Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

A.J. Mahari
  • 0.0 (0)
  • MENTAL HEALTH
  • EVERY TWO WEEKS
Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.  https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts https://survivngbpdbreakup.com https://survivingaborderline.com https://codependency.ca

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying

    BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying When people with BPD (usually untreated) are called out their abusive behaviour, words, actions, they deny, deflect, and defend. Is this because they have "memory loss" - they don't really know or remember what they did? Even when showed evidence they don't take any personal responsibility - they weaponize it and claim you have victimized them. It's crazy-making. Do they have memory loss or are people with BPD lying to escape personal responsibility and accountability? Why Codependents need to know what you know and believe that and not give any person with Borderline Personality the benefit of the doubt. People with BPD when you try to hold them accountable will turn it around on you and blame you for what they often are lying about saying they "don't remember" because they incapable of actually taking responsibility and/or accountability or doing anything about what you've called out because they can't repair ruptures either. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcast This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    1h 15m

  2. 1 JUN

    Wanting a BPD Ex Back The Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions

    Want a BPD Ex Back? Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions Want a BPD Ex back? It's the fantasy bond and wanting answers to unanswered questions. Questions that most (especially untreated) with Borderline Personality don't know the answers to. They are too defended, more often than not, to even try to "communicate" with you.  The fantasy of getting a BPD Ex back after they ghost you and END a relationship - it really has an end that most won't, don't and/or can't accept. It's fantasy bonds and unconscious Codependent repetition compulsions that continue to drive your limbo of lostness and agony with you believing you can somehow get them back, get answers, to make it work. That just does not work and you continue to abandon yourself in this process. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcast This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    38 min
  3. Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted

    26 MAY

    Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted

    Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted Unknowingly loving a Borderline and suddenly ghosted? Wondering what on earth just happened? Maybe you know now you were loving a Borderline and were suddenly ghosted. It's a terribly traumatic experience knowingly or unknowingly. Many in wanting the BPD Ex back relationship recycle and may have been ghosted multiple times. Everyone wants the Borderline back immediately. The pain of being ghosted is terrible. Many just want that pain to go away not realizing that if you can get your BPD Ex back you are only going to find temporary relief from your pain due to intermittent reinforcement - which will not last, just like these relationships and relationship recycling don't last. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    31 min
  4. BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?

    13 MAY

    BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?

    BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work? In a BPD on/off relationship? Are you wondering, can I change, like heal some Codependency, and have more energy and tolerance to make a BPD relationship work? Have you been ghosted and so want your BPD Ex back? Maybe you've been discarded, and you are emotionally terrified that you won't hear from that person  ever again? What can you do to change? Anything? Can it work? https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcast Website This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    1h 4m
  5. BPD Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate

    8 MAY

    BPD Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate

    Borderline Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate As a BPD survivor, I recovered almost 40 years ago, I explain the deep and extremely pervasive abyss of Borderline Personality and the profound disconnectedness that drives all aspects of Borderline behaviour (abuse) and inability to relate in healthy, consistent, or congruent, even remotely healthy ways in relationships.  https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcast Website This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    1h 19m
  6. Want BPD Ex Back and Holding Out Hope?

    5 MAY

    Want BPD Ex Back and Holding Out Hope?

    Want BPD Ex Back Holding Out Hope? Are you holding out hope that you can get your BPD Ex back? Like so many people, most with Codependence, many Ex's of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, continue to give so much power and control of their lives, and selves to a person with BPD.  If you really believe that you need to contact your BPD Ex because if they respond angrily or in further devaluation of you then, and only then, they will "force" you into to having to accept that the "relationship is really over?" Your relationship is, actually, already over. If you make contact and reverse hoover your BPD Ex and they devalue you again, you are not going to be able to actually then just move on. You are trapped in the fantasy bond and the deeper trauma bond. Therapy is your only way out of all the pain and rumination. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcast Website This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    46 min
  7. BPD Emotional Arrested Development & Object Other Relating

    1 MAY

    BPD Emotional Arrested Development & Object Other Relating

    BPD Arrested Emotional Development and Object Other Relating BPD arrested emotional development and Object Other Relating. For more people than not with Borderline Personality (male and female) their early childhood emotional development arrests by or before the age of 2 years. People with BPD and/or all the patterns of BPD were not able in childhood to go through the crucial stages of early childhood development and that arrested emotional development is when and why people with BPD don't know who they are. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcast Website This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    40 min
  8. Lost Yourself To A Borderline?

    23 APR

    Lost Yourself To A Borderline?

    Lost Yourself To A Borderline? Have you lost yourself to Borderline? A partner, Ex partner, girlfriend or boyfriend, or person close to you with Borderline Personality Disorder? Are you aware of Codependency? Are you learning any helpful lessons? One man blames God, calling him a "farce" after a relationship with a woman, who "trapped him into her getting pregnant" and now thinks the "farce relationship" was his relationship to and with God, when it was really the BPD relationship. This man whose comments I respond to also thinks, now, that God can't exists because Borderlines exist. Whether you can relate or not to this man's blaming God instead of the person with BPD and taking his small piece of personal responsibility or not please listen to see if you can relate and substitute your own lostness and feeling separated by something you valued in your life and/or about yourself before the devastation of the BPD relationship. ajmahari.ca/sessions survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcast Website This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    56 min
See All (158)

About

A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.  https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts https://survivngbpdbreakup.com https://survivingaborderline.com https://codependency.ca

Information

You Might Also Like

To listen to explicit episodes, sign in.

Stay up to date with this show

Sign in or sign up to follow shows, save episodes and get the latest updates.
Select a country or region

Africa, Middle East, and India

Asia Pacific

Europe

Latin America and the Caribbean

The United States and Canada