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It's Friday therapy again, and Deli and Kate are back with some therapy for you. They talk about recording in the pod laundry while the cat eats their lunch, and the conversation rolls on from there. They talked about active listening, deep listening and just listening in general. They talk about "not being heard" and not being validated, ego ... and Deli talks about Cahot again. They chat validation, praise and even kids sports ... as per normal they go "off track" again. And they get back on track, mostly.

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Today it is the two K's chatting, Kelly and Kate. Kelly has a great definition of what lonely means to her, she talks about the loneliness that comes from being a solo business owner, how loneliness is a little companion that hangs around in the background, and sometimes it sleeps on the couch and drinks all the milk. Kelly talks about learning it is ok to realise that not everyone will be your people! Kelly talks about music, listening and playing and the emotions that both of those things brings up.
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Welcome to Friday Therapy. Deli and Kate chat about their week, people smoking at pubs, and feeling old! This week we chat a little more about our Tuesday ep which was all about anger. Kate talks about feeling guilty about feeling angry (there is always something, isn't there?;) Deli talks about a "compound fusion" where anger and guilt have for some reason become fused. Maybe this stuff is even from our childhoods. Give it a listen and see what you think. If you have any questions or comments, you can send us a speak pipe on Kate's website.

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Today on Honestly I'm Angry we discuss another feeling ... Anger. Don't worry, there will be lonely chats again next week, but every so often we will cover some other feelings! This week it is Anger. Kate talks about her previously long held belief that "all anger is bad". Deli unpacks the roots of anger and tells us that anger can be good, and it is definitely not all bad!
They talk about the way we are raised, our values and our ideas on anger and hate.
What does anger mean to you? Is anger a behaviour? Do we even know how to deal with our anger? Deli says anger is a spectrum from feeling miffed to rage. They chat about how we were never taught to deal with our anger or how to grow with it! They talk about socialisation around gender, and go deep! Kate goes on lots of tangents and asks lots of questions, Deli patiently answers ;)
They talk about how to find out why we do things or think things, especially when it's almost unconscious in us. Where does fear sit in all of this?
Is it ok to be angry about things that are not fair? How do we "discharge" anger? How do we have anger control? Deli introduces rupture and repair.
It is an interesting discussion, we hope you get something out of it.


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Kate and Deli chat all things Winter Solstice, Renovation Australia on abc i view, and surviving a cold snap by binge-watching TV under the doona. They do a deep dive into can a relationship survive when you take the common things you share out of a relationship? Like when Kate left the church? Deli has her answers, of course.
They talk about "Who gets the friends when a couple breaks up?" "Does everyone take a side when a couple break up?" They discuss what it is like when you break up a long term relationship and people outside the relationship struggle. They go deep, people. And talk about digging deep within ourselves, even when it feels like there is no way of digging.
Deli and Kate chat for longer than the 30 minutes Kate said these episodes would be, but hey ... it was a good chat.

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Today, Kate talks to her brother Aran. Aran who wrote the theme music for this podcast, he is breathtakingly honest about his loneliness, loneliness from moving to a country town, his marriage ending, even how he felt in primary school when he moved to a different country town as a child and didn't fit in. He has dipped in and out of being lonely over his life, as have most of us. He has really thought about the answers to his questions, and we think you are going to really lean in to his story.
The different loneliness of leaving a relationship, even when it is the best thing for you, it is still lonely ... Kate and Aran talk about "who gets the friends?" when a long term relationship ends, and how "everyone takes a side if you are honest". And they ask themselves if there is still a "stigma" still that comes with divorce?
They talk about the loneliness of being in a long term relationship that is not a connected relationship, and how achingly hard that is. He reflects on the times he felt connected to community and family and times he didn't.
They discuss if you can be in a relationship without a common purpose, like footy or religion?
The big emotions that come with relationships being severed, and how horrid it makes you feel.
He has some good ways to combat loneliness, and how to create a sense of community around yourself.
The App Aran talks about is How We Feel.
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