You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist Stephanie Winn

I’ve brought together a panel of two detransitioners and an elder therapist with many years of experience treating transition regret in psychoanalytic psychotherapy. Together, we explore the barriers to effective psychotherapy for individuals experiencing transition regret and the importance of a relational approach in therapy. But what happens when therapists fall into the trap of ego issues and countertransference? How do detransitioners navigate the shame and blame that often accompany their experiences? And what role does the mind-body connection play in healing trauma and emotional wounds? Join us as we uncover the challenges detransitioners face and the need for a holistic approach to mental health care.

Nicolas Blooms describes himself as a Detransitioner and Gender Shaman full of fruity passion to create ways for people to spark the deeper magical wisdom within their hearts to root in their inner resilience. Witness his liberating journey to self-love and remembering his Soul by soaking in his graphic novel, Trans to Detrans: A Soul Solution. He believes it’s totally possible to heal gender dysphoria and any other mental dis-ease! He previously appeared on episode 98. Trans to Detrans: A Graphic Novel Journey from Self-Hate to Self-Compassion, with Nicolas Blooms.

Layton is a detransitioned woman, conversion therapy survivor, artist, and psychic somatic practitioner. She previously appeared on episodes 95. Transing the Gay Away? Cults, Actual Conversion Therapy, & Dissociation: part 1 with Layton, and 96. From Cult to Gender Clinic: Misdiagnosis, Detransition & Healing — Layton, part 2. Follow her on X @origina1ange1 or visit her website at psychicsomatic.com. 

Bob Withers is a Jungian analyst with over 35 years’ experience as a psychotherapist. During that time he has worked with several transgender people in various stages of transition and detransition. He has written a series of articles about that work including the 2020 article ‘Transgender Medicalization’. Bob is a former senior lecturer on the University of Westminster’s master’s program, where he specialized in the history and philosophy of the mind/body relationship in medicine. He is also co-founder of The Rock Clinic, a charitable, community based psychotherapy and counseling service in Brighton England, where he lives. He previously appeared on episode 47. The Scapegoated Body: Transition Regret in Psychotherapy with Bob Withers. 

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Trans to Detrans: A Soul Solution, by Nicolas Blooms

00:00 Start
[00:00:49] Detransitioners in therapy.
[00:03:54] Complex psychiatric needs in counseling.
[00:07:21] Overcoming mind-body dissociation.
[00:13:30] Suicide narrative discussion.
[00:16:33] The effect of estrogen on suicide.
[00:18:20] Transitioning without therapist guidance.
[00:24:26] Mentorship in therapy relationships.
[00:28:09] Boundaries in therapy.
[00:31:40] Therapist-client relationship dynamics.
[00:35:14] Individualized approach in therapy.
[00:40:22] Challenges in mental health care.
[00:43:14] Bodily care and mental health.
[00:46:10] Trauma stored in the body.
[00:49:39] Somatic experiencing and healing.
[00:55:23] Taking healing into own hands.
[00:59:04] Detransitioning and medical issues.
[01:02:24] The needs of detransitioners.
[01:03:38] Gender dysphoria treatment controversies.
[01:09:35] Gender identity and detransitioning.
[01:13:38] Challenges in therapy dynamics.
[01:14:48] Reintegrating anger after dissociation.
[01:20:45] Hope and healing after trauma.
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EIGH

Today’s episode is unlike any other. Although I had an entirely different episode planned, something came up recently that needed to be addressed. I said something on social media that hit a nerve for a lot of anguished people, namely, ROGD parents — ironically, the population I am most focused on addressing, and typically have great relationships with in the markedly different context of personal consulting. But this wasn’t consulting; it was the social media platform X, where misunderstandings and pile-ons abound while tone and context are in short supply. In turn, the reaction of people who felt hurt left me feeling quite hurt as well. 

I spent two days intensively processing what happened and discussing it with trusted advisers. This episode is the result of that processing, and it is probably the most vulnerable thing I will ever express to the public. I ask that anyone impacted by the recent drama take the time to listen. I hope it will also be of value to others interested in how to help families impacted by the gender crisis.

