Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon Heather Shannon

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ABOUT THE EPISODE
Hey, lovely listeners! Today we’re tackling some deeply interesting listener questions about vaginismus, guilty pleasures, and sexual fantasies. Trust me, you don't want to miss this one--my cat even makes an appearance! 🌟🐾
We're chatting about practical strategies for managing vaginismus, letting go of guilt when it comes to pleasure, and exploring when sexual fantasies are helpful and when they're actually preventing connecting with your real life partner. Whether you're on the road or walking your dog, tune in for some enlightening and heartfelt advice. 💫
What You'll Learn:
🌬️ The importance of natural breathing and pelvic floor relaxation.
🌸 Navigating the sensitive topic of vaginismus and its emotional impact.
💭 What to do when you're attracted to your partner in your mind, but not in practice.
🤔 The importance of feeling emotionally safe when it comes to sex.
🪞 The beauty of letting go of shame and fully enjoying your pleasures.
Click play and let's make this episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist" a highlight of your week! 🎧❤️
00:00 Announcements including courses and community forum.
06:14 Difficulty achieving pleasure and anxiety over intercourse.
09:58 Options for treatment for vaginismus and resources.
11:58 Males have diverse sexual preferences and beliefs.
15:43 "Existential Kink" explores embracing and transforming shame.
19:31 Understanding and supporting partner with erectile dysfunction.
22:29 Emotional safety is crucial for libido.
24:28 Difficulty with sex might stem from emotions.
27:32 Free dirty talk guide for podcast listeners.
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SIMILAR EPISODES
071: The Top 5 Sex Blockers - https://pod.fo/e/22a9d3079 Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/23dfe4
THEMES EXPLORED
sex therapy, libido, masturbation, sexual intimacy, erectile dysfunction, vaginismus, endometriosis, internal family systems, podcasting course, sexual censorship, non-monogamy, sex education, sexual anxiety, clitoral orgasm, dilator therapy, pelvic floor physical therapy, sexual pleasure, relationship intimacy, fantasy during sex, sexual arousal, shame and stigma, attachment...

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Ever thought about being in a throuple? Regardless of whether it's for you, I bet you're curious about this unique relationship structure!
Tune in with Heather's guests, Dr. Rachael Meir and her partners Aaron and Casey for a truly unique episode.
Get answers to your questions like:
Is sex always a threesome?What's the biggest perk of being in a 3-person relationship?How do they handle living in a world made for 2-person relationsihps?Is doing household chores really easier with 3 people?
Plus, find out what monogamous people can learn from polyamorous relationships!
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WORK WITH HEATHER:
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SIMILAR EPISODE
Episode 13 - Is monogamy realistic? https://pod.fo/e/166e5e 
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🎧 Hey there, curious minds! Are you wondering if you're simply blessed with a high libido or if you have a sex or p**n addiction? Or maybe you've been wondering if your partner's porn behavior is healthy. Today, I unpack the differences between having a healthy, high sex drive and what it looks like when things turn into a compulsion.
I'll also sprinkle in some tips on how to balance that fiery drive without letting it take over your life. This is one episode will finally offer you clarity on what is problematic and what is simply hot and spicy. 🌶️
Tune in to Discover:
- The difference between a high libido and sex addiction
- How to identify if sexual behaviors are interfering with your life
- The role of shame and stigma in compulsive behaviors
- The benefits of self-acceptance and open communication
- Treatment options and resources for those who need it
Time Stamps:
00:00 Intro to podcast and today's topic
04:40 Physical health and mental well-being affect sex drive.
08:54 Understanding sexual needs, communication, and signs of addiction.
11:43 Embracing mindfulness, and a healthy lifestyle.
15:09 Moderate p**n consumption can enhance sexuality.
19:02 Using sex or masturbation as stress relief.
20:40 Sex and love addicts Anonymous's dating rule.
24:11 Rehab center options and resources for addiction.
Episode Links:
Heather's Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Book a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call, grab Heather's freebies, check out podcast transcripts and more!
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Leave a voicemail question for our next Listner Q & A episode or give podcast feedback for Heather - https://HeatherShannon.co/podcast
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Themes and Keywords We Explore
sex addiction, high sex drive, compulsive sexual behavior, sex therapy, p**n addiction, certified sex therapist, AASECT, out of control sexual behavior, internal family systems, mindfulness, impulsivity, masturbation, sexual stigma, dopamine, risky behavior, emotional dysregulation, 12-step groups, SMART recovery, sex therapists, rehab centers, sexual validation.


