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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive.

You studied for years, you're really good at what you do but you've noticed that you're starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you've spent years working towards.

Here's the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don't have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable.

It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again.

Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it's like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she'll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.

You Are Not A Frog Dr Rachel Morris

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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive.

You studied for years, you're really good at what you do but you've noticed that you're starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you've spent years working towards.

Here's the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don't have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable.

It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again.

Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it's like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she'll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.

    3 Conversations Which Will Get You Unstuck with Annie Hanekom

    3 Conversations Which Will Get You Unstuck with Annie Hanekom

    Annie Hanekom joins us to share the three important conversations you need to have — with yourself and with others — to help you get unstuck. We discuss the importance of having meaningful conversations and the weight it carries on your mindset and wellbeing.
    Episode Highlights
    [03:23] The Importance of Meaningful Conversations
    The conversation is the relationship and thus carries a lot of weight.[06:43] What People Are Going Through Now
    There seems to be a lag in people’s behaviours because of exhaustion.Physical fatigue can be fixed by rest, whereas depletion needs social connection.[11:56] What’s In Your Control?
    If you start focusing on the things you can control, that zone of power grows and helps you feel empowered.[18:41] The Power of Focusing on What You Can Control
    Focus on what you can really control and trust in the process.[20:26] Where Is Your Focus?
    Are the things you’re focusing on driving you towards the things that really matter?[23:34] The Danger of Being Addicted to Busyness
    Being busy does make people feel good about themselves, but only temporarily.It could easily lead to burnout and severe fatigue.[28:23] Focusing on the Long-Term
    How you achieve things might look different if you focus on your zone of power.[31:13] Thinking Partnerships
    Thinking partnerships is where you have meaningful conversations with a partner. These allow you to uncover a sustainable, useful solution to your conundrum.[36:10] What Story Are You Telling?
    By starting conversations with ‘The story I’m telling myself…’, you begin to address the fact that the story may not be true.[40:52] Determining Your Intentions
    Dig deeper into your intentions and reflect on what you want to achieve in your conversation.[44:09] Annie’s Three Top Tips
    Pause and catch yourself.Pay attention to your intentions.Focus on the long-term possibilities.Enjoyed This Podcast?
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    • 49 min
    How to Reconnect With Your Purpose in Life with Dr Richard Pile

    How to Reconnect With Your Purpose in Life with Dr Richard Pile

    Dr Richard Pile and Rachel do a deep dive into what it means to have a meaningful, purpose-driven life. We also explore the concept of ikigai and how you can use this to determine your purpose, so that you can enjoy your work more and ultimately unlock your potential to live life to its fullest.
    Episode Highlights
    [05:51] Is Purpose a Given for Doctors?
    Everyone, including doctors, can benefit from thinking about their reason for being.When your purpose is tied to your job, your profession can become all-consuming.[10:04] Defining Purpose
    Purpose has layers, including your values, beliefs, likes, dislikes, and what matters to you. [12:35] The Consequences of Lack of Purpose
    Not contemplating your meaning and purpose can affect your health and wellbeing.[16:00] Are Meaningful Relationships Part of Your Purpose?
    Only focusing inward hampers you from unlocking your full potential.Purpose alone isn’t good enough; you need to have balance.[19:06] The Current GP Situation
    General practice has never been busier than it is now.The best thing a GP can do to care for their patients is to first take care of themselves.[21:03] How to Avoid Overwhelm
    Reflect on the balance in your life and make sure it's sustainable for years to come. [22:29] Reconnecting with Your Meaning and Purpose through Ikigai
    ‘Ikigai’ is a Japanese term meaning reason for being.It looks at purpose as the intersection of four circles: what you love, what you’re good at, what you can get paid for, and what the world needs.[29:43] Give Yourself Time
    The starting point in finding your purpose is giving yourself time to think about it.[36:08] Exploring Ikigai
    The Japanese conceptualisation of ikigai doesn’t focus much on career.If you’ve got a purpose and meaning, you’re better able to cope with life's struggles. [38:43] Spirituality and Space
    Fragmenting our physical, mental, and spiritual aspects always ends badly.[44:24] Richard’s Top Three Tips
    Give yourself time to take stock.Reflect on the ikigai concept.Determine your next steps after reflecting.Enjoyed This Podcast?
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    Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!
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    • 48 min
    How to Delegate, Do It, or Drop It with Anna Dearmon Kornick