If you were one of the people who felt hurt by what I said on the internet, or perhaps questioned how you should feel about it, please consider what I have to say with an open heart and mind by listening to this message in full. It may resonate in unexpected ways. In an effort to address the ocean of pain inflicted by gender ideology and the ripple effects of brushing up against them, I illuminated aspects of the nature of the beast we are up against, and addressed several interconnected matters many of us have been feeling for a while but perhaps not put words to. Along the way, I addressed matters of grief and anguish; shame and blame; victim/rescuer/perpetrator dynamics; good and evil; idealization and devaluation; and what happens when society is overtaken by a dark force that raises the stakes of our smallest foibles into life-and-death matters. Finally, I suggest a way forward that restores innocence through grace and redemption.

Although I am not normally in the habit of posting videos of myself crying on the internet, on this occasion, it felt important to share my innermost experience with you as I face the heart of the beast that is hurting us all. I invite you to grieve with me. For a fuller experience including body language, you may wish to view this episode as a video on YouTube.

If you don’t want to spend an hour of your time this way, I only ask that you be willing to withhold judgment and refrain from making comments to disparage my reputation, since you are making the choice not to take into consideration what I have to say. That’s a fair request, and I would certainly do the same for you.

Likewise, if you have made critical remarks of me to others, or on social media, but you do take the time to hear me out, and you do end up feeling differently after this, I would appreciate you following up and sharing with those people how this episode impacted your perspective. Again, I would do the same for you. 

In case you’re wondering: the hurt and drama surrounding these events caused me to delete the tweets in question, temporarily lock my account, and stop looking at it for a few days. While I thought I screenshotted everything, all I am left with when I look is screenshots of hurtful comments left by others, so I actually find myself without a record of what I originally said. Some people may have taken my choices to delete the tweets, lock my account, and/or ignore social media for a few days to mean something in particular, but my choices meant only that I needed a break from all of it to collect myself. What I have to say is contained in this episode when listened to as a whole.

No timestamps, no ads, no “where to find me,” no outro today. 

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In a rare solo episode, I reflect on a few key themes that have emerged during the course of my work consulting with with parents who are worried about losing their kids to the gender craze. Join me as I share insights on how to help families facing this challenge. When is it actually a bad idea to tell your kids about the harms of sex trait modification? How can parents express concerns to headstrong adolescents without pushing them away? What strategies can you employ to understand their perspectives while maintaining your own boundaries? Tune in to discover the power of strategic apologizing and the importance of listening without necessarily agreeing.

We'll also explore the impact of porn and social media on youth's perceptions of gender and sexuality. How does exposure to certain media influence their beliefs and behaviors? And what part do male and female role models play in shaping their identities? Plus, we'll touch on the dynamics of splitting and triangulation within families facing the gender crisis. How can parents navigate these complex relationships to support children effectively? And what common pitfalls must be avoided in order to prevent the rift from deepening?

Books mentioned in this episode:
Never Split the Difference by Chris VossLost in Trans Nation by Miriam GrossmanBooks mentioned on this podcast can also be found in my bookshop. My recommended reading list for ROGD parents is the second section down on that page. If I can help, book a discovery call.

 00:00 Start
[00:02:25] Gender craze in family dynamics.
[00:05:27] Origins of gender dysphoria.
[00:10:04] Importance of being strategic.
[00:11:31] A tightrope marathon.
[00:15:47] Avoid sharing too much information.
[00:20:48] Navigating teenage pride and knowledge.
[00:24:11] Hormonal effects on reproductive system.
[00:27:14] Hostage negotiation techniques.
[00:33:40] Apologizing for giving access to technology.
[00:36:21] Internalizing female oppression.
[00:39:44] Boys and porn addiction.
[00:43:35] ROGD parent role models.
[00:47:21] Cry for help in parenting.
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In response to a viral tweet that sparked a heated debate about the natural bond between mothers and babies, I’ve brought together a panel of wise women to delve into the controversial topic of motherhood, daycare, and child-rearing in the 21st century. My guests share personal experiences and expertise in reproductive mental health, child development, and embodiment, shedding light on the biological and cultural aspects of mother-child attachment.

The conversation explores the biological foundations of mother-baby bonding, emphasizing the critical role of early attachment in a child's development. We touch on the impact of daycare on children's emotional well-being and the importance of self-regulation in early childhood. We also examine generational shifts in parenting styles, from stay-at-home moms to working parents, highlighting the evolving dynamics of modern families.

