Life Check Yourself Marni Battista

In this week’s episode, I welcome Florence Ann Romano to the Life Check Yourself studio. Florence is a renowned personal growth strategist, author, philanthropist, and businesswoman. Known as the "Windy City Nanny," she has spent over 15 years as a childcare provider and is an expert on childcare, family, and village support. We dive deep into the significance of creating and maintaining a supportive community, the challenges of asking for help, and how to embrace change for personal growth. Florence's insights are not only inspiring but also practical, offering actionable advice for anyone looking to enhance their life and relationships.
 
Building Your Village
The Importance of Asking for Help
Embracing Change and Personal Growth
 
Building Your Village (00:07:16 - 00:08:33)
The concept of building your village and the roles that different people play in your life. It emphasizes the importance of identifying and casting the right people into roles that support and uplift you.
"I want you to think of this as casting a movie or a play. These are your main characters, and once you do that casting, you're gonna look back and think, okay, now I understand why I feel a certain way."​​.
The Importance of Asking for Help (00:12:21 - 00:13:14)
Asking for help is often challenging, especially for women. It addresses the fear of indebtedness and the perception of weakness that hinders many from reaching out. Societal pressures and personal insecurities often prevent people from asking for help, but true relationships thrive on mutual support and understanding.
"The thing that ties public speaking as the number one fear in this world is asking for help... We get in our own way with the asking for help part of it."​​.
Embracing Change and Personal Growth (00:37:09 - 00:38:03)
The inevitability of change and embracing it can lead to personal growth and new opportunities. View change as a positive force that brings growth and new connections rather than something to fear.
"The only thing I can promise you is that the village is gonna change... Instead of being afraid of that, lean into it and trust that if the village is changing, maybe it is for a reason."​​.
 
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In this week’s episode, I welcome Dr. Debra Mandel to the Life Check Yourself studio. Dr. Mandel is a nationally renowned psychologist with over 30 years of experience. She's the author of four books, including the intriguingly titled "Dump That Chump," and she's here to share insights from her latest book, "Sassy and Rude: A New Attitude." We discussed the complex and often tumultuous mother-daughter relationship and explored the dynamics of mother-daughter relationships, the impact of social media and societal pressures, and strategies for fostering healthier connections.
The Influence of Social Media on Mother-Daughter Relationships
Generational Challenges in Mother-Daughter Dynamics
Strategies for Improving Mother-Daughter Relationships
 
1. The Influence of Social Media on Mother-Daughter Relationships (00:36:45 - 00:37:39)
The challenge lies in balancing daughters' desire to be part of the online scene without encouraging unhealthy behaviors.
"I see so many young women with body image issues and self-esteem issues even more so... it's kind of horrifying to some degree"​​.
 
2. Generational Challenges in Mother-Daughter Dynamics (00:36:01 - 00:36:45)
Each generation faces unique challenges, but the core struggles of mother-daughter relationships remain constant.The societal and technological changes contribute to these evolving dynamics
"Every generation just like we say, 'Oh, our parents are so old-fashioned,' or 'they didn't get it,' there's always new information and new technology that's coming down the pike"​​.
 
3. Strategies for Improving Mother-Daughter Relationships (00:37:39 - 00:38:04)
Practical advice is provided for mothers of young children and teenagers to foster healthier relationships.
"We don't want to let... the circumstances be our excuse for not learning how to be better and how to navigate through it"​​.
 
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Marni welcomes Peter Canova to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to embrace your intuitive gifts by training your subconscious. Peter is an award-winning author who also contributed to the much-loved Chicken Soup for the Soul series. He’s recently released a book, “Quantum Spirituality” which looks at the metaphysical intersection between quantum physics and Gnostic wisdom. In this episode, Marni and Peter look at what it means to actually listen to your intuition and what you stand to gain from doing so.
·         How to stop being skeptical  
·         Train your subconscious
·         How to shift your perspective
 
Embrace Your Intuitive Gifts [04:58]
 
Both Gnostic teachings and quantum physics explore the nature of light, energy, and matter. In his book "Quantum Spirituality," Peter Canova combines these ancient spiritual insights with modern scientific understanding to create a roadmap for higher consciousness. His multidisciplinary approach integrates science, spirituality, psychology (especially Jungian), neurobiology, and epigenetics. Recognizing and embracing your intuitive gifts, and letting go of overthinking, can unlock a wealth of insights and abilities you never knew you had.
 
I let go and let my logical mind kind of take a backseat and really allow myself to be in my gifts, and be who I am, and be in that higher state of consciousness.
 
Manifest It [14:58]
 
The idea of manifesting has a solid basis. That’s not to say that it’s as clear cut as the oversimplified definition we all see on social media. Rather it’s by understanding that you have the ability to influence your reality by focusing your thoughts and intentions. Start small by setting clear, positive intentions and observe how they manifest in your life.
 
It’s an inner feeling that I can see this thing down the road. I know it’s going to work its way out.
 
