The Imperfects

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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The Imperfects

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

  1. Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More

    6 DAYS AGO

    Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More

    How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like? These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all. In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew. However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh). Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour. So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4i1FETt 🎧Things to listen to: Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://apple.co/3yGPick Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7 📖 Things to read: Let Go by Hugh van Cuylenburg - https://bit.ly/4fpridx 💻 Things to check out: Fred Luskin’s research into Forgiveness - https://bit.ly/40DYgCC The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 5m
  2. Peter Bol - 800m & 3 Free Haircuts

    10 NOV

    Peter Bol - 800m & 3 Free Haircuts

    You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games. Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training. Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode. Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success. In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test. Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset. Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon. To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP 🎧 Things to listen to: How To Write A Gratitude Letter - https://apple.co/3NGhccf 📺 Things to watch: Peter Bol’s 2021 Olympic 800m Race - https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS 📱Apps to download BBL - https://bit.ly/4hldXVd   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 28m
  3. Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD

    3 NOV

    Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD

    In this long-awaited Academy of Imperfection, we chat to psychologist Janelle Booker, who specialises in ADHD and Highly Sensitive Person trait. There is SO MUCH to learn (and love) about an ADHD brain. We learn how ADHDers are often extremely creative, innovative, and talented, and in the right conditions, absolutely thrive. However, ADHDers may struggle with executive functions such as time keeping, organisation and emotional regulation, which can make daily life really hard and exhausting. People with ADHD can be more susceptible to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as dopamine boosting activities such as risk-taking behaviour, addiction and disordered eating. This is why seeking the right diagnosis and treatment plan can be really impactful.  With school as a battleground, and friendships sometimes hard to maintain, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat through how neurotypical people can be better allies and support systems to ADHDers, as friends, partners, employers, and parents. On a HSP note (not the snack pack, unfortunately), we bet a few of you might resonate with Janelle’s explanation, especially since 15-20% of the population have the Highly Sensitive Person trait. Janelle, it was an absolute pleasure, and we can’t believe we didn’t do this sooner. Janelle is based in Western Australia, and her practice Janelle Booker Psychology, will be accepting new clients in February 2025. Click here to find out more - https://bit.ly/3BZimwO To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NPDDf7 💻 ADHD Resources to check out: ADHD Foundation Australia Hotline - https://adhdfoundation.org.au/adhd Stardust Support - https://www.stardustsupport.com.au/ Curtin University ADHD Support Group - https://bit.ly/40fIm14 For support groups at other universities, contact your counselling or psychology service 🎧 Things to listen to: Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf Dr. Emily - Truth vs Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7 📖 Things to read: Elaine Aron’s work on HSP - https://bit.ly/4eYlO9H Research paper on ADHD genes - https://go.nature.com/3YGcgui 📺 Things to watch: ADHD Meme Account Recommended by Ryan - https://bit.ly/3YrxwCt The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 28m
  4. Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious)

    27 OCT

    Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious)

    Chef extraordinaire, creative genius and owner of Attica, Ben Shewry is welcomed back to the studio, this time into the Vulnerabilitea House. In this episode, Ben answers the question, “When was a time you stayed silent, and regretted it?” and talks about his own culpability in racism, and how this event shaped the person that he is today. Hugh and Josh share a moment they wish they could have back, and how they have been moving through the shame to do better next time. In determining what success means to him, Ben talks so graciously about how showing sensitivity and love within relationships leads to deeper connections, and a more enriching life. Ben, we’re IN LOVE with you. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/s2ZnJ1fw35w 📖 Things to read: Uses for Obsession by Ben Shewry - https://bit.ly/4f8Z6eA 🎧 Things to listen to: Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ Rana Hussain - Belonging for Connection - https://apple.co/3NwftWC Slip Slidin’ Away by Paul Simon - https://bit.ly/3NyRqGL 🍴Things to check out: Attica - https://www.attica.com.au   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    55 min
  5. What's Your ATAR?

    24 OCT · BONUS

    What's Your ATAR?