As the discussion unfolds, the guests propose innovative solutions, including on-site daycare at universities and workplaces, and a reimagining of welfare systems to support postpartum parents. They challenge societal norms that undermine women's reproductive biology and advocate for a more holistic approach to childcare. The episode leaves listeners pondering questions about the ideal environment for children, the role of attachment in emotional development, and the need for systemic changes to support families. Tune in to discover how these experts navigate the complexities of motherhood and childcare in today's world.

Robin Atkins is a licensed mental health counselor with nearly 2 decades of experience overall and nearly a decade of experience in reproductive mental health. She speaks professionally regarding reproductive mental health, concerns with the current state of affairs in the mental health field, and ethical practice, particularly in regards to informed consent.
Website: www.charisetveritasllc.com
Twitter: @TruthAgape
Email: ratkins@charisetveritasllc.com

Laura Wiley Haynes is a writer, a mother & grandmother, and a former CASA. Read her article on Wesley Yang’s Substack, Universal Early Childhood Daycare Has Been Proven to Damage the Children Who Have Been Through It.
  
Amy E. Sousa holds a MA in Depth Psychology. She is a women's rights activist, lecturer, and educator, with an expertise in embodiment. She holds one-on-one coaching, teaches classes, and facilitates workshops to help women strengthen their intuition. She also posts educational videos about embodiment & boundaries on her YouTube. Sousa has organized multiple rallies, protests, and free speech events on behalf of women/girls sex-based safeguarding provisions and against the unnecessary medicalization of children. For more about Amy follow her on Twitter, Instagram, & TikTok @KnownHeretic, on Substack theknownheretic.com, YouTube @KnownHeretic.

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"The Anxious Generation" by Jonathan Haidt
 00:00 Start
[00:00:21] Babygate 2024- Controversy Over Daycare
[00:06:20] Emotional impact of daycare separation.
[00:10:47] Controversy around daycare comments.
[00:12:45] Centering children's well-being.
[00:15:47] Ideal parenting and societal norms.
[00:22:33] Ideal childhood development strategies.
[00:25:36] Mother's role in teaching self-regulation.
[00:30:41] Importance of attachment.
[00:33:00] Moms and babies designed connection.
[00:37:31] Importance of mother-baby bonding.
[00:39:27] Shifting Parenting Styles.
[00:43:11] Women's reproductive choices and support.
[00:46:22] Misogyny in parenting culture.
[00:50:24] Devaluation of mothers.
[00:55:32] Motion and emotion.
[01:00:00] Building self-trust in children.
[01:04:00] The role of bonding and trust.
[01:07:23] The normalization of separating babies.
[01:12:08] Therapists sharing opinions online.
[01:14:48] Therapist-patient dynamics and opinions.
[01:20:29]

Mia Hughes, author of the recently released WPATH Files report, joins me today to discuss the medical scandal of our era. Together, we uncover the shocking revelations from the leaked files, exposing the mistreatment of vulnerable individuals seeking gender transition. 

We explore how the official-sounding “World Professional Association for Transgender Health” got its name, and whether that title is deserved or misleading. What happens when an organization with so much power strays from ethical standards and prioritizes political agendas over patient well-being? What role do autogynephiles play in leading the charge for widespread normalization of radical body modifications? How does the shift from ego-syntonic to ego-dystonic framing impact the treatment of psychiatric conditions, and what are the implications of the de-psychopathologization of gender identity for individuals seeking sex trait modifications?

Join us as we navigate the complexities of gender dysphoria, questioning the validity of medical pathways and the true motives behind the trans rights movement. Are we witnessing a dangerous trend of consumer-driven medicine at the expense of Hippocratic ethics?

Mia Hughes is an Ottawa-based British journalist and researcher for Michael Shellenberger's nonprofit Environmental Progress. She is the author of the WPATH Files report, which exposed the widespread medical mistreatment of children, adolescents and vulnerable adults in the field of gender-affirming care.

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Books mentioned in this episode:
The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, by Jonathan HaidtAll books mentioned on this podcast can be found at sometherapist.com/bookshop or by following the Amazon affiliate links. Thank you for purchases that support the show!