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Show Summary
In this delightful episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," I interview the legendary Dr. Betty Martin about the magical realms of mindful touch and the captivating Wheel of Consent. And she makes me cry, LOL! 🥹
🌟 Dr. Martin shares her experiences and teachings from decades of touching people. As we explore her book The Art of Receiving and Giving, let's explore a place where boundaries are respected, desires are honored, and pleasure is celebrated. 🌈
Join us as we learn about the transformative power of intentional touch and the art of giving and receiving with openness and authenticity. Your sex life is about to get a major upgrade!🌺
What You'll Learn:
🛞 Discover the concept of "the Wheel of Consent" and its profound impact on understanding giving and receiving in physical touch.
🤗Uncover the dynamics of touch within relationships through the lens of Dr. Betty Martin's insightful quadrants - serve, accept, take, and allow.
🙏 Learn how past conditioning and experiences can hinder our ability to ask for what we want and embrace our desires with confidence.
⏳ Explore the transformative potential of the "Three Minute Game" in healing past wounds and building trust in setting boundaries and expressing needs.
💡 Gain insights into the importance of non-sexual touch and affection in fostering intimacy and connection in relationships. 💫
✨ Press play for some essential knowledge when it comes to sensuality, sex and touch! 🎧💖
Time Stamps
00:00 Wheel of consent: A recurring, focused practice.
04:02 Difficulty in receiving limits our ability to give.
11:01 The wheel of consent: 2 questions, 3 minutes.
17:49 Learning to notice and accept personal boundaries.
26:54 Touch is a primary human need, not sex.
30:20 Interpreting body language and its impact. Matrix design.
33:18 Setting boundaries during physical intimacy conversation.
37:06 Realizing my eroticism belongs to me.
39:05 Chiropractic office transitioned to interactive sex coaching.
43:39 Grateful for amazing work on the wheel.
Heather's Links
Heather's Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Book a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call, grab Heather's freebies, check out podcast transcripts and more!
Podcast Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Join the broadcast channel to vote on podcast topics!
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Dr Betty Martin's Links
Dr Martin's Website - https://bettymartin.org/
Wheel of Consent Book Website - https://wheelofconsentbook.com/ Grab a free chapter!
Themes and Keywords
Dr. Betty Martin, sacred intimate, surrogate partner, safety concerns, wheel of consent, workshops for sexuality professionals, boundaries, limits, physical intimacy, non-sexual touch, cuddling, making out, sexual acts, pleasure, intimacy, body positivity, somatic sex educator, communication, asking for what you want, past conditioning, verbalizing desires, challenges, transitions, eroticism, vulnerability, integrity.


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Enjoy this episode of wild audience questions (and I have more we didn't even get to!)
A husband dealing with disability turns to porn and his wife wants to know how to handle it.A husband who isn't getting any at home tries to join a gangbang . . . but it doesn't go according to plan.She loves her boyfriend, but he's got some odd behavior when it comes to sex and she wants some help navigating his surprising behavior.
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P.S. Sorry for the late release time of this episode--we had a problem with the editors and had to switch last minute! If you are an experienced audio/video editor and want to take over production of this show, email Heather at HeatherShannonLCPC@gmail.com ASAP!


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🔥 Ever wondered what’s behind your deepest sexual fantasies? This week on Ask A Sex Therapist, Artemisia De Vine joins Heather to chat about erotic fantasies. Artemisia, with her extensive background as a professional dominatrix and sex worker, helps us understand when it feels safe to explore fantasies by getting past our own internal protectors. It’s about finding that balance between the taboo and what feels acceptable to us. Tune in and learn how you can make your fantasies a reality!
👂 What you'll learn:
- The psychological underpinnings of common sexual fantasies
- How exploring these desires can lead to profound states of consciousness
- The importance of the ego and desire in shaping our erotic experiences
- Strategies to embrace and integrate your fantasies for healthier intimacy
- Artemisia's unique perspective on overcoming societal guilt and shame linked to sexual preferences
Timestamps for some of the key moments in our conversation:
01:45 - Artemisia Divine's unique introduction to the world of sexual fantasy08:34 - Overcoming societal and religious impact on sexuality15:22 - The vital role of presence and psychological understanding in sexual experiences23:50 - Decoding the complex symbolism of personal sexual fantasies29:18 - Combining fear and desire within fantasies to achieve balance37:55 - The transformative potential of sexual fantasies in relationships42:44 - The intricate workings of Artemisia's "Divinery Method"51:22 - Emotional aftershocks: Navigating arousal and shame58:17 - Dissecting cuckolding fantasies: Importance of the "antidote"67:00 - The connection between sexual fantasy and spiritual journey

🎧 Don't miss this enlightening exploration into the complexity of human desire - press play now!.

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