 
Training Your Subconscious [21:55]
 
There’s active and passive meditation. Active meditation is when you begin the practice with the intention of finding a solution to a problem or addressing an issue. In either case, meditation is a powerful tool for transitioning from intellectual ideas to actual experiences of higher consciousness.
 
You have to convert that into an actual experience, and that’s where meditation could be the mechanism to help; that transition from an intellectual idea to an experience.
 
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Marni welcomes Marc Von Musser, founder of SoarAndRoar, to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to ditch the victim mentality and start rebuilding your life. In this new series about reinvention, the duo discussed what it means to reinvent yourself. And it’s something that can be done at any age. They delve into the tactics to silence your inner critic and allow room for your inner superhero to grow and transform obstacles into success. 
*         How to ditch the victim mentality
*         How to stop fearing failure
*         Always set ambitious goals
 
Are You Listening to Your Inner Superhero? [07:48]
 
Ditch the preconceived notion that everything is going to be easy. It won’t. And instead of letting the inner critic dominate, channel your inner superhero to view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than reasons to give up.
Within each of our brain, we have a superhero, a version of us that has done amazing things. But there’s also a supervillain and society has really cultivated that supervillain.
 
Fail Forward [15:26]
 
Understand that failure is a crucial part of growth. When you put yourself in the mindset of failing forward, you transform into a person that will continuously be learning and improving.
In rebuilding myself, I’m not expecting not to have challenges. I hope that I do have those challenges because that’s the area of weakness that I need to improve on.
 
Who Are You Surrounding Yourself With? [30:45]
 
It’s important to have people in your life who believe in you and your dreams. The person you have in your ear will be a defining factor in whether you win or lose.
That’s a big part. And here’s the truth. Some of you don’t have that partner. That’s just the truth. You don’t have that partner that’s going to remind you of your greatness.
 
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Marni welcomes Shelley Paxton to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to listen to yourself and navigate towards what your soul truly wants. Shelley is an author, a speaker and a change-maker. She helps people redefine their success. In this episode, Marni and Shelley talk about how to get out of something that makes you miserable. With the daily grind of life, and the pressure thrown at you from every direction, sometimes it’s easier to just continue on the conventional track, to stick to the initial plan. And it ends up slowly eating at you, at your soul.
*         How to take it one step at a time
*         Don’t wait out your pain
*         How to live your truth
 
Is it time for a sabbatical? [00:40]
 
It’s a sabbatical in the large sense of the term, almost like a rebirth. When it seems like your current life, whether that’s a job or otherwise, is dragging you down, where everything requires this magnanimous effort, it’s time for a sabbatical. It’s not a vacation, it’s a journey to reconnect with yourself and your soul.
I’m going to be the sole chief officer of my own damn life. And that was the beginning.
 
S is for Shackles [53:20]
 
In Shelley's Soul Framework, the S stands for shedding the shackles you should. And what that means is breaking free from the narratives, and the “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” that you’ve told yourself define you. It’s becoming aware of the narratives that you’ve built around your identity, that are influenced by culture, society, upbringing, expectations…and the list goes on. 
Whatever it is, we have these should, and these narratives. They come from this place of guilt, people pleasing and these cultural narratives that have been drilled into us. Especially for women, for a very, very long time.
 
 
It’s Value Over Validation [01:01]
 
It’s important to prioritize your own values over seeking external validation. Focus on what truly matters to you at your core.
All these boxes of traditional success, that I was ticking, they were all external validation. They were all outside of me.
 
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Marni welcomes Dr. Harry Cohen to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into the practice of nurturing traits that make people naturally gravitate towards you. What are these virtues that attract people? Harry is an author, having most recently published the book, “ Be the Sun, Not the Salt''. In this episode, Marni and Harry discuss how to forgive your mistakes and move forward while practicing the authentic virtues that will bring out the best version of yourself and those around you. Are you ready to be the change you wish to see in the world?
 
*         How to embody virtuous behavior
*         Learn from history’s greats
*         How to practice apologizing well
 
How to Level up [13:41]
 
Seek out and learn from people who exemplify the highest virtues and achievements. By understanding these positive energizers, you absorb their wisdom and integrate those practices into your own life.
 
Those are exemplars. Those are the people who we intuitively and naturally are drawn to and want to be around. 
 
Knowledge Isn’t Doing [20:01]
 
Knowledge isn’t enough; it’s the application of that knowledge that matters. Act on the wisdom you acquired by performing brave and kind deeds.
 
The Learning is by doing. You want to be brave, act bravely. That’s Aristotle. Send the text, make the call, pick up the phone.
 
Simplicity and Consistency [28:25]
 
Consistency is inevitable for any kind of improvement in any aspect in our lives. Small, consistent actions can lead to significant improvements in our lives and relationships. It is by consistently practicing a certain behavior that they eventually become habits.
 
You just practice. You step in it and then you go clean it off after you step in it. You have to make the error and then do the next right thing. That’s part of it.
 
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