce you to some alien concepts. If you want to hear about how porn shapes our desires, when sex needs therapy, or what it’s like to be a sex worker, you’re in the right place.Sometimes challenging, sometimes confronting, always enlightening. Buckle up.Available everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found.Reach out to us at: hello@sexinspace.comFollow us on instagram at: @sexinspacedotcomStalk us on Facebook at: @sexinspacedotcomFor more info, check out our website at: www.sexinspace.com
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#65 - Shaun Hill / Sex, drugs and consent
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was able to sit down with Shaun Hill, the ReWired Project Lead, from the New Zealand Drug Foundation. ReWired is a non-judgemental support group for people who want to bring their party’n’play into focus.
Together, Shaun and Toshi had a conversation about chemsex, the ReWired project, sex, drug use and consent, communication and pleasure.
Check out ReWired here: https://www.rewired.org.nz/
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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 – Intro
01:38 – How Shaun's perceptions around drug use changed over time
05:58 – What does chemsex and party’n’play mean?
07:53 – What is the ReWired project all about?
09:50 – How ReWired has changed over time
11:31 – The value of hearing people’s journeys
13:28 – Reflecting on the Four F's: friends, family, fucks and finances
16:16 – Sex should be about fun and pleasure
17:42 – Challenges working at ReWired
20:09 – How to navigate consent when drug use is involved
23:49 – How to navigate consent in spaces where it’s given non-verbally
28:43 – One thing Shaun wishes more people knew about consent
31:50 – Where to find more info about ReWired
32:36 – Conclusion
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#64 - Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers / How to overcome sexual shame
For this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a sex therapist, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a former professor of Marriage and Family therapy at Seattle Pacific University, an AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife and author. Her mission is to provide education and tools that empower people to rise above sexual shame and embrace their value. Together Tim and Dr. Tina discuss sexual shame, its origins, the role of religion, effective parenting strategies and more.
Find Dr. Tina here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/
Check out her book, Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too: https://a.co/d/efnEOkV
Explore Dr Tina’s other book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: https://a.co/d/eaU5zMK
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#63 - Dr Fiona Vera-Gray / Women talk porn
For this episode we were lucky enough to be joined by Dr. Fiona Vera-Gray, one of the UK’s leading feminist academics working on sexual violence, and the Deputy director at the Child and Women Abuse Studies Unit at London Metropolitan University.
Earlier this year, Fiona published her book, Women on Porn, where she interviewed 100 women on their experiences with pornography – how they first encountered it, how they consume it, how it has affected their sex lives and relationships, what they like and what they don’t. Toshi and Fiona spoke about what inspired the book, how people have responded to it, how porn impacts our sex lives and the conflicting feelings that many women have towards their porn use.
Check out Fiona here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/
Find Women on Porn here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/book-women-on-porn.html
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Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:14 – What kicked off the book?
02:58 – What are sexual scripts?
04:29 – How does porn impact our sex lives?
06:26 – The problem with the Fast and Furious analogy
08:03 – Balancing regulation and privacy
09:49 – Removing the judgement from the conversation
13:33 – It’s not as simple as pro-porn or anti-porn
15:34 - What women say about their first sexual experiences
17:30 – Advice if you feel conflicted about your porn use
22:05 – How people have responded to Women on Porn
24:00 – What positive impacts can porn have?
27:32 – Fiona’s challenges working in this space
29:24 – Men’s responses to her work
30:51 – Supporting young people
32:50 – Women’s responses to Fiona’s work
34:32 – Feeling validated by other women's experiences
36:00 – What about feminist/ethical porn?
38:09 - How our sexual desires are shaped by culture
40:26 – Conclusion
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#62 - Lucy Sante / It's never too late to transition
On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Lucy Sante, a Belgian-born American writer, teacher, and critic, who has contributed to the New York Review of Books for four decades about film, art, and photography. She transitioned at the age of 67 after downloading an app on her phone that had a gender-swapping feature, allowing Lucy to see herself as a woman.
Earlier this year, she published a book called I Heard Her Call My Name, a Memoir of Transition, which brings together two threads of personal narrative – the first, the arc of her life, and the second, her recent transition that allowed her to reach a place of inner and outer alignment.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:23 – Feelings after promoting her book
02:10 – Lucy's experience being trans
04:40 – Containment vs desire
07:28 – Lucy's upbringing
08:52 – What triggered Lucy’s transition
11:45 – The impact of age on transitioning
13:56 – Lucy's social experiences as a kid
17:25 – First encounters with trans people
18:41 – Finding courage from others
21:33 – Why Lucy might have transitioned 25 years earlier
22:31 – Gender in society
25:33 – The debate with feminism
27:11 – The joy of transitioning
31:42 – Being transgender is not a choice
33:51 – Conclusion
Check out Lucy's book here: https://lucysante.com/book/i-heard-her-call-my-name/
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#61 - Annah Pickering / Sex work advocacy
For this episode of the podcast, Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Annah Pickering, the regional co-ordinator for the NZPC – the Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Worker’s Collective. The Sex Worker’s Collective is a national organisation here in New Zealand that empowers and advocates for the rights of sex workers, as well as doing work internationally around the decriminalisation of sex work.
Check out the NZPC here: https://nzpc.org.nz/.
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#60 - Susie Orbach / Why fat's still a feminist issue
For this episode, Jane had the privilege of speaking with Susie Orbach, who is a British psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, social critic and the writer who hit the world with the iconic book: Fat is a Feminist Issue, which is an important examination of the obsession we have with food and body image. Written over 40 years ago, it remains hyper relevant to this day.
Fast forward to 2009, and Susie followed up on this idea with Bodies. In this book she argues that the way we view our bodies has become synonymous with how we see ourselves – our body becomes the way that we measure our self-worth. In Bodies, Susie suggests ways that we might be able to heal from this kind of messaging.
In the podcast, Susie spoke with Jane about this amazing body of work, and three main themes emerged – the development of feminism and the way that our perception of it has changed over time, our struggle as humans to be both connected and autonomous, and the way in which the food and beauty industries profit so significantly from body insecurity.
What you’ll find in the podcast:
How feminism was perceived when Susie was young
What role should work have in our lives?
The shift from relying on each other to competing
Can we find common ground with others?
Why connection is so important
Why do so many of us feel bad about our bodies?
How we can change the way we feel about bodies
Why you should read Bodies
A reflection on the times we’re living in
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