In Bed with Caoi Caoilfhionn - Pleasure and Purpose Coach

This week’s episode is a first, I’m really excited for you to listen to it! We’ve got Charlotte Faragher reading her poem ‘Not what you need’ on her experience of unrequited love as a disabled woman. Charlotte is a 32-year-old who lives in Oldham Manchester. She has lived with quadriplegic cerebral palsy since being born at 26 weeks.

About the episode:
You can follow along and read her poem here: https://chazzda16.blogspot.com/2023/01/not-what-you-need.htmlCharlotte shares the reality of sexuality as a disabled woman and how it’s raw, messy and excitingWhy its important to talk to people with disabilities like they’re normal people and not put them on pedestals aka calling them brave just for being out and about living their lives going dancing etcSociety puts physical and attitudinal barriers in the way for disabled people which blocks Charlotte from experiencing her life as fully as she wants to Attitudinal barriers against disabled people include pitying them and never being portrayed in a sexual way. This lack is demeaning, and means it’s less likely for disabled people to be in relationship. Those with disabilities are also more likely to experience physical abuse in relationshipSex educators need to do better about understanding and supporting disabled people’s sexual experiencesCharlotte wants her poem to go further into a short, filmed piece with a disabled actress in a filmed monologue. She’s looking for people to help, so please reach out to her if you feel inspired toMore about Charlotte:
Although she is very physically disabled, her mental abilities are not affected. As a result, she became acutely aware of the prejudices and challenges that befall people who are deemed different in society. She is a keen advocate for challenging harmful assumptions about disability and differences. She also highlights to the non-disabled community that even though disabled people do have some differences; they have the same dreams, life ambitions and hunger for a full and authentic life as anyone else. She often finds it devastating when she comes up against presumptions, that because she is very physically challenged, she must be mentally challenged also. This has led to a lack of self esteem and confidence. In order to further solidify her opinions on challenging assumptions around disability and what that means; she has written several articles on subjects such as sex and loneliness. She have also spoken on several popular podcasts to help promote further discussion around these issues including Disability after Dark, Aces Interviews and CP and Me.

You can find Charlotte online here:
https://www.facebook.com/charlotte.faragher.1
https://www.instagram.com/charlottefaragher/
https://twitter.com/YOCHARLOTTEF
cfaragher@sky.com

In this week's episode, I interview Sophia Babai. Sophia is a writer, embodiment worker, and climate activist. She helps people reconnect to their natural wisdom and heal their relationships with their bodies and their shadows, so they can fall wildly in love with their lives, their planet, and each other. Sophia studied embodiment at Yale University, The Somatic School in London, and the Strozzi Institute. 
In this week’s episode we covered:
✨ Organic Intelligence as a somatic practice for trauma resolution, and also for thriving and enjoying your life
✨ Sophia’s Kundalini practice, and how it works with energy in the body and heals blocks, and again how it encourages embracing love and expressing creativity
✨Sophia’s journey of being very productivity and achievement focused with 3 jobs and bodily pain to shifting instead towards being present in the moment and feeling pleasure 
✨Noticing the moment through the body, e.g. how fabric feels on your skin, stopping to smell the flowers and how that’s possible even when you’re in pain
✨How Sophia’s work supports people in letting themselves being loved, coming back to their body and back to the moment
✨How energy vampirism shows up in relationships aka when we’re giving out of obligation, we are in fact taking from people
✨How people who are martyrs, are often terrible at receiving because it doesn’t feel safe to receive
✨The power of nature when it comes to healing those who worry about taking from others
✨Why we need community for healing


Connect with Sophia at instagram.com/sophia.babai or tinyurl.com/somatic-guidance


Connect with Caoilfhionn: 
 https://www.caoinicc.com/about-me-invitation-to-1to1-coaching                        
 Instagram: @Caoilfhionn.nic.conmara                                                                        
 Facebook: @CaoiniccJoin her mailing list and download her Free Great Sex Guide here: https://mailchi.mp/f30c2254bf30/greatsxguide

In this week's episode, I interview Sasha Kerkmann Hood. Sasha is a Mother, Midwife, and Relationship & Sexuality coach, and teacher of intuition, and desire. She owns a business alongside her husband, Moritz, working with couples on creating partnerships that foster relationship to personal power, respect and care, deepening connection and intimacy. Sasha believes in living life guided by desire and fueled by connection purpose. In her 14 years of experience as a coach, she sees a thread of supporting women and couples who claim their power and autonomy, in Relationship to themselves, their partners, families and communities.


 In this week’s episode we covered


✨How Sasha got on the path of midwifery and what she sees it offering to mothers
✨How post partum is such a critical time for mothers
✨Why the post partum window is longer that the standard 3 month window and can in fact go as long as a few years
✨How Sasha prepared for the 40 day post birth window and what it involved and why it impacts a woman’s health for the rest of her life
✨How can we transform our culture to protect mothers and to have the option of a 40 day rest period available to all who want it
✨Why relationship coaching is not just for couples experiencing issues, it’s for all couples who want to build a strong foundation, a strong relationship
✨For couples starting a family, it’s important to have solid communication before you embark on this change
✨If you’re pregnant, prepare to need far more help and support than you expect
✨Why relationships need others to give reflection and support to each partner
✨The pattern of women looking to their partners for permission for their desire
✨The power of a desire inventory practice - to help you get in the practice of your own desire


Sasha Can be found online at awakened Intimacy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awakened_intimacy/
And on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@awakened_intimacy
As well as for all things birth and postpartum https://www.instagram.com/thewildrootbirth/

In this week's episode, I interview Deborah Kat. Deborah  is The Host of The Better Sex Podcast and The Better Sex for Couples Summit. As a Somatic Sexuality Coach, she works with both individuals and partners to enhance their sexual lives, and create relationships on their terms.
 
