Deeper Than Skin w/Ramia Ramia Coleman

Ramia speaks with David Scarlett founder of The Football Fortress and host of the Biassed Bruddas Podcast. David shares the many roads he has travelled to finally arrive at this destination in his life. He lauds his parents for their unwavering support that gave him the confidence to go after his interests which lead to him discovering the passion he had for sports journalism. He encourages the listeners to pivot hard and execute on their visions now, not later. Too many of us are waiting for perfect conditions and perfect alignment to make the first step. David encourages us to face our fears and have the humility to start small. Only in starting can we ever become great.

Pain is inevitable, but what kind of pain would you rather to have? Growing pains or stagnation pains? We can either face the pain of growing and sacrificing daily for the outcomes we want or we can delay the pain until there is a catastrophe. When there is a catastrophe, the guilt and shame usually drives us to create extreme habits that are largely unsustainable. Ramia explores how each type of pain looks and feels and how we can leverage the growing pains to make a better lives for ourselves.

Fear. This four letter word causes us so much unecessary pain. Ramia explores how most of the fears we have are rooted in lies and present no real danger to us, or at least not to the degree we imagine it. He goes on to show that most times the thibgs we fear would liberate us if we pursued them. Inspite of this, we choose to preserve the current conditions not realizing it is our jail and a more dangerous than the things we are afraid of. What are your fears? Are they rooted in lies? Ignorance? Let's face somd fears together!!!!

Ramia explores how limiting it is for hs to always orient our decision making towards pleasing people. Often we even neglect our own needs and desire just to get a "pat on the back" that leaves us feeeling empty and unfulfilled. He challenges us to question why we value the validation of others mlre tha creating meaning in our own lives. A live lived impressing people is a life devoid of joy, meaning and purpose. Does that sound appealing to you?

Ramia delves into the reality that the majority of us are not taking control of our destinies. We often neglect the work that needs to be done and drown ourselves in the distractions of the day. Instead of taking up the mantle we defer blame to our bosses, kids, the government, just about anything else except ourselves. Ramia challenges us to stop wasting our very finite lives looking on the lives of others, envying the lives of other, but never deciding the life we want or doing the work required to get it.

Ramia encourages listeners to start where they are. The pretentious layers we wear to seem more than or further than we are only stagnates us in the long run. He encourages us to be honest, vulnerable and to build internal points of security so that our identity is tied to our willingness to learn and grow rather than the illusion of perfection. The struggle to become and create is par the course and is not an indictment on our abilities. Struggle enthusiastically.