    It’s tiiimmmmeeee, to get vulnyyyyy (again). And this time, we’re talking about year 12 exams. With the WHOLE TEAM! Whether you’ve hid a possum in your cupboard the night before your English exam, or lost your voice on stage in your drama final, or maybe didn’t even take exams, we’ve been there, and we’re here to tell you, it will be okay. So, get out your papers and pens (do kids still use these?), sit down and enjoy. Love, The Imperfects. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YkRBuk See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    48 min
  6. Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation

    20 OCT

    Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation

    As an author, journalist and broadcaster, Dr Julia Baird has spent the last decade researching awe, wonder, grace and forgiveness (...and now the title makes sense!). Finding joy and purpose through ocean swimming, Julia shows us how impactful nature and community can be when we say yes to adventure (and also what to do when caught in a rip). With Josh out sick, Ryan and Hugh do the heavy lifting with bountiful good questions, Ryan becomes enlightened and discovers the meaning behind church (no really, he’s onto something), and Hugh and Ryan get deep with Julia and discuss the role of justice in forgiveness and the place of grace in today’s society. Julia, it was such an honour, and definitely a name ticked off our dream-guest bucket list. To watch the full episode on YouTube click here - https://youtu.be/3Xjy4eABOQ4 🎧Things to listen to: Not Stupid podcast with Julia Baird and Jeremy Fernandez - https://apple.co/4h3mhIS Grace Tame - “Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism” - https://apple.co/404jXv7 All that really matters - Teddy Swims - https://bit.ly/3NmAt26 Renegades: Born in the USA with Barack Obama and Bruce Springsteen - https://apple.co/3BJbhQW 📖 Things to read Julia Baird’s ‘Staying Upright’ ABC column - https://ab.co/4f31HGN Phosphorescence by Julia Baird - https://bit.ly/3Y2MK0M Bright Shining by Julia Baird - https://bit.ly/4eNfaCX Silent Spring by Rachel Carlson - https://bit.ly/3NpOhcf The Sense of Wonder by Rachel Carlson - https://bit.ly/3A5UPcP The Sound of a Wild Snail Eating by Elisabeth Tova Bailey - https://amzn.to/3A1w3L1 AWE by Dacher Keltner - https://amzn.to/3BGEk7E The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga 📺 Things to watch Barack Obama singing Amazing Grace - https://bit.ly/3BG1WsV The Pool documentary - https://thepoolfilm.au 🌊 Information about Ocean Swimming Groups Phosphorescence Swimming Group (Melbourne) - https://bit.ly/488EWPp Margaret River Swimming Group - https://ab.co/4dKT02P   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 14m
  7. Jack Post-Natal Depression

    13 OCT

    Jack Post-Natal Depression

    The birth of a child is completely overwhelming, in every way. What gets you through is your newfound love and connection. Right? But what happens when your heart doesn’t break open with love? What happens when you don’t feel what you’re meant to be feeling? Jack Post is a pillar of Australian radio. Cackling Jack of Hamish and Andy, Side-Kick of the Christian O’Connell Show, Jack has worked hard to always be in the right place at the right time. In this Vulnerabilitea House, Jack is so remarkably honest about his experience with post-natal depression. The shame, the unbearable expectation, the support, and the newfound self-love, Jack shares his journey and the hard work that he has done to get here. This is not an easy conversation, but it is such a very important one. We don’t have favourites, but this episode is an exception. Jack, it was an honour speaking to you. We love you so much. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/1ly4jm4vrqA 🎧 Things to listen to: Hamish & Andy Podcast- https://apple.co/47YDVJC The Christian O’Connell Breakfast Show - https://bit.ly/47VdSTK Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://apple.co/4gWYZEs 💻 Things to check out: SYN FM Radio Program - https://bit.ly/47WXhis If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression, these are a few great resources: PANDA - https://panda.org.au DadSpace - https://www.dadspace.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 4m
  8. Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement

    10 OCT · BONUS

    Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement

    We’re gettin’ vullllnnnnyyyyy. Oooohhhhh yeahhhhhh. Yeah, that’s right. We’re trying something new. And, in the coolest way possible, we really hope you like it. Specifically, Josh is gettin’ vulny, and letting us in on a little something he’s been working on (or hoping to work on) (he’s nervous). We’re so proud of you Josh, and we can’t wait to see everyone there x TO BUY TICKETS TO JOSH’S GIG (!!!!!) - follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zG9XxG To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YiWANo 🎧 Things to listen to: The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh van Cuylenburg - https://apple.co/4dKKbpI Vulnerability Update - Josh Wrote a Song! - https://bit.ly/3Nld9BV James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://bit.ly/3XZhQGr 📺 Things to watch: we were here - Josh van Cuylenburg Official Video - https://bit.ly/405eFzs Nick Cave Australian Story - https://bit.ly/4858zRY See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    23 min
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

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  • Creator
    Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2024
  • Episodes
    199
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    Clean
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    © 2024 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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