 In this week’s episode we covered
✨How Deborah and her partner have created a relationship that’s true for them that fits outside of standard gender roles
✨How everyone has masculine/feminine energy and it depends on the person on how that’s represented
✨When dating why it’s important to check in about how you feel around the person - e.g. are you grounded in the present? Are you inspired to be in your heart? Do you feel open or contracted? Is this someone you feel safe to be in your creativity?
✨Why Chemistry is amateur and limiting when looking for a long term relationship
✨How many people have the story ‘If I don’t do it, it won’t get done’ and how that can impact relationships
✨How to negotiate differences in standards and priorities in a relationship
✨Deborah shares her work with poly couples and how they work through designing their relationship configuration
✨How to cultivate fairness in a relationship without things having to be tit for tat
✨Why resentment is the relationship killer
✨Why love languages are helpful for creating connection and harmony in a relationship
✨How to treat your relationship like a practice lab using conscious practices
✨The different ways of determining success in a relationship
More About Deborah:
In addition to the Podcast she works with clients, hosts private intensives as well as leads monthly classes exploring the edges of sexuality and spirit. She combines her diverse background in Tantra, massage, and BDSM to support men and couples in clearing shame to have satisfying relationships and masterful sex. She firmly believes in the transformational power of desire and looks forward to utilizing her knowledge and experience in support of deeper surrender into bliss for all.

 Here is a link to The TurnedOn Membership: https://www.deborahkat.com/turnedon
And there is a discount for In Bed with Caoi listeners!
Follow Deborah Online:
https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/
https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat
https://www.facebook.com/askdeborahtantrakat

Connect with Caoilfhionn: 
https://www.caoinicc.com/about-me-invitation-to-1to1-coaching                       &nb

In this week's episode, I interview Mangala Holland. Mangala is a Women’s Empowerment and Sexuality coach, and facilitator of global group programs. She’s on a mission to help women and pussy-owners become empowered through loving themselves fiercely, celebrating their sexuality, and overcoming the fear, guilt and shame that keeps them playing small.
In this week's episode we covered:
✨What does it mean to be trauma informed
✨Why we need to go at the rate of slowest parts of ourselves
✨The importance of sexual expression coming from authentically within the practitioner instead of from copying what others are doing
✨Why True liberation is only true when it’s available for all 
✨How Mangala approaches anti-racism work in her business via working with mentors and bringing experts to teach in her programs
✨How the sexual wellness industry is becoming more mainstream
✨The harmful behaviour that Mangala has experienced and witnessed in the sexual wellness industry
More about Mangala:Having over a decade’s experience in the industry, her super power is helping women and vulva owners become deeply connected to their body, pleasure and orgasmic confidence, which is the natural birthright of everyone. 
She has a special talent in helping women in perimenopause and beyond access way more pleasure than they ever thought possible and believes that midlife is an opportunity for powerful, positive transformation.
She’s currently training the next generation of Embodied Female Pleasure facilitators and places a strong emphasis on self-love, embodiment and empowerment in her work, teaching in a no-bullshit, fluff-free, grounded, dogma-free style. 
https://mangalaholland.com/
Connect with Caoilfhionn: 
https://www.caoinicc.com/about-me-invitation-to-1to1-coaching                        
Instagram: @Caoilfhionn.nic.conmara
Facebook: @Caoinicc

In this week's episode, I interview Nichole London. Nichole is a mentor in the Arts of ritual healing. Bodyworker & Healer for 18 years. Founder of Ritual Academy and Sexy Cosmic Divinity. Owner of The Loving Well, (a community center for wellness)
In this week's episode we covered:
✨What is a ritual and how it can be used for integration and creating change in your life
✨Why creating new habits and patterns through the body is a faster experience of transformation
✨ How to embody your future self using ritual
✨ How to integrate and rest the child parts of you that have been leading and holding too much
✨ Sacred sex is our own experience of our own sexual energy
✨ Healing the body through being in relationship with it
✨ Why you can’t force or push the body when you are doing practices to heal it
✨ Nicole’s biggest awakening from picking up valley fever at burning man and how this lead to the awakening of her shamanic self
✨ Why nuance is critical when it comes to discussions and understanding of personal responsibility
✨ Why the void is the powerful place of creation
You can read more about Nichole's membership here:
https://nicholelondon.com/membership/?fbclid=PAAabKspYxxIzHJMohM_SJOohE68ar2h6bsGbyiMlDQ5OWWiLIxGdSR1w34Fc


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Connect with Caoilfhionn: 
https://www.caoinicc.com/about-me-invitation-to-1to1-coaching                        
Instagram: @Caoilfhionn.nic.conmara                                                                        
Facebook: @Caoinicc
Join her mailing list and download her Free Great Sex Guide here: https://mailchi.mp/f30c2254bf30/greatsxguide