An Evolving Man Podcast Piers Cross

 Today I talk about the importance of joy. 

When we begin on the journey of childhood trauma healing it can become all consuming. 

Life can become really hard - lots of tears, feeling pain. 

It can feel overwhelming. 

But part of the healing is to remember the joy. 

So today I talk about the importance of remembering happiness, gratitude and joy. 

Warm regards, Piers 
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community


Many blessings,

Piers Cross

http://piers-cross.com/

 Today I talk about workaholism and childhood trauma. 

Why can't you stop working? 

Especially if you had experiences of childhood trauma? 

I also talk about the link to boarding school. 

Why is that many who have been to boarding school are workaholics? 

I talk about some of the techniques that we can use to start stopping. 

Now.

Take care, 

Piers 
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community


Many blessings,

Piers Cross

http://piers-cross.com/

 What is the power of grief? 

What if you can't stop crying? Is this normal? 

How important is grief on the path to healing? 

Today I talk about tears and the importance of crying as we start to heal on the recovery journey. 

I share from the work of Pete Walker and Complex PTSD and from Dr Judith Herman and her book, Trauma and Recovery. 

Is it important to grieve? 

Take care, Piers 
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community


Many blessings,

Piers Cross

http://piers-cross.com/

 Is it common for people who have been to boarding school to have suicidal ideation? 

And how many people have actually attempted suicide or taken their own life while at boarding school? 

Today I share stories from Richard Branson's autobiography Losing My Virginity, Sir Ranulph Fiennes' Mad, Bad and Dangerous to Know and Roald Dahl' biography. 

I also share some quotes from Alex Renton and his book, Stiff Upper Lip and Pete Walker's book, Complex PTSD. 

If you are feeling suicidal then please do contact Samaritans in the UK: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/ 
Or in the US: https://afsp.org/im-having-thoughts-of-suicide/ 

And for my interview with Charles Spencer: https://youtu.be/NJBGrRdgKm8?si=tXZP5K7rhat1THu3 

And for episode #91 with a paediatrician who I went to boarding school with: https://youtu.be/Aa8eicN-G0A?si=x4qbGcVmvcJI-wp6 

Take care,

Piers
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community


Many blessings,

Piers Cross

http://piers-cross.com/

PLEASE NOTE: We talk about sexual abuse in this episode which some viewers may find triggering. 
Today's episode is with author Charles Spencer.
As I was preparing for the interview a line in his book really jumped out: "many of us left Maidwell with demons sewn into the seams of our souls."

What a heart-breaking and powerful turn of phrase.

One that I can really resonate with.

Today he talks about his childhood sexual abuse at boarding school, bullying, his sister, Diana, going off to boarding school and the impact of boarding school on children. 
And what about the path of healing - what are the therapies and exercises that he has used to start healing? A very touching and powerful testimony to the legacy of boarding schools. 

What does he think of under 13 boarding schools?

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Charles Spencer is an author, a broadcaster, a podcaster, a British peer and the younger brother of  the late Diana, Princess of Wales. He has recently published a memoir about his time at boarding  school called, A Very Private School.

Questions for Charles:
1. I would love for you to share what drew you to write your memoir? Why now?
2. When did you first start to realise the impact that your boarding school experiences had had on you?
3. When you think of Maidwell, what's the one word that comes to mind?
4. In your interview with Laura Kuenssberg you mentioned how your sister, Diana, said to your father when she was left at boarding school, “If you loved me, you wouldn't leave me here” How did your sister leaving for boarding school impact you?
5. “What we suffered was not just a separation from all that we knew and loved, but an 
amputation. ...it lacked the most important quality of a home: it was without love.”(P.9) 
How did it impact you, to be without love?
6. The physical violence. What went on at Maidwell regarding physical violence and 
discipline? (P.68) (P.87)
7. “To keep his abusive system intact, Jack relied on concealment, collusion and cunning.” (P101) Could you please explain?
8. Bullying. Could you please talk us through some of the bullying you experienced and 
witnessed? (P.189-199)
9. Sexual abuse. If you feel comfortable to share, what happened when you were 11? (P.206-216)
10. The political ramifications. How might the decision making of leaders who have been to these schools be affected?
11. “Fascinating aberration” (P.6) What do you feel about boarding now? Do we need to open a debate into this practice? Do we need to abolish early boarding? What are your thoughts?
12. Other topics to talk about:
1. Showing emotions or “blubbing” (P.62)
2. Abandonment (P.64)
3. “I had been sent away because I had somehow fallen short as a son.” (P.107)
4. Making yourself sick in order to get an adult to show me warmth and sympathy (P.108



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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community


Many blessings,

Piers Cross

http://piers-cross.com/

Today I wanted to offer a review of Charles Spencer's new book, A Very Private School. 

I spoke to Charles on Monday on my podcast which will be going live here on Friday: https://youtu.be/NJBGrRdgKm8 

It was a really great conversation where Charles was very open about his boarding school experiences talking about sexual abuse, bullying, corporal punishment, his sister, Diana Princess of Wales and the ending of early boarding school. 

Here I talk about some of the quotes and segments of the book that really stood out for me. 

For last week's podcast with a paediatrician who I went to boarding school with please find it here: https://youtu.be/Aa8eicN-G0A 

#charlesspencer #boardingschool #boardingschoolsyndrome #averyprivateschool 

Take care, Piers 
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community


Many blessings,

Piers Cross

http://piers-cross.com/