    How to Delegate, Do It, or Drop It with Anna Dearmon Kornick

    Anna Dearmon Kornick teaches us strategies for managing time and determining when to delegate. She also explains why time management is heart management. When you get clear on your vision, goals, and values, you can do more of what matters to you. 
    Episode Highlights
    [08:48] How to Have More Control in Your Day
    Mentally walking through your day allows you to anticipate problems in advance and come up with solutions. When you know your schedule, you can also give your breaks a purpose. [13:02] How to Manage Admin Time
    The most effective meetings have agendas and a step-by-step flow.[15:26] Creating an Agenda Checklist for Admin Time
    Creating the sequence of tasks in your agenda mostly depends on personal preference.One thing that might help is the time management technique called ‘Eat that frog,’ where you start your day by doing the toughest or most important task. You can also try the 15-minute rule. [19:03] Set Expectations with Your Agenda
    Set expectations with others who may want to steal your attention during admin time.Admin time needs to be protected to serve its purpose.[20:54] Combating Distractions
    We have been conditioned to respond anytime someone reaches out.To combat this, have a notepad to write down the ‘shiny things’ that derail your focus.[24:37] The Importance of Delegation
    Understand the process required to complete a task and give the person what they need to succeed.The best way to delegate is to capture the steps into a workflow. [28:58] Creating a Workflow
    Use language that the person you delegated will understand.Make sure there are no gaps and room for assumptions. [32:23] Learning Period in Delegation
    Mistakes will be made when you delegate. Think of the worst thing that could happen in your workflow. Then, come up with a safety net for the person to take on the task.[34:43] Delegating Outside Work
    What home and personal activities you can outsource to get your time back?[39:13] Determining What to Keep and What to Delegate
    Zero in the activities falling in your zone of genius.[43:40] Spending More Time in Your Zone of Genius
    Think hard about what things you should be delegating.This passion and proficiency lens opens up awareness about how you spend and how you want to spend your time.[45:52] Top Three Tips
    Create a vision for the future and the life you want.Set goals.Articulate core values. Enjoyed This Podcast?
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    Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. 
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    • 50 min
    How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim with Dr Caraline Wright & Dr Lizzie Sweeting

    How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim with Dr Caraline Wright & Dr Lizzie Sweeting

    In this episode, Dr Caraline Wright and Dr Lizzie Sweeting discuss the second victim phenomenon. They explain why patient safety incidents are occupational hazards and how they can affect healthcare providers. Finally, they share tips on how to avoid second victimhood and how to provide support.
    Episode Highlights
    [04:31] What is a Second Victim?
    A second victim is a healthcare provider who becomes traumatised due to an unanticipated adverse patient event.[05:33] How Patient Safety Relates to Second Victimhood 
    Up to 50% of healthcare system staff can be second victims. They can experience a range of effects, from acute stress to suicidal ideation. [06:59] Determining Second Victimhood 
    The shame and guilt from a patient safety incident differ from the distress and fatigue from normal workplace pressures.[10:17] Caraline’s Experience with Second Victimhood 
    She oversaw a man with a long history of depression and alcoholism. He got better, so she reduced the frequency of his appointments.Shortly after, he patient committed suicide. Over the next 6-12 months, she struggled with trauma, avoidance, guilt, and anxiety.[14:37] Post-Second Victimhood
    Second victims tend to shift to a defensive practice or leave the career altogether.Shame also hinders them from sharing their experience. [21:52] How to React to Patient Safety Incidents
    Know that patient safety incidents are occupational hazards.Organisations must provide quick and appropriate responses.[28:44] How to Support Second Victims
    Listen with fascination. Just let them talk and explain, even if you’ve not felt like that yourself. Let them know that lots of people feel the same way.[34:06] Lizzie and Caraline’s Message About Second Victimhood 
    Don’t be afraid to share your story, as it can be valuable to others.Having one another to talk things through can be helpful. [35:59] The Impact of COVID-19 on Second Victimhood
    Working remotely has caused us to become removed from one another, as we can’t create connections as well. However, with effort, we can still create spaces online. [38:07] Caraline and Lizzie’s Top Three Tips
    Know that second victimhood exists. Have a support system.Be kind to yourself and your colleagues.Enjoyed This Podcast?
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    • 43 min
    How to Break Up With Your Toxic Relationship With Your Career with Dr Pauline Morris