 00:00 Start
[00:00:00] Gender identity diagnosis controversy.
[00:07:18] The group's ideological shift.
[00:08:43] Gender-affirming care and WPATH.
[00:14:57] Questioning the motives of WPATH.
[00:18:00] Gender affirming medicine ethics.
[00:22:58] Medical necessity and experimental medicine.
[00:27:05] WPATH misled the public.
[00:28:26] Understanding hormone effects in kids.
[00:32:02] WPATH's two-faced nature.
[00:37:35] Embodiment and neural pathways.
[00:39:18] De-psychopathologizing sex trait modification.
[00:43:56] Pathology of gender identity disorder.
[00:48:07] Ego-syntonic framing of the issue.
[00:53:28] Autogynephilic men in transgender diagnosis.
[00:56:19] Borderline Personality Disorder and misdiagnosis.
[01:00:59] Multiple personality disorder resurgence.
[01:03:20] The importance of obtaining consent.
[01:10:50] Self-care challenges in transgender surgery.
[01:11:18] The reality of post-op recovery.
[01:16:52] Gender dysphoria and surgical decisions.
[01:20:16] The ethics of informed consent.
[01:23:42] Victim blaming in medical decisions.
[01:27:36] WPATH standards of care scandal.
[01:30:28] Detransition lawsuits and WPATH guidelines.
[01:34:38] The gentle approach in persuasion.
[01:41:08] Non-binary surgeries and ethics.
[01:43:45] Where to find Mia.
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This Earth Day, I’d like to honor the importance of our connection to the natural world by welcoming the insightful Derrick Jensen, an author and environmental activist whose work has profoundly influenced me from an early age. We explore the stark contrast between our knowledge of commercial jingles and movie stars versus our understanding of the stars in the sky and the edible plants in our own backyards. How has our relationship with nature changed so drastically over the centuries? And what does this mean for our souls and our future?

Derrick paints a vivid picture of a world teeming with life, a stark contrast to the ecological devastation we witness today. Can we truly comprehend the rapid pace of loss that's occurring right before our eyes? We discuss the concept of addiction, not just in terms of substances, but in how we've become enslaved to technology and convenience. What are the implications of this enslavement for our planet and our very humanity?

Join us as we grapple with these questions and consider the idea of communal decision-making. Could it be the key to balancing innovation with tradition, action with contemplation? And what might we learn from the Okanagan decision-making process that honors the perspectives of youth, elders, mothers, and fathers? Tune in to find out how we might navigate the complex relationship between our technological advancements and the natural world we seem to be drifting away from.

Hailed as the philosopher poet of the environmental movement, Derrick Jensen is author of twenty-five books, including The Myth of Human Supremacy, Endgame and A Language Older Than Words. He holds a degree in creative writing from Eastern Washington University, a degree in mineral engineering physics from the Colorado School of Mines, and has taught at Eastern Washington University and Pelican Bay State Prison. He has packed university auditoriums, conferences, and bookstores across the nation, stirring them with revolutionary spirit.

Books mentioned in this episode:
A Language Older Than Words by Derrick JensenAll books mentioned on this podcast can be found at sometherapist.com/bookshop or by following the Amazon affiliate links provided here. Thank you for purchases that support the show!

00:00 Start
[00:02:37] The world we've forgotten.
[00:05:07] Unimaginable abundance of wildlife.
[00:08:10] Love story with the land.
[00:14:27] Decline of Monarch Butterflies.
[00:17:40] Appreciating the stars at night.
[00:23:31] Nostalgia and envy.
[00:24:55] Envy for lost species.
[00:29:25] Communal decision making.
[00:34:27] Technologies shaping social structures.
[00:40:35] Trauma and warfare's impact.
[00:43:28] Deal making with technology.
[00:45:11] Addiction and enslavement concept
[00:50:49] Animistic view of the universe.
[00:53:30] The importance of perspective.
[00:57:33] Racially discriminatory practices in healthcare.
[01:04:25] Forgotten skills and cultural dynamics.
[01:06:12] Connection to Earth through meditation.
[01:10:26] Ecological grief.
[01:14:18] The lost ecstasy experience.
[01:20:28] The source of artistic inspiration.
[01:25:17] Human connection through traditions.
[01:26:53] The power of singing together.
[01:30:53] Nature observation in rainforest.
[01:34:41] The importance of boredom.
[01:39:22] Making music in nature.
[01:42:20] Greeting nature in new places.
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