    How to Break Up With Your Toxic Relationship With Your Career with Dr Pauline Morris

    In this episode, Dr Pauline Morris shares common pitfalls that create unsustainable work habits. She also explains why staying in your comfort zone can be detrimental to your performance.  Finally, we learn about self-care.
    Episode Highlights
    [02:55] Top Career Concerns From Doctors
    Many doctors think that they aren't in a work environment conducive to growth.Others are starting to rethink their careers in medicine.[05:32] Career Counselling in Medicine
    Most physicians are told to separate their personal lives from their professional ones.This mindset pushes people to ignore their preferences and personality traits when choosing career paths. [09:53] Problems with Work-Life Balance
    Doctors tend to have altruistic personalities and adopt a "patient first" perspective.[14:12] Three Common Issues
    Many doctors don't know what makes them happy and motivated to work.They tend to be perfectionists.The medical community looks down on career path changes. [17:53] Staying in Your Comfort Zone
    Doctors usually prefer to stay in their comfort zones because they know the expectations.They are also concerned with the comfort of their loved ones and the people around them.[21:28] Don’t Be a Passenger in Your Own Life
    You can change your circumstances, with deliberate action.[25:09] Career Counselling Tip: Introspect
    What do you enjoy? What are your strengths and values?[31:15] Career Counselling Tip: Cut Back on Perfectionism
    You can't do everything perfectly; you don’t need to. [36:01] Career Counselling Advice on Working with Your Strengths
    Get the perspective of other people to help you understand yourself.A career counsellor can improve your career satisfaction.[40:59] Diversifying Your Career
    Understand why you diversify. [44:55] Pauline's Top Three Tips
    Know yourself,  invest in yourself, and take time to align who you are and what you want to do.Enjoyed This Podcast?
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    • 49 min
    What to do About Bitching and Backbiting with Dr Edward Pooley

    What to do About Bitching and Backbiting with Dr Edward Pooley

    This week, Dr Edward Pooley teaches us how to respond when colleagues make inappropriate comments about others. He gives us concrete steps to prepare ourselves to speak up when the situation requires. 
    Episode Highlights
    [05:05] Finding Yourself in an Uncomfortable Conversation
    These conversations usually fall under three categories. The first two are more permissible, while the third is more serious. [09:01] Letting Off Stream vs Something More Serious
    If it’s the latter, advise them carefully to have a word with the person in question.If the line jumps to criticism on protected characteristics, speak up firmly. [12:17] Speak Up Using Ed’s Four-Step Confrontation Process
    Ed’s stepwise approach allows you to avoid triggering shame and defensiveness when you speak up. [14:35] Hearing Someone Complain About Another Person
    Encourage them to think about the person in question’s point of view. [18:02] The Consequences of Constant Backbiting in the Workplace
    You’ll assume that when you make a mistake, others will talk about you too.[20:44] When It’s Just Flat Out Bitching
    Think about whether there will be a negative outcome if this communication persists.If what they’re doing has a direct impact on your work environment, speak up. [24:17] Encouraging a Negative Colleague
    Ask yourself: Are they able to do their responsibilities with their viewpoint?It’s about engaging that person to do what they need to do because it’s valuable to them.[29:20] The Importance of a Critic
    Some people see all the possible flaws and pitfalls of an idea. This trait isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Critical people lend organisations a different perspective. [31:57] Some Strategies to Help You Speak Up
    Have a series and sequence of phrases you can go to.Make your presence known.Ask them to clarify what they mean. [35:13] Thinking It’s Not Your Place to Speak Up
    It’s your place to speak up.If you don’t, you can get implicated when the subject files a formal complaint.[38:58] Some Helpful Resources and Ed’s One Great Tip
    The first thing you need to do is to speak up. How you’re going to say it can come later. Enjoyed This Podcast?
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    • 40 min

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I absolutely love this podcast - it breaks the taboos around talking about the struggles of living and working as a doctor. It has made me feel less alone and less guilty for the times when I am struggling with my workload and hate my job (anaesthetic consultant), only to be told repeatedly that what we do is ‘so valuable and we should feel so privileged’. This podcast allows space to explore those feelings without guilt or shame and offers really useful and practical ways to reframe these thoughts, regain a feeling of control over your time and help assuage the guilt of not living in a perpetual state of altruistic bliss! I can’t recommend it highly